The Heart of ChangeThe Heart of Change

Stewardship over our heart!Stewardship over our heart!

Model of Human BehaviorModel of Human Behavior

Our heart is our command center• Who we really are• How we really think• Idols of our heart-------------------------• Pride• Money• Health• Peace• Power• Fear• Marriage• Kid’s behavior

SinfulBehavior

Character

What we do?•My Speech•My Actions-----------------•Disobedience

State of Being“Emotions”

How we feelabout what’s going on?•Indicator lights•Warning system--------------------•Frustration•Anxiety•Anger•Arrogance•Depression•Shame•Guilt•Burdens•False sense of happiness

Results“Hardships”

End result of what we really want?•Please myself•Exalt myself------------------•Disorder•Every evil thing•Humiliated•Brought low•Experiential death

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Why do we want what we want?

Model of Human BehaviorModel of Human Behavior

Our heart is our command center• Heart full of idols• Who we really are• How we really think

Behavior“Sinful”

Character

What we do?•My Speech•My Actions

State of Being“Emotions”

How we feelabout what’s going on?•Indicator lights•Warning system

Results“Hardships”

End result of what we really want?•Please myself•Exalt myself

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Matthew 15:18-19James 4:1-2

Humble & undivided heart• Pleasing God• Glorifying God

Behavior“Christ-like”

Character

Progressivesanctification•Obedient Speech•Obedient Actions

State of Being“Emotions”

•Joy•Peace•Contentment•Rest•Patience•Happiness

Results“Life”

•God exalts this person•We grow•We gainSu

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Cause of conflictCause of conflict

• Pursuing the lusts of our hearts instead of lusting after God.

• James 4:1 “what is the source of quarrels among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members?”

• What is the source of our behavior?

We do what we do We do what we do because we want what we because we want what we

want!!want!!

• Matthew 15:18-19

• “But the things that proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and those defile the man. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders.”

James vs. MatthewJames vs. Matthew

• James says one thing- our behavior comes from our desires

• Matthew says another – our behavior comes from our hearts

• At a bare minimum we see that the heart contains our desires

• The pleasures within that James refers to are actually within the heart.

• The heart is the “control center” that contains our desires that motivate us to do what we do.

• Desires and pleasures as lusts• Lusts = simply a strongly held desire

What are the intents of the heart?-What are the intents of the heart?-DesiresDesires

• Hebrews 4:12

• “For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”

Proverb 27:19Proverb 27:19

• “As water reflects a face, so a man’s heart reflects the man.”

Summary of desiresSummary of desires

• Circumstances to go a certain way-frustrated and angry

• Loving spouse-Irritated – pleasure• Physical appearance-Depressed-Look

good• Obedient Children-anger-easier• My boss has given me a deadline-

Anxiety/fear-please my boss• Ease/pleasure/wealth/praise of men

2 Criteria that helps us to see when 2 Criteria that helps us to see when a legitimate desire becomes wrong:a legitimate desire becomes wrong:

• 1. Am I willing to sin in order to get what I want? And

• 2. Do I respond sinfully when I do get what I want?

Consequence of Conflict Consequence of Conflict

• Setting ourselves in opposition to God with our lusts

• Now when we are willing to sin to get what we want or respond sinfully when we don’t get what we want, the Bible uses some strong terms for what is going on in our heart.

• James 4:4

Why Adultery?Why Adultery?

• What is physical adultery?

• What is spiritual adultery?

Questions:Questions:

• Why do you think the first commandment was, “Thou shall not have no other Gods before me?”

• Why do you think we use the term idolatry?

• How are we really different from OT idolatry?

• What is friendship with the world?

Serious terms!Serious terms!

• IDOLATRY

• ADULTERY

• ENEMY

• HOSTILITY

• “The human spirit that dwells in you envies intensely”

• You will always be lusting!

• You just have two choices to lust after-– God or something else.

– “just two choices on the shelf, pleasing God or pleasing self”

It Get’s worse!It Get’s worse!

• James 4:6

• “But He gives a greater grace. Therefore it says, God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

Why does James introduce Pride?Why does James introduce Pride?

• Self exaltation

• This kind of heart is lusting of people

• Things as to serve self

• As if everything exists to serve me/self.

• At the root of all this is pride!

• What does this verse say God will do to those who exalt themselves?– Oppose– Actively stand in opposition– Ultimately humiliate

– “a humble man can never be humiliated”

Cure for ConflictCure for Conflict

• Humbling ourselves to mold our desires to be more like God’s

How do we humble ourselves?How do we humble ourselves?

• Submit –”Get yourself under God”• -CHANGE MY ATTITUDE, MY THINKING

• Resist the Devil – resist the satanic

• Draw near – to inquire of God

• Cleanse your hands – confession process

How do we deal with Idols of the How do we deal with Idols of the heart?heart?

• Consider the following scenario:

• You are an advertising specialist and you are going to make an advertising pitch to a major client. If the client likes your proposal, this will mean that you will get a multimillion-dollar project – the biggest one of your life. And this will mean an incredible boost in your income.

• If the client doesn’t like it you will lose a multi-million dollar project. You want this project really bad. However, the meeting is scheduled at noon, it’s now 10 til noon, and you are still 20 miles away and haven’t moved in traffic for 20 minutes. You respond something like this…(looking at watch constantly, punching radio buttons incessantly, throwing hands up

• in air constantly..) “I can’t believe this is happening, just when I’m about to make the biggest sale of my life. Look! Will you look at that! Those construction workers are just standing around! At least if you going to funnel two lanes of traffic into one, could you look like you’re doing it for a reason? Those stupid dept of transportation workers. Maybe I’ll try to

call and tell my clients I’m stuck in traffic..”(pulls out cell phone and realizes battery is dead) “Can you believe this!!!!??” (throws cell phone across the car, as some one indicates they want in front of you) “Look at that guy, he’s trying to squeeze in front of my car. NO YOU DON’T MAN, YOU’RE NOT GOING TO GET IN FRONT OF ME!!!!

Questions to ask myselfQuestions to ask myself

• What is my situation?

• How am I responding?

• What am I wanting that is so important to me? What rules me?

• What does the Bible say about my situation and my response?

Questions to ask myselfQuestions to ask myself

• What desires should rule me? What should I be wanting?

• What are the possible consequences both now and in eternity of please God?

• What should I do now?

The role that Deception playsThe role that Deception playsin stimulating idolatryin stimulating idolatry

• Why do you want what you want?

• Gen 3:1-13

• What was the source of the fall according to Gen 3:1; 3:13, I Tim 2:14

• Deception – believing there’s a better way than God’s way.

• When the serpent said “Did God really say….” what was he trying to do?

• Doubt!

• She doubted God’s goodness and ability to bring consequences.

Why do you want what you want?Why do you want what you want?

• Because were Deceivers and Doubters!

• We think there’s a better way!

• Deception vs. Truth

• Doubt vs. Faith

What did doubt lead to?What did doubt lead to?

• Gen 3:6

• Desiring/Lust

• Remember the heart contains our desires

What did the desire lead to?What did the desire lead to?

• End of Gen 3:6

• Disobedience/Sin

• James 1:14-16 says…..

What did Adam and Eve then What did Adam and Eve then experience in verses 7,8,10?experience in verses 7,8,10?

• Distress– Guilt– Shame

– This became their state of being!

What did they do with that What did they do with that experience?experience?

• Diverting/Ducking

• Hide-cover up

• We become Master CoverErs– Alcohol, Porn, Glutens……