November 18, 2018 St. Lawrence the Martyr Parish Page 1

The Parish of St. Lawrence the Martyr

PARISH PHONE NUMBERS RECTORY OFFICE (631) 589-0042 RECTORY FAX (631) 589-5318 FAITH FORMATION OFFICE (631) 589-3160 CEMETERY OFFICE (631) 589-3887 OUTREACH OFFICE (631) 589-6155 To place an announcement in the bulletin please email:

bulletin@stlawrencesayville.org

240 West Main Street, Sayville, New York 11782 Parish Website: www.stlawrencesayville.org (631) 589-0042 Email us at: office@stlawrencesayville.org

THE PASTORAL STAFF

Rev. Brian J. Ingram, Pastor Rev. Thomas Pers, Associate Pastor

Deacon Patrick J. La Bella Rev. Msgr. Thomas D. Candreva,

Weekend Assistant Mrs. Anne Boyce Parish Secretary

Mrs. Maria Davidson, Director of Faith Formation

Mr. Christopher Koch, Cemetery & Business Manager

Mrs. Lorraine Magyar, Director of Parish Outreach

Mr. Joseph Mankowski, Director of Music Mrs. Jean Rico,

Assistant Director of Faith Formation Mrs. Gloria Ryan, Baptism Coordinator

Mrs. Jeanmarie Smith, Pastoral Associate Mrs. Marie Winn, Parish Organist

THE SACRAMENT OF BAPTISM: Arrangements for preparation and celebration of infant

baptism may be made by calling (631) 589-8934, Monday through Thursday.

THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE: Arrangements should be made with the church

at least six months prior to the wedding celebration. Either the bride or the groom, or one of their families,

should be associated with the parish.

THE SACRAMENT OF RECONCILIATION: (Confession) Celebrated each Saturday in church from 3:45-4:45 P.M.,

or by appointment with one of the priests.

VISITATION TO THE SICK: May be arranged through the rectory office for the purpose of

Holy Communion or the Sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick. For emergency sick calls, phone the rectory at any time.

COMMUNAL ANOINTING OF THE SICK: Celebrated immediately following the 9:00A.M. Mass on the first Saturdays of December, February, April and August.

Thirty-Third Sunday in Ordinary Time November 18, 2018

Image of our patron, St. Lawrence the Martyr, reproduced from an original painting in the church by

Louis S. Glanzman.

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GENERAL INFORMATION

THE RECTORY OFFICE : Open Monday to Friday, from 9:00 A.M. to 12 Noon and 1:00 P.M. to 4:30 P.M.; Saturdays by appointment.

THE FAITH FORMATION OFFICE : Open Monday through Thursday, from 9:30 A.M. to 4:30 P.M., and Friday by appointment. PARISH OUTREACH (SOCIAL MINISTRY): Open Monday through Friday , from 10:00A.M. to 12 Noon; Closed on weekends and holidays. THE PARISH CEMETERY OFFICE: Open by appointment weekdays from 9:00 A.M. to 12 Noon SAINT LAWRENCE KNIGHTS OF COLUMBUS: Meet on the 1st and 3rd Thursday of each month. Please call (631) 317-9027 for more information. SAINT LAWRENCE COLUMBIETTES: Meet on the 2nd Thursday of each month. for information or email stlcol.pres@gmail.com

PARISH DEVOTIONAL LIFE

THE ROSARY: Prayed in common from Monday through Saturday immediately following the 9:00 A.M. Mass in the church. CHARISMATIC PRAYER GROUP: Meets in the school on Mondays at 7:00 P.M. QUEEN OF PEACE ROSARY AND MIRACULOUS MEDAL NOVENA: Mondays in church 6 to 7:15 P.M. EUCHARISTIC ADORATION: Come worship the Eucharistic Lord on the First Friday of the month, from 12noon to 3:30 P.M., with the Divine Mercy Chaplet recited at 3:00 P.M. There is also a holy hour every Wednesday, dedicated to prayer for priests and priestly vocations, from 6 to 7:00 P.M.. MINISTRY OF PRAISE: Members pray at home for the intentions of the Church and parish. Designed for the homebound, senior citizens, etc. CONTEMPLATIVE PRAYER GROUP: An ancient form of prayer that sets aside words and images in favor of sitting silently and receptively in the presence of God. Please contact Mrs. Barbara Shea at (631) 589-5257.

Weekly Collections

How shall I make a return to the Lord , f or all the good he has done for me?”

Sunday, November 11, 2018: $13,385.00 (includes Faith Direct)

Weekly amount budgeted for the current fiscal year:

$13,078.00

MASS SCHEDULE The celebration of the Eucharist will be offered in a special way for each of the names or intentions listed below. The donation received for each of these Mass intentions helps support the work of the parish, and our priests who minister at the Lord’s altar. Saturday November 17, 2018 Saint Elizabeth of Hungary, Religious 9:00 Albert J. Gill + 5:00 Robert Plowman + David Roben + Rita Schultz + Desmond Baghaloo + Barbara Hines Smith + Sunday November 18, 2018 7:30 John & Marion Cohalan 9:00 The Deceased Members of the Saint Lawrence Knights of Columbus 11:00 All Our Parishioners Monday November 19, 2018 9:00 Jenny Farina + Tuesday November 20, 2018 9:00 Rev. James Patrick Carmody + Wednesday November 21, 2018 The Presentation of the Blessed Virgin Mary 9:00 Isabella Stufano + Thursday November 22, 2018 9:00 In Thanksgiving Friday November 23,2018 Saint Clement I, Pope and Martyr 9:00 Joseph Brandt + Saturday November 24, 2018 9:00 Christine Loughlin + 5:00 Alfred J. Sanguedolce + Frank A. Sanguedolce + Robert D. Shollenberger Jr. + Regina M. Porter Deceased Members of the Terc & Cook Families Sunday November 25, 2018 7:30 All Our Parishioners 9:00 Rose DeVitto + 11:00 The Intentions of Marie Winn

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Michael Schindlar; Steven Michael Keenan; Peter Hlywa; Gina Blenk; Jim & Lorraine Mattimore; Muri-el Maxwell; Bruce Weiler; Eileen Devlin; Gloria Port-man; Suzanne McCarthy; Sr. Barbara Gerardi; Donald Lang; Bill Beaudry; Jane Vlokhos; Jennifer Wittman-Cahill; Josephine Lowth, Michael Gallagher; Allison Ruddick; Jack Lewis; Joe O’Hara; Richard LaFrance Jr.; Mary Elizabeth Bachmann; Paul Vogt; Bonnie Lem; Ellen DiAntonio; Catherine Foudy; Thomas Zambito; Emily Higgins; Janet Elias; Christine Doucet; Gertrude Crean; Deirdre Murphy; Eileen Ceiresi; Deacon Ed Karan; Lorraine Mannarino; Ger-ald Coughlin; Kathleen Eder; Roberta Starita; Carol Hansen; Doreen DeRuiter; Anna Cahill; Kathleen Hempel; Robert Lee; Diane Lynch; David Wolffer; Robert Anthony Lee; Marie Cirigliano and Anthony Burke

[Please call the Parish Office if you wish to place some-one on our Sick List. The request to have a name placed on the list must be made by the sick person himself or herself, or by an immediate family member.]

Please Pray for the Sick

A Message from Father Brian ~ While on retreat about a month ago, I spent some time with a short but beautifully written book called The Way of Silence by a Brother David Steindal-Rast, a Benedictine monk living on the west coast. One of the sections of the book that grabbed my attention (and has spurred even more thinking these past weeks) had to do with the prac-tice of gratitude. I’d be surprised if most of you have not noticed that a small army of authors, speakers, bloggers, self-help gurus, psychologists, and professional religious people have latched onto the idea of thankfulness as a foundational attitude for living a healthy, happy life. Their contention—largely correct, I believe—is that when a human being becomes increasingly aware of the myriad ways in which he or she is blessed on a daily basis, that realization helps to create a state of mind that almost in-variably leads to greater serenity, contentment, and peace. It can also go a long way toward warding off the despondency, listlessness, cynicism and loneliness that so many people contend with. Steindl-Rast’s book is at times rather lofty in its language and ideas, but one suggestion he made more than once caught my imagination—partly because it’s just so practi-cal and down-to-earth. He explained that for years now, before going to bed, he pulls out a calendar and jots down ONE THING from the day that’s just ending for which he feels grateful. He suggested that one need not be flowery or especially “deep” in selecting that one thing . . . what he scribbles before bed can be (and often is) as simple and mundane as a good bowl of oatmeal on a cold morning, a car that started, a note from a friend, or a ladybug crawling across his window. I was intrigued. Often enough, when I take time to give thanks, I try valiantly to gather together every significant aspect of life I can manage to think of—the Catholic faith into which I was baptized, my priesthood, my relation-ships with family, friends, and brother priests, the staff, employees, and parishioners here at St. Lawrence, my health, clothing, food, home . . . in other words, the “big stuff.” Seldom would I take a moment to thank God for a hot shower, or a bit of quiet before the day begins, or a perfect red maple leaf that catches my eye on the lawn. But gratitude for the “small stuff” is just as lifegiving as gratitude for the windfall-sized blessings that come to us only occasionally. I think the trick is to learn how to grow in thankfulness for every little speck of life—every crumb. God is the Giver of it all, not just the winning-lottery-ticket-blessings that are obviously so rare, but for the subtle grace of someone greeting us with a smile, or

the delight of watching a black-capped chickadee flitting around a birdfeeder in mid-November. It’s all the handiwork of the One who is Perfect Love, wrapped up in even the smallest and least conspicuous of packages. I hope that these few days leading up to our annual celebration of Thanksgiving are ones in which you have time to examine your life in a reflective, unhurried way, and to recognize the hints of grace all around you. Of course, it shouldn’t take a national holiday to cultivate in us that all-important frame of mind. But it’s a good place to start. Happy Thanksgiving to you, and to all those you love. May our brother and patron, St. Lawrence, pray for us. God love you!

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Please join us as we welcome the newly baptized to our Christian community:

Addison Jean Mattimore

We lift up our hearts in prayer for our brothers and

sisters who have died, in the sure hope that they will one day see the Lord face to face:

Father Santiago Dineros

Rev. Msgr. William Jablonski

Remembering Our Departed Loved Ones

Pray With Us Thanksgiving Day

Our annual celebration of Thanksgiving is one of our nationʹs most treasured holidays, and a perfect oppor-tunity to take stock of the countless blessings God has lavished on us as individuals, as families, as a parish, and as a nation.

Join us for a festive Thanksgiving Mass at 9:30 Thanksgiving morning. The liturgy will feature our Music Ministry. Begin your dayʹs celebration in the best possible way! To participate as fully as possible in the Mass, please be aware of the following:

• At the end of the Mass, we will bless small loaves of bread. Each individual or family will be invited to take one home for their Thanksgiving table, as a reminder that all we have is a blessing from God.

• All are asked to bring non-perishable food items to

church, and to leave them by the doors for our food pantry. A collection will also be taken up during the Mass, to further support the efforts of our Parish Outreach.

Gifts of Love

The Altar Rose, which stands to the left of the tabernacle as a reminder of our prayers for the

unborn, is donated in memory of Ernest Gambino, A. John & Margaret Giuliani, Joan T. Lutz, Mildred

Bagnato, Florence Carupella, Evelyn Castrataro, George Castataro, Irene Discipilo, Jeanette Frank

The Bread and Wine that will be consecrated at celebrations of the Eucharist during the week of

November 18th have been donated in memory of Ernest Gambino

at the request of Betty Gambino, Michael & Jeanne

The Sanctuary Lamp will burn alongside the tabernacle during the week of November 18th in

memory of Sybil O’Reilly Mizzi at the request of Aagun Connell

Anointing of the Sick

On Saturday, December 1st the sacrament of the

Anointing of the Sick will be celebrated immediately

following the 9:00AM Mass.

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Children’s Christmas Pageant & Blessing of Outdoor Crèche

Sunday, December 9th at 2:00PM

Immediately following the pageant we will bless

the outdoor crèche and enjoy homemade Christmas cookies in the Bethany Center.

Immaculate Conception

Saturday, December 8th

This is a holy day of obligation

Masses:

7:00PM Friday, December 7th

9:00AM Saturday, December 8th

St. Lawrence Family Mass

9:00AM Sunday, December 2nd

Come and join us for

HOSPITALITY after the 9:00 & 11:00AM Masses & our Annual Advent Book Sale in

the Bethany Center

National Night of Prayer 7:30PM-9:30PM December 8th in the church Our parish will once again participate in the

National Night of Prayer for Life. The Blessed Sacrament will be exposed for ado-

ration between the hours of 7:30 P.M. and 9:300 P.M., as we implore the Lord to guide our culture to a

definitive end to abortion.

Join us for our annul Outdoor Christmas

Tree Lighting

Saturday, December 1st

after the 5:00PM Mass

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ST. LAWRENCE CHRISTMAS ANGEL GIFTS

FOR THOSE IN NEED Please share your blessings by helping our Parish Out-reach make Christmas merry for our less fortunate children and adults. For many, your contribution will be the only gift they will receive.

Here’s how you can celebrate this “Season Of Giving”:

Choose an “Angel” or two from one of the baskets by the doors of the Church.

Purchase and Wrap the gift named on your “Angel and attach the “Angel” to your gift.

Return your gift to the Outreach Office no later than Friday, December 14th. Wrapped gifts may also be left in the back of the church. Gift Cards, Cash and Checks MUST be placed in Santa’s North Pole Mailbox which is located in the center aisle at the rear of the church.

*REMEMBER* All items MUST be returned by Friday, December 14th. (Any items arriving after that date, may not get to the intended family!)

WHITE ANGELS = Special Gift Requests GREEN ANGELS = Requests for assistance provid-ed through Outreach for fuel, gas, household items, etc.

“BITS & PIECESʺ Two practical items weʹd like everyone to be aware of:

1. The bathroom on the first floor of the school building has just recently been renovated (and not a moment too soon!). This most definitely a collaborative project, and thanks go to Maurice, of Bosco Contracting, for his help in replacing ceiling tiles, stalls, and painting of the walls. Joe Neugebauer, of Joe Neugebauer Plumbing for his help with replacing the sinks, faucets, and toilets. Steve Ferrara, of S.A.F.E. Electric for his help in installing new light-ing. Matt Cohen from our own maintenance staff for giving the space a good cleaning when the work was com-plete. And Chris Koch, our Business and Facilities Manager, for coordinating the whole project. Take a peek next time youʹre in the school--itʹs a very welcome change!

2. Weʹve recently changed our telephone and internet provider, and in the process added the capacity or WiFi service in the school building and the Bethany Center. (The signal does also extend into the church, but not strongly.) Look for signs in the school and Bethany Center to provide directions for how to sign on--depending on whether you are already an Optimum cus-tomer or not.

Saint Lawrence Parish-Wide FORMED Study

PRESENCE: The Mystery of the Eucharist A powerful 3-part series about Christ’s real presence

in the Eucharist.

We invite parishioners to consider opening their home to a small group of fellow parishioners for three weeks to view Presence together and to discuss each episode and how it touched hearts. The only requirement for this study is that the host be registered on FORMED and have a laptop/computer or can stream FORMED on their smart T.V. so that participants may view the episodes. Study guides may be found on the FORMED website. Hosts do not have to be trained in group facilitating or have a background in theology. Any questions that arise from the discussions can be directed to the Rectory or Faith Formation Offices. Hospitality, while always appreciated is optional and at the discretion of the host.

If you would like to be a host for a small discussion group, please add your information on the sign-up sheet in the rear of the Church. Be prepared to note your name, address, telephone # and/or e-mail address, the day/time of the study, and how many people you would like to have in the group. After we have a number of hosts, we will place sign-up sheets in the rear of the Church with group information so that fel-low parishioners may sign-up for a particular study group.

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