the power of talk: who gets heard and why petra formanová daniela jiroutová petra kliková...
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The Power of Talk:Who Gets Heard and Why
Petra Formanová
Daniela Jiroutová
Petra Kliková
Kateřina Lípová
Matěj Mareš
Linguistic Style
* Talking is characterised by:* Certain tone of voice
* Certain rate of speed
* Certain degree of loudness
* Features of talking include:* Directness or indirectness
* Pacing and pausing
* Word choice
* Use of jokes, figures of speech, stories, questions and apologies
The Role of self-confidence
* Judgment about confidence is based on how people present themselves when talking
* The way we talk and listen is influenced by cultural experience
* Women have often learned different styles of speaking than men
Girls vs. Boys
* Girls tend to learn conversational rituals that focus on the rapport dimension of relationships whereas boys tend to learn rituals that focus on the status dimension.
Girls
* Girls tend to play with a single best friend or in small groups, and they spend a lot of time talking
* They use language to negotiate how close they are
* A group of girls will ostractize a girl who calls attention to her own superiority and criticize her* E.g. A girl who tells everyone what to do is
called „bossy“
Boys
* Usually play in larger groupsin which more boys can be included, but not everyone is treated equally
* Boys with high status in their group are usually seen as the leaders
* They learn to use language to negotiate their status in the group by displaying their abilities and knowledge, and by challenging others and resisting challenges
Getting Credit
* Even such a small thing as choice of pronoun can decide on who gets the credit (Me x I)* Man tend to use „I“ when talking about
what they have done, whereas woman usually say „we“ eventhough they have done it by themselves
* Credit is automatically given to the person using „I“
Confidence and Boasting
* Confidence is judged by an individual´s behavior, especially verbal behavior
* Woman again are at a disadvantage* They uderestimate themselves in public so
as not to seem boastful, eventhough they know that they are just as good as man
* These habits result from from the socialization of boys and girls by their
peers in childhood play
Asking Questions
* Asking the right questions is one of the hallmarks of a good manager how and when questions are asked can send unintended signals about competence and power
* Along with cultural influences and individual personality, gender seems to play a role in whether and when people ask questions* E.g. Asking for directions while driving –
men seem less likely to ask than women
Conversational Rituals
* Conversation is fundamentally ritual in the sense that we speak in ways our culture has conventionalized and expect certain types of responses* E.g. „How are you?“ is obviously a ritualized
way to start conversation rather than a request for information
Apologies
* Women tend to say I´m sorry more frequently than men, and often they intend it in this way - as a ritualized means of expressing concern
* Ritual apologies * like other conversational rituals - work well
when both parties share the same assumptions about their use
Feedback
* Styles of giving feedback
contain a ritual element that
often causes misunderstanding
Compliments
* Common ritual to exchange compliments
* Women* More often done between women (kind of
automatic recognition, not expecting a critique) x fewer men are likely to ask because it can lead to an unwanted critique
* Men* Men looking for an opportunity to put others
down and take the one-up position for themselves (women in contrast – self-degradation - but expecting sb. to pull them back up)
Ritual Opposition
* Rituals like apologizing, miting criticism with praise and exchanging compliments that are taken literally
* Ritual fight – an exploration through verbal communication, finding own weaknesses and testing ideas (one moment collegues shouting to each other, a while after best friends), → ritual opposition as a tool for expressing potential and strenghts (sometimes used by companies as a confontational interviewing technique)
Negotiating Authority
* Formal authority coming from position * Actual authority has to be negotiated day
to day (reinforcing or undercutting an effort)
Indirectness
* Tendency to say what we mean without spelling it out
* Can couse enomorous misunderstanding* 2nd in command are more likely to express
themselves indirectly
Negotiating AuthorityManaging Up and Down
Women* do a great job is not the only one necessary to
do for rewarding and authority* women as bosses are more concerned about the
other‘s feelings – downplaying rather then flaunting their superiority)
Men* People have to promote themselves (men)* Communication, conversation with the boss
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