The Principles of Peace The Centrality of Marriage and Family

U P F

The family is the most important human institution. Without it we would not exist. Through it we transmit language, culture, ethics and core values.

The Primary Human Institution

The quality of character, and the quality of the love of the man and the woman, as husband and wife and as father and mother, makes them the pillars of the family.

The Primary Human Institution

UPF emphasizes the balance between Spiritual and Physical / Religious and

Secular

UPF emphasizes the balance between Spiritual and Physical / Religious and

Secular

MindMind

BodyBody

Truth Beauty Goodness Love

Truth Beauty Goodness Love

Food Shelter Wealth Comfort

Food Shelter Wealth Comfort

InnerSatisfaction

InnerSatisfaction

PhysicalWell-being

PhysicalWell-being

HappinessHappiness

When the personal life is cultivated, the family will be regulated; when the family is regulated the state will be in order; when the state is in order, there will be peace throughout the world.

The Great LearningWhen the family declines, ancient traditions are destroyed. With them are lost the spiritual foundation for life, and the family loses its sense of unity.

Bhagavad-Gita 1.40

Religions Honour the Family

When a man honors his father and mother, God says, “I regard it as though I had dwelt among them and they had honored me.

TalmudIf a man does not know how to manage his own household, how can he care for God’s church?

I Timothy 3.5

Religions Honour the Family

Lord, give us joy in our wives and children, and make us models for the God-fearing.

Qur’an 25.74

My father, thank you for petting me; my mother, thank you for making me comfortable; thank you for robbing me with wisdom, which is more important than robbing me with clothes.

Yoruba Nuptial Chant (Africa)

Religions Honour the Family

What Makes for Peace ?

A world of complementary pairs

The Pair System - Male and Female

Human Female Male

Animal

Plant

Mineral

Male Female

Stamen Pistil

NegativePositive

The Pair system – Mind and Body

Human

Animal

Plant

Mineral

Body

Body

Body

Mind

Instinct

Plant Mind

Inherent Nature Matter & Energy

Responding

Giving

The Pair system - principle of interaction

Subjectpartner

Objectpartner

The body resembles the mind

Teacher and pupil

Education

The pair system - centres on a higher purpose

Purpose to maintain life

Subjectpartner

Objectpartner

Union

Higher Purpose

Give & Take Action(living for each other)

Good Result –joy / Peace / happiness

GOD Higher Purpose

The Pair System - higher purpose

DevelopmentRealise the

purpose

Husband Wife

Human Being Environment

Government People

Parent Child

Mind Body

Subjectpartner

Objectpartner

Union

GOD Higher Purpose

The Pair System – Living for the Sake of Others

• Mind/body unity - integrity• Growth in character -

maturity• Closeness to God – higher

values

Mind Body

God

True Person

Individual Peace and happiness

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Peace and happiness in Family and Society

Family Society

NationWorld

husband wife

God

Children

The FAMILY is the

‘building block’

True Ownership,Responsible Stewardship

People Natural World

God

HarmonyPeople/nature

Universal Peace – harmony with nature

• Dominion through love

• Care for the environment

• Material prosperity for all

• Science and technology benefit human beings and the natural world

1. Individual

Peace

Mind Body

God

TruePerson

Husband Wife

God People Nature

God

HarmonyPeople/nature

2. Peace in Family & Society

3. Universal Peace

Family Society

NationWorld

TrueFamily true ownership-

responsiblestewardship

Three Foundations

The central role of the family in learning to love

Peace in the Family and Society

Family Society

NationWorld

2. Peace in Human Society

True Love

True Life

True Lineage

God’s Love

husband wife

God

truechildren

Foundation for Lasting Peace and Happiness

Marriage joins the life of one woman and the life of one man. In time, through children, it joins the lineage of the man and the lineage of the woman. It thus begins a history, a nation, the world and the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth.

Sun Myung Moon

Love, Life and Lineage

The School of Love - nurturing heart and character, the primary training ground for relationships

From our parents, as

our first teachers

The Family is:

Where do we learn True Love?

The School of Morality – the basis of societal norms and proper conduct in the wider world

In relating to brothers and

sisters, parents and

grandparents The Family is:

Where do we learn True Love?

As husband and wife; and from

seeing God in our

partnerThe Couple is:The Image of the Creator – living

for the sake of each other, the family and the wider world; being a model of True Love to their children

Where do we learn True Love?

Strong families have a focus higher than self

Altruistic PurposeService to Community

The Family living for the society, nation and world

1.Child’s Love2.Sibling’s Love3.Spouse’s

Love4.Parent’s Love

Experienced and learnt within the family

The Four Great Loves

GOD

CHILD

M F

GOD

M F

Husband Wife

ParentsBrother

Son Daughter

Sister

Parent’s Love

Spouse’s Love

Sibling’s Love

Child’s Love

The Four Great Loves

Husband’s love Wife’s love

God’sLove

A mans’ sexual love belongs exclusively to his wife and a woman’s sexual love belongs exclusively to her husband

Man Woman

The sanctity of sexual love

To grow spiritually human beings need:

1. To receive love, truth and example from true parents, teachers, leaders and elders representing God.

2. To respond and grow by living for the sake of others, developing the heart and conscience to guide the body to act in love and truth

In this way we balance increasing freedom and responsibility and participate in the creation of ourselves as mature children of God

God’s responsibility + Human responsibility >> True Person

Formation stageInfancy

Growth stageChildhood

Completion stageAdolescence

Birth

2. Maturity of heart and character True Teacher, Parent and Owner

1. Mind and Body united in a life of lovefor God and others

The Growing Period

husband wife

God

children

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What is our role as Ambassadors for Peace?

Individual - True Teacher Be of benefit to others by words and exampleFamily and Society - True Parent

Establish a marriage and family of true love - Have a parental heart towards all

Environment – True Owner Exercise good stewardship and dominion over nature

Why Conflict ?

Individual Whole

The IndividualLives for the Whole

The Whole supportsthe Individual

• Living for the sake of others – pair system• I exist to benefit the whole – higher

purpose

Peace – Living for the sake of others

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Reality is tragically different – a world of conflict

Individual Whole

• ‘Self’- centred, not higher purpose - centred

• Others exist for my benefit• Diminish the value of the whole

The Cause of Conflicts

Original Nature

Undeveloped

Selfish Nature Well-developed

The reality of Human Nature

Evil or selfish thoughts,

words and actionsImmediate

‘body’ dominated

Evil Good

Unselfish thoughts,

words and actions

Eternal Mind led

Our thoughts and actions determine our nature

There is a battle in the mind of each person which

manifests as conflict in the family, society and world

The mind is two-fold: the pure and also the impure. Hinduism, Maitri Upanishad 6.34

I do not do the good that I want, but the evil I do not want is what I do.

Christianity, Romans 7.15

Every person has both a bad heart and good heart.

Native American Religions, Mohawk Tradition

The Conflicted Self

Not intended as scientific historyIntuition about the human

conditionReligious traditions believed to

be revealed from a divine source

The Origin of Conflict – clues in traditional stories

Cain and Abel: the first murder

Adam and Eve: illicit love

Conflict in the Family

The impact of sexual immorality

It is better to die than to indulge in partaking of forbidden lustful pleasure. Uttarangasutram 22.42

The man who goes to the wife of another …digs up the very roots of life. Dhammapada 18.247Do not come near adultery: for it is a shameful deed and evil, opening the road to other evils. Qur’an 17.32Flee from sexual immorality. … he who sins sexually sins against his own body. I Corinthians 6.18

Self-centredMan

Self-centredWoman

Self-centredChildren

Self-centredFamily & Society

FalseParents

FalseLove

False Life

False Lineage

Evil, selfish

purpose

Selfish viewpointIrresponsible

Exploiting othersMultiplying Evil

Conflict in the Family

God

People

1) Separation from God

Mind Body

2) Individual-level Conflict

(Spiritual)

(Physical)• Whole

• Others

• Self

The root cause of conflict

Mind Body

2) Individual-level Conflict

Brother BrotherHusband Wife

3) Family-level Conflict

The root cause of conflict

Mind Body

SelfishPersonSelfishPerson

Family Society

NationWorld

SelfishPurpose

Husband Wife

FalseLineageFalse

Lineage

SelfishPurpose

SelfishPeople

Environment

FalseOwnership

FalseOwnership

SelfishPurpose

1. Conflict within the Individual

2. Conflict in Human Society

3. Universal Conflict

Self-serving Exploitative

The expansion of conflict

Restoring Peace and Happiness

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Since wars begin in the minds of men, it is in the minds of men that the defenses of peace must be constructed.

UNESCO Constitution Preamble

Where does peace begin ?

I see no hope for permanent world peace. We have tried and failed miserably. Unless the world has a spiritual rebirth, civilization is doomed.

Dag HammarskjoldSecond UN Secretary-General

We need spiritual renewal

Humility in front of God, respect to parents, fidelity in marriage, loyalty, public service

Personal discipline, sacrifice and control of physical desires

Restraint, patience and forgiveness in relationships

Love others as you love yourself

Love of neighbours, and even enemies

True religious practice seeks to restore the original ideal of peace and promotes:

Religion: a restorative vehicle

Lost Restored

OriginalPosition

CurrentReality

Indemnity = Spiritual Restoration

An effort to reverse or restore something that was lost.

Taking responsibility by taking actions to correct flaws, weaknesses and bad habits

How do we change our nature ?

• Prayer and meditation• Offerings to God• Study of Scripture• Sexual purity, celibacy, separation

from the world • Submission and obedience to God

Step 1 : reconcile with God and higher values

If you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.

ChristianityMatthew 5:23-24

Step 2 : reconcile with each other

God’s WordHigher Values

Learn, believe

and practic

e

Practice in

relationship with others.

Success in both areas is needed to move closer to the goal of peace.

+

Honour God and higher values + Love each other

The Providence for the Restoration of the Family

H

C

W

God

A + E

How can we as fallen people : regain our original value? fulfil the purpose of our life? bring joy to God?

Realise Peace and Happiness

H

C

W

God

H

C

W

S

FSW

Embody God’s word

Believe and practise

Receive God’s word (love)

Selfish relationships

Separated from God Change of direction self God, othersRepent, confess - receive God’s grace – word (love)

2 Re-dedication New start

1 The Religious path

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Past

Future

Unresolved problems will be passed on to future generations, and in most cases be bigger and more difficult to solve.

Our Choice – resolve or repeat past conflicts

Take responsibility for one’s contribution to the conflict.

Consider how one might have dealt with the problem differently.

Self reflection and reorientation

Conflict resolution in marriage

Address whatever caused the other to feel hurt and violated.

Be open to reconcile.

Seek to correct past injustices as a priority.

Take action

Conflict resolution in marriage

Reconciliation and Renewal Give up the urge to

retaliate. Forgive, and accept

forgiveness. Resolve to change

oneself, realizing that this is the only way to help the other to change.

Conflict resolution in marriage

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We never get rid of an enemy by meeting hate with hate; we get rid of an enemy by getting rid of enmity.

Martin Luther King Jnr.

Loving our enemies

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When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won.

Mahatma Gandhi

Loving our enemies

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Jesus did not condemn any of his enemies.

His power was the power of love. Sun Myung Moon

Loving our enemies

The World Peace Blessing

“The reason God does not punish even though he may see an enemy, is that he is thinking of the enemy’s parents, wife and children, who all love him. When you really understand such a heart of God, could you take revenge on your enemy?

“When you know all these things you would even go and help that person. In this manner one comes closer to the Great Way of Heavenly Principle, that Great Way which tries to embrace everything centring on love. When that happens the earth will shake and induce even God to shed tears.... Sun Myung Moon, 30th March 1990

Early History

While deep in prayer on a hillside near his home, on Easter morning, Jesus appeared to him.

April 17, 1935

I feel pain.When I judge peopleit is impossible.When I hate people,there is no value in my life.Yet if I believe, I am deceived.If I love, I am betrayed.Suffering and grieving tonight, My head is in my hands;am I wrong?

Crown of Glory

Wipe away your tearsand welcome with a smileThose who know nothing but deceit and those who betray without regret. When I loved those who acted against me, I brought victory.If you have done the same…I will give youthe Crown of Glory.

Crown of Glory

written aged 16

History Each ten-man team had to

load 700 bags in an 8 hour working day.

Supper was a handful of boiled grain and salty soup

The skin of their fingertips peeled off from exposure to the fertilizer.

People died even while eating.

Rev. Moon spent 40 days in Pyong Yang to let his followers know he had been freed.

Together with a young follower and a former prisoner who had a broken leg, he left for the South.

HistoryHistory

After an arduous and dangerous trip he arrived in Pusan, South Korea, on January 27, 1951.

HistoryHistory

The shack Rev. Moon built with ration boxes in Pusan in 1951

The Holy SpiritAssociation

for the

Unification of WorldChristianity

HSA-UWCUnification Church

Seoul, Korea, May 1st 1954

World Tour 1965

Reverend Moon established120 Holy Grounds around the world

USA - Madison Square Garden

Sept. 18, 1974

Yoido Island Rally1.July 1975,

1.2 Million people

Washington Monument Rally, 1976

International Clergy Conferences – Ministers pray at the Rock of Tears in Korea

Father and Mother Moon on their World Speaking Tour to launch UPF in 2005

The significanceof the

World Peace Blessing

The Blessing is a ceremony for all

It is a re-dedication of marriage for couples loyal to each other

For some, it is their wedding day

It deliberately transcends boundaries of race and religion

A major international World Peace Blessing event will take placein Korea, and around the world on 14th – 18th October, 2009

The Blessing affirms marriage and family, and links families together

As “One Family Under God” beyond difference of race and religion

The World Peace Blessing

Co-officiators:

Buddhist, Sikh, Muslim, Native American, Hindu, Christian and ….

The World Peace Blessing

The World Peace Blessing movement started amongst

Rev. and Mrs. Moon’s own religious followers

Origins of The World Peace Blessing

Family Federation for World Peace and Unification

Expanded to become Inter-Religious through FFWPU

Universal Peace Federation

Reached Opinion Leaders and Ambassadors for Peace Through the Universal Peace

Federation

The Wor ld Peace Bless ing

Rev. and Mrs. Moon offer the blessing prayer, asking God for His unchanging and eternal love and protection for all the couples.

To save the family and save the nation

To realize unification and reconciliation between races, religions, nationalities and cultures

To build “One Family Under God”

The Goals of the World Peace Blessing

The World Peace Blessing Vows

To resemble the nature and love of God in

marriage

To be faithful to each other

To raise our children to maintain sexual purity before marriage

To help other families do the same beyond racial, national, and religious boundaries

1) The Holy Wine (Nectar) Ceremony – signifying a renewal connecting to God’s true love, life and lineage

2) The World Peace Blessing – signifying that we are One Family under God beyond race and religion – Blessing donation

3) The Ceremony to remove resentment – to acknowledge and overcome historical, ancestral and personal misconduct between men and women

4) A period of purification and renewal – 40 days of sexual abstinence for a new beginning

The World Peace Blessing

The Blessed Family Tradition

On-going support and education for couples

Faith in the home and community

Blessed Family Associations

Workshops for children

Public life – living for the sake of others

The Wor ld Peace Bless ing

Mr. Parvez and Mrs. Ellu Manzoor of Stockholm, Sweden, rededicating their vows after thirty-five years of marriage

The Wor ld Peace Bless ing

Dr. Wihelmus Bertens and Mrs. Lidwina Bertens

The Wor ld Peace Bless ing

Dr Jagjit Singh Taunque MBE and Mrs. Taunque

The Wor ld Peace Bless ing

Mr. Hydajet Hyseni and Mrs Mina Hyseni – Kosovo

The Wor ld Peace Bless ing

The newly blessed former first couple of Sierra Leone, the Hon. Alhaji Ahmad Kabbah and Mrs. Isatu Jabbie Kabbah.