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Anni e’ s Mailbox By

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Dear Annie: My daugh-ter-in-law tends to go to her family. She says she is uncomfortable with my son’s side. She has been rude to us since she married my son, and she controls him. She threatens him if he does not do what she wants.

My daughter had a fight with my daughter-in-law four years ago, and I just woke up to the fact that my daughter-in-law blames us for my daughter’s actions. My husband and I tried therapy with my son and daughter-in-law, but it made things worse. I left, saying that I am not happy with either of them and I just want to see my grandchil-dren. My son said that if I don’t continue with therapy, I won’t see the kids again. They are using the children as weapons to control us. I told her she didn’t like us from Day One. She told me she doesn’t trust me.

My new granddaugh-ter had a baptism, and my daughter-in-law told us it was an occasion only for her family. We were insult-ed and hurt. I’m thinking of going to court and suing for grandparents’ rights. — Trustworthy

Dear Trustworthy: Your son and his wife may not be behaving in a kind or lov-ing way, but there is room for improvement on both sides. They are willing to go for counseling to resolve this, which is a good sign. But walking out of a coun-seling session because you don’t like what you hear is not productive. The point of counseling is to work through the issues that get in the way of a better rela-tionship. Please stop trying to get your son to favor you over his wife. It won’t hap-pen. The more you blame her the more defensive they both will be. If you want to be in his life and see those grandkids, we urge you to agree to go back for coun-seling and really work on it with an open mind.

Dear Annie: I recently married a man who is quite wonderful, but he won’t help out around the house. We have a child together, and I am the breadwinner. When I’m not working, I’m cleaning the house and picking up after him. Once in a while, he may do a chore or two, but that’s it.

We’ve had many talks about this, and he always agrees to do things when I ask. But I still come home from work and find nothing done, and he has plenty of excuses.

He will be 30 soon. He was not raised this way, and his mother has tried to help, but we can’t seem to make any progress. What can I do? This is driving me insane — Maid on Demand and Sick of It

Dear Maid: Can you afford periodic cleaning help? Would you be will-ing to relax your standards a bit? Can you stop pick-ing up after your husband? Could you save the house-cleaning for weekends and make it a joint effort? Sometimes, this is simply a matter of disorganization, in which case a list and a reminder might work. You cannot force your husband to grow up, but you can help him understand that this type of issue will erode a marriage over time, mak-ing one partner resentful and turning the other into a recalcitrant child. He needs to step up.

Dear Annie: I, too, have suffered from depression all my life. It took cour-age to finally seek help, because you think you’re “crazy” and fear the stigma of admitting something is wrong. I thought the gap between where I was and being “normal’ was as wide as the Grand Canyon. In fact, it’s only as wide as a couple of pills. It took a few tries before I found the medication that works best for me.

Once I “came out,” I dis-covered that several people I work with are also on antidepressants or anti-anx-iety medication. — Been There, Too.

Annie’s Mailbox is writ-ten by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, long-time editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 Third St., Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. To find out more about Annie’s Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and car-toonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

DREW HENDERSON AND SARAH WILLIAMS

90TH BIRTHDAY — Lynnie Jordan Turner recently celebrated her 90th birthday with her family in Columbus, Ga. She is from Obion County and is the daughter of the late Lambert and Emma Jordan of Troy and the wife of the late John C. Turner of Rives. She is the mother of Susan Sanders of Columbus Miss., and Melanie Mitchell of Columbus, Ga. She has four grandchildren and five great-grandchildren.

The engagement and forthcoming marriage of Sarah Elizabeth Williams of Tullahoma and Andrew J. “Drew” Henderson of Union City are being announced today.

The bride-elect is the daughter of Pam and Stan Williams of Tullahoma. Her grandparents are Carolyn and Jerry Williams and Ruth and Frank Collins, all of Tullahoma.

She is a senior at the University of Tennessee at Martin. She plans to earn her bachelor of arts degree in English in December.

She is a contributor to The Weakley County Press and is employed at Little Caesars in Union City.

The groom-elect is the son of Betsy and Mackie Henderson of Union City.

His grandparents are Charles Morrisette, the late Margaret Morrisette and the late Patsy and Ershel Henderson, all of Union City.

He is a graduate of UTM, where he earned a bachelor of arts degree in history. He is an alumni of Sigma Phi Epsilon fraternity.

He is a second lieutenant in the United States Army, field artillery branch.

The couple will wed 2 p.m. Oct. 12 at First Christian Church in Tullahoma. Music will begin at 1:30 p.m.

A reception will imme-diately follow the cere-mony at the University of Tennessee Space Institute in Tullahoma.

All friends and relatives are invited to attend.

Miss Williams to wedHenderson on Oct. 12

By STEVEN WINEAssociated Press

John Mayer, “Paradise Valley” (Columbia Records)

Even those of us who have yet to date and break up with John Mayer may find “Paradise Valley” unlikeable. Kids are apt to spend some time with the hummable tunes before moving on to more fulfill-ing relationships.

Predictably, Mayer’s in love-’em-and-leave-’em mode. “Sure was fun being good to you,” he sings. And, “I was made to chase the storm.” And, “Some nights I throw it all away.” On “Who You Love,” Katy Perry weighs in, singing, “Some have said his heart’s too hard to hold.”

Best is the summery “Waiting On the Day,” which layers lovely vocal harmonies over a reggae pulse, and “Paper Doll,” a gentle shuffle with darting guitars. Elsewhere the songs are slow and slower fizz

and froth, and there’s noth-ing here to make us think, laugh or understand Mayer better. The serial celebri-ty romancer’s not leaving any blood on these tracks, which is a missed opportu-nity because a lot of words rhyme with “Taylor.”

Don Was co-produced Mayer’s sixth effort, which makes the hodgepodge arrangements a surprising disappointment. There’s a bit of flute here, some pedal steel there, and a tiki-bar mood that neuters Mayer’s guitar playing, usually his strong suit. On the most bluesy song, the JJ Cale-esque “Call Me the Breeze,” Mayer’s solo is just build-ing steam when it’s oddly interrupted mid-verse.

Mayer can still write a pretty melody and his singing’s fine follow-ing treatment on his vocal cords. But nearly half of the songs include wordless vocals, probably because on “Paradise Valley” Mayer doesn’t have much to say.

Review: Pretty melodies, not much more from Mayer

Do you have a loved one who is hard to buy for or doesn’t need anything for their special birthday? Honor them by making a donation to Hometown Walk of Hope in their name.

Make a Gift To Walk of Hope

Send donations to:Obion County Hometown Walk of HopeP.O. Box 482, Union City TN 38281

NEW YORK (AP) — Justin Timberlake is set to per-form at the MTV Video Music Awards later this month.

The pop icon will also receive the Michael Jackson Video Vanguard award at the Aug. 25 awards show, the network said Thursday. Timberlake is tied with Macklemore & Ryan Lewis for the most nominations, with six each.

Timberlake’s nominations include video of the year, best male video and pop video for “Mirrors.” His comeback album, “The 20/20 Experience,” is the year’s best-selling album. He’ll release “The 20/20 Experience: 2 of 2” on Sept. 30.

Lady Gaga, Kanye West, Katy Perry, Miley Cyrus and Robin Thicke will also perform at the VMAs, to air live from the Barclays Center in Brooklyn, N.Y.

Timberlake to perform at MTV awards show