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Dr KK Aggarwal

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© Copyright 2012 IJCP Publications Pvt. Ltd. All rights reserved.

The copyright for all the editorial material contained in this book, in the form of layout, content including images and design, is held by IJCP Publications Pvt. Ltd. No part of this publication may be published in any form whatsoever without the prior written

permission of the publisher.

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Receiving Dr BC Roy National Award 2005 on July 1, 2008.

Receiving Padma Shri on March 31, 2010.

Dr KK Aggarwal is a doctor of allopathic medicine with a keen interest and entensive knowledge in other systems of medicine. He integrates the philosophy of Ayurveda, Homeopathy, Naturopathy, Yoga and Vedic Sciences in his clinical practice. He is a Senior Consultant Physician and Lifestyle Interventional Cardiologist at Delhi-based Moolchand Medcity. He is also the President Heart Care Foundation of India; Editor in Chief of eMedinewS, the 1st National daily medical newspaper of the country. Currently, Dr Aggarwal is the Chairperson, Ethical Committee of Delhi Medical Council. He has been the president of Delhi Medical Association and served thrice as the president of IMA New Delhi Branch. He has also served as the head of the academic and research wings of India Medical Association.

He is known to have pioneered many ‘firsts’ in the country. On two of his first events, “Run for the Heart” and “Perfect Health Mela” in 1993, the Govt. of India released national commemorative postal stamps.

Dr Aggarwal has had a brilliant academic career. He completed his undergraduate medical education (MBBS) from MGIMS, Sevagram, Wardha. During MBBS, he topped Nagpur University in both 1st and 2nd year and amongst male candidates in the final MBBS. He also topped the University in the aggregate of all the MBBS marks taken together and received two University gold medals. He received distinctions in Physiology, Ophthalmology, Forensic Medicine and a medal in every subject (four Gold Medals, nine Silver Medals, and five Bronze Medals). At MGIMS, he was declared as the Best Graduate of the College in 1979.

A Paul Harris Fellow, from Rotary International, Dr Aggarwal has received many Professional honors, namely Dr. D S Mungekar National IMA Award (1991); Cardiology Society of India Mumbai Branch Dr KK Datey Oration (1993); Rajiv Gandhi Excellence Award (1993); IMANDB Health Communicator of the Last Decade Award (2002), IMA New Delhi Branch Swasthya Ratna Award (2002); Rashtriya Gaurav Samman (2002); Indira Gandhi Priyadarshini Award (2003); IMA New Delhi Branch Life Style Interventional Cardiologist of the Last Decade Award (2003); IMANDB Life Time Achievement Award (2004), Delhi Medical Association Swasthya Health Ratna (2005-06), DMA Nursing Home Forum Medical Statesman and Communicator of the Last Decade (2005-6); Delhi Hindi Sahitya Sammelan - Sahitya Shree Award 2007 (Doctor and Philosopher of Indian Culture); Mohammad Rafi Award of Excellence (2008), Dr BC Roy National Award 2005 (Govt. of India) in the field of Sociomedical relief (received in 2008), Delhi Medical Association Sunder Lal Roopwati Memorial Award (2009), Delhi Medical Association Award of Excellence (2009), Agravibhushan from All India Vaishya Sammelan (2009), Padma Shri from the President of India (2010), Best Teacher of the decade by IMA Janak Puri Branch and Vaishya Bhushan (2011).

Dr Aggarwal is the very epitome of talent. He is a leading Sr. Physician, Cardiologist and Mind Body Consultant and a world-class Clinical Echocardiographer, Writer, Author, Anchor, Orator, Columnist, Health Communicator, Social Worker, Educator, Teacher, Trainer, Conceptualizer, Visualizer, Creator, Organizer, Preacher, Administrator, Advisor, Social Activist, Researcher and Meditation Teacher par excellence.

Dr KK AggarwalAn Introduction

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ForewordI was brought up in a middle class God beliving religious family and lived my childhood in a single bedroom flat with nine

brothers and sisters along with my parents. When I joined MGIMS, Sevagram, I learnt Gandhian philosophy and was exposed to our Vedic philosophy. Ever since, I have been engaged in learning the interrelationship between Vedic Philosophy and Allopathy. When I came back to Delhi I joined Deepak Chopra’s father Late (Col) Dr K L Chopra, a living saint of that era, and learnt all about humanity. Later on, under Dr Deepak Chopra I learnt about the allopathic science behind the Vedas. This helped me to understand the allopathic science behind any traditional Hindu Ritual, Festival and/or Religion.

I first started writing my columns for the UK edition of Hindustan Times and later in Navbharat Times. These were later compiled in the form of a book “Alloveda”. I was always fascinated by marriage rituals and wanted to know more about their scientific aspects. When I was approached by Neetu Jiwarajka to compile the same in the form of a book, I took up the challenge and the book is now in your hands.

Marriage, as I understand it, is not just a union of two to satisfy the sexual needs or to produce children but a union of the mind, body and soul of two people who want to live together. It is also a spiritual bond between the two families. Out of the Four Ashrams of life described in the Vedas, marriage marks the beginning of the second, ‘Grahasta Ashram’ and signifies that the person is now entering a phase where he has to act like Vishnu and take over the reins of the family and the society.

Marriage is the state of righteous earning to fulfill the desires of inner happiness. The three main spiritual rituals in marriage are Ghudchari, Jaimala and Saptapadi. Their spiritual significance is leaving childhood behavior and tightening the reins of our unstable senses (ghudchari), learning to let go of the ego (bowing in front of each other during Jaimala) and a sankalp of commitment towards each other in front of the Fire God and the society by way of the seven vows (saptapadi).

Other rituals are beautification of the bride and the groom (haldi, shringar, mehandi etc) and help offered by the maternal uncle, brothers, sisters, parents, friends and relations in their future life. The wedding games give an opportunity to mix up with new people in a short period of time. All the pooja ceremonies are so designed to know the importance of a satvik lifestyle and obeying the laws of nature. The basic purpose of a Vedic marriage is to shift one’s awareness from sympathetic to parasympathetic phase, to let go of the ego, to attain humility, to increase spiritual network in the society, to be blessed with children in future and ultimately to become the soulmate and not the body mate.

I hope this small attempt of mine will inspire the younger generation to know about and respect our traditional rituals.

Dr KK Aggarwal

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Contents

thou dk mn~ns’; D;k gS----------------------------- 2

fgUnw fookg vkSj bldk egRo------------------------- 3

oSokfgd fuea=.k&i= dk D;k vkSfpR; gS-------------- 4

oSokfgd fuea=.k i= ds fofo/k vk;ke gS------------ 4

jksduk@Nsaduk@jksdk mRlo ,oa fjax egksRlo---------- 6

x.kifr vkjk/kuk vkSj x.ks’k dk lkadsfrd i{k------- 7

oSfno fookg lekjksg ds fofHkUu pj.k---------------- 8

O;kgkFk] gynkr vkSj Fkkik lekjksg------------------- 9

Hkkr U;ksruk vkSj Hkkr Hkjuk-------------------------10

xksn HkjkbZ jLe vkSj Vhdk----------------------------11

esganh ,oa laxhr lekjksg------------------------------12

rsy cku ,oa gYnh mRlo-----------------------------13

,d Hkkjrh; L=h dk xguk---------------------------14

fgUnw lqgkxu fL=;ksa ds ikap vko’;d igpku-------16

iatkch esa pwM+k mRlo@xjok----------------------------17

?kqM+p<+h ,oa ?kksM+h p<+us ds dkj.k---------------------18

}kj iwtk------------------------------------------------19

t;ekyk--------------------------------------------------20

eaMi iwtk-----------------------------------------------21

vfXu dk egRo-----------------------------------------22

oSfnd fookg---------------------------------------------23

fcnkbZ----------------------------------------------------27

x`g&izos’k-------------------------------------------------28

}kj jksdk------------------------------------------------29

eq[k voyksdu ¼eqag fn[kkbZ½----------------------------30

fookg esa [ksy-------------------------------------------31

¼Å¡½ vksbe dk egRo-----------------------------------32

LokfLrd dk vkSfpR; ¼lkfFk;k½-------------------------33

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xk;=h ea= ,oa egke`R;qat; ea=------------------------34

izR;sd iwtk gou ds izkjaHk ;k var es

e=ksapkj vkRek dh vikj kfDr-------------------------35

iwtk dk nhi D;ksa tyk;k tkrk gS\-------------------36

ukfj;y vkSj dy’k dk mi;ksx gj iwtk esa----------37

D;ksa gksrk gS\-------------------------------------------37

ifo= jk[k dk mi;ksx D;ksa\---------------------------38

ge ’kka[k D;ksa ctkrs gSa\------------------------------39

iwtk ds nkSjku ?kM+h ?kaV D;ksa ctk;k tkrk gS\-------40

deyiq”i dks fo’ks”k D;ksa le>k tkrk gS\-------------41

rqylh dh iwtk ge D;ksa djrs gSa\--------------------42

dq’kk ¼?kkl½ dh iwtk D;ksa gksrh gS\-------------------43

iwtk esa diwj dh mi;ksfxrk D;k gS\------------------44

jksyh@ekSyh@v{kr ¼pkoy½ dk vkSfpR;-----------------45

ge vkjrh ds Åij gkFk D;ksa fQjkrs gSa\------------46

D;ksa ge ekrk&firk o cqtqxksZa dk izek.k

djrs gSa\------------------------------------------------47

ge fryd D;ksa yxkrs gSa\-----------------------------48

Å¡ ’kkafr&’kkafr dk mPpkj.k D;ksa djrs gSa\------------49

ueLdkj ;k ueLrs dh iajijk--------------------------50

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Jh ^^oØrqaM egkdk; lq;ZdksVh leizHkfufoZ/ua dq: esa nsoa loZ dk;sZ"kq loZnkAA**

fookg vuq"Bku dk foKku

vuqokn

v’kksd euksje

MkW- ds-ds- vxzoky

¼in~eJh ,oa MkW- ch-lh- jk; jk"Vªh; iq:Ldkj izkIr½

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¼iq#"kkFkZ pkj izdkj ds gSa&/keZ] vFkZ] dke vkSj eks{k½

iq#"kkFkZ ’kCn dk vFkZ gS] ekuo@L=h ds }kjk r; fd;k x;k y{;A ^iq#"k* ;kfu ekuoh dk;k vkSj vFkZ ;kfu bafnz;ksa }kjk fd;k x;k deZA osnkar ds vuqlkj izR;sd O;fDr vius dqN y{; dh izkfIr dh pkg j[krk gS vkSj mls ikus ds fy, ukuk izdkj ls iz;Ru djrk gS rFkk eu dh bPNk dks iwjk djus dh pkg j[krk gSA /keZ ¼U;k; ds izfr ifo= vkpj.k vkSj lksp ls½] vFkZ ¼HkkSfrd laink½ dke ¼bPNk½ eks{k ¼ikiksa ls eqfDr½ vr% HkkSfrd laink ftls /ku dgk tkrk gS] mldk miHkksx vius fofHkUu bafnz;ksa ds }kjk djds viuh fofHkUu bPNk dks r`Ir djrs gSa] vxj lgh lksp vkSj y{; dh vksj iwjs euks;ksx ls fujarj ltx gksdj thou ds mRd"kZ esa vkus okyh ck/kkvksa ls tq>rs gSa rks lQyrk esa Hkh dksbZ lansg ughaA pkjksa iq#"kkFkksZa thou ds fofHkUu vkJeksa ls lacaf/kr gSA czãp;Z vkJe /keZ ls] x`gLFk vkJe vFkZ ls] okuizLFk vkJe vkarfjd vkRelq[k ¼izlUurk½ dh pkg ls vkSj laU;kl vkJe eks{k ls gSaA os dqN izeq[k mn~ns’; tks thou dks fn’kk nsrs gSa] os f=ewfrZ ds mins’k gSa% czãk] fo’.kq o egs’k ¼f’ko½ ;s rhu nso gekjs vfLrRo dks cuk, j[krs gSaA czãk gesa /keZ dh f’k{kk nsrs gSa] fo.kq vius drZO; ¼deZ½ fuokZg djus dh vkSj egs’k viuh&dkeuk ij vadq’k j[kus dhA

thou dk mn~ns’; D;k gS

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if’peh ns’kksa esa fofHkUurk >ydrh gS] tgka fookg ,d rjg dk le>kSrk gS ;k ,d iDdk ¼lafonk½A ogka fookg ca/ku esa ca/kus dh bPNk j[kus okys tksM+s ds fy, ek= ,d fl)kar gS] tcfd ijaijkxr fgUnw fookg eu] ’kjhj vkSj nks tuksa dh vkRek dk ,dkdkj gksuk gSA ;g oj o/kq dk tqM+ko ek= ugha] dsoy eqfnzdk dk vnyk&cnyh Hkh ugha] ;g rks nks ifjokjksa vkSj nks fofHkUu laLd`fr;ksa dk ,dkdkj gksuk gSA

fookg pØ dh okLrfodrk tkuuh gS rks Jhd`".k ds cpiu dks le>saA tgka ckyd dh oSlh voLFkk gS ftlesa ifo=rk gS] Hkys gh og ek[ku pksj gksA mldk ekul mlds cl esa gS ¼dkfy;k ukx dks ukFkrs le;½ mldk efLr"d mlds fu;a=.k esa gS ¼ek= xkso/kZu iwtk ds izfr mldk eu n`<+izfrKk gS½ vgae dks ekjuk ¼dal o/k½ ,oa tc tokuh esa mudk inkfFk gks jgk gS ¼jklyhyk ;kfu nsg vkSj vkRek ij ,dkRe fu;a=.k½] ca’kh dh rku Vsjus rd] lkFk gh lqn’kZu pØ /kkj.k djus rdA lqn’kZu pØ dk /kkj.k djuk |ksrd gS fd O;fDr vc iwjh rjg vius thou dks lgh usr`Ro ns ldrk gSA vr% mls vc vPNk vkSj cqjs dh le> gks pqdh gSA oSfnd Kku ds vuqlkj] ekuo ’kjhj HkkSfrd inkFkksZa tSls eu] es/kk] vge~ vkSj vkRek ls fufeZr gSA bldh t:jrsa Hkh mlh izdkj oxhZd`r gksxhA HkkSfrd vko’;drk] ekufld t:jr] oSfnd pkg] vge dh rqf"V vkSj vk/;kfRed bPNkA

vke fparu ds vuqlkj thou esa bPNk dk LFkku loksZifj gS ;gka gekjs thou fijkfeM ds lcls uhps foLrkj lrg ij vk:<+ gS] tc fd v/;kRe lcls Åij ek= dks.k ij@ /kkfeZdrk@/keZ iq#"k ds Kku ls ge viuh {kerk dk fodYi viuh xyfr;ksa ij i’pkrki djds ik ldrs gSaA vius iwokZxzg dk fu{ksi.k ek= v/;kRe ls gh gks ldrk gSA

,d lQy fookg ;k ^^,d nwljs ds fy,** fookg dk vFkZ gS vius v/kkZaxuh dh lHkh vko’;drkvksa dh iwfrZ izlUurk ls djukA

fgUnw fookg vkSj bldk egRo

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x.ks’k dh vkjk/kukJh x.ks’kk;ue% x.ks’k vpZuk dk ,d ’yksd gSA x.kifr nso foX?kufouk;d gSa] vr% thou dh jkg esa vkus okyh ck/kkvksa dks gjrs gSaA x.kifr gh ,d ek= nso gSa] ftudh vkjk/kuk loZ izFke gksrh gSA vr% mudk vk’khZokn lHkh rjg ds oSokfgd fuea=.k&i=ksa ds ek/;e ls loZizFke naifr dks izkIr gksrk gSA

AA oØrq.M egkdk; lw;ZdksfV leizHkk]

fufoZ/ua dq:esnsoa loZ dk;sZ"kq loZnkAA

^^gs x.kifr nso vkidh egkdk;k vkSj oØrqaM dk rst djksM+ksa lw;Z ds leku gSA d`i;k esjs ’kqHk dk;Z dks fufoZèu j[ksaA**

ekrk&firk ds fy, izkFkZukAA ekr` nsoks Hko% AA AA fir` nsoks Hko%AA

x`gLFk vkJe dk ^Jh x.ks’k* djrs gq, oj o o/kq ds lkFk u, laca/k tqM+rs gSa] mu nksuksa ds ekrk&firk lsA vr% ’kqHk fookg ds fuea=.k i= ij uo&naifr vkjk/kuk djrs gSa fd muds ekrk&firk nso rqY; gSaA

Hkxoku fo".kq ds fy, izkFkZukeaxye~ Hkxou fo".kq] eaxye~ x:M/ot%

eaxye~ iq.Mjh dk{ks eaxyk;ruks gfj%AA

oSokfgd thou ds dbZ fp= Hkxoku fo".kq dh vjk/kuk&ea=ksa esa mHkjrs gSaA ftlds vFkZ gS&^^fo".kq nso ’kqHk djus okys gSaA ;g ’kqHk gS D;ksafd mudh /otk ij x:M+ nso dk ’kqHkfpg~.k vafdr gS( ;g ’kqHk gS D;ksafd os deyu;u

oSokfgd fuea=.k&i= dk D;k vkSfpR; gSoSokfgd fuea=.k i= ds fofo/k vk;ke gS&

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’kqHkdkjd gSaA ¼Jhgfj Hkxoku fo”.kq½ ’kqHk dk;ksaZ ds Hkh ’kqHkdkjd gSaA Hkxoku fo".kq gh lHkh dk;ksZa ds fuLiknu djus okys gSaA

Hkxoku fo".kq dgrs gSa fd os tks ifo= ân; gSa] mUgsa gekjh ljkst lh vka[ks iwjh rjg lpsr j[krk gS] D;ksafd blesa vlhfer ’kfDr gS vkSj gj rjg dh nq"V vkRek] tks thou dks ijs’kku djrs gSa] mUgsa nwj djrh gSA x:M+ i[ks:vksa ds jktk gSa] D;ksafd ;g i{kh lezkV gSa vkSj liksZa dks] tks nq"Vrk ds izrhd gSa] lekIr djrs gSaA fookg ds ckn oj ,d fo”.kq dh rjg ifjokj dh j{kk djrk gSA

’kqHkfookg&fuea=.k i= fookg ds nkSjku eka ljLorh ds ckjs esa fdlh izdkj dh ea’kk ugha iznf’kZr djrk gS] ,d ;qod ozãp;Z vkJe ds ckn thou ds uohu vk;ke dks Li’kZ djrs gq, xzgLFk vkJe esa izns’k djrk gSA

ozãp;Z vkJe thou dk izFke vkJe gS] tgka vki gj rjg dh f’k{kk xzg.k djus esa igys eka okxs’ojh dh vkjkèkuk rc rd djrs gSa] tc rd ozãp;Z dk ikyu djrs gq, ml vkJe esa jgrs gSaA rc rd vki vius ekrk&firk dh N=Nk;k esa izkFkfed nkf;Roksa dh iwfrZ djrs gq, thou ds dBksj {k.kksa ls yM+us dh izsj.kk ikrs gSaA vki czãp;Z vkJe esa rc rd jgrs gS] tc rd vki fookg ds ca/ku esa ugha ca/k tkrsA fookg x`gLFk vkJe dk izkjaHk gSA ftlesa vki rc rd viuk thou O;rhr djrs gSa] rc rd vkids vius cPpksa dk ifj.k; laLdkj dj mls x`gLFk vkJe esa ugha ys vkrsA blds ckn vki okuizLFkh gks tkrs gSaA ;g thou dk ,d eksM+ gS] tks lrr pyrk jgrk gSA rc rd tc rd cPps okuizLFk vkJe esa ugha vk tkrsA vc vki vkJe ds vafre ik;nku ;kfu laU;kl vkJe esa ugha izos’k djrsA

fu;a=.k i= dk lkadsfrd vFkZ ;g gS fd vki vc x`gLFk vkJe esa izos’k dj jgs gSa] tgka vius ml Kku dk mik;sx djsaxs] tks vkius czãp;Z vkJe esa jgdj xzg.k fd;k gSA ;gka vkidks ¼x.kifr dh lw<+ dh rjg½ (Ganesha’s Trunk) x.kifr ds dku dh rjg] (birears of Ganesh) D;k lquuk gS] vius dY;k.k gsrq vius thou ds ’kqHk&ykHk dh f’k{kk ¼x.kifr ds ,d nar vkSj f}nar½ xzg.k djrs gq, if{kjkt x:M] tks nq"V i’kqrqY; vkijkf/kd izo`fr;ksa dk Hk{k.k djrs gSa] ls mudh bl izo`fr dks] tgka nq"Vrk uhfgr gS] lekIr djrs gq, thou ladV dks vkxs c<+krs gSaA

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bls ^okXnku laLdkj^ Hkh dgk tkrk gS( bl mRlo dk vFkZ gS] gksus okys oj ;k o/kq ds ekrk&firk ,d nwljs dks vius iq= ;k iq=h ds lax ijLij feyu ¼fookg½ dk opu nsrs gSaA jksdk lekjksg ml le; gksrk gS] tc nksuksa i{k ¼oj&o/kq i{k½ fookg ds fy, ijLij rS;kj gksrs gSaA bldk vFkZ gS fd oj ,oa dU;k vius&vius ân; dh ifo=rk ls ijLij feyu dh Lohd`fr nsrs gSaA fjax egksRlo rc gksrk gS] tc jksdk mRlo dh Lohd`fr ijLij fey tkrh gSA

oj&dU;k ,d nwljs dh vukfedk esa eqfnzdk cnyrs gSaA ,slh ekU;rk gS fd eqfnzdk tc vukfedk esa /kkj.kk dh tkrh gS] rks] og /kkj.k djus okys ds ân; rd dks Li’kZ djrh gSA eqfnzdk dk vknku&iznku mRlo vf/kdrj if’pe dk mRlo gS( ij vkt ;g fgUnw tuksa ds }kjk Hkh xzkg~e gks x;k gSA bl lekjksg ls igys ,d fookg dh ijEijkxr ckjackjrk dh dksbZ cafn’k fdlh Hkh i{k dh ugha curh gSA

jksduk@Nsaduk@jksdk mRlo ,oa fjax egksRlo

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izR;sd fgUnw i)fr esa ikjaifjd :i dh ’kq:vkr Hkxoku x.ks’k dh vkjk/kuk ls gksrh gSA fookg lekjksg Hkxoku x.kifr dh vpZuk ls ’kq: gksrk gS] ftlesa x.kifr ls uo naifÙk ds thou dh ’kqHk dkeuk,a vkSj fookg lekjksg ds fufoZ/u iwjk gksus dh dkeuk gksrh gSA Jhx.ks’k f’ko vkSj ikoZfr ds iq= gSa] tks ekuo ds vkpj.k vkSj pfj= nqcyrkvksa ds chp rkjrE;rk j[kus dh ’kfDr nsrs gSaA fdlh Hkh u, mRlo dh ’kq:vkr esa i)fr vkSj vpZuk dh fu;ekoyh ds izkjaHk ls igys x.ks’k dh izk.k izfr"Bk dh tkrh gS] ftlls O;fDr ds eulk&okpk&deZ.kk es/kk esa izxfr gks vkSj O;fDr iw.kZrk dh vksj c<+sA Jh x.ks’k dk eLrd lc rjg ls ifjiw.kZ gS] x.ks’k dk eLrd gkFkh dk gSA tks cqf) dk izfrfuf/kRo djrk gS] gkFkh njvly cqf) ,oa LoLFk es?k dk izfrfuf/kRo djrk gS] tks uo naifr dks mfpr fu.kZu; ysus esa lgk;d gSA cksyus ls igys fparu dh t:jr gS] ;g crkrk gS] Jh x.ks’k dk eLrd gkFkh ds cM+s&cM+s dku muds ’kjhj dks fu;af=r djrs gSaA

Jh x.ks’k dk eq[k cgqr gh NksVk gS] tks crykrk gS fd feÙk Hkk"kh cuksA cM+s cksy ls dbZ rjg dh leL;k,a fdlh Hkh le; vk ldrh gSa] blfy, okpkyrk ls cpuk pkfg,A x.ks’k dh NksVh vka[ks ;g crkrh gS fd nwj n`f"V ls thou dks ns[kus dh xgjh le> gksuh pkfg,A bl n`f"V dk dsoy ;g eryc ugha gS fd u, y{; dks ges’kk viuh utj esa gh j[ksa] cfYd ;g Hkh gS fd thou dh fofHkUu vk;keksa dks ruko jfgr rjhds ls fparu }kjk lekèkku fd;k tk,A yEch lw<+ cqjh ’kfDr;ksa dks <wa<+ dj mlls futkr fnykus dk |ksrd gSA x.ks’k dh yEch ukd dh ’kfDr ;g crkrh gS fd tSls cM+s o`{kksa dh ’kk[kkvksa vkSj tM+ksa rd dks fgykus okyh lwM+ ,d NksVh fiu dks <wa< ysrh gS] mlh izdkj thou dh NksVh&cM+h leL;kvksa ds lek/kku esa Jhx.ks’k ges’kk ennxkj jgrs gSaA Jhx.ks’k dh cM+h vkSj NksVh nkarsa ;g crkrh gS fd fdl rjg gkuh vksj ykHk esa ,djlrk ds lkFk thou ;kiu fd;k tk ldrk gSA ¼nkar dk VwVuk ;kuh gkfu½ tks euq"; vkerkSj ij ekufld :Ik ls mRFkku iru ds chp bZeku dh ifo=rk ds egRo dks larqfyr :Ik ls vkadrk gS og gksrk gSA

x.kifr dk fo’kky mnj dk vFkZ gS] gj rjg dh tkudkfj;ksa dks vius isV esa ipk ysus dh {kerk j[kukA

Kku] mi;ksxpkj Hkqtk /kkjh x.ks’k viuh pkjksa Hkqtkvksa ds fofo/k mi;ksx dh ’kfDr dh fn[kkrs gSa] tks nSfod ’kfDr;ksa ls ;qDr gSA fyIlk ls jfgr gSA Jh x.ks’k dh nks Hkqtkvksa esa ls ,d esa ik’k jLlh gS] tks lkadsfrd :i ls viuh bPNkvksa dks cka/kus ds ladYi dks n’kkZrk gSA ,d vU; gkFk esa yM~Mw ;k feBkbZ dk /kkj.k djuk ;g n’kkZrk gS fd viuh bPNkvksa ij vadq’k j[ksa viuh ftgok ij fu;a=.k j[ksa] rHkh thou e/kqjrk vk,xhA Jh x.ks’k ds vklu ds ikl ew"kd dk gksuk ;g crkrk gSA NksVs okgu dk gksuk viuh vko’;drkvksa vkSj viuh fyIlk ds izfr vius vki dks fu;af=r j[kuk gS] D;ksafd bPNk] yksHk vkfn cqjh ’kfDr;ka gSA Jh x.ks’k dk HkkSfrd Lo:Ik muds lalnh; ¼x.kifr ;kuh pqus x, izfrfuf/kRo½ egRo dh vf/kd t:jr gSA

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?kqM+p<+h }kj iwtk ojekyk eaMiiwtu e/kqidZ egksRlo xkSnku nfjnz ysiu

xzafFk ca/ku fookg ?kj ikf.kxzg.k yktk gkse gkFkksxzafFk dU;knku ifjØek ;k eaxy Qsjk lIrinh

dU;k opu oj opu ân; Li’kZ vfHk”ksd flanwjnku eaxy lw= vUu izk{ku vk’khZokn

oSfno fookg lekjksg ds fofHkUu pj.k

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vkerkSj ij ;s lekjksg vyx&vyx oj o c/kq ds ?kjksa esa gksrs gSa] ftldh tkudkjh igys ls jgrh gSA bu fookg lekjksg dh ’kq:vkr lkr lqgkxuksa dh igy ls gksrh gSA xqM+ vkSj nkyksa dh fifB~B;ka ¼ihlh gqbZ½ mu lkr lqgkxuksa ds chp ckaVh tkrh gSA tks oj ;k dU;k dks vk’khZokn ds lkFk mls nsrs gSaA xqM+ esa ykSgrRo vf/kd gksrk gS vkSj nkyksa esa izksVhu dh izpwjrk gksrh gSA bldk vFkZ gS fd oj&o/kq ykSgrRo vkSj izksVhu dh deh ls mcjsaA ftlls muds fookg ds ckn muds thou esa cPps fdydsA

x`gLFkh dh ‘kq:vkr esa rkys vkSj pkch dh t:jr gksrh gSA nksyksa dh fifV~B;ksa ls ^^ewaxksM+h** ;k NksVh cfM+;ka cukbZ tkrh gSa] ftUgsa lw;Z dh jkS’kuh esa lq[kkbZ tkrh gSA ;g uonafir ds ?kj esa cuus okys izFke Hkkstu dgk tk ldrk gSA

lekjksg ds nkSjku ihys pkoy ¼gYnh ls jaxs½ ls oj@o/kq ds vaxksa dks vU; lqgkfxuksa ds gkFkksa ls jxM+k tkrk gSA ;g fookg lekjksg dk Jhx.ks’k gSA

Fkkik% ?kj esa iwtk x`g ds ikl oj&o/kq ds gkFkksa dh Nki yh tkrh gS] bl nkSjku ;g eUur dh tkrh gS fd gs bZ’oj fookg lekjksg dh lQyrk vkids gkFk esa gS] d`i;k lqjf{kr iwjk djsaA

O;kgkFk] gynkr vkSj Fkkik lekjksg

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Hkkjrh; fookg iwjh rjg ijLij lg;ksx ,oa lkekftd ra= ij fuHkZj gSA bl ikjaifjd egRoiw.kZ Hkwfedk dk fuokZg oj@o/kq ds ekek ds }kjk gksrh gSA tc oj vFkok o/kq dh eka vius HkkbZ ds ?kj mUgsa vkeaf=r djus tkrh gS fd mldh csVh@csVs dk fookg r; gks x;k gS] rks bl jLe dk izkjaHk gksrk gSA lekjksg ,d rjg dk ladsr gS fd HkkbZ vkSj cguksa ds chp ijLij thou Hkj dk fdruk bldh gh ,d xgjk laca/k gS vkSj bldh ;g ,d dM+h gSA fuEu e/;oxhZ; ifjokj esa HkkbZ viuh cgu ds cPpksa ds fookg esa Hkkr nsdj lg;ksx djrk gS] vxj mldh vkfFkZd gkyr detksj gksrh gS rksA

ftl cPph@cPps dk fookg gks jgk gS] mldh eka feBkbZ Qy o rksgQs ysdj vius HkkbZ ds ?kj tkrh gS tks mlds HkkbZ ds cPpksa ¼Hkrhts@Hkrhft;ksa ds fy, gksrk gS½ ;gh Hkkr U;ksruk dgykrk gSA

blds ckn ykSVdj oj@o/kq dk ekek viuh cgu ds ?kj tkdj fookg lekjksg ds volj ij vius ifjokj ds lkFk Hkkr nsrk gSA ,slk djds og viuh cgu dh izfr”Bk c<+krk gSA Hkkr nsus ds le; og ¼HkkbZ½ migkj@feVkbZ viuh cgu ,oa mlds iwjs ifjokj ds fy, ys tkrk gSA HkkbZ dk Lokxr bl lekjksg esa cgu ,oa mlds ifjokj ds }kjk dh tkrh gSA bl oDr tc cgu vius HkkbZ dk Lokxr dj jgh gksrh gS] rks cgu ds lj ij pqUuh vFkok nqiV~Vk <dk gksrk gSA

,slh ekU;rk gS fd ;g ,d ,slk {k.k gksrk gS] tc lHkh nsoh&nsork LoxZ ls vius vU; lHkh dk;ksZa dk jksddj dsoy ml Hkkoqd {k.k dk vkuan ysrs gSa] tks HkkbZ&cgu ds chp fn[krk gSA ;g lekjksg thou Hkj ds HkkbZ&cgu ds ijLij laca/kksa ds fuokZg ds izfr n`"<+ bPNk ’kfDr dk ladsr gSA

Hkkr U;ksruk vkSj Hkkr Hkjuk

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xksn HkjkbZ ,d ijaijk gS ftldk vk;kstu fgUnqvksa esa vkerkSj ij nks ckj gksrk gSA ,d ckj fookg ds ’kq:vkr esa vkSj nwljh ckj tc L=h vius xHkZ/kkj.k ds lkrosa eghus esa gksrh gSA

fookg i)fr ds izFke pj.k esa] lekjskg dk izkjaHk rc gksrk gS tc gksus okys nqYgs ds ikfjokfjd yksx oS/kkfud :i ls fdlh yM+dh dks vius ifjokj dh csVh tSlh cukus dk izLrko j[krs gSaA iwjk lekjksg ek= fL=;ksa ds }kjk vk;ksftr gksrk gS] blesa iq#"k lnL;ksa dh Hkkxhnkjh ugha gksrhA bl le; yM+dh ¼gksus okyh nqYgu½ vius ifjèkku ds :i esa vPNh lh lkM+h igurh gS] ij fdlh izdkj dk vkHkw"k.k ughaA blds ckn og fdlh vklu ¼dqlhZ½ ij vius vkapy ¼iYyw½ dks xksn dh rjg cukdj cSBrh gSA eka] cgu ,oa nwYgs dh HkkHkh yM+dh dks ifj/kkuksa ls ltkrh gSaA bu ifj/kkuksa esa xgus ¼vkHkw"k.k½] pfM+;ka] fofHkUu izdkj ds dkWLesfVDl gksrh gSA blds ckn vU; mifLFkr ifjokj dh vkSjrsa Vhdk dh jLe fuHkkrh gSaA blesa yykV ij Vhdk fd;k tkrk gS vkSj yM+dh dh xksn esa migkj lkexzh nh tkrh gSaA blh ds lkFk os vk’khZokn Hkh nsrh gSa vkSj bZ’oj ls mudh cuus okyh uohu tksM+h dks ’kqHkdkeuk dh vis{kk dh ekax Hkh djrh gSaA ftlls mudk oSokfgd thou esa cPpksa dh fdydkfj;ka xwatsA ^xksn&HkjkbZ* dk vFkZ gS L=h dh dks[k ;Fkk’kh?kz gjh gksA

bl fØ;k esa ml L=h ds izfr vknj ,oa vk’kh"k opu iwjk gksrk gS ;gh gh ^okXxnku* gSA

Vhdk % nqYgu dk HkkbZ] nwYgs ds yykV ij Vhdk djrk gSA fgUnqvksa esa ^m/kZxkeh* rjhds ls ;g Vhdk dh tkrh gSA Vhdk djus dk rjhdk uhps ls Åij dh vksj gS] ftlls Vhdk /kkj.k djus okys esa vk/;kfed Kku dk fodkl gksA

xksn HkjkbZ jLe vkSj Vhdk

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^^;g dgk tkrk gS fd ifr dk uke nqYgu dh gFksyh ij esganh ls fy[kk tkrk gSA ;gka ifr viuh uosyh nqYgu dh gFksyh esa tc viuk uke fy[k jgk gskrk gS] rks ml nkSjku vka[kksa dh ppayrk vkSj efLr"d dh fr{.kuk ls yM+dh izHkkfor gks tkrh gSA

fookgiwoZ esganh ;k fguk dk mi;ksx ,d egRoiw.kZ lekjksg gSA blesa oj&o/kw vius gkFk vkSj iSj nksuksa ij bls yxkrs gSaA esganh dk vkSfpR; gS] fookg ds nkSjku ijLij izse dk etcwr gksukA ;g ekuk tkrk gS fd esganh dk jax ftruk iDdk gksxk] oj&o/kq ds chp dk izse vkSj ca/ku Hkh mruk gh etcwr gksxkA loZ izFke esganh dk iz;ksx nqYgu dh gFksyh ij mldh lkl ds }kjk dh tkrh gSA

Ük`axkj ,d fgUnh dk ’kCn gS] ftldk vFkZ gS lqanjrkA bldk eryc vkSjr dk dYiuk’khy gksukA esganh ,d ,slk jkLrk gS] tks ,d Hkkjrh; L=h dh lqanjrk dh ’kfDr dks lkeus ykus esa vge Hkwfedk fuHkkrk gSA lksyg Ük`axkj ftuesa esganh Hkh gSA efgykvksa dh 16 lqanjrk c<+kus ds fVIl dk mYys[k ^dke&lw=* esa gS] tgka esganh ls ’kjhj ij vkd`fr cukuk L=h dh 64 dykvksa esa ,d le>h tkrh FkhA esganh mRlo L=h laxhr lekjksg dk ,d [kkl fgLlk gS] ;gka vkSjrsa ikjaifjd laxhr ds }kjk nqYgu dks NsM+rs gSa] muds ifr vkSj uun] nsoj vkfn dks ysdj bl nkSjku esganh yxkus okyk viuk dke djrs jgrk gSA

esganh ,oa laxhr lekjksg

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Hkkjrh; jLeksa ds vuqlkj] gYnh mRlo fookg ds fnu gksus okyk ,d vk;kstu gSA gYnh mRlo dk vk;kstu nqYgu vkSj nqYgs nksuksa ds ?kjksa ij gksrk gSA rsy cku esa ngh] ljlksa dk rsy] esganh ,oa nqokZ?kkl dk mi;ksx gksrk gSA

ifjokj ds fookfgr iq#"k ,oa fL=;ka esganh feJ.k dk iz;ksx oj ,oa dU;k nksuksa ij muds vius vius ?kjksa esa uhps ls Åij dh vksj iz;ksx djrs gSaA ;g vk;kstu vkSjrksa ds }kjk fookg lacaf/kr xhrksa ds lkFk ’kq: gksrk gSA

gYnh&isLV mcVu dgk tkrk gSA ;g gYnh] xqykc ty ,oa pus ds vkVs dk feJ.k gksrk gSA bldk ¼mcVu½ iz;ksx nqYgu ds ?kj ij L=h lacaf/k;ksa o nksLrksa ds }kjk fd;k tkrk gSA bl nkSjku lHkh nwYgk&nqYgu dks vk’kh”k nsrs gSaA

;g mRlo lQkbZ ,oa ifo=rk dk mRlo gSA ;g fookg ls iwoZ euk;k tkrk gSA gYnh ,d rjg dhVk.kqjks/kh rRo gSA blds iz;ksx ls Ropk vkd"kZd ,oa deuh; gks tkrh gS] ftlls fookg ds nkSjku oj o c/kq vU; ls vyx vkSj [kkl fn[krs gSaA

rsy cku ,oa gYnh mRlo

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1- fcanh% ;g ,d egRoiw.kZ /kkfeZd fpg~.k gS vkSj fookfgr fL=;ksa ds fy, lqgkx dk ,d izrhd HkhA

2- flanwj% ;g ,d lqgkx dk ns[kus okyk fpg~.k gSA flanwj ;k dqedqe yky jax dk ,d ikoMj gksrk gS] ftldk mi;ksx lqgkxu fL=;ka] ckyksa ds chp ¼cky cukus ds ckn½ Ük`axkj ds nkSjku djrh gSaA

3- ekaxVhdk% ckyksa esa iguk tkus okyk ;g ,d vkHkw"k.k gS] tks ckyksa ds chp ¼ekax½ esa yxk;k tkrk gSA

4- vatu ¼dkty½% dkty dk iz;ksx vka[kksa ds Åijh vkSj uhpys iydksa ij fd;k tkrk gSA blls vka[ksa lqanj o vkd"kZd yxrh gSaA

5- uFk ¼ukdksa esa igus tkus oky vkHkw"k.k½% ;g vkerkSj ij ukd esa ckbZa vksj iguk tkrk gSA

6- gkj% xys dh lqanjrk usDysl ls vkSj vf/kd [kwclwjr gks tkrh gSA

7- d.kZ Qwy% dku esa igus tkus okyk d.kZQwy ls dku dh [kwclwjrh c<+ tkrh gSA

8- esganh% bldk egRo ;g gS fd ;g I;kj c<+kus dh [kw’kcw nsrh gSA lkFk gh gkFk vkSj iSjksa esa blds iz;ksx ls tks lqxa/k fudyrh gSa] og I;kj ds ca/ku dks etcwr dj nsrs gSaA

9 pwfM+;ka% pwfM+;ka dykbZ esa /kkj.k djus okyk ,d ,slk Üka`xkj dk vkHkw"k.k gS] tks dkap dh cuh gksrh gSA ;g yk[k ¼ykg½ ;k lksus dh Hkh gks ldrh gSA

10 cktwcan ;k ckagksa dk vkHkw"k.k% ;g cktw ds Åijh fgLls esa iguk tkrk gSA

11- vkjlh% tc lHkh Åaxfy;ksa esa vaxqfB;ka Hkjh gksrh gS rc vaxwBs esa vkjlh /kkj.k fd;k tkrk gSA blesa dkap ds VqdM+s yxs gksrs gSaA blds }kjk vius ifr dh ijNkbZa nqYgu ns[krh gSA

12- ds’kfoU;kl% vkerkSj ij ckyksa dks xwaFk dj j[kk tkrk gSA blesa ckyksa ds chp dbZ rjg ds vU; vkHkw”k.k igus tkrs gSa] Qwyksa vkSj vU; jax&fcjaxh Mksfj;ka yxkbZ tkrh gSa] ftlls cky lqanj fn[ksaA

,d Hkkjrh; L=h dk xguk

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14- ik;y ,oa fcfN;k% vkerkSj ij ;g pkanh dh cuh gksrh gSA ;g eksVh psu tSlh gksrh gSA bls iSjksa esa iguk tkrk gS] ;g NksVh&NksVh ?kafV;ksa ls lth gksrh gSaA fcfN;k iSj dh vaxqfy;ksa esa iguk tkus okyk vkHkw”k.k gSA vaxwBh tSls gkFkksa dh vaxqfy;ksa esa iguk tkrk gS] fcfN;ka iSjksa dh vaxqfy;ksa esa mlh izdkj iguk tkrk gSA

15- b=% ;g ,d fo’ks"k izdkj dk lqxaf/kr inkFkZ gS] ftlls okrkoj.k egeg djrk gSA

16- nqYgu dk ifj/kku% ;g pedhys jaxksa dk gksrk gSA tSls yky] eS:u] lqugyk ;k gjs jax dkA ;g nqYgu ds vanj dh [kwclwjrh dks ckgj ykus esa lgk;d gksrk gSA

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fgUnw i)fr ds vuqlkj ,d lqgkxu L=h ds ikap ikjaifjd igpku gSa& eaxylw=] flanwj] uFk] fcNqvk ,oa pwfM+;kaA buesa nks ¼eaxylw= o flanwj½ dk egRo [kkl gSA bu ikap vko’;d miknkuksa ls fookfgr ,oa vfookfgr yM+fd;ksa ds chp dkQh varj fn[krk gSA buesa ls izR;sd fpg~.k fo’ks"k egRo j[krs gSA mnkgj.kLo:i yky jax dk flanwj ¼dqedqe½ yky jax dh pwfM+;ka ,oa fookg ds le; cka/ks tkus okys ihys /kkxs ds lkFk eaxylw= ds Lo.kZ ykWdsV nqYgu dh fo’ks"k igpku ,d gh utj esa djk tkrh gSA

1- eaxylw=% ,d eaxylw= fo’ks"k izdkj dk og vkHkw"k.k gS] tks Lo.kZ vkSj dkys jax ds eudksa dks feykdj ,d ,oa nks ihys /kkxs esa fijks dj cuk;k tkrk gSA ;g Hkkjrh; L=h fookfgr L=h dh igpku gSA ;g ifr o iRuh ds chp gksus okys ekSfyd fo’okl dks fn[kkrk gSA blls fo’okl vkSj izse ds izfr nksuksa dk mÙkjnkf;Ro >ydrk gSA oSfnd utfj, ls eaxylw= ges’kk L=h ds xys esa /kkj.k fd;k tkus okyk og gkj gS] ftlesa lksus dh ykWdsV gksrh gSA ;g xys ds ml fgLls esa >wyrk jgrk gS] tgka ^Fkk;el XySaM* ;k ^vugn pØ* dk LFkku gSA tks ,d nwljs ds izfr ,d ’krZ jfgr izse dks fn[kkrk gSA

2- flanwj% flanwj og pw.kZ ¼ikoMj½ gS] tks yky jax dh ml ’kfDr dks lkeus ykrh gS] tks fL=;ksa dks lrh ,oa ikoZrh dh rjg igpku djkrh gSA ,d lqgkxu L=h dh igpku lrh ds :i esa gS] tks R;kx dh izfrewfrZ dgykrh gSA og ges’kk vius ifr dh izfr"Bk dh j{kk djus dks rS;kj jgrh gSA og nsoh ikoZrh dh rjg vknj.kh; gS] tks ^v[kaM lkSHkkX; okyh gSA flanwj L=h dks thou Hkj rd ifrijk;.k cus jgus dh igpku gSA ikjaifjd flanwj gYnh ,oa fQVdjh vFkok pwuk] ;k vU; okuLifrd lRo ls curk gSA

fgUnw lqgkxu fL=;ksa ds ikap vko’;d igpku

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bl mRlo esa nqYgu ds ekek viuk pwM+k nqYgu dks nsrs gSaA iatkfc;ksa esa pwM+k Øhe vkSj yky jax dh pqfM+;ka gksrh gSaA bu pqfM+;ksa dks yM+dh dh lgsfy;ka] cgusa vkSj ekek yM+dh dks igukrs gSaA

mÙkj Hkkjr esa ekek ik;y@fcfN;k vkSj pwfM+;ka nqYgu ds fy, ykrs gSaA ;g mRlo dh [kkl igpku gS fd HkkbZ viuh cgu ds iq= vFkok iq=h ds fookg esa ,d fo’ks"k mÙkjnkf;Ro fuHkkrk gSA

iatkch esa pwM+k mRlo@xjok

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nwYgk vius ifjokj vkSj b"V fe=ksa ds lkFk nqYgu ds ?kj ckjkr ysdj tkrk gSA og lth&laojh ?kksM+h ij cSBrk gSA nwYgk vkSj ckjkr fookg LFkku ij igqaprk gSA ogka nqYgu ds ifjokj ds }kjk mldk Lokxr gksrk gSA tgka iqjksfgr ¼iafMr½ dqN ea=ksa dk ikB djrs gSa vkSj nqYgu dh eka nqYgsa ds xys esa ekyk igukrh gS] v{kr ¼pkoy½ f=i= ¼,d izdkj dk vkHkw"k.k½ ls nqYgsa dk Lokxr djrh gS vkSj vk’kh"k nsrh gSA blds ckn nwYgs ds ekFks ij flanwj o gYnh dk rsy yxkrh gSaA fQj ,d feBkbZ dk VqdM+k nwYgs dks f[kykrh gSaA blds ckn iku nsrh gSaA ;g lekjksg feyu ;k feyuh dgk tkrk gSA bl lekjksg dk vkSfpRo gS fd nks ifjokjksa ds chp ,d etcwr xBca/ku gksA ;gka yksx ¼ikfjokfjd lnL;½ ,d nwljs ls ijLij xys feyrs gSa vkSj Lokxr djrs gSaA

blds ckn nwYgk ?kksM+h ls uhps mrjrk gS vkSj fookg LFky ij tkrk gSA ?kksM+h psruk dk izfrfuf/kRo djrh gS lkFk gh thou dks fu;af=r j[kus dh lh[k Hkh nsrh gSA ?kksM+h dks fu;a=.k djuk ;kfu vius nl rjg dh psruk ij fparu ,ao vU; vPNs deksZa dh enn ls thou dh lPpkb;ksa ij fot; ikuk gSA

?kksM+h R;kx dh igpku gSA ?kksM+h viuh xfr ,oa R;kx ds fy, Hkh tkuh tkrh gSA vius vki dks tkuus esa fofoèkrk] fo’okluh;rk xfr] fofo/kxq.k] fo’oluh;rk ,oa R;kx Hkkouk dh lcls T;knk t:jr gksrh gSA vius vanj ds v’o ¼?kksM+h½ dks R;kx ls gh fu;af=r fd;k tk ldrk gSA ge vius xq.kksa dks ?kksM+h ds xq.kksa dh dlksVh ij dlus ds ckn gh v/;kfRed xq.k ikrs gSa rFkk LokLF; laca/kh nqcZyrk dks feVkrs gSaA ,d ?kksM+h ?kksM+s dh vis{kk cgqr gh T;knk papy ;k uV[kV gksrh gSA bls lkadsfrd :i ls cpdkuk O;ogkj ds ,sls O;fDr ds :i esa le>k tkrk gS] ftldk fpr papy gSA

?kksM+h ij p<+us ds ckn mls fu;af=r djus dh cqf) ¼yM+diu LoHkko ds jgrs½ dksbZ Hkh O;fDr fdlh u, nkf;Ro dks fuHkkus gsrq igy ugha dj ldrkA ;gh ladsr gS ?kqM+p<+h dkA D;ksafd fookg ds ckn dbZ rjg ds nkf;Ro nwYgs ds da/ks ij vk tkrk gSaA

?kksM+h p<+us dk ;g lekjksg okLro esa ?kksM+h dh jLlh ¼yxke½ dks l[rh ls [khpsa j[krk gSA

?kqM+p<+h ,oa ?kksM+h p<+us ds dkj.k

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nwYgk vius ikfjokfjd lnL;ksa ,oa b"V fe=ksa ds lkFk ckjkr ds :i esa nqYgu ds njokts ¼?kj½ rd tkrk gSA nwYgk lth gqbZ ?kksM+h ij cSBk gksrk gSA ckjkr esa vkerkSj ij iq#"k ,oa fL=;ka lfEefyr jgrh gSaA izkph.k le; esa vkSjrsa fookg lekjksg vFkok ckjkr esa ugha tkrh FkhaA ijarq bu fnuksa rks fj’rsnkjksa ds }kjk ckjkr ¼oj ;k=k½ esa u`R;&Mkal vkfn gksrs gSaA

ckjkr esa oj ¼nwYgk½ dks Hkxoku fo".kq dh rjg le>k tkrk gSA nqYgu ¼dU;k½ dh eka oj dk Lokxr fo".kq nso ds :i esa djrh gSA nqYgu ds ?kj ds vklikl vFkok }kj ij fofHkUu izdkj ds Qwyksa ls rksj.k vkSj canuokj ltk, tkrs gSaA bu ltkoVksa dks nwYgk uhe dh Vguh ls rc Li’kZ djrk gS] tc og nqYgu dks ysdj vius ?kj vkus yxrk gSA ;g ,d ladsr Hkj gS fd oj dU;k dh j{kk mu cqjh utjksa ls djus esa l{ke gS] tks dU;k dh vksj mBsaxhA ;g lekjksg rksj.kksPpkj dgykrk gSA

oj lRdkj ¼nwYgs dk Lokxr½% lcls vknj.kh; o izeq[k vfrfFk ds :i esa nwYgs dk Lokxr ifo= ea=ksa ds }kjk gksrk gSA oj lRdkj ds :i esa nwYgs dks muds ikfjokfjd lnL;ksa o nksLrksa&fj’rsnkjksa ds lkFk fueaf=r fd;k tkrk gSA bl i)fr esa iqtkjh ¼iafMr½ nwYgs ds Lokxr esa dqN ea=ksa dk ikB djrs gSaA blh nkSjku nqYgu dh eka oj ds yykV ij dqedqe ,oa gYnh dk Vhdk yxkrh gSA

}kj iwtk

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;g lekjksg ,d rjg ls iq"iekyk ls oj&o/kq ds chp ijLij vknu&iznku gSA iqjkru dky esa ;g laHkor% Lo;aoj ds :i esa izpfyr Fkk tks ckn esa t;ekyk ds :i esa viuk;k x;kA ;gka nqYgu vius nwYgs dks lkadsfrd :i ls ojekyk iguk dj pquus dk miØe djrk gSA nwYgk ojekyk iguus esa FkksM+h vkukdkuh djrk gSA

lcls igys dU;k ¼o/kw½ vkrh gS vkSj vius gksus okys nwYgs dk Lokxr mlds xys esa iq”igkj ¼Qwy ekyk½ Mkydj djrh gSA blds ckn nwYgk Hkh viuh gksus okyh nqYgu ds xys esa iq"igkj Mkyrk gSA

laca/kksa dk vknku&iznku rc rd laHko ugha gS] tc rd fd laca/kksa ¼lacaf/k;ksa½ ds chp ijLij vknj dk fuokZg ugha fd;k tk;A ek= vknj gh vge~ vkSj vieku dks nwj djus esa l{ke gksrs gSaA t;ekyk og eq[; lekjksg gS] tks uo naifÙk dks ,d nwljs ds lkeus >qdus ¼uezrk fn[kkus½ dk ekSdk nsrk gSA blls muds mTToy Hkfo"; dh dkeuk ogka mifLFkr lnL;ksa ds }kjk dh tkrh gSA fookg rc rd v/kwjk gS] tc rd t;ekyk dh jLe ugha gksA vkSj t;ekyk rc rd v/kwjk gS] tc rd oj&o/kq ijLij mifLFkr tuksa ds lkeus >qddj vk’khZokn ugha xzg.k dj ysaA

t;ekyk

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iwtk ds nkSjku vkx tykus ¼vfXu ds vkg~oku½ dk lekjksg og vfXuiwtk gS] tks gj rjg ds ifo= dk;ksZa ls igys okrkoj.k dh ’kf) ,oa ifo=rk ds fy, dh tkrh gSA fookg ?kj esa vfXuiwtu lekjksg vk;ksftr gksrk gSA vkx njvly ifo=rk vkSj v/;kRe dk lkadsfrd mnkgj.k gSA eaMi esa nwYgs dks Hkxoku fo".kq dh rjg le>k tkrk gSA ;g iwtu rc iwjk gksrk gS] tc nqYgu ds firk oj dks fo".kq le> dj viuh dU;k ¼y{eh tSlh½ ds fy, ifr ds :i esa ns[krs vkSj iwtrs gSaA

x.ks’k iwtu ds ckn gh vU; nsorkvksa dh iwtk gksrh gSA vfXu izTtoyu ds ckn dU;k ¼o/kw½ vfXu nsork dks vius fookg lk{kh ds :i esa vkg~oku ¼cqykrh½ djrh gS vkSj x.kifr rFkk xkSjh dh Lrqfr Hkh djrh gSA

eaMi iwtk

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fgUnqRo esa ges’kk vfXu dks ^vfXu nso* dgk tkrk gSA vfXu dh iwtk ¼vkjk/kuk½ lHkh fgUnw i)fr;ksa esa] tSls gou] ;K] vkgqfr] ladYi] fookg lekjskg ¼lIrinh½ vkfn esa ekU; gSaA vkx v’kq)rk ¼iznw"k.k½ dks oxSj fdlh nq"izHkko ds lekIr dj nsrh gSA dBksifu"kn~ esa nwljs ojnku ds :i esa ufpdsrk ;e ls vfXufon~;k dh tkudkjh pkgrk gSA ifo= ckbfcy ds vuqlkj ekU; :i ls jktk tsEl osjlu&,DlksMl 3%2] bZ’oj vfXu ds :i esa 10 rjg dh ’kfDr;ka ojnku ds :i esa nsrs gSaA --- vkSj bZ’oj dk nwr vfXu dh yiVksa ds ek/;e ls vfXudqM ls ckgj vkrs gSaA--- ifo= lekjksg vfXunso dh fot; xkFkk gh rks gSA os cqjh ’kfDr;ksa dk uk’k ^gksfydk* ds :i esa djrs gSaA jkek;.k ds vuqlkj lhrk us viuh ifo=rk dh ijh{kk vfXu dh mBrh yiVksa ds chp izos’k dj fn;k FkkA rhu eq[kh :nzk{k Hkh vfXu ds eq[k dk n~;ksrd gSA

^’kkafr vXuks e`R;rs* ;kfu vk;qosZn ds vuqlkj vfXu ds fcuk euq"; ej tkrk gSA ikap rRoksa esa vfXu Hkh ,d gSA ge ¼vkarfjd o okg~;½ vfXu ls cus gSa] ;g izeq[k dkjd gSA vfXu rRo dh deh ;kfu ’kjhj esa vfXu dk de gksuk ’kjhj ds fy, gkuhdkjd gSA

Øfed fodkl ds nkSjku vfXu ,d vge Hkwfedk fuHkkrh gSA ;g lHkh rjg ds oLrqvksa dks tykdj jk[k dj nsrh gSA vfXu rRo gh ’kjhj ds vanj ds fodkjksa dks tykrh gSA vxj vfXu dk fu;a=.k ge ’kjhj ds vanj ugha dj ikrs gSa rks ;g gekjs fy, gkuhizn gks tkrh gSA izk.k] vfXu ,oa vkst ;s rhu eq[; LraHk ’kjhj ds gSa] budk o.kZu vk;qosZn dh iqLrdksa esa gSaA izk.k ;kfu gekjh ok.kh] vfXu ;kfu fiRr ,oa vkst ¼dQ&nks”k½A vfXu dh vkjk/kuk dk vFkZ gS vfXu ,oa fiÙk nks”kksa dk ’kjhj esa mfpr lEekuA

dksbZ Hkh izfrKk vkx ds lkeus dh tkrh gSA rHkh nsorkvksa dks xzkg~; gksrh gSA ;g lksp v[k.Muh; gSA fgUnw èkeZ’kkL= ds vuqlkj izfrKk cM+ksa ds lkeus] bZ’oj ds lkeus] eafnj izkax.k esa] vfXu ds l{ke vkSj Hkxor~xhrk dks gkFk esa ysdj fd;k tkrk gSA

vfXu dk egRo

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e/kqidZ lekjksg% nwYgs ds Lokxr ds ckn eaMi esa nqYgu ds ekrk&firk }kjk migkj vkfn fn;k tkrk gS] rFkk e/kq ¼’kgn½ p[kus dh jLe dk vknku&iznku ijLij oj&dU;k ds chp gskrk gSA

dU;k nku% nqYgu ds firk }kjk viuh dU;k dks nwYgs ds cxy esa ea=kspkj ds chp ykdj fcBk;k tkrk gS vkSj dU;k dks nku Lo:i Jh fo".kq ds :i esa oj dks eku dj ;g lekjksg fd;k tkrk gSA ¼dU;knku ;kfu dU;k dk nku fd;k tkrk gS½A

ikf.k xzg.k% nqYgu vkSj nwYgk vkeus&lkeus cSBrs gSaA oj dU;k dk oka;k gkFk vius gkFk esa ys ysrk gS vkSj oSokfgd ijaijk ds vuqlkj oS/k oSlh dqN ckrsa] tks iRuh cukus ls igys dU;k&oj ds chp esa gksrh gS] ;g ijLij nksuksa dh jtkeanh gSA ;g lekjksg oSfnd ea=ksa ds mPpkj.k ds chp lekjksgiwoZd laiUu gksrk gSA i<+s x, bu ea=ksa dk vFkZ gS] eSa rqEgkjs gkFk dks vius gkFk esa ysrk gwa] ftlls nksuksa dk Hkfo"; ,oa izlUurk ijLij dk;e jgs] thou ds mu {k.kksa esa tc ge cw<+s gks tk,axsA bu ckrksa ds chp mifLFkr yksx dU;k o oj dks migkj nsrs gSa vkSj bZ’oj ls izkFkZuk djrs gSa fd budk oSokfgd thou lQy gks---A blds ckn nwYgk nqYgu dk gkFk NksM+ nsrk gS] ftlls fookg dh vU; fof/k;ka laiUu gks ldsA

xkS nku% xkS ;kfu xk; vkSj nku eryc fn;k tkukA vkt ds lanHkZ esa xkS nku dks migkj Lo:i nh xbZ lkexzh ds :i esa tkuk tkrk gSA bl nkSju eaMi ij fookg ds chp esa dU;k i{k ds yksxksa ds }kjk migkj Lo:i oL=] vkHkw"k.k vkfn fn, tkrs gSa vkSj iafMr ds }kjk xkSnku dk ea= cksyk tkrk gSA bl volj ij Hkh dU;k dk gkFk oj ds gkFk esa gksrk gSA

gfjnzkysiu% iqtkjh ¼czkã.k@iafMr½ gYnh ysdj nwYgk vkSj nqYgu nksuksa ds gkFkksa esa yxkrk gSA

izfrKk djuk% bls iznf{k.kk Hkh dgk tkrk gSA nwYgk gou dqaM dh iznf{k.kk vkxs jgdj nqYgu ds lkFk izFke rhu ckj ea=ksa ds chp djrk gSA ;s ea= gSa& ^^eSa fo".kq gwa] rqe y{eh gksA eSa laxhr dk vkjksg gwa] rqe e/kqj ’kCn gksAeSa LoxZ dk izfrfuf/kRo djrk gwa] tcfd rqe /kjrh dh rjg vpy gksA vc ge nksuksa eu ls ,d gks jgs gSaA vc ge ,d lkFk thou Hkj lkFk jgsaxs vkSj fo’o ds vPNs n`’;ksa dks bu vka[kksa ls ns[ksaxs rFkk lkFk jgdj l`f"V ds dyjo dks lqusaxsA ;g fof/k lknxh Hkjh gksrh gSA os ¼oj&o/kq½ xaHkhj eqnzk esa ;g izfrKk ysrs gSa fd ijLij ,d nwljs ds izfr fo’okl trk,axs vkSj n`<+rk iwoZd izse ,oa thou Hkj vkilh laca/kksa ds izfr fu"Bk j[ksaxsA igys Qsjs esa bZ’oj ls oj&o/kq vius dks iq"V djus gsrq ’kq) Hkkstu dh ekax djrs gSaA os bZ’oj ls izkFkZuk djrs gSa fd ¼oj&oèkq½ nksuksa ,d lkFk vPNs Hkkstu ik,aA nwljs Qsjs esa ¼oj&o/kq½ dh Hkxoku ls izkFkZuk gksrh gS fd LokLF; ,oa le`f)++ dhA os Hkxoku ls ’kkjhfjd vk/;kfRed ,oa ekufld LokLF; dh dkeuk djrs gSaA

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rhljs Qsjs esa oj&o/kq bZ’oj ls /ku ekaxrs gSaA os bZ’oj ls nksuksa ds ’kfDr’kkyh gksus dh dkeuk djrs gSa] ftlls os ijLij [kq’kh dks ckaV ldsa vkSj thou ds nnZ esa Hkh mu nksuksa dh fgLlsnkjh gksA os ;g Hkh izkFkZuk djrs gSa fd os le`f) ds fy, nksuksa lkFk&lkFk c<+saaaA

pkSFks Qsjs esa ¼oj&o/kq½ nksuksa izkFkZuk djrs gSa fd gs bZ’oj gekjs chp ijLij vkSj gekjs ifjokj esa izse ,oa lEeku cuk jgsA

ikaposa Qsjs esa oj vkSj c/kq nksuksa lkFk&lkFk izkFkZuk djrs gSa fd mUkdh larku lqanj] vkKkdkjh ,oa usr`Ro djus okyh gksaA

NBs Qsjs ds nkSju ifo= vfXu dh ifjØek djrs gq, ¼oj&o/kq½ ’kkafriw.kZ yEch vk;q ds ckjs esa ,d nwljs ls ea=.kk djrs gSaA vafre o lkrosa Qsjs ds nkSjku oj o/kq dh izkFkZuk gksrh gS fd mudk lkFkh] ges’kk lkFk jgs ijLij fo’okl dk;e jgs ,oa vkil esa lkeatL; cuk jgsA ,oa vkil esa lkeatL; cuk jgsA os bZ’oj ls ekaxrs gSa fd os ijLij fe=or~ jgsa vkSj muds chp dh fe=rk n`<+ gksA ;g fe=or O;ogkj thou Hkj cuk jgsA ifr dgrk gS fd mldh uosyh iRuh ds lkFk os vc fe= gks x, gSa] D;skafd lkroka Qsjk iwjk gks x;kA vc muds thou esa ;g ¼l[kk&ca/ku½ fe=rk dh xkaB ugha VwVsxhA

f’kyk vkjksgu% nqYgu dh eka ;k cgu nqYgu dh lgk;rk djrh gS] ml iRFkj ds VwdM+s ij pyus esa ¼lkadsfrd :i ls½ ftl ij vc fookg ds ckn pyus ds fy, mls rS;kj jguk gSA blds lkFk gh nwYgk nqYgu ls iwNrk gS fd mldk nk;ka iSj tks f’kyk ij gS og ladsr gS fd tc nqYgu ij fdlh izdkj dh foifÙk vk,xh rks oj ml foifÙk dks vius Åij ysdj mldh j{kk djsxkA

yktk gkse@gFkks xzaFkh% v{kr ¼tks pkoy ds nkus VwVs ugha gksa½ tks vfXu Qsjs ds le; vfHk"ksd ds fy, fNM+ds tkrs gSa] mUgsa nqYgu dks fn, tkrs gSaA og viuh gFksyh ij mls /kkj.k djrh gSA mlh le; yM+dh dk HkkbZ vkxs [kM+k gksrk gSA uo naifÙk ijLij ,d nwljs dk psgjk ns[krs gSaA nqYgu ds ?kj ij mlds gkFk esa nwYgk ,oa mldk HkkbZ v{kr nksuksa ds gkFk esa nsrk gSA nksuksa ml pkoy ds ^Qwys* ;k v{kr dh vkgqfr vfXu esa nsrs gSaA bl nkSjku vfXu dk ea=ksa ds }kjk vfHk"ksd gksrk gSA

yktk ¼Qwys½ v{kr dk vFkZ ,d dFkk ls le>k tk ldrk gS& x.kifr nso vius Lokxr ls ,d ckj vizlUu gks x, ftls dqcsj us muds fy, vk;ksftr fd;k FkkA os izlUu rc gq, tc mUgsa dsoy /kku ds ykok ¼Qwys½ [kkus dks fn;k x;kA Qwys izfrfuf/kRo gS] izpwjrk] larqf"V ,oa viuh bPNk dh ijhiw.kZrk dkA

ifjØek ;k iznf{k.kk vFkok eaxyQsjk %oj&o/kq vfXu ds pkj Qsjs ysrs gSaA ¼dqy feykdj lkr Qsjs gq,½ fookg lekjksg ds bl fgLls eas ekus tkus okys fjoktksa dks fgUnw eSjht ,DV ds rgr tkuk tkrk gSA ge oxSj dsanzfcanq ds o`r [khap ldrs gSaA bZ’oj dsanz esa gSA blds miknku vkSj thou dh psruk blds bnZ&fxnZ gS vkerkSj ij ge mu dk;Z dks djrs gSa] ftuesa gekjh dksbZ :fp ugha gksrh gS vkSj thou dh y{e fcUnq mls gh eku ysrs gSaA ;gh rks igpku gS iznf{k.k dh tks laLd`r dk ’kCn gS bldk vFkZ gS nsoh nsorkvksa dks dsanz esa ekudj ftl o`r ds pkjksa vksj oj&o/kq pDdj yxkrs gSa] ml o`r ls o`r ifjf/k ds lHkh foUnqvksa ls cjkcj nwjh gksrh gSA bldk eryc gS fd tgka dgha Hkh ge ,d nwljs ds

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lkFk Hkxoku ds utnhd gksrs gSa] og nwjh ges’kk lcksa ds fy, cjkcj gksrh gSA bZ’oj dh ’kfDr;ka lHkh tuksa esa cjkcj :i ls caVrh gS u fd T;knk ;k deA

Hkkjrh; bu vk/;kfRed okD;ksa ls izlUu gksrs gSa ekr`nsoks Hko% fir` nsoks Hko% vkpk;Z nsoks Hko% vkfnA ^^vki vius ekrk&firk vkpk;Z dks viuk bZ’oj ekusaA** iznf{k.kk ds le; ;g gekjs eu esa jgs fd ge vius ekrk&firk vkpk;Z dh iznf{k.kk dj jgs gSaA

bl ijaijkxr iwtk ds iw.kZ gksus ds ckn ge vius fjoktksa ds vuqlkj bu yksxksa dh iznf{k.k djrs gSaA bl rjg esa ge ml loksZPp ’kfDr dks ekurs gSa vkSj vius vki dks mlls tqM+k ikrs gSaA blh lksp ds rgr ge fdlh Hkh LFkku ij vius bZ’oj dh vkjk/kuk dj ysrs gSaA

lIrinh% fookg ca/ku lkadsfrd :i ls ,d Nksj yM+ds ¼oj½ ds nqiV~Vs vkSj nwljk Nksj yM+dh ¼o/kw½ ds iYyw ls cka/kk tkrk gSA oj&o/kq dk lkr ix mRrj&iwoZ dh vksj pyuk ikyu&ikss"k.k] etcwrh] le`f)] izlUurk] larku mRiu djus dh {kerk] yEch mez ,oa ijLij lkSgknZ rFkk ,d&nwljs ds chp dh vkilh le>] dks fn[kkrk gSA izR;sd ix ds lkFk ,d&nwljss dks dqN opu nsrs gS fd blesa ijLij ^*feydj^* fgLlsnkjh djsaxsA ;s lkr opu gSa&

1- igyk ix ,d nwljs dk ikyu&iks”k.k ¼ns[kHkky½

2- nwljk ix etcwrh ds lkFk ,d nwljs ds lkFk jguk

3- rhljk ix vius LokLF; dh ns[kHkky djuk ¼dks cpkuk½

4- pkSFkk ix viuh izlUurk vkSj [ksn dh vkilh Hkkxhnkjh

5- ikapok ix vius cPpksa dh ns[k&js[kA

6- NBk ix thou Hkj lkFk jguk

7- lkroka ix thou Hkj fe= cus jguk] fookg ds le; tks ok;ns fd x, mUgsa bZekunkjh ls iwjh J)k ds lkFk ikyu djukA

vfHk"ksd% bZ’oj dks vkg~oku fd;k gqvk ifo= ty dk fNM+dko lw;Z vkSj /kzqorkjk dh lk{kh esaA

ty flapu% iqjksfgr bl ty dks oj&c/kw ds lj ij fNM+drs gq, vk’khZokn nsrs gSa fd og bZ’ojh; ’kfDr muds thou dks ’khryrk iznku djsA

lw;Z voyksdu% nwYgk lw;Z dh mifLFkfr esa nqYgu dks fugkjrk ¼ns[krk½ gS vkSj dgrk gS] ^^;gka rqe lius bu lqanj vka[kksa ls ns[kks] ;g

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LoxZ dk utkjk gSA izR;sd n`’; iwjh rjg ifo= gSA ge thou Hkj bl lqugys lw;Z dh jf’e;ksa dks viuh vka[kksa esa clk dj j[ksaxsA

ân; Li’kZ% os nksuksa ,d nwljs ds ân; dk Li’kZ djrs gSa vkSj dgrs gSa] ^^eSa izfrKk djrk gwa fd rqEgkjs ân; dks vius eu ds lkFk tksM+dj j[kwaxkA fd rqe esjh ,d vkokt ij isze dks U;ksNkoj djus nkSM+h pyh vkvksxhA D;ksafd bZ’oj us eq>s rqEgkjs fy, vksj rqEgsa esjs fy, cuk;k gS] tks fookg ca/ku ls tqM+dj lkFk thou O;rhr djsaxsA

flanwjnku@eaxylw= % nwYgk ,d xys dk gkj nqYgu ds xys esa igukrk gS] ftlls mldk oSokfgd thou izlUurk ;qDr vkSj <sjlkjh [kqf’k;ksa okyk gksA oj flanwj dks o/kw dh ekax ¼flj½ esa Hkjrk gS vkSj mifLFkr tuleqnk; ls ’kHkdkeuk pkgrk gSAvk’khZokn% cqtqxksZ dh ’kqHkdkeuk,a ysus ds ckn fookg lejksg dk lekiu le>k tkrk gSA mls fonkbZ dgrs gSaA vc nqYgu dh fonkbZ laiurk ds lkFk gksrh gSA ;g fookg lekjksg dk ,d egRoiw.kZ vax gSA fookg dh lekfIr ds ckn nqYgu ds ekrk&firk viuh csVh dh fonkbZ xeZ tksuh ds lkFk ij vJqqiw.kZ djrs gSaA lc mlds ¼yM+dh½ ds oSokfgd thou dks cgqr gh lqanj vkSj e/kqjrk ejk gksus dh dkeuk djrs gSaA rc ls vc td csfV;ksa dks ;g lh[k nh tkrh gSA

ges’kk R;kx dks ;kn j[ksaA

ges’kk ,d&nwljs ls lgkuqHkwfriwoZd] I;kj ls ,oa n;k ds lkFk is’k vk,aA vius eu dks ges’kk ifo= ,oa foLr`r j[ksaA blesa etcwr o lgh lksp dks cy feysxkA

vius ekrk&firk] HkkbZ&cguksa ,d ifjokj ds vU; lnL;ksa ds lkFk izse izn’kZu vPNh rjg djsaA

cPpksa dks dk;Z djus dk ,slk <ax fl[kk,a fd os ekufld o lkekftd :i es etcwr cusaA

ges’kk vius vfrfFk dk Lokxr djsa o I;kj ls fonkbZ nsaA

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fcnkbZ fookg dk lcls vafre mRlo gS] tks ifjokj dh vksj ls nqYgu dks nh tkrh gSA blds lkFk gh u, oSokfgd thou dk izkjaHk nqYgu vius u, ifjokj ds lkFk djrh gSA nqYgu ds ekrk&firk vkSj ifjokj ds vU; lnL; nqYgu dks fonk djrs gSa vkSj muds lkSHkkX; dh eaxy dkeuk djrs gq, u, thou esa izos’k dh vuqefr nsrs gSaA ikjaifjd :i ls Mksyh] ;k dkj dk iz;ksx bl volj ij gksrk gSA bl le; nqYgu dqN vUu ds nkus] tkS] Tokj] xsgwa] èkku] [khy vius flj ds Åij ls ihNs Qsadrh gSA bldk ladsr gS fd og vius ifjokj ¼iqjkus½ dks NksM+ jgh gS vkSj bZ’oj ls izkFkZuk Hkh dj jgh gS fd ftl vius ifjokj dks og NksM+ jgh gS] og [kq’k o pgdrk jgsA

/kku dh [ksrh esa igys tgka /kku dk ikS/kk tM+ idM+rk gS] ogka mRdV bPNk ls m[kkM+ dj nwljs [ksr esa mls tek;k tkrk gSA dU;k Hkh mlh rjg vius firk ds ?kj ls m[kM+ dj vius ifr ds ?kj esa ^jksih* tkrh gSA [khy dk vFkZ gS] mRdV bPNk dk iwjk gksukA

fcnkbZ

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bl lekjksg esa] nqYgu viuh lkl ¼enj&bu&yk½ ds }kjk vkjrh vkSj fryd ds ckn viukbZ tkrh gSA ,d nqYgu vius ?kj esa izos’k djrs gq, pkoy ls Hkjs gq, ,d ik= dks Bksdj ekjrh gSA og x`g izos’k djrs oDr veweu viuk igyk Mx nka, iSj mBkdj Hkjrh gSA ;g le`f) dk ifjpk; gSA ’kkL=ksa ds vuqlkj ,slk djds ¼uosyh nqYgu½ nsoh y{eh dk lEeku djrh gSA

x`g&izos’k

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}kj&jksdk ¼}kj NsdkbZ½ ,d egRoiw.kZ lekjksg gS] tc ubZ nqYgu vius ifr ds /kj igqaprh gSA tc og viuh llqjky igqaprh gS] og nqYgs dh cgu ds }kjk x`g izos’k ls igys jksd yh tkrh gSA og rc ?kj esa izos’k dj ldrh gS] tc viuh uun ¼flLVj&bu&yk½ dks dqN migkj ;k iSls nsxhA ;g lekjksg uun ds egRo dks crkrk gSA blds ckn og ¼nqYgu½ Fkkik yxkrh gS vkSj ogka mifLFkr fL=;ka mldh le`f) dk v’kh"k nsrh gSaA

}kj jksdk

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eqag fn[kkbZ ,d egRoiw.kZ lejksg gS] ftlesa nqYgu ds lkFk ifjokj dh vkSjrksa vkSj lgsfy;ksa ls nqYgu dh igpku djkbZ tkrh gSA vk’khZokn ds :i esa nqYgu migkj ikrh gSA ;g udn vkHkw"k.k vkfn ds :i esa gksrh gSA ijaijkxr :i ls lklw eka vius [kkunkuh vkHkw"k.k dks viuh nqYgu dks lkSairh gSA ;g ijaijk ds vuq:i nqYgu viuh lkl ls ;g ikrh jgh gSA bls ;g le>uk pkfg, fd uo C;kgrk nqYgu blls lh[ksxh vkSj bl ijaijk dks viuh lkl ls viuh nqYgu rd igqapk,xhA

eq[k voyksdu ¼eqag fn[kkbZ½

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dksbZ Hkh fookg u, thou] u, yksx vkSj u, okrkoj.k ls :&c&: djkus dk ,d lk/ku ek= gSA fookg esa [ksys tkus okys [ksy ,slh jkg cukrs gSa] ftl ij pydj oj&dU;k vkSj ifjokj ds vU; lnL; ,d nwljs ds djhc vYi vof/k esa vk tkrs gSaA dbZ fookg [ksy fookg ds rqjar [ksy tkrs gSaA bu [ksyksa dk vkSfpR; gS fd blls uo naifr vkSj mlds ifjokj ds chp teh vutkukiu vU; fe= vkSj fj’rsnkjksa ls Hkh nwj gks tk;s A

1- twrk Nqikuk% tc nwYgk&nqYgu ifo= fookg ds fy, eaMi esa tkrs gSa] rks ogka Qsjs dh in~/kfr ’kq: gksrh gSA blls igys os vius twrs ckgj mrkj nsrs gSaA ;g ,d ikfjokfjd izpyu ds vuqlkj gksrk gSA nqYgu ds ifjokj vkSj fe= veweu nqYgu dh NksVh cgu rks nwYgs ds ikao ls twrs [khap dj Nqik nsrh gSA Qsjs ds ckn twrs nsus ds cnys esa dqN dher nwYgs dh vksj ls nqYgu dh cgu dks nsuh gksrh gSA ;g fookg fof/k njvly nwYgs vkSj nqYgu ds ifjokj dh ubZ ih<+h ds yksxksa ds chp lkSgknZ iw.kZ okrkoj.k cukus ds [;ky ls cuk gSA

2- vaxwBh <wa<+uk% ;g [ksy nwYgs ds /kj ij [ksyk tkrk gSA ;gka uonaifr ,d nwljs dh vksj ewag djds cSBrs gSa vkSj muds lkeus ,d nw/k ls Hkjk ;k ikuh ls Hkjk orZu gksrk gSA vaxwBh mlesa Mkyh tkrh gSA uo naifr dks mlesa Mkyh xbZ vaxwBh <wa<+uh iM+rh gSA tks igys vaxwBh <wa<+ ysrk gS] mls fotsrk le>k tkrk gSA ;g lekjksg ,d ikuh es Hkjs orZu ls Hkh izkjaHk fd;k tkrk gSA ftlesa cgqr tksj ls upk;k tkrk gS] ¼bls oyZiwy izHkko Hkh dgk tkrk gS½ ,d ckj pDdj [kkrs gq, ikuh ,d ,slk fcUnw cukrk gS] ftlds dsanz esa dBksj vaxwBh vk tkrh gSA bl [ksy dks ^,dh csdh* dgk tkrk gSA

3- dqN fjokt ds vuqlkj ,d orZu ikuh ls Hkj fn;k tkrk gS] jaxhu flanwj vkSj nw/k ds esy ls cuk;k tkrk gSA blds ckn ,d vaxwBh vkSj dqN flDds blesa Mky fn, tkrs gSa( nqYgu vkSj nwYgs dks vaxwBh <wa<+us dks dgk tkrk gSA lkr ckj ,slk djus esa pkj ckj tks thrrk gS] og gh fotsrk dgykrk gSA

4- xkaB cka/kuk vkSj xkaB [kksyuk% xkaB ca/ku dk vFkZ gS nwYgk vkSj nqYgu dh dykbZ ij ^dykok* dPpk lwr cka/kuk] ftldh xkaB igys fookg ds le; cka/kh tkrh gSA bu lkr xkaBksa dks nwYgk o nqYgu ,d gkFk ls viuh&viuh xkaB [kksyrs gSaA

bl izdkj ds fookg ØhM+k ¼fookg [ksy½ nqYgu dks u, ikfjokfjd lnL;ksa ls ifjp; ¼feyki½ djkus dk ,d miØe gSA vke rkSj ij vf/kdrj fookg [ksy r;’kqnk fookg ds fgLlk gksrs gSaA r;’kqnk fookg esa nwYgk nqYgu dks fookg ls igys ugha ns[k ldrk gSA fookg njvly u, thou dk izkjaHk gSA bl izdkj u, yksxksa ds chp ikfjokfjd lacaèk cukus esa ,oa ifjokj ds lkFk rkjrE;rk LFkkfir djus] rFkk ,d nwljs dks le>us esa ennxkj gksrs gSaA

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eqaMdksifu”kn esa vksbe ¼Å¡½ dh ppkZ gSA vU; mifu"kn~ Hkh bl Å¡ ’kCn ds ckjs esa cgqr dqN crkrs gSaA dBksifu"kn~ esa ^Å¡* ,d cgqr xw<+ ’kCn gSA vkse~ ¼Å¡½ ds ckjs esa osnksa esa Hkh o.kZu gSA

laLd`r esa ^v* o.kZekyk dk igyk v{kj gS ^e* vafre] vr% ^v* vkSj ^e* feydj vkfn ls var rd lek;s gq, gSaA

vksbe ¼Å¡½ dh ’kfDr% ^Å¡ ,d lkadsfrd fuekZ.k dh O;k[;k gS] tks dbZ /keksZa ¼iaFkksa½ esa ^bZ’oj* ekuk tkrk gSA ;g ,d foLrkj dk ,dkRe vkSj Hkkjrh; lukru ijaijkxr oSfnd lkfgR; dk lkj gSA ;g og uko dh rjg gS] tks vkarfjd ;k=k esa oSrj.kh gS vkSj izlUurk ds lkFk thou uS;k ikj djkrh gSA

^Å¡* esa orZuh ds lHkh ’kCn lekfgr gSA ^,* dk mPpkj.k xys ds van:uh fgLls ls fudkyrh gSA ^b* dk mPpkj.k eq[k ds e/; Hkkx ls gksuk gS ^e* dk mPpkj.k gksB] fyofyoh ,oa nkarksa ds Li’kZ ls eq[k ds vxz Hkkx ls gksrk gSA ^Å¡* izdkjkarj ls iwjh vkokt dk izfrfuf/kRo djrk gSA

^Å¡* ,d lekgkj gS] Loj vkSj O;atu v{kjksa dkA

Loj dk vkjksg&vojksg ,d rjg dh nnZ fuokjd nok gS] tSls baVªksD;wyhu&2 ;g O;atu v{kjksa dk mPpkj.k gekjs ’kjhj dh voLFkk esa cnyko ykdj papyrk dks nwj dj nsrk gSA O;atu v{kj dk mPpkj.k gekjs ’kjhj dh /kM+du dks fu;af=r djds izkd`frd :i ls ’kjhj vkSj eu dks jkgr nsrk gSA tc efLr"d esa ruko gksrk gS] rks izkd`frd :i ls vkbZ O;Fkk ^Loj* ds jkLrs ckgj fudy tkrh gSA

ge loksZPp pØ ls fdlh dks vk’khZokn nsrs gSa] FkIiM+ ekjus ls gekjs yykV ij vkSj cy iM+ tkrs gSa] ;kfu pØ dks irk py tkrk gS fd dqN xyr gqvk gSA xys esa xkyh ;k cqjs opu fudyrs gSa ,oa ân; pØ esa izse mitrk gSA ^lsfyd pØ* gekjs lansg dks crkrk gS] ^xksaMy pØ* gekjh fudVrk c<+krk gS vkSj ^lSØy pØ* gekjh mu Hkkoukvksa ij fu;a=.k j[krk gS] ftlls ge Mjrs gSaA

¼Å¡½ vksbe dk egRo

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fookg lekjksg ds nkSjku ?kj ds eq[; }kj ij LokfLrd cuk;k tkrk gSA ,slk le>k tkrk gS fd blls u, naifr ds chp [kq’kgkyh vkrh gSA laLd`r Hkk"kk esa LokfLrd dk vFkZ gS eaxy gksuk] lkSHkkX; tkxuk( bldh ekU;rk vkè;kfRed fpg~.k ds :i esa gSA fgUnqvksa ds ;gka vkSj vkerkSj ij eafnjksa esa bls fpf=r fd;k tkrk gSA lakdsfrd :i ls ;g lalkj dh pkj fn’kkvksa dks funsZf’kr djrk gSA ;g oSlh ’kq) daaiu dk fuekZ.k djrk gS ftlls fo’o esa ’kkafr vkSj HkkbZ pkjs dk fuekZ.k gksA

LokfLrd dh js[kk,a tks vanj dh vksj eqM+rh gS gesa crkrh gSa fd izR;sd lalkj ds lHkh vyx&vyx fn’kkvksa ls eks{k ds izfr tkx:drk dk lans’k nsrh gSA izR;sd O;fDr viuh igpku cuk, j[kus ds fy, la?k"kZ’khy jgrk gSA blhfy, og vius ckjs esa T;knk ls T;knk lksprk gSA LokfLrd dh js[kk,a Hkh var%eq[kh gksdj viuh igpku dk;e j[kus dh izsj.kk nsrh gSaA

LokfLrd dk vkSfpR; ¼lkfFk;k½

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Å¡ «;aode~ ;tkegs lqxa/khe~ iqf"Vo/kZue~A;qjZok :dfeok ca/kue~ e`R;ksZ eks{k eke`re~AA^^ge f’ko dh vkjk/kuk djrs gSa&os f=us= ds Lokeh gSaA os lHkh fn’kkvksa dks lqxa/kh vkSj iqf"V o/kZu nsrs gSaA os gekjh j{kk&dop gSa] tks gesa cM+h foifÙk vkSj jksx ls cpkrk gSA os gesa e`R;q ls vejRo ¼eks{k½ dh vksj ys tkus okyh ’kfDr;ka nsrs gsaA ;g e`R;q ls ve`r dh vksj ys tkrh gSA ftl izdkj [khjk [kqn o [kqn idus ds ckn vius ikSèks ¼yÙkM+½ ls vyx gks tkrk gS] mlh rjg e`R;q ls gesa eks{k fey tkrk gSA ;g ea= fo’ks"k :i ls gesa rhljh vka[k [kqyus ds egRo dks crkrk gS] fdlh Hkh leL;k ds lek/kku dk ;g vyx lksp gSA rhljh vka[k [kqyus dk vFkZ gS] fofHkUu rjg lek/ku dh tkudkjh gksukA tc vkids ikl dbZ lek/kku gksaxs] rks muesa ls vki fdlh mfpr dk pquko dj ldsaxsA

nwljh izkFkZuk% Å¡ HkwHkqZoLo% rRlforqjZojs.;e~ HkxksZ nsoL; /khegh] f/k;ks;ksu% izPpksn~;krAA^^ge lalkj ds fu;ark ds fo’kky vk;ke dh ,d dM+h gSaA ftlus lalkj dh jpuk dhA og vfHk"ksd dk vf/kdkjh gS] ftlus gesa gekjs vanj ds izdk’k dh tkudkjh nh gSA og gekjs gj iki vkSj foeq[krk ls gesa eqfDr nsrk gSA os gekjh cqf) dks lgh fn’kk nsaA

;g ea= gesa gekjh fu.kZ; {kerk ,oa viuh cqf) ls lgh fn’kk pquus dh {kerk vkSj ml ij vey dh tkudkjh nsrk gSA buls pkj iz’u fudyrs gSa&

1- D;k ;g lR; gS\

2- D;k ;g t:jh gS\

3- D;k izlUurk gsrq vki dksbZ miØe djrs gSa\

4- D;k vki nwljksa dh izlUurk gsrq miØe djrs gSa\

blls ;g fopkj/kkjk curh gS fd dksbZ dke ds ckjs esa fnekx viuh ilan fny ls djrk gS] fny og dke djus dh vkKk gkFk dks nsrk gSA

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This is the Concept of ‘3h’ “Head-heart and hand” ConceptÅ¡ iw.kZen%

AAÅ¡ iw.kZen% iw.kZ fene~iw.kkZr~ iw.kZeqn~P;rsiw.kZL;] iw.kZekn;

iw.kZeso vof’k";rsAAiw.kZ ges’kk iw.kZ gSA vxj vki iw.kZ esa ls iw.kZ fudky ysa rks Hkh iw.kZ gh cpsxkA D;ksafd og vuar gS] ;g Hkh vuar gS] vuar esa ls vuar ckgj vk x;k] ;kfu vuar esa ls vuar fudyus ds ckn Hkh vuar gh cpsxk] D;ksafd vuar vuar gSA

osnkar esa ^^og** ‘kCn vfr psrurk dk ifjpk;d gSA nsork vFkok czã ,oa ^;g*utj vkus okyk fo’o gSA ;g vuar dh ’kfDr gekjs eu dk i;kZ; gSA ;g lksp vkSj vuqHko ds /kjkry ij gesa ;ksX; cukrk gSA ;g gh ,d voLFkk esa vkdj /;ku dh voLFkk cu tkrh gSA vki ,d vuqHko ls xqtj ldrs gSaA ;g vuqHko fu"rC/krk ds chp dh og voLFkk gS] tgka ^cht ea=* ;ksx dh ,d voLFkk gks tkrh gSA tks O;fDr /;ku esa yhu gksus dh izfØ;k tku ysrs gSa os fuLrC/krk esa tkdj gj dk;Z dks lQyrk ds lkFk iwjk djus esa l{ke gks tkrs gSaA fuLrC/krk ,d rjg dh ubZ [kkst gSA

vkRek vkSj ’kfDr dHkh ugha HkjrhA ;g vtUek gS] [kqn&c&[kqn vorfjr gSA viuk vk/kkj [kqn cukus okyk gS ,oa viuh igpku [kqn djus okyk gSA vkx bls tyk ugha ldrh] gok bls lq[kk ugha ldrhA gfFk;kj bls dkV ugha ldrkA ikuh bls xhyk ugha dj ldrkA ;g mins’k dq#{ks= ds eSnku esa Hkxoku Jh d`".k us vtqZu dks fn;k FkkA ;g Hkxorxhrk esa of.kZr gSA tks ekal ls cuk gS og ekaly gksxk] tks vkRek ls cuk gS og vkRek gS ¼tkWu½A

izR;sd iwtk gou ds izkjaHk ;k var esa e=ksapkj vkRek dh vikj ’kfDr

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AAnhiT;ksfrZ ijczãnhiT;ksfrZ tuknZu%nhiks gjfr ikikuh

la/;k nhi ueLrqrsAA

^^eSa m"kkdky@lk;adky ds nhi ds vkxs lk"Vkax naMor~ djrk gwaA ;g gekjs Kku dks bZ’oj dh vksj ys tkrk gSA ;g vKkurk ds va/kdkj dks feVkrk gSA ;g thou esa lHkh rjg dh miyfC/k;ksa dks nsrk gSA

v/;ke esa ikjaifjd rsy ls tys nhi dk viuk egRo gSA rsy vkSj ?kh igpku gS] gekjh O;luksa dk ¼fyIlk] udkjkRed lksp½ vkSj vge~ dh nqcZyrk dkA tc ge v/;kRe Kku ds djhc tkrs gSa] rks gekjs O;lu /khjs&/khjs Lor% lekIr gksrs pys tkrs gSaA

nhi dh ykS ges’kk Åij dh vksj tyrh gSA bldk vFkZ gS fd ek= Kku gh ugha pkfg,] oju~ muds }kjk u, fopkjksa dks tksM+dj vkxs c<+saA

oSfnd okaXe; izfrfnu iwtu ds nkSjku nhi tykus dh ckr djrk gSA dqN yksx bls m"kk dky esa ,d ckj tykrs gSa] rks dqN yksx nks ckj m"kkdky vkSj lk;adky esa nhi tykrs gSaA vkSj dqN yksx ,d nhid ges’kk tyk, m[krs gSaA ;g v[k.M nhi dgykrk gSA dksbZ Hkh ekaxfyd vk;kstu oxSj nhi tyk, ugha gksrkA nhi dk izTtoyu ,d vPNh ifjikVh gSA

iwtk dk nhi D;ksa tyk;k tkrk gS\

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ukfj;y ,d lcls T;knk mi;ksx esa yk;k tkus okyk Qy gS] tks eafnj] fookg] R;ksgkj vkfn esa iz;ksx esa yk;k tkrk gSA ;gka rd fd tc dksbZ ubZ xkM+h [kjhnrk gS rc Hkh ukfj;y rksM+us dh ifjikVh gSA x`g&izos’k vkSj x`gfuekZ.k lekjksg esa Hkh ukfj;y dk mi;ksx gSA bls gj rjg ds gou esa ;k vfXuiwtu esa tyk;k tkrk gSA ¼vfXu laLdkj esa Hkh½ ukfj;y vkerkSj ij nsoky;;ksa esa iwtu ds nkSjku vkSj Hkxoku ds n’kZu ds le; izlkn ds :i esa ckaVk tkrk gSA tc iw.kZ dqaHk dk vk;kstu gksrk gS] rc ukfj;y dh ekax c<+ tkrh gS] ufn;ksa ds iwtu gsrqA ¼iw.kZ&iwjk] dqaHk&?kM+k½ ‘kqHk dk;ksZa esa ?kM+s ¼dy’k½ ds Åij ukfj;y j[kus dh izFkk gSA ;g bZ’oj dh vkjk/kuk dk ,d miknku Hkh gSA feV~Vh dk ?kM+k ¼ty ls Hkjk gqvk½ vkSj mlesa vkeziYyo Mkydj ml ij ukfj;y j[k djiwtk ls igys LFkkfir fd;k tkrk gSA ?kM+k ,d ladsr gS i`Foh ekrk dk] ikuh ¼ty½ thounkrk dk] ifÙk;ka ¼iYyo½ thou ok;q dk] ,oa ukfj;y vk/;kfRed fopkj/kkjk dkA lHkh rjg ls laLdkjksa dk izkjaHk dy’k ds lkFk ukfj;y ds }kjk gksrk gS] ;g Hkxoku x.ks’k dh Hkh vjk/kuk gSA ukfj;y Hkxoku ds flj ds :i esa Hkh iwtk tkrk gSA bldh rhu vka[ksa Hkxoku f’ko dh rhu vka[ksa gSaA ¼f=;acd & :nz½ lk/kq fo’okfe= us lcls igyk ukfj;y o`{k dks vius ri ds izHkko ls mxk;k FkkA ukfj;y ds dM+s vkoj.k gesa izsfjr djrs gSa fd ge /khjt ,oa dM+s esgur ls lQyrk ik,aA dPps ukfj;y ¼NksVs ukfj;y½ ds ty ls ’kqHk laLdkjksa esa vfHk"ksd fd;k tkrk gSA ;g fo’okl gS fd vius vè;kRe Kku dh o`f) gsrq ,oa rjDdh ds fy, ukfj;y dks vfiZr fd;k tkuk pkfg,A ukfj;y ty thok.kq jfgr gSA ;g nok ds :i esa fpfdRlk foKku esa Hkh iz;qDr gksrk gSA

tc nsork vkSj vlqj {khj lkxj dk eaFku dj jgs Fks rks /kuoarjh nso ve`r dy’k ysdj vorfjr gq,A ;g gekjs thou dks nh?kkZ;q j[krk gSA blfy, dy’k vejRo dk izrhd gSA

ukfj;y vkSj dy’k dk mi;ksx gj iwtk esa D;ksa gksrk gS\

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HkLe ,d ifo= jk[k gS] tks gkse ds cn curk gSA iwtk ds nkSjku vfXu dk izTtoyu vkSj mlesa gou ds :i esa ydM+h ¼lfe/kk½ esa ?kh ,oa vU; rjg dh tM+h&cwfV;ka feykdj gou Mkyk tkrk gSA blls iwtk esa gkse dk foèkku gSA tyus ds ckn tks jk[k cprh gS] og HkLe dgykrh gSA blesa tyus okyh lfe/kk dk dksbZ Hkh ekSfyd xq.k ugha gksrkA gj rjg dh tyh gqbZ oLrq HkLe ugha gks ldrkA

HkLe ’kCn dh mRifÙk ^Hkk* ;kfu HkrZ’uk ¼[kRe gksuk½ Le; ;k Lej.k ¼;kn j[kuk½A bldk vFkZ gS fd esjs fd, x, iki lekIr gks x, ¼HkLe gks x,½ vkSj ek= bZ’oj gh ;kn jgsA** HkLe dks foHkwfr Hkh dgrs gSaA bldk vFkZ gS ^oSHko*A HkLe Hkxoku f’ko ls tqM+k gqvk gSA os bl jk[k dks vius iwjs cnu ij eyrs gSA

vk/;kfRed :i ls gkse vfXu vkSj ea=ksa dk lEesyu gSA la;qDr fo/kku gSA bldk vFkZ gS vius vki dk leiZ.k djuk] vius vge dk leiZ.k djuk ,oa vge Hkkouk dks Kku dh T;ksfr ¼/kwe½ esa feVk nsukA ifo= jk[k dk vFkZ gS] eu dk ifo= gks tkukA vkx dk fufgrkFkZ gS drZO; ds izfr vkLFkk j[kukA ydM+h dk eryc gS& fu”Bqjrk vkSj tM+Ro dk R;kxA jk[k ds mi;ksx dk vk’k; gS fd ge viuh >wBh igpku dks feVk MkysaA

ifo= jk[k dk mi;ksx D;ksa\

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tc ge ’ka[k ctkrs gSa] rks izkjafHkd vkokt ^Å¡* dh fudyrh gSA ;g /ofu lcls ’kq) gksrh gSA Hkxoku fo".kq] Hkxoku /kuoarjh Hkh vius pkj gkFkksa esa ls ,d esa ges’kk ’ka[k /kkj.k fd, jgrs gSaA ;g crkrk gS /keZ vkSj vf/kdkj ds ckjs esa fd thou ds pkj iq#"kkFkksZa gSA ’ka[k dh vkokt ¼/ofu½ cqjkbZ ij vPNkbZ dh thr gSA ’ka[k ctkus ls ifo= /ofu mRiUu gksrh gS tks udkjkRed vkokt ;k /ofu iznw"k.k dks nwj djrh gSA ;s [kjkc èofu;ka gesa ijs’kku ;k mnkl dj nsrh gSA iwtk ds izfr ge vfuNk j[kus yxrs gSa] ij tc ’ka[k ctrk gS rks ;s lHkh leL;k,a nwj gks tkrh gSA ’ka[k /ofu yksxksa ds fnekx dks HkfDr o vjk/kuk ds izfr >qdko fl[kkrh gSA ’ka[k /ofu dks jkst fu;e ls lquus okyk ukfLrd Hkh vkfLrd gks tkrk gSA

ge ’ka[k D;ksa ctkrs gSa\

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?kM+h ?kaV ds daiu ls tks vkokt fudyrh gS] og ifo= vkokt ^Å¡* dh gS] ;g gekjs eu vkSj bZ’oj dks tksM+rh gSA tc ge izfrfnu iwtu laLdkj ¼iwtk½ djrs gSa] rks ?kM+h?kaV ctkrs gSa vkSj bl ea= dk mPpkj.k djrs gSa&

AAvxekFkZerq nsokukae~xeukFkZerq jk{klkuke~dq:os ?kaVkjoe~ r=

nsorkvkg~okue y{;uke~AA ^^eSa ?kM+h?kaV ctk dj ;g crkrk gwa fd cqjh rkdrksa dks ;g vkokt gkoh ugha gksus nsrhA ?kM+h?kaV dh e/kqj vkokt esjs ?kj vkSj ân; dks ifo= cuk, vkSj ’kSrkuh rkdrksa ls ges’kk nwj j[ksaA**

iwtk ds nkSjku ?kM+h ?kaV D;ksa ctk;k tkrk

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czã nso dh mRifÙk Hkxoku fo".kq dh ukfHk ls ekuh tkrh gS] mUgksaus dey ds iq"i ij fojkteku gksdj nqfu;k dk fuekZ.k fd;kA lks dey gks x;k fu;ark vkSj fuekZrk dks feykus dh dM+hA dey czãyksd dk Hkh vkHkk"k djkrk gSA LokfLrd og vk/;kfRed fpg~u gS] tks dey ls tqM+k gqvk gSA

d`".k us Hkxorxhrk esa dey dh rqyuk ugha tqM+dj Hkh tqM+s jgus tSlk fd;k gSA dey i= ij ,d cwan ikuh eksrh dh rjg gS] ysfdu og ogka fVd ugha ikrk] dey i= ij ,d cwan ikuh Hkh ugha BdjrkA

AAozãk.; v/;k; deZ.khA

laxe R;kDrHk djksrh ;kg~;fyI;rs uk lk ikisu

in~e i=e~ bokeHkk”kkAA dey izfrfuf/kRo djrk gS psruk dk] ;g ladsr gS lR;rk dk] izKk;qDr ,oa lqanjrk ¼lR;e~] f’koe~ lqanje~½ bZ’oj dh rqyuk ges’kk dey ls dh tkrh gSA ¼tSls dey u;u] ljkst in] dey gLr] dey ân; vkfn½ dey lw;Z ds mxus ds lkFk f[kyrk gS vkSj jkr esa can gks tkrk gS fnekx dh rjg] tks [kqyrk gS rc tc Kku dk izdk’k vkrk gSA dey dhpM+ esa f[kyrk gSA fQj Hkh vius vklikl dks lqanj o vkd"kZd cuk, j[krk gSA

;g ,d psrkouh gS fd lar iq:"k dks Hkh fdlh rjg ds okrkoj.k esa larqyu ds fy, iz;kljr jguk pkfg,A dey i= dh ;g fo’ks"krk gS fd og ikuh esa jgdj Hkh Hkhxrk ughaA ;g ladsr gS fd euq"; dh cqf) dk og pkgs [kq’kh dk ekgkSy gksA lkalkfjd nq%[k vkSj cnyko esa Hkh vizHkkoh jgrk gSA gekjs ’kjhj esa ÅtkZ ds dbZ Jksr gSa] ;s ;ksx ’kkL= ds vuqlkj pØ dgykrs gSaA ;s lc dey dss lkFk tqM+s gSaA budh ia[kqfM+;ksa dh ,d fuf’pr la[;k gksrh gSA dey in~eklu dh eqnzk esa ;k ikyFkh ekj dj cSBus dh fLFkfr dks crkrk gSA ;g eqnzk /;ku dh eqnzk gSA

deyiq"i dks fo’ks"k D;ksa le>k tkrk gS\

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AA;kuewys lokZf=gkuh] ;kukxzs loZ nsork;ku e/;s loZosnkL;s rqylhuke uekE;ge~AA

^^eSa rqylh ds lkeus >qd tkrk gwaA ;g gj ifo= LFkku ij mxrh gSA blds f’k[kj ij lHkh nsoh&nsorkvksa dk okl gSA e/; esa osn fojktrs gSaA**

rqylh ;k ifo= rqylh ,d vfr ifo= ikS/kk gSA rqylh ds ckjs esa laLd`r esa ,d dgkor gSA ^^rqykuk ukfLr vFkO;k rqylhA** rqylh vrqyuh; gS xq.k ds vk/kkj ijA rqylh gh ,d ,slh iwtk lkexzh gS] ftls /kksdj nksckjk iz;ksx esa yk;k tk ldrk gSA rqylh y{eh ds :i esa Hkh tkuh tkrh gSA tks dksbZ Hkh lgh fn’kk esa /keZijk;.k ,oa lq[kh thou dh vkdka{k.kh gS] rqylh dh iwtk djuh gSA rqylh Hkxoku fo".kq dh C;kgrk gSA bl fookg mRlo esa rM+d&HkM+d vkSj fn[kkok fookg tSlk gh gksrk gSA ,d vU; nardFkk ds vuqlkj Hkxoku dk vk’khokZn bu ij ges’kk cuk jgrk gSA rqylh dh iwtk veweu ek?k vkSj dkfrZd ekg esa gksrh gSA rqylh fookg dkfrZd eghus esa ns[kk tk ldrk gSA ;g ,d lkadsfrd fookg gS tks fo".kq dk fookg rqylh ls gksrk gSA blesa ’kkfyxzke ds :i esa fo".kq gksrs gSa vkSj rqylh gksrh gSaA ;g tkudkjh nsrk gS fd rqylh dh fo’ks"krk mldh xq.koÙkk ds dkj.k gSA rqylh iztuu {kerk dks c<+krh gSA fdlh Hkh fookg ds le; rqylh dh iwtk vfr vko’;d gSA ,d ckj lR;Hkkek us Jhd`".k ds lkFk viuh iwjh laink dks nkao ij yxk fn;kA ij rjktw dk iyM+k ,d rqylh i= ds Hkkj ls T;knk ugha gks ik;kA ftlesa :fDe.kh us vius R;kx dks iyM+s ij j[kk FkkA vr% rqylh dk egRoiw.kZ lans’k ;g gS fd R;kx dk T;knk egRo gS] D;ksafd /ku laifÙk ls R;kx T;knk egRoiw.kZ gSA

rqylh dh iwtk ge D;ksa djrs gSa\

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^/keZlk;k /kkjkrk* bldk eryc gS /keZ vFkkZr~ /kkj.k djuk gSA blhfy, izdkjkauj ls cqf)eku O;fDr dh lksp mlds LokLF; ds fy, /keZ ls tksM+us dks vPNk le>rk gSA vf/kdrj /kkfeZd vuq"Bku LokLF; ds izfr vksr&izksr gSA ogha dq’kk ;k ?kkl vU; ls vyx ugha gSA

dksbZ Hkh ikjaifjd fgUnw fo/kku oxSj ¼nwc½ ds iwjk ugha gksrkA nwc ?kkl x.ks’k iwtk esa Hkh mi;ksx esa yk;k tkrk gSA ;g igpku gS thou dh #dkoVksa dks gVkus esa ?kkl dh mikns;rk dhA ;g nwckZ dh fo’ks"krk gh dgh tk,xh fd vki vxj bls ,d LFkku ij Hkwfe esa jksisaxs rks og vU; {ks=ksa esa Hkh dbZ xq.kd j¶rkj ls lekukarj :i ls QSy tk,xkA ;g euq";ksa ds ikfjokfjd thou eSa Hkh ns[kk tk ldrk gSA ge Hkh ?kkl ¼nqckZ½ dh rjg ftruh {kerk gS] mlls dbZ xq.kk foLrkj pkgrs gSa vkSj djrs gSaA nwljk ikS/kk] tks iwtk esa iz;ksx esa yk;k tkrk gS og dq’kk ds :i esa tkuk tkrk gSA ;g ifo=rk dk ifjpk;d gSA dq’kk ,d Loj{kk djus okyk ikS/kk ¼?kkl½ gSA ;g o`f) ,oa lko/kkuh dk izrhd gSA ;g ,d lkfRod ikS/kk gSA ;g cqf)ekuh dk izfrfuf/kRo djrk gSA nks ’kCn dkS’ky ¼cqf)½ feydj ,d ’kCn cuk ^dq’k* ;kfu lko/kku] ifo= rFkk rh{.k fnekxA yo&dq’k jkek;.k esa ,d tkudkjh feyrh gS fd ifo=rk o izse dh mifLFkfr ?kkl esa ns[kh tk ldrh gSA

dq’k dh pVkbZ esa ,d lqxa/k gksrh gSA ;g cSBus ds fy, cukbZ tkrh gSA iwtk ds nkSjku] ;K ds nkSjku ;k osnh cukus ¼fookg ds le;½ bldk iz;ksx gksrk gSA

ladYi] ¼dqN djus dh pkg½ ;g gekjs thou dh nSfud i)fr cuuh pkfg,A tc dksbZ ladYi cksyrk rks og dqN djrk Hkh gSA og vius [kqn dks vuqxzfgr djrk gS ;k djrh gSA ;g mldh [kqn ds izfr bPNk dgh tk ldrh gSA ladYi ysus ls igys dq’kk gkFk dh maxfy;ksa esa /kkj.k fd;k tkrk gSA ekyk esa dq’kk dh tM+ dk mi;ksx gksrk gSA bldk mi;ksx dbZ rjg ls /kkfeZd@O;ogkfjd thou esa Hkh gksrk gSA vf/kdrj fgUnw fo’okl djrk gS fd Hkxoku fo".kq dk fuokl lkyhxzke] rqylhi=] ihiy o`{k ,oa dq’k esa gSA

lHkh laLdkjksa dk LokLF; i{k Hkh gSA ,slk dgk tkrk gS fd Hkxoku us gesa ’kjhj migkj esa fn;k gS] ftlesa vkRek jgrh gSA tM+] ifÙk;ka] vkSj dq’k ds lRo dh t:jr lHkh ds ’kjhj dks gksrh gSA ;g LokLF; is; dh rjg gSA tM+ksa dk jl pj.kke`r ds :i esa xzg.k fd;k tkrk gSA tc dksbZ laLdkj ;k vuq"Bku dk vk;kstu gksA dq’kk@?kkl vkS"k/kh; xq.kksa dh rjg izHkkfor djrh gSA ;g ’kjhj dh ltxrk dks c<+krh gS vkSj ’kjhj esa O;kIr dqN v’kqf);ksa dks nwj j[krh gSA

dq’kk ¼?kkl½ dh iwtk D;ksa gksrh gS\

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vxj diwj ugha rks vkjrh dSls gksxhA diwj tc tyrk gS] rks og iwjh rjg ty tkrk gS vkSj dksbZ vo’ks"k ugha NksM+rk tyus ds ckn HkhA diwj gekjh ikjaifjd okluk dh izo`fr;ksa dks jksdrk gSA tc ge vius Kku dks tykrs gSa] rks okluk iwjh rjg [kqn c [kqn ty tkrh gSA tyus ds ckn fdlh izdkj dk vge~ ugha cprkA vge~ vius vanj ds vyxko dk ifj.kke gSA ;g gesa bZ’oj ls nwj ys tkrk gSA

diwj] tc tyrk gS] rks ,d rjg dh [kq’kcw yqVkrk gSA bldk vFkZ gS ge vius vge~ dks tykrs gSaA ge dsoy izse vkSj dqN ugha pkgrsA

iwtk esa diwj dh mi;ksfxrk D;k gS\

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gkFk dh dykbZ ij ekSyh cka/kus dk vkSfpR; ;g gS fd xq: ds mins’k ls vkSj muds vk’khokZn ls vkRek ’kq) gksA bl nkSjku flanwj] jksyh ;k dqedqe dk yykV ij yxkuk thou iFk dks izdkf’kr djuk gSA jksyh ¼dqedqe½ ,oa ekSyh fgUnw fookg lekjksg dk eq[; vax gSA

ekSyh dk cka/kk tkuk ,d rjg dk mlds izfr nkf;Ro dks ;kn fnykuk dgk tk,xk] ftlds lkFk ekSyh cka/kk x;k FkkA ekSyh dk ca/ku rc [kksyk tk,xk tc ml nkf;Ro dks iwjk dj fy;k tk,A pkgs ;g ekSyh izfr fnu D;ksa u cka/kk tkrk gksA

v{kr dk eryc gS lkcwr pkoy ds nkusA ;g v{kr /ku le`f) dk ifjpk;d gSA v{kr vVy fo’okl vkSj ekufld n`<+rk rFkk ’kkafr dk izrhd gSA /kku oxSj fNyds dk v{kr dgykrk gSA ;g ,d rjg dk ,slk vUu dk nkuk gS] tks vadqfjr ugha gks ldrkA v{kr ls nksckjk /kku ugha mitk;k tk ldrk] vr% ;g vafre vorj.k gSA bls iwtk esa bLrseky djds gh bls /kU; ekuk x;k] ;kfu bldk mi;ksx dsoy v/;kRe psruk txkus esa gh djuk gS] D;ksafd bldk nwljk tUe ugha gks ldrkA

jksyh@ekSyh@v{kr ¼pkoy½ dk vkSfpR;

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vkjrh dh ykS og fo’ks"k ykS gSA tks gekjs lPps Kku dh tkudkjh nsrh gSA vkjrh ysus ds nkSjku gkFk dks ykS ls Li’kZ dj viuh vka[kksa ,oa flj ds Åij fQjkrs gSaA bldk vFkZ gS& ^^;g jkS’kuh bZ’oj dh jkS’kuh dh rjg gekjh vka[kksa esa pedsA esjh T;ksfr vk/;kfRed gks vkSj esjh lksp vPNh o lqanj gksA**

n’kZu esa vkjrh dk vFkZ gksrk gS ckj&ckj foLrkjA lw;Z] panzek] rkjs] izdk’k vkSj vfXu esa lHkh izkd`frd miknku gSa] izdk’k dsA bZ’oj us bl lk/ku dks fo’o ds fy, ,d tkbZ miknku iznku fd;k gSA ;s lHkh gekjs vdsys ds fy, pedrs gSa vkSj vfLrRo esa gSaA ge gSa] blfy, budk ctwn gSA

ge vkjrh dh rjg bZ’oj dh ykS gSa] ge vius /;ku dks <sj lkjh izdk’k dh fdj.kksa esa lkadsfrd :i ls fueXu j[ksa vkSj Kku ds lkFk thou;kiu djsaA lw;Z gekjh es/kk gS] tks gekjh cqf) c<+krk gSA panzek efLr"d gS vkSj vkx ok.khA bZ’oj lcls cM+k lÙkk fu;ked gS] tks bu esa bu lc phtksa dks xzg.k djus dh ’kfDr nsrk gSA fcuk gekjs es/kk lksp ugha ldrh ,oa efLr"d vuqeo ugha dj ldrk] ok.kh cksy ugha ldrh gSA bZ’oj gekjh lksp ls Hkh ijs gS] es/kk ,oa ok.kh ls Hkh ijs gSA

ge vkjrh ds Åij gkFk D;ksa fQjkrs gSa\

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ge esa ls vf/kdka’k vius ekrk&firk] cqtqxksZa] f’k{kdksa ,oa ljy ân; ¼lTtuksa½ dks pj.k Li’kZ dj vfHkoknu djrs gSaA ;s cM+s yksx ¼cqtqxZ½ gekjs flj ds Åij viuk gkFk fQjk dj gesa vk’khokZn nsrs gSaA

vfHkoknu izfrfnu ;k egRoiw.kZ volj ij fd;k tkrk gSA pj.kLi’kZ fpg~u gS] vius cqtqxksZa ds izfr vknj mudh mez mudh ifjiDork] mudh ljyrk ,oa mudh vk/;kfRedrk dks lEeku nsus dkA

vPNh lksp ldkjkRed ÅtkZ nsrh gSA vk’khZokn gekjs fny dh /kM+duksa esa izse] vk/;kfRedrk ,oa ljyrk dk lapkj djrk gSA cgqvk;kfe etcwrh ls ÅtkZ dk LFkkukarj.k vk’khZokn xzg.k djrs le; gekjs vanj gksrh gSA tc ge d:.kk o vknj ds lkFk vfHkoknu djrs gSa] rks gesa [kqn o [kqn vk’khZokn fey tkrk gSA ;g gesa vius vfHkHkkodksa ls ldkjkRed ÅtkZ ds ;i esa izkIr gksrk gSA tc ge vius cqtqxksZa ds lkeus vfHkoknu gsrq [kM+s gksrs gSa] rks ml le; ge ;kpd Hkh jgrs gSa] bl dkj.k vius ls cM+ksa dk vk’khokZn ls gekjk iwjk ‘kjhj ÅtkZ xzg.k dj jgk gksrk gSA

vU; dbZ vknj ds fpg~u gS&izkr% mBuk% izkr% tkxrs O;fDr dk Lokxr djuk

ueLdkj% fdlh dks [kM+s gksdj gkFk tksM+dj Lokxr djuk

mikluk xzg.k% vius f’k{kdksa vkSj cqtqZxksaZ dk pj.k Li’kZ djuk

lk”Vkax% vius iSjksa] ?kqVuk] isV] o{k] yykV ,oa ckgksa dks i`Foh ls Li’kZ djrs gq, vius cqtqxksZa ds lkeus fxjukA

izfr vfHkoknu% ijLij vfHkoknu djuk

D;ksa ge ekrk&firk o cqtqxksZa dk izek.k djrs gSa\

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fryd gekjs Hkzwe/; ds [kkyh LFkku dks Hkjrk gS( ;g LFkku ;knkLr vkSj fparu dk LFkku gSA ;ksx esa ;g vkKk pØ ds uke ls tkuk tkrk gSA iwtk osn ls vyx gksdj ladsr ds :i esa fryd gks x;kA es/kk dk LFkku vius efLr"d ds vxzHkkx ds fgLls esa gSA bl es/kk dks gesa ojnku le>uk pkfg,A ;g ojnku gekjs yykV ij fryd ds :i esa fpfg~ur gSA

tc ge xk;=h ea= dk mPpkj.k djrs gSa ge viuh cqf) dks izdkf’kr ,oa ’kq) dj ysrs gSaA njvly fryd gekjh rhljh vka[k gSA ;g ckgjh vka[k ugha gS] bls vk/;kfRed ¼vkarfjd vka[k½ dg ldrs gSaA ;g og vka[k gS] tks gekjs vk/;kfRed Kku ls vius vki dk eqY;kadu djus dh jkg crkrh gSA rhljh vka[k dk [kqyuk ;g Hkh crkrk gS fd vc gekjk fparu fdlh Hkh vU; leL;k dk lek/kku dj MkysxkA

egknso f’ko us viuh rhljh vka[k dh ’kfDr ls ^dkenso* dks lekIr dj Mkyk Fkk] vr% ge Hkh vius lHkh chekfj;ksa ,oa cqjh ’kfDr;ksa dks bl rhljh vka[k ls lekIr dj ldrs gSaA

iwjs ’kjhj esa tks ÅtkZ curh gS] og fo|qr pqEcd dh /kkj ds :i esa cgrh gS& yykV ,oa Hkzwe/; ds chp ds ml fo’ks"k LFkku dh vksj vkrh gS tks rhljh vka[k dgykrh gSA tc xyr ÅtkZ dk fuekZ.k gksrk gS] rc og rki ,oa efLr"d&nnZ ¼ljnnZ½ ds :i esa fn[krk gS( fryd gekjs yykV dks ’khry j[krk gS] gekjh j{kk djrk gS ,oa ÅtkZ {k; ls cpkrk gSA dHkh&dHkh yykV dk iwjk fgLlk panu ;k HkLe ls vk{kkfnr j[kuk pkfg,A f’ko ds vuq;k;h ¼’kSo½ vius yykV ij HkLe yxkrs gSaA Hkxoku fo”.kq ds vuq;k;h ¼oS".ko½ vius yykV ij panu ysirs gSaA nsoh ds HkDr ¼’kkDr½ vius yykV ij dqedqe dk ysiu djrs gSa( fryd ds :i esa vius yykV ij panu ysiu HkLe ysiu ;k dqedqe ysiu ¼yky gYnh ikmMj½ djrs gSaA fookg lekjksg ds nkSjku nwYgk o nqYgu nksuksa ds Hkky ij dqedqe dk fryd gh yxk;k tkrk gSA fryd okLro esa bZ’oj dk izlkn gS] vuqxzg gSA ;g xyr /kkj.kkvksa rFkk cqjh ’kfDr;ksa ds leu dh ,d ’kfDr gSA

ge fryd D;ksa yxkrs gSa\

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;g ekU;rk jgh gS fd ’kkafr dk rhu ckj mPpkj.k gekjs rhu lR; dks mtkxj djrh gSA ¼vxj ge ’kkafr&’kkafr&’kkafr dk ikB djrs gSa] rks ge esa bruh ’kfDr vk tkrh gS fd ge lk/kkj.k ckrksa dks Hkh lR; cuk ldrs gaSA½

’kkafr gsrq lqj{kk dh dkeuk] ,d rjg dk fparu ;k ea=ksa dk ikB gSA ea=ksPpkj.k ds }kjk vius LokFkZ dks R;kx dj vius vki dks txkuk gSA ftlds izfr ge lgkuqHkwfr j[krs gSa] ea= ml lgkuqHkwfr dks ml voLFkk esa ys vkrs gSa] ftls ^ijk’kfDr voLFkk* dgk tkrk gS] ;g voLFkk gh okrkoj.k dks ’kkafre; cuk, j[krk gSA lHkh Hkxoku ds HkDr rhu ckj ’kkafr dk ikB rc djrs gSa] tc mudh iwtk lekIr gksrh gSA bldh dqN O;k[;k,a Hkh gSaA igyh ckj dk mPpkj.k tksjnkj gksrk gS] tks mu ’kfDr;ksa dks izHkkfor djrk gS] tks utj ugha vkrhA ¼vkf/knSfod izkd`frd vkink,a½ nwljh ckj vius vklikl dh ’kfDr;ksa dks izHkkfor djrh gSA ¼vkf/kHkkSfrd% vfrfjDr cnyko ykus okyk rRo½ ,oa tks lcls vf/kd dksey gSA vafre ,oa rhljh ckj ’kkafr dk mPpkj.k vius fy, ¼vk/;kfRed½ gSA

Å¡ ’kkafr&’kkafr dk mPpkj.k D;ksa djrs gSa\

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nks O;fDr;ksa ds feyu ds fjokt dks ueLdkj dgk tkrk gSA ;g ladsr gS vius vge~ ;k viuh igpku dks NksM+us dkA ueLdkj rhu ’kCnksa dk lekgkj gS& ue% $ Å¡ $ dkjA

ueLdkj dk vFkZ gS& eSa dqN ugha gwaA D;ksafd vksadkj esa lc dqN gSA ueLdkj ’kCn dgus esa nwljksa dks vknj nsus dk Hkko gSA vFkkZr eSa dqN ugha gwa] vki bZ’ojrqY; gSA

ueLdkj djus dk lgh rjhdk ;g gS fd ftls ueLdkj dj jgs gSaA mlds lkeus lj >qdk,a] vkSj gYdk lk daèkk Hkh >qdsA ueLdkj rc iwjk gksrk gS] tc vkids nksuksa gkFk tqM+s gksa] gFksyh nwljh gFksyh dk Li’kZ djsa maxfy;ksa ds fdukjs nwljs gkFk dh maxfy;ksa ls lVs gksA ;s nksuksa gkFk vkids o{k dks Li’kZ djrs jgsA ;g ,d ladsr gS] ftlls le>k tkrk gS fd ge vius vgadkj vkSj varZeq[kh Hkkouk ls futkr ikus dh dksf’k’k esa gSaA dqN yksxksa ds fy, ;g vPNh ckr gSA blls nqHkkZouk nwj gksrh gSA tc ge fdlh ds lkeus gkFk tksM+rs gSa rks vius vge~ dks R;kx nsrs gSaA ;g vknj vkSj ’kkafr dk izrhd gSA gekjs ’kjhj dh vkd`fr ,slh gS tks ueLdkj djrs le; xqLlk dh btktr ugha nsrs gSaA ueLrs gkFk dh LoPNrk dks c<+kok nsrs gSa( ,p&1] ,u&1 tSls ¶yw jksxksa ds izlkj dks jksdus esa ;g lgk;d gSA

ueLdkj ;k ueLrs dh iajijk

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