““THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE”THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE”

Our Profession & Our LifeOur Profession & Our Life

ND Family BasedND Family Based

Services Association Services Association

ConferenceConference

April 5, 2013

TIMETIME

““FOR THE YOUNG IT IS FOR THE YOUNG IT IS BOUNDLESS --BOUNDLESS --

FOR THE OLD IT IS FLEETING”FOR THE OLD IT IS FLEETING”

What does the saying on the last slide mean to you?What does the saying on the last slide mean to you?

FOR THE YOUNG IT IS BOUNDLESS –FOR THE YOUNG IT IS BOUNDLESS –

FOR THE OLD IT IS FLEETINGFOR THE OLD IT IS FLEETING

Does our age determine, to some extent, how we view Does our age determine, to some extent, how we view the concept of the time in our lives? If so, how?the concept of the time in our lives? If so, how?

Early/Middle AdulthoodEarly/Middle Adulthood

25-50 years 7) Generativityvs. Stagnation

Care In early and middle adulthood,each adult must find some way

to satisfy the need to begenerative, to support the next

generation, or turn outwardfrom the self toward others.

How is stress related to the differing views of timeHow is stress related to the differing views of timeby people in the age group 25-50?by people in the age group 25-50?

What are examples of stress in your life? What are examples of stress in your life?

Aging and Stress at WorkAging and Stress at Work

Age: 20Age: 20 3030 4040 5050 6060 7070

Distress occurs when job expectations exceeds job enjoyment.Although thought to be age related as indicated above,

it is not thought to be universal.

EXPECT

ENJOY

Middle/Late AdulthoodMiddle/Late Adulthood

50+ years 8) Integrity vs.Despair

Wisdom The culmination, if all previousstages have been reasonably

well dealt with, is anacceptance of oneself as one is.

PastThe Good Old Days syndrome

(+)I wish things were like they were in the “good-old-days” when we had great music for a nickel and the fish were always biting.

Trauma, Grief or Guilt syndrome(-)

Past events that are painful and continue to plague the person in the present, like a significant loss or the feeling of guilt.

FutureI can hardly wait syndrome

(+)Life is always out there----I can hardly wait ‘til graduation, marriage, kids, great job, retirement…

Worry Syndrome(-)

What if…………….happensWorry is just something that we do that we don’t do anything else about.

PresentWe live in the relative present.

We each have the same number of minutes in a day.

How we use those minutes determine the quality of our life.

When I am anxious it is because I am living in the future. When I am depressed it is because I am living in the past.

The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.--Abraham Maslow

Fully FunctioningPRESENTPAST

Good Old Days Syndrome

Trauma, Grief, Guilt Syndrome

FUTURE

I can hardly wait syndrome

Worry Syndrome

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Check Your Life-Style Habits

Positive life-style habit Response

1. Not Smoking ________

2. Moderate Drinking ________

3. 7-8 Hours of Sleep ________

4. Regular Meals ________

5. Regular Balanced Breakfast ________

6. Recommended Weight ________

7. Regular Exercise ________

Check Your Life-Style Habits Results -Life Expectancy

Gender Age +Habits practiced Additional Years of life

Female 45 6 or 7 35.87.2

0 to 3 28.6

Male 45 6 or 7 33.111.5

0 to 3 21.6

Do you want to grow old?

Are you doing now what will add to both “life quality and quantity”?

Appraisal of Life-Style Habits

Happiness From:

1. Variety of gratifications.

2. Flexible under stress.

3. Recognize and accept strengths and limits.

4. Treat others as worthy individuals.

5. Be active and productive.

6. Seek achievement on what you do, not on what your label is.

7. Satisfaction not dependent on money.

8. Only a few close, personal ties.