THE UGLY TRUTHSABOUT TODDLERBEHAVIORWILL MAKE YOU CRINGE

CORAN PHILLIP

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CONTENTINTRODUCTION………………………………………………… …… ………2

BABY HAS A LOT TO SAY, AND SHE WANTS TO SAY IT NOW!……………6

THERE IS NO PLACE FOR ROUGHHOUSING…………… …… … …………8

COPYRIGHT AND DISCLAIMER………………………………………………10

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INTRODUCTIONBefore I became a mom, I was one of those ladies

that would look at the sweet kids that could serve as

the poster child for cute and cuddly with the big

warm smile and swear by day and night that this

would be my child in the future. When I saw the kid

that was sending mom on a one-way train to

temper tantrum glory, I confidently judged her

parenting and said how she should do a

better job of teaching her kid. Then one day,

I became a mom, and soon found that I

could identify with each of those scenarios

entirely.

Yes, my little one does have a warm smile

that always gives me the fuzzies.

(Spoiler alert) Training mode is a

life -long stage of motherhood. Those

little boogers pop a new type of

behavior every few months.

But don’t worry; it keeps you on your toes.

So, perhaps you’re reaching that stage. Maybe your toddler has started their

new school, or perhaps they are still home with you or the nanny, either way,

they are walking into a new phase of their little lives, and it entails a few things

that weren't there before.

Case in point, toddlerhood is when you as a mom began to experience another

level of behavior which means it's a new stage of teaching and training. Toddlers,

on the other hand, have not quite grasped the understanding of boundaries.

Besides, this is during the time of the terrible twos, temper tantrums, and bossy

britches!

It’s a time when the both of you reach a new learning curve or fork in the road

of your journey. The scary thing about this is that this is new.

To be honest, lots of times new equate a little terrifying, right? The comforting

thing is you are not alone. Every parent has witnessed this stage. While it may be

a test of time while experiencing it, the best way to understand your child is to

understand the psychology of your toddler’s behavior.

We spend so much time watching and observing our toddlers in an attempt to

understand the psychology of their behavior that sometimes it makes us

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question a few things. Is it just with me or have you noticed that the degree of

action, whether or not it's proper behavior or misbehavior, can change

depending on the person who's in their company at present?

It can't be just me.

My little one is a complete angel and big girl with daddy, but seemingly it's

because she's storing up the bombs to drop onmommy.

Insert collective frustrated sigh as you began to identify with that sentence.

At first, I wallowed in my frustrations and tears when my mom-ing methods just

seemed to be no match for this misbehavior. I'm not sure; it seemed as if my

approach had some loophole in it that was working against me than with me.

A bit of research gave me the insight I had apparently been needing. I read an

article on parents.com with contributions from Child Development Specialist,

Karen Dudley, that translated the psychology of toddler behavior.

Toddlers are embracing the understanding of relationships during this stage in

life. While their temper tantrums with the person that they are most

comfortable with seem like a strategic plot to take them down; Dudley

attributed it as an indication of behavior, emotions, and feelings that they are

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attempting to convey with the person that they are most comfortable. Namely,

temper tantrums would be explained wholeheartedly by the concept above.

While this may be true, it is still important to address any behavior that

measures of the scale as inappropriate.

Try your hardest to contain all criticism as it does nothing for positive

reinforcement. Be vigilant on curbing frustrations as it is the culprit of

encouraging chaos.

Now that we understand a little bit more as to what it is that can be triggering

the one-sided behavior let’s address a couple of behavioral matters that we

cannot ignore.

If ignored, misbehavior will take your little one from a sweet baby to a little

roaring lion in such a short time.

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BABY HAS A LOT TO SAY, AND SHE WANTS TO SAY IT NOW!

That’s right, those little boogers are not only talking

up a storm, but they are talking when you are talking

as well. The upside of this is, at least we know they

have something to say!

Unfortunately, your tot feels that whatever it is that

they have to say has got to interject in your

conversation while you are speaking to them or

someone else.

Psychologist Jerry Wyckoff, Ph.D., coauthor

of Getting Your Child From No to Yes,

stated that failure to correct this behavior

in your child could lead to future

problems such as their intolerance of

frustration. Also, he believed that it

could cause the child to believe that

they must have the attention of

everyone in their presence.

It is important to teach your toddler that they have to wait their turn before

speaking out, unless of course it is an emergency of some sort. Communication

is key when working with your toddler. They should know that their words are

important, but also they should know that the words of others are as well.

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THERE IS NO PLACE FOR ROUGHHOUSING

Learning the psychology of toddler behavior can be a

bit overwhelming. I mean really, let’s think about

how many times you perform corrective behavior

measure on a daily basis.

Exactly! My house is filled with plenty of, “Is that

proper behavior?” and “Take a minute to reflect

on what you did. “Oh and there’s my favorite,

“Please explain to me how this could add value

to the moment?”

Nonetheless, we must understand in order to

work through it, especially when things

escalate from simply being rude by way of

interrupting a conversation, and develops

into disruptive behavior such a hitting and

playing to roughly.

Considering kids are simply kids, and very impressionable, especially during

the toddler stages, there are certain things that are going to come along

that may arrive without warning, but calls to be addressed immediately.

Roughhousing is one of those things. This measure of misbehavior is a

gateway to another level of disruptive behavior if not addressed. It is

aggressive behavior and has to be communicated that it is not ok and

causes hurt to the person on the receiving end.

Let’s be honest, we have all seen these glorious days of trying to

understand the psychology of toddler behavior, so please, lets help each

other. Share your methods of deciphering the behavior. Perhaps you found

a much more easier approach to communicating with your little one and

encouraging proper behavior. We would love to hear.

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