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They Say Opposites Attract
6 Oct 2012
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Self Introduction
Martha Lee Clinical Sexologist
• Doctorate in Human Sexuality
• Masters in Public Policy and Management
• Bachelor of Arts (Comm)
• Cert in Sex Therapy
• Cert in Practical Counselling
• Cert in Life Coaching
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Discuss what is masculine and feminine energy
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Feminine
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The Feminine Way 1. Radiance
2. Force of attraction and enchantment
3. Wanting to be noticed
4. World of sensation, body, unseen connection to the flow of elements and natural forces
5. Opens
6. Speaks ‘Feel’ vs’ His ‘Do’
7. ‘Flows’ vs. His ‘Go’
8. Force of Creation and Destruction
Intimate Communion, David Deida
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Masculine
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The Masculine Way
1. Directionality
2. Mission
3. Modal – Realms that don’t seem penetrable from the outside
4. Looking for trouble
5. Release
6. The edge
7. Die to self
8. Free man
Intimate Communion, David Deida
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Yin / Yang
1. Receive
2. Feel
3. Moon
4. Water
1. Project
2. In control
3. Sun
4. Fire
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Masculine/ Feminine
1. Solid
2. Strong
3. Powerful
4. Unwavering
5. Security
6. Faithfulness
7. Integrity
8. Unemotional
1. Soft
2. Surrender
3. Creative
4. Flowing
5. Alluring
6. Drawing
7.Irrational
8. Heartful/ emotional
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Exercise: Are you more feminine
or masculine?
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Spot the similarities in these pictures
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Taken May 2012
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His Needs/ Her Needs
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. An attractive spouse
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Honesty and Openness
4. Financial Commitment
5. Family Commitment
His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley
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Deborah Tannen MEN
1. Masculine
2. Independence
3. Resist being told
4. Opinions
5. Competition (One up)
6. Public talk
7. Report speak (Impersonal)
8. Sitting side by side
9. Indirect feelings
10. Divorce: from obligations, less confined
WOMEN
1. Feminine
2. Intimacy
3. Inclined to repeat requests
4. Open ended
5. Harmony/ negotiation (same)
6. Private talk
7. Rapport speak (Personal)
8. Sitting facing each other
9. Indirect requests
10. Divorce: independence, autonomy
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What is Intimacy?
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Styles of Intimacy
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3 Styles of Intimacy 1. Dependence Relationship
– Men are men and women are women.
– Money, emotional support, parenting or sex Imbalance of financial or physical power
Intimate Communion, David Deida
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3 Styles of Intimacy 1. Dependence Relationship
– Men are men and women are women.
– Money, emotional support, parenting or sex Imbalance of financial or physical power
2. 50/50 Relationship
– Safe boundaries and equal expectations for men and women.
– Two independent people; equitable partnership equally balanced or Neutral
Intimate Communion, David Deida
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3 Styles of Intimacy 1. Dependence Relationship
– Men are men and women are women.
– Money, emotional support, parenting or sex Imbalance of financial or physical power
2. 50/50 Relationship
– Safe boundaries and equal expectations for men and women.
– Two independent people; equitable partnership equally balanced or Neutral
3. Intimate Communiion
– I relax into oneness and spontaneously give my deepest gift.
– Practice loving, give from core, includes root of our sexuality
Intimate Communion, David Deida
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Dr Frank Furedi, Sociology professor at the University of Canterbury, said
the study made sense as chore sharing took place more among couples
from middle class professional backgrounds, where divorce rates are
known to be high.
"These people are extremely sensitive to making sure everything is
formal, laid out and contractual. That does make for a fairly fraught
relationship," he told the Daily Telegraph.
"The more you organise your relationship, the more you work out
diaries and schedules, the more it becomes a business relationship
than an intimate, loving spontaneous one.
"That tends to encourage a conflict of interest rather than finding
harmonious resolutions."
"In a good relationship people simply don't know who does what and
don't particularly care. Unless marriage is a relationship above anything
else, then whenever there are tensions or contradictions things come to a
head. You have less capacity to forgive and absorb the bad stuff."
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Tips for Men
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Tips for Men
1. Practice lucidity
2. Be present
3. Ask if unsure: What do you want me to be doing right now?
4. Ask for specifics: Show me? How many percentage?
5. Let go of your ego
6. Sometimes love not expressed is love not received. She needs to hear it, see it, feel it.
7. Remember she is all heart
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Tips for Women
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Tips for Women
1. Give him ‘face’
2. Pose as a question
3. Suggest
4. Believe him – men usually tell the truth; more straight forward
5. Be concise
6. Be clear about your options and desired outcomes
7. Schedule sex
8. Invite him to open his heart
1. Don’t be a nag i.e. keep repeating
2. Don’t go on and on
3. Don’t shout
4. Don’t be sacrastic
5. Don’t assume
6. Don’t internalise – it’s not always your fault
7. Don’t baby him (esp mothers)
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"Choose a man who makes you
open more deeply than you have
been so far able to take yourself.
But also choose a man who takes
you deeper than you would go by
taking turns navigating, him
expecting that you will take charge
half the time."
– David Deida
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Thank you!
Martha Lee
Clinical Sexologist
Eros Coaching Pte Ltd
Website: www.eroscoaching.com
Email: [email protected]