things that destroy us- bad friends

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THINGS THATDESTROY US

(BAD

FRIENDS)


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OUR EMOTIONS, FEELINGS

AND THOUGHTS WE TALK TO THEM (IN TIMES OFHAPPINESS OR TROUBLES)

LAUGH WITH THEM SHARE BREAKING NEWS WITH THEM

TAKE ADVICE FROM THEM WHEN

MAKING DECISIONS (WE TEST OURIDEAS AND PLANS ON FRIENDS).

TALK ABOUT OUR DREAMS WITH

THEM


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WHO IS A FRIEND?

A PERSON ATTACHED TO ANOTHERBY FEELINGS OF AFFECTION ORPERSONAL REGARD.

A PERSON WHO GIVES ASSISTANCE;PATRON, SUPPORTER.

A PERSON YOU KNOW WELL ANDREGARD WITH AFFECTION ANDTRUST.


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JOHN 15:1515Henceforth I call you not servants;

for the servant knoweth not what his

lord doeth: but I have called youfriends; for all things that I have heardof my Father I have made known untoyou.


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1 CORINTHIANS

15:3333 Do not be misled: Badcompany corrupts goodcharacter.


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21ST CENTURY

VERSION

DONT JOKE WITH IT,BAD FRIENDS WILL

MESS YOU UP.


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REAL LIFE STORIES


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WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT FRIENDSINTRO: Webster defines a friend as: 1. one who is attached to another by affection, esteem, or respect. one who desires his company

one who seeks and promotes his happiness and prosperity and one who is opposed to his foes or enemies. 2. It means to support or aid or favor.3. But what does the Bible say?I. WHAT IS A FRIEND?THE BIBLE SAYS: PRO 17:17 PRO 27:6 JOB 6:14

PRO 27:4 ECCL 4:9-12 PRO 18:24

FROM THIS WE LEARN:

1. A friend is loyal in his support in both good and bad times. Pro 17:172. A friend is faithful even when he must disagree with our position. Pro 27:63. A friend is one who feels our pain and expresses pity during times of adversity. Job 6:144. A friend is one who lifts the heart and brings encouragement and hope. Pro 27:95. A friend is one who makes us stronger. Eccl 4:9-126. A friend overcomes our loneliness and always seems to be there when needed. Pro 18:24II. HOW DO YOU FIND AND KEEP FRIENDS?

THE BIBLE SAYS: PRO 18:24 PRO 19:6 AMOS 3:3 PRO 27:10PRO 25:17; 27:14 PRO 6:1-3; 17:18 PRO 16:28 PRO 17:9 I COR 13:4-7

FROM THIS WE LEARN:

1. To make friends, we must do our part by being friendly. Pro 18:242. Generosity attracts people and provides the opportunity to develop friends. Pro 19:63. Friends are found with those who we agree with. Amos 3:34. We make and keep friends by not abandoning them when they need us. Pro 27:105. To keep friends, we must be considerate of their needs. Pro 25:17; 27:14

6. Though generosity is encouraged, over extending ones help can bring great damage to a

friendship.


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7. Gossip can separate even the best of friends. Pro 16:288. Be careful who you listenespecially when it concerns your friends. Pro 17:99. Friends are not jealous, envious, or in competition with each other. I Cor 13:4-7III. DOES THE BIBLE HAVE EXAMPLES OF GOOD FRIENDS?

THE BIBLE SAYS: II CHRON 20:7; ISA 41:8 I SAM 20:30-33; 23:16-17II SAM 1:26 ACTS 10:24 JN 15:14-15

FROM THIS WE LEARN:

1. Abraham was called the friend of God. II Chron 20:7; Isa 41:82. Jonathan was a friend of David.A. He interceded for his friend. I Sam 20:30-33B. He strengthened David in his faith and assured David that he was with him. I Sam 23:16-17C. His loyal support brought great inner peace to David. II Sam 1:263. Cornelius gathered his friends to hear the Gospel and to be saved. Acts 10:244. Jesus is our friend if we seek to live in harmony with Him. Jn 15:14-15IV. WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT THE WRONG KINDS OF FRIENDS?

THE BIBLE SAYS: JOB 16:20 II SAM 13:3 PRO 2:10

PRO 22:24-25 AMOS 3:3 II COR 6:14-17 PRO 26:20

FROM THIS WE LEARN:

1. Those who continue to offer wrong council. Job 16:202. Those who get you to do wrong things. II Sam 13:33. Those who character is devoid of decent things. Pro 2:104. Those who are filled with anger and bitterness. Pro 22:24-255. Those who lifestyle, goals, and philosophy of life conflict with Christian teachings. Amos 3:3; II Cor 6:14-17

6. Those who seek to separate you from your loved ones. Pro 26:20


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WHO ARE BAD FRIENDS?


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4 THINGS THEY DO TO

YOU


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1. THEY INFLUENCE YOU

WITH WRONGSUGGESTIONS.


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2. INTRODUCE YOU TO

DESTRUCTIVE OR SELF-DEFEATING HABITS


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YOU ARE WHERE YOU

ARE TODAY BECAUSE OFTHE FRIENDS YOU MAKE


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SMALL MINDS DISCUSSPEOPLE, AVERAGE MINDS

DISCUSS EVENTS, GREATMINDS DISCUSS IDEAS


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3. BAD FRIENDS ISOLATE

YOU FROM SOURCES OFGOOD COUNSEL.


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4. THEY INFEST YOU WITH

THEIR OWN WEAKNESSES


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IF A PERSON YOU KNOWSTARTS TO DEVELOP A

BAD HABIT, CHECK THEKIND OF PEOPLE HES

EXPOSED TO.


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3 SPECIFIC BAD

FRIENDS YOU MUSTGET RID OF


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1. THE

SCORNFUL


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WHAT IS SCORN?

TO TREAT OR REGARD WITH CONTEMPT, DISRESPECT ORDISDAIN.TO MOCK, RIDICULE OR MAKE FUN OF.


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PSALM 1:11 Blessed is theone

who does notwalk in step withthe wicked

or stand in theway that sinnerstake

or sit in the


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CHARACTERISTICS

OF THE SCORNFUL


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1. THEY MAKE FUN OF THE

THINGS OF GOD


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2. THEY USEINTELLIGENCE AND

HUMOUR TO DEFEND SIN


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3. THEY GLAMOURISE SIN

WITHOUT ANY SHAME.


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4. THEY PRESSURISE YOU

TO JOIN THEM IN SIN.


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2. THE

ANGRY

PERSON


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PROVERBS22:24-2524 Do not make

friends with a hot-tempered person,do not

associate with oneeasily angered,25 or you may

learn their ways


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CHARACTERISTICS

OF AN ANGRYPERSON


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1. THEY HAVE A PROBLEM

WITH EVERYONE


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2. THEY ARE ALWAYSBITTER, UNFORGIVING

AND VENGEFUL.


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3. THEY CREATE A SIEGE

MENTALITY WITHIN YOU.


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4. THEY CONTROL YOU

THROUGH UNJUSTIFIEDANGER


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3. THE

BACKSTABBE

R


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PSALM 55:12-1512 If an enemy were insulting me,

I could endure it;if a foe were rising against me,

I could hide.13 But it is you, a man like myself,my companion, my close friend,

14 with whom I once enjoyed sweet

fellowshipat the house of God,as we walked about

among the worshipers.

15 Let death take my enemies by


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PSALM 55: 20-21

20 My companion attacks his friends;he violates his covenant.

21 His talk is smooth as butter,yet war is in his heart;

his words are more soothing than oil,yet they are drawn swords.


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PSALM 35:14-

1514 I went aboutmourning

as though for my

friend or brother.I bowed my head ingrief

as though weeping

for my mother.15 But when I stumbled,they gathered in glee;

assailants gatheredagainst me without my


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PSALM 41:7-97 All my enemieswhisper togetheragainst me;

they imagine theworst for me, saying,8 A vile disease hasafflicted him;

he will never get up

from the place where helies.9 Even my close friend,

someone I trusted,

one who shared my


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GOD, PROTECT ME FROMMY FRIENDS, AS FOR MY

ENEMIES I CAN TAKE CAREOF THEM.


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CHARACTERISTICS OF A

BACKSTABBER


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1. THEY OFFER

FRIENDSHIP BUT PRACTISEHYPOCRISY


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2. THEY TAKE ADVANTAGEOF YOUR LOVE AND

GENEROSITY WITHOUTGIVING BACK ANYTHING


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3. THEY CANNOT STANDYOUR ACHIEVEMENTS IN

LIFE.


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4. THEY BETRAY YOU FORPERSONAL ADVANTAGES

HOW TO


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HOW TOCHOOSE

GOOD

FRIENDS


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PROVERBS

12:2626 The righteous choosetheir friends carefully,

but the way of thewicked leads them astray.


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PROTOCOL FOR

FRIENDSHIPOUTER COURTINNER COURTINNERMOST COURT

SELECT YOUR FRIENDS.Only after passing the matriculation of experience


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Only after passing the matriculation of experienceand the examination of fortune willthey be graduates not alone in affection but indiscernment. Though this is the most importantthing in life, it is the one least cared for.

Intelligence brings friends to some, chance tomost. Yet a man is judged by his friends, forthere was never agreement between wise menand fools. At the same time, to find pleasurein a man's society is no proof of near friendship: it may come from the pleasantness of his

company more than from trust in his capacity.There are some friendships legitimate, othersillicit ; the latter for pleasure, the formerfor their fecundity of ideas and motives. Feware the friends of a man's self, most those ofhis circumstances. The insight of a true

friend is more useful than the goodwill ofothers : therefore gain them by choice, not bychance. A wise friend wards off worries, afoolish one brings them about.

BALTASAR GRACIAN

LEVELS OF


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LEVELS OF

FRIENDSHIPNEIGHBOURACQUAINTANCEMATE/COLLEAGUEFRIENDCLOSE FRIENDMARRIAGE


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OF OUR LORD JESUS

CHRISTJesus feeds the 5000.- Luke 9:10-17Jesus sends out the 72 apostles.-Luke

10:1-24

Jesus chooses the 12 disciples.- Luke6:12-16

Jesus sends 3 disciples (Peter, Jamesand John) to the mountain to pray.-Matthew 17:1-13

Jesus favourite disciple wasJohn.-John


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DO NOT MAKE MISTAKES ABOUT

CHARACTER.That is the worst and yet easiest error.Better be cheated in the price than inthequality of goods. In dealing with men,morethan with other things, it is necessary tolookwithin. To know men is different from

knowing things. It is profoundphilosophy tosound the depths of feeling anddistinguishtraits of character. Men must be studiedas


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YOURSELF BEFORE

MAKING A FRIENDARE THEY COMMITED TO A GODLY LIFE?DO YOU ADMIRE AND RESPECT EACH OTHER?DO YOU HELP EACH OTHER TO BECOME BETTER?

ARE YOU THERE FOR EACH OTHER IN TIMES OF DIFFICULTIES?DO YOU CELEBRATE EACH OTHERS ACHIEVEMENTS?


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PROVERBS 17:17

17A friend loveth at all times,and a brother is born foradversity.


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PROVERBS 18:2424 A man of many companions may

come to ruin,but (A)there is a friend who stickscloser than a brother.

MAKE USE OF YOUR FRIENDS.
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MAKE USE OF YOUR FRIENDS.This requires all the art of discretion.Some are good afar off, some when near.Many are no good at conversation but excellentas correspondents, for distance removes

some failings which are unbearable in closeproximity to them. Friends are for use evenmore than for pleasure, for they have the threequalities of the Good, or, as some say, of Beingin general : unity, goodness, and truth. Fora friend is all in all. Few are worthy to be

good friends, and even these become fewerbecause men do not know how to pick themout. To keep is more important than tomake friends. Select those that will wearwell ; if they are new at first, it is someconsolation they will become old. Absolutely

the best are those well salted, though they mayrequire soaking in the testing. There is nodesert like living without friends. Friendshipmultiplies the good of life and divides theevil. Tis the sole remedy against misfortune,the very ventilation of the soul.

MATTHEW 26:6-12


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MATTHEW 26:6 12

JESUS ANOINTED AT BETHANY6 While Jesus was in Bethany in the home of Simon theLeper, 7 a woman came to him with an alabaster jar of

very expensive perfume, which she poured on his head ashe was reclining at the table. 8 When the disciples sawthis, they were indignant. Why this waste? they asked.9 This perfume could have been sold at a high price andthe money given to the poor.10 Aware of this, Jesus said to them, Why are you

bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing tome. 11 The poor you will always have with you,[a] butyou will not always have me. 12 When she poured this

perfume on my body, she did it to prepare me for burial.13 Truly I tell you, wherever this gospel is preached

throughout the world, what she has done will also betold, in memory of her.

JUDAS AGREES TO BETRAY JESUS14 Then one of the Twelvethe one called Judas Iscariot

went to the chief priests 15 and asked, What are you

willing to give me if I deliver him over to you? So theycounted out for him thirt ieces of silver. 16 From then
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THE FARMER AND THE STORK(YOU'LL BE TREATED ACCORDING TO

THE COMPANY YOU KEEP)A farmer set traps to catch cranes,

which were pests and were eatinghis crops. Inspecting the traps hefound a number of cranes, and alsoa stork, which pleaded to be let go,because storks are not pests and do

not take the crops. But the farmerrefused, saying, "I don't care whoyou are - you're with the cranes who

ruin my crops and so you'll suffer"


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DONT JOKEWITH IT, BADFRIENDS WILL

MESS YOU UP!!!

IF SOMEONE DOES NOT FIT TO BE YOUR FRIEND STARTTHE PROCESS OF DISENGAGEMENT.


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PRAY TO GOD TOHELP YOU BE AGOOD FRIEND.vPRAY TO GOD TOHELP YOU MAKE

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