"Everyone thinks of

changing the

World, But no one

thinks of changing

himself.”

- Leo Tolstoy

Lupton, Robert D. (2011-10-11). Toxic Charity: How the Church Hurts Those They Help and How to Reverse It (p. 5). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.

As compassionate people, we have been evaluating our charity by the rewards we receive through service, rather than the benefits received by the served. We have failed to adequately calculate the effects of our service on the lives of those reduced to objects of our pity and patronage.

Lupton, Robert D. (2011-10-11). Toxic Charity: How the Church Hurts Those They Help and How to Reverse It (p. 4). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.

Giving to those in need what they could be gaining from their own initiative may well be the kindest way to destroy people.

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An Oath for Compassionate Service

1. Never do for the poor what they have (or could have) the capacity to do for themselves.

2. Limit one-way giving to emergency situations.

3. Strive to empower the poor through employment, lending, and investing, using grants sparingly to reinforce achievements.

An Oath for Compassionate Service

4. Subordinate self-interests to the needs of those being served.

5. Listen closely to those you seek to help, especially to what is not being said – unspoken feelings may contain essential clues to effective service.

6. Above all, do no harm.

In developing countries where people must constantly hustle simply to survive, a work ethic is almost a given.

Not so in a culture like the United States, where the welfare system has fostered generations of dependency and has severely eroded the work ethic.

Lupton, Robert D. (2011-10-11). Toxic Charity: How the Church Hurts Those They Help and How to Reverse It (p. 121). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.

• Give once and you elicit appreciation;

• Give twice and you create anticipation;

• Give three times and you create expectation;

• Give four times and it becomes entitlement;

• Give five times and you establish dependency.

Lupton, Robert D. (2011-10-11). Toxic Charity: How the Church Hurts Those They Help and How to Reverse It (p. 130). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.

•Are recipients assuming greater levels of control over their own lives or do they show up, year after year, with their hands out?

• Is leadership emerging among the served?

• Are their aspirations on the rise?

• Is there a positive trajectory?

Lupton, Robert D. (2011-10-11). Toxic Charity: How the Church Hurts Those They Help and How to Reverse It (pp. 106-107). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.

Questions To Ask

If we are Bringing resources, without also helping people Build those resources, we are keeping them trapped in a cycle of poverty.

To better understand people from poverty,

the definition of poverty will be

“the extent to which an individual does without resources.”

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Reprinted with permission. Copyright J. Pfarr Consulting.

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“And when the best leader’s

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the peoplesay, “We did it

ourselves!” -Lao-tsu

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