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Table ofC ontents

E x p lo ra tio n 1 : V isio n ....................................................................... 3

E x p lo ra tio n 2 : W h y ......................................................................... 8

E x p lo ra tio n 3 : W h a t w o rk s?..............................................................1 3

E x p lo ra tio n 4 : W h a t’s m issin g ?..........................................................1 7

E x p lo ra tio n 5 : W h a t’s n e x t? .............................................................2 2

Exploration 6: Focus..........................................................................................26

Exploration 7: Your“C” Factor...........................................................................29



E x p lo ra tio n 1 : V isio n

T h e Scie n ce o f C re a tin g Y o u r D re a m : S o u n d s lik e a n o x y m o ro n , d o e sn ’t it? H o wc a n sc ie n ce p o ssib ly re la te to d re a m s? O n e is h a rd , fa st a n d p ro v e d w ithe v id e n c e , a n d o n e is a iry , fa iry , fa n ta sy a n d w ish e s, rig h t? W e ll, m a y b e a n dm a y b e n o t. L e t’s ta k e a lo o k a t a fe w th in g s to se e w h a t w e c a n se e .

Is e le c tric ity a d re a m ? In so m e p a rts o f th e w o rld , y e s it is, b u t it is a re a le n o u g h a c tu a lity in th is c o u n try th a t w e fe e l w e a ll h a v e a n in a lie n a b le rig h t toit. W e c a n m e a su re it, c o u n t it, ro u n d it u p a n d p ro v e it e x ists. B a ck b e fo reB e n F ra n k lin sta rte d tin k e rin g a ro u n d w ith k its a n d lig h te n in g , e le ctric ity w a sju st a d re a m , w a sn ’t it?

Is h u m a n flig h t a d re a m ? W e ll w e w h iz th ro u g h th e sk ie s e ve ry d a y so m u chth a t w e h a ve to h a ve tra ffic c o p s, in o th e r w o rd s a ir tra ffic c o n tro lle rs, tom a k e su re th a t w e d o n ’t ru n in to o n e a n o th e r u p th e re . W e c a n w a lk th ro u g hc o u n tle ss c a lcu la tio n s a n d sc ie n tific re a so n s w h y flig h t is p o ssib le , b u t w h e nth e W rig h t B ro th e rs g o t sta rte d , h u m a n flig h t w a s ju st p la in cra zy , w a sn ’t it?

T h e tru th is th e sa m e w ith y o u r d re a m a n d m in e . T h e y m a y se e m lik e c ra z yfa n ta sie s, b u t th e re is a sc ie n ce to th e m a s w e ll. T h e re is a m e th o d ic ,m e a su ra b le , c a lcu la b le re a so n th a t yo u c a n h a v e y o u r d re a m s a n d th a t th e y d oe x ist. T h e c a tc h is th a t th e re st o f th e w o rld o n ly se e s th e sc ie n tificin e v ita b ility o f th o se d re a m s o n c e y o u ’ve a lre a d y a ch ie v e d th e m . T h e p ro o f isth e re fo r e ve ry o n e e lse , o n ly a fte r th e fa c t.

T h e m a g ica l p a rt th o u g h , is th e re a lity a n d th e sc ie n tific fe a sib ility o f it isth e re a ll a lo n g . B e n ja m in F ra n k lin d id n ’t in v e n t e le c tric ity . It h a d a lw a y s b e e nth e re . H e o n ly d isc o v e re d it. T h e W rig h t B ro th e rs d id n ’t in v e n t h u m a n flig h t.T h e y d isc o ve re d h o w to d o it. O u r d re a m s a lre a d y e x ist, th e y a re ju st w a itin gfo r u s to fin d th e m , w a itin g fo r u s to b rin g th e m in to th e w o rld .

S o w h a t d re a m d o y o u w a n t to sta rt c re a tin g to d a y ? B ig o r sm a ll, w o rldc h a n g in g o r co m p a ra tiv e ly m u n d a n e , y o u r d re a m s a re y o u rs fo r a re a so n . Y o ua re th e o n e w h o is su p p o se d to m a k e th e m c o m e tru e . N o w th e ta sk m ig h tse e m a little d a u n tin g , e sp e c ia lly w h e n y o u h a v e b ig d re a m s. T h a t is w h y w ec re a te d th is p ro c e ss: th e sc ie n c e o f cre a tin g y o u r d re a m s.

O u r g o a l, v is-à-v is o u r d re a m a t H e a lth y W e a lth y n W ise , is to h e lp m a k e y o u rd re a m a re a lity , to h e lp y o u b e c o m e th a t p e rso n th a t y o u k n o w d o w n in th ed e e p e st p a rt o f y o u r so u l th a t y o u c a n b e c o m e : th e o n e w h o liv e s in th o sed re a m s. Y o u k n o w th e o n e . T h e o n e y o u se cre tly lo n g to b e b u t th e th o u g h tle a ve s y o u m o re th a n slig h tly te rrifie d w ith b u tte rflie s in th e p it o f y o u rsto m a c h , w h ile th a t little k n o w -it-a ll v o ic e in th e b a c k o f y o u r h e a d p ip e s u pa n d sa ys, “W h o a re y o u k id d in g ? W h a t d o y o u th in k y o u a re ? W h y d o n ’t y o uc o m e b a c k to th e re a l w o rld n o w ?”



F o r th e n e x t 2 0 m in u te s o r so in ch a p te r o n e , y o u h a ve a ve ry im p o rta n ta ssig n m e n t, a n d it is g o in g to b e th e n u m b e r-o n e m o st im p o rta n t th in g y o u ca nd o to c re a te th o se d re a m s. W a n t to k n o w w h a t it is?

S te p n u m b e r o n e : g o g e t a ro ll o f d u c t ta p e . If y o u d o n ’t h a ve a ro ll o f d u c tta p e , I w a n t y o u to p u t it o n th e sh o p p in g list rig h t n o w , b e c a u se it isim p o rta n t.

N o w g o in to a ro o m w h e re y o u w o n ’t b e d istu rb e d fo r a t le a st 2 0 m in u te s a n d ify o u h a v e sm a ll c h ild re n a t h o m e , w a it u n til th e y h a v e g o n e to b e d . Y o u n e e dp e a c e a n d q u ie t to d o th is.

O k a y , n o w w e a re re a d y . I w a n t y o u to te a r o ff a p ie c e o f th a t ro ll o f d u c tta p e , stic k it o v e r th a t little m o u th in th e vo ic e in y o u r h e a d . N o w p u ttin g d u ctta p e in yo u r h a ir m ig h t n o t b e th e b e st o f id e a s, so ju st p u t it so m e w h e rew h e re y o u w ill se e it fo r th e re st o f th e e x e rc ise . W h e n e v e r th a t little v o ic etrie s to p ip e u p a n d m o u th o ff, y o u lo o k d ire c tly a t th a t ta p e a n d y o u sa y ,“S o rry , I ca n ’t h e a r y o u . Y o u ’ve g o t to sh u t u p fo r th e n e x t 2 0 m in u te s.” O k a y ,y o u h a v e g o t to g e t it to b e q u ie t.

A ll rig h t, w a it. I k n o w th a t th is so u n d s p re tty rid ic u lo u s, b u t b e lie v e m e ,c re a tin g d re a m s m e a n s d o in g th in g s a little o u t o f th e o rd in a ry . It m e a n sg e ttin g o u t o f o u r c o m fo rt z o n e fo r a fe w m in u te s a n d b e in g w illin g to d oso m e th in g th a t th e re st o f th e w o rld m ig h t th in k is ju st a little b it w e ird . D o n ’tw o rry . Y o u a re in h e re b y y o u rse lf. R e m e m b e r n o b o d y is g o in g to d istu rb y o ua n d e v e n th o u g h I a m h e re , I ca n ’t se e y o u .

O k a y , so w e h a v e th e b ra tty little v o ice tie d u p a n d n o w w e c a n g e t sta rte d . Iw a n t y o u to sit q u ie tly a n d ta k e a slo w , d e e p b re a th to c le a r y o u r m in d . W h e nth e m in d c h a tte r sta rts to d rift a w a y , a sk y o u rse lf th is q u e stio n . W h a t d re a md o I w a n t to cre a te first? Ju st sit th e re a n d le t it p e rc o la te u n til y o u h a ve o n ec le a r a n sw e r.

It c a n b e a n y th in g fro m lo sin g 1 5 p o u n d s to lo o k g re a t fo r y o u r re u n io n tob rin g in g a b o u t w o rld p e a c e o r a n y th in g in b e tw e e n . It d o e sn ’t m a tte r w h a t th ed re a m is, th e ste p s to m a n ife st it a n d m a k e it re a l a re th e sa m e .

O k a y , h a v e y o u g o t th a t d re a m firm ly in y o u r m in d , a n d y o u a re su re th a t th is isth e o n e y o u w a n t to w o rk o n , rig h t? O k a y . W e a re g o in g to sta rt th e p ro c e ssto d a y a n d w o rk o n it ste p b y ste p th ro u g h o u r n e x t six e x e rc ise s (c h a p te rs). Isu g g e st th a t y o u w o rk o n o n e e a ch w e e k . W h e n w e a re fin ish e d , y o u w ill k n o we x a c tly w h a t y o u n e e d to d o to m a k e y o u r d re a m a re a lity .

S o , a re y o u re a lly re a d y to g e t sta rte d ? G re a t. T h e sc ie n ce o f c re a tin g y o u rd re a m s re a lly b e g in s w ith se e in g y o u r d re a m o r c re a tin g th e v isio n o f y o u r



d re a m . W h a t is th e v isio n a n d w h y is it im p o rta n t? W e ll, y o u h a v e h e a rd th e o ldsa y in g s, “Se e in g is b e lie v in g ,” “W h a t yo u se e is w h a t y o u g e t”, “If y o u ca n se eit, y o u ca n a ch ie v e it.” W e ll th e o p p o site is tru e to o .

If y o u ca n ’t se e it in y o u r m in d ’s e y e , y o u ca n ’t b e lie v e it, y o u w o n ’t g e t it,a n d y o u c e rta in ly c a n ’t a c h ie ve it. T h is c o n c e p t o f v isio n , in cre a tin g a v isio n ,is a s o ld a s m a n a n d h a s b e e n sp o k e n a b o u t th ro u g h th e a g e s. I a m g o in g to g oth ro u g h a c o u p le o f th in g s p e o p le th ro u g h o u t h isto ry h a ve sa id .

F lo re n ce S c o ve l Sh in n sa ys, “E v e ry g re a t w o rk , e v e ry b ig a c c o m p lish m e n t, h a sb e e n b ro u g h t in to m a n ife sta tio n th ro u g h h o ld in g to th e v isio n .”

R o b e rt H e in le in , a fa m o u s sc ie n c e -fic tio n w rite r sa id , “E v e ry th in g isth e o re tic a lly im p o ssib le u n til it is d o n e . O n e c o u ld w rite a h isto ry o f sc ie n c e inre ve rse b y a sse m b lin g th e so u n d p ro n o u n ce m e n t o f th e h ig h e st a u th o rity a b o u tw h a t c o u ld n o t b e d o n e a n d c o u ld n e ve r h a p p e n .” S o u n d fa m ilia r?

F ro m B o b K a ll, “G u id o th e P lu m b e r, a n d M ic h e la n g e lo o b ta in e d th e ir m a rb lefro m th e sa m e q u a rry , b u t w h a t e a c h o n e sa y in th a t m a rb le m a d e th ed iffe re n ce b e tw e e n a n o b le m a n ’s sin k a n d a b rillia n t sc u lp tu re .”

L e w is P . Jo h n so n sa id , “T h e id e a is to se e k a v isio n th a t g iv e s y o u p u rp o se inlife a n d th e n to im p le m e n t th a t v isio n . T h e visio n b y itse lf is o n e h a lf, o n e p a rto f a p ro ce ss. It im p lie s th e n e c e ssity o f liv in g th a t v isio n . O th e rw ise th e v isio nw ill sin k b a ck in to itse lf.”

“If y o u c a n se e it, b e fo re y o u se e it, y o u w ill n e ve r se e it.” b y D r. J a ckG ra h a m .

H e le n K e lle r, “T h e m o st p a th e tic p e rso n in th e w o rld is so m e o n e w h o h a s sig h tb u t n o v isio n .”

P e te r N iv io Z a rle n g a , “B e c o m e to b e w h a t y o u m u st. Y o u h a v e a v isio n o fb e in g , a d re a m , a p u rp o se , a p rin c ip le . Y o u w ill b e c o m e w h a t y o u r v isio n is.”

I re a d th e fo llo w in g sto ry a n d it re a lly stru ck a c o rd w ith m e so I w a n t to sh a reit w ith y o u : It te lls u s w h y d re a m s a n d v isio n s a re so im p o rta n t. W h a t d o e s itsa y to y o u ? T h e sto ry is D re a m s fro m C h ick e n S o u p fo r th e V e te ra n ’s S o u l b o o kb y B ill G re e r:

W h e n w e w e re y o u n g w e h a d d re a m s a n d e x p e c ta tio n s. W e im a g in e d th in g s.W e c o u ld th in k a b o u t w h a t w e w a n te d to b e , w h a t w e w a n te d to d o , w h a tm a d e u s p ro u d a n d h a p p ie st a n d w h a t w e w o u ld b e c o m e . W e g re w u p a n dth in g s se e m e d to b e h a v in g th e ir o w n w a y .

W e a cce p t o u r su c c e ss a n d fa ilu re s a n d w e m o ve o n . T h e ra p id c h a n g e , th en e e d to d o u rg e n t th in g s, th e w o rk , th e p re ssu re a n d fa ilu re s a ll k ill p a rt o f o u r



v isio n . T h in g s h a v e ch a n g e d , b u t th e y c a n n o t re a lly ta k e a w a y th e d re a m s. W estill h a ve to d re a m o n , to v isu a lize o u r d e sire s, o u r w a n ts, a n d o u r v isio n o f o u rfu tu re , e v e n w h e n w e a re c o n sid e re d to o o ld fo r su ch th in g s.

C o lo n e l Sa n d e rs sta rte d h is b u sin e ss w h e n h e w a s 6 0 a n d sta rte d th e w h o lesu c ce ssfu l K F C b u sin e ss. T h e m a in th in g is n o t th e a g e , w h e th e r b e in g to o o ldo r to o y o u n g , b u t th e d e sire to d re a m o n a n d th e c o u ra g e to re a liz e it. V iv idv isu a liza tio n , ta k in g it to sle e p , th in k in g c o n sta n tly a b o u t it, ta lk in g a b o u t it,p la n n in g it, a d d in g a ll o f th e sp ice s to o u r d re a m s w ill m a k e u s a b it c lo se r toth e re a liza tio n o f o u r d re a m s.

E n tre p re n e u rsh ip sta rts w ith a d re a m , a sim p le w ish o f a tin y re sta u ra n to p e ra tio n o r a h u g e b u sin e ss o f re a l e sta te d e v e lo p m e n t, a m o d e st tra in in gc e n te r fo r E n g lish e d u c a tio n o r ju st a n y o th e r se lf e m p lo y m e n t, m o n e y -m a k in ge a rn in g fu n .

T h e a b ility to d re a m is o n e o f th e fin e q u a litie s o f th e h u m a n ra ce th a t o th e rsp e c ie s d o n o t p o sse ss. S o d re a m o n a n d p u t a d e a d lin e . M a k e it a g ia n t d re a m ,a tin y o n e , a n o ld e ve rla stin g o n e , a n e w fo u n d o n e , a h o b b y -re la te d o n e , ac h a n g e o f life o n e , a re lig io u s o n e , a stu p id o n e , a stro k e o f g e n iu s o n e , o r ju stw h a te ve r. Ju st c o n tin u e to d re a m o n . T h e n ju st g o a n d d o it.

W h e n w e sh u t th e d o u b tin g v o ice u p a n d w e d a re to d re a m , w h e n w e c le a rlyc a tc h th e v isio n o f th a t d re a m , w e a b so lu te ly m u st b e g in to c re a te it. T h a t ish o w w e a re w ire d a s h u m a n b e in g s. It is n a tu ra l. It is p a rt o f th e sc ie n c e o f h o ww e a re c re a te d . It is h u m a n n a tu re p la in a n d sim p le to c re a te th e v isio n s o f o u rd re a m s a n d to m a k e th e m re a l.

T h e o n ly re a so n w e m a y d o o th e rw ise is b e ca u se w e h a v e b e e n c o n d itio n e d b yo u r so c ie ty , b y th e p e o p le w h o lo v e u s a n d w a n t to p ro te c t u s, b y a z illio no u tsid e in flu e n c e s a n d b y o u r o w n ig n o ra n ce a s to w h a t w e ca n re a lly d o .

S o le t’s th ro w a ll th a t re stra in t a sid e a n d b e g in th e e x p lo ra tio n p ro ce ss fo r y o u rd re a m . G ra b y o u r w o rk b o o k a n d a p e n , sit d o w n , a n d c lo se y o u r e ye s a g a in .W e ’re c re a tin g th e v isio n , th e p ic tu re o f y o u r d re a m n o w . S o ta k e y o u rse lf in toth a t d re a m a n d b e c o m e a n a c tiv e p a rtic ip a n t in it. L o o k a ro u n d . W h a t d o y o use e ? W h a t d o e s y o u r d re a m lo o k lik e ? W h a t d o e s it fe e l lik e ? S m e ll a n d ta stelik e ? W h a t d o y o u h e a r th e re ? W h o is w ith y o u ? W h a t a re y o u d o in g ? W h e ree x a c tly a re y o u ? W h e n is it? W h a t tim e o f d a y o r w h a t ye a r is it?

C re a te a d e ta ile d p ic tu re o f th e e n tire e x p e rie n ce ; y o u k n o w , w ith w o rd s o ra c tu a l im a g e s. If y o u a re n o t u se d to d o in g th is k in d o f th in g d o n ’t w o rry . Y o uc a n ’t g e t it w ro n g . Y o u ca n ’t m a k e a m ista k e . Y o u ca n o n ly b e g in to se e , a n d ifth e im a g e isn ’t c le a r o r if y o u ca n ’t a n sw e r a ll th e q u e stio n s, d o n ’t w o rry .W rite w h a t y o u ca n fo r n o w a n d k e e p g o in g b a c k to yo u r d re a m o ve r th e n e x tfe w d a y s to c la rify a n d c rysta llize th e v isio n . M a k e th e p ictu re o f it a s c le a r a sy o u p o ssib ly c a n . K e e p re fin in g a n d n e x t tim e , w e w ill e x p lo re th e o n e th in g



th a t if y o u d o n ’t h a ve it c le a r in yo u r m in d w ill a b so lu te ly d e ra il a ll p o ssib ilitie so f y o u r d re a m b e c o m in g a re a lity .

O u r n e x t c o n ce p t is a b so lu te ly v ita l to th e cre a tio n o f y o u r d re a m a n d y o uc a n ’t sk ip it. B e lie v e m e , y o u d o n ’t w a n t to , b u t rig h t n o w y o u n e e d to g e tc le a r o n th a t v isio n b e c a u se w ith o u t it th e n e x t e x p lo ra tio n a n d a ll th e re st o fth e w o rk w e d o in th is se rie s w o n ’t d o yo u o n e b it o f g o o d . Y o u h a v e to h a veth e v isio n first.

S o u n til n e x t tim e , se e y o u r d re a m a n d h a v e a fa n ta stic d a y .



E x p lo ra tio n 2 : W h y

W h y a re y o u r d re a m s im p o rta n t to y o u ? In th e la st c h a p te r, w e ta lk e d a b o u tc a tc h in g th e v isio n o f y o u r d re a m a s th e first ste p in th e sc ie n ce o f c re a tin g it.I a lso to ld y o u th a t to d a y w e w o u ld e x p lo re so m e th in g th a t if y o u d id n ’t h a v e itc le a r in y o u r m in d , w h a t w o u ld a b so lu te ly d e ta il a ll p o ssib ility o f y o u r d re a mb e c o m in g a re a lity . W e ll, h e re w e a re , a n d I w o n ’t k e e p y o u in su sp e n se . W e ll,n o t to o m u ch a n y w a y .

F irst th in g s first: w e n e e d to g e t th e d u c t ta p e to k e e p th a t d o u b tin g littlev o ic e fro m c o n trib u tin g . I a m se rio u s a b o u t th a t. Y o u n e e d to h a ve a q u ie tp la c e w h e re y o u ca n b e u n d istu rb e d fo r 2 0 m in u te s, a n d y o u n e e d y o u r v isio nw o rk a n d y o u r w o rk b o o k fro m la st tim e .

O k a y . L e t’s g e t sta rte d . W h a t w e a re g o in g to w o rk o n to d a y is w h a t I c a ll y o u r“w h y”. It is th e re a so n th a t y o u w a n t to cre a te y o u r d re a m in th e first p la ce .N o w th is m ig h t so u n d a little stu p id a t first. I m e a n , y o u w a n t th e d re a mb e ca u se it is y o u r d re a m a n d yo u w a n t it, rig h t? W e ll, y e s, b u t a t th e sa m etim e , n o . T h e re a re a ll k in d s o f re a so n s th a t a p e rso n m a y w a n t th in g s. S o m e o fth o se re a so n s h a v e th e p o w e r to m o ve m o u n ta in s a n d so m e o f th e m c o u ld n ’tg e t a fly to m o v e in a h u rric a n e .

T h e re a re a lso a ll k in d s o f re a so n s th a t a p e rso n m a y th in k th e y ca n ’t h a vew h a t th e y w a n t. W h a t w e w a n t to d o to d a y is e x p lo re th e w h y s a n d th e w h yn o ts th a t g o a lo n g w ith y o u r d re a m , h o w th a t w ill h e lp y o u to a c h ie ve it a n dw h a t m ig h t try to sta n d in y o u r w a y , a n d w h y y o u a re g o in g to cre a te ita n y w a y .

V ic to r F ra n k l sa id , “A m a n w h o b e c o m e s co n sc io u s o f th e re sp o n sib ility h eb e a rs to w a rd s u s h u m a n b e in g s w h o a ffe c tio n a te ly w a it fo r h im o r w h o h a s a nu n fin ish e d w o rk , w ill n e ve r b e a b le to th ro w a w a y h is life . H e k n o w s th e “w h y”fo r h is e x iste n ce a n d w ill b e a b le to b e a r a lm o st a n y h o w .”

A u n g S a n Su n K y i sa ys, “A t th e ro o t o f h u m a n re sp o n sib ility is th e c o n ce p t o fp e rfe c t, th e u rg e to a c h ie ve it, th e in te llig e n c e to fin d th e p a th to w a rd it a n dth e w ill to fo llo w th a t p a th , if n o t to th e e n d a t le a st th e d ista n ce n e e d e d torise a b o ve in d iv id u a l lim ita tio n s a n d e n v iro n m e n ta l im p e d im e n ts.”

“T h e b e st ye a rs o f y o u r life a re th e o n e s in w h ic h y o u d e c id e y o u r p ro b le m s a rey o u r o w n . Y o u d o n o t b la m e th e m o n y o u r m o th e r, th e e c o lo g y , o r th ep re sid e n t. Y o u re a lize y o u c o n tro l y o u r o w n d e stin y” fro m A lb e rt E llis.



F ro m E c c le sia ste s 3 , ve rse s 1 -8 :

1F o r e ve ry th in g th e re is a se a so n ,A n d a tim e fo r e ve ry m a tte r u n d e r h e a v e n :

2A tim e to b e b o rn , a n d a tim e to d ie ;A tim e to p la n t, a n d a tim e to su ck u p w h a t is p la n te d ;

3A tim e to k ill, a n d a tim e to h e a l;A tim e to b re a k d o w n , a n d a tim e to b u ild u p ;

4A tim e to w e e p , a n d a tim e to la u g h ;A tim e to m o u rn , a n d a tim e to d a n ce ;

5A tim e to th ro w a w a y sto n e s, a n d a tim e to g a th e r sto n e sto g e th e r;

A tim e to e m b ra ce , a n d a tim e to re fra in fro m e m b ra c in g ;6A tim e to se e k , a n d a tim e to lo se ;A tim e to k e e p , a n d a tim e to th ro w a w a y ;

7A tim e to te a r, a n d a tim e to se w ;A tim e to k e e p sile n ce , a n d a tim e to sp e a k ;

8A tim e to lo ve , a n d a tim e to h a te ;A tim e fo r w a r, a n d a tim e fo r p e a ce .

J im m y C a rte r sa id , “I h a v e o n e life a n d o n e ch a n ce to m a k e it c o u n t fo rso m e th in g . I a m fre e to ch o o se w h a t th a t so m e th in g is, a n d so m e th in g I h a v ec h o se n is m y fa ith . N o w m y fa ith g o e s b e y o n d th e o lo g y a n d re lig io n a n d itre q u ire s c o n sid e ra b le w o rk a n d e ffo rt. M y fa ith d e m a n d s, th is is n o t o p tio n a l.M y fa ith d e m a n d s th a t I d o w h a te v e r I ca n d o w h e re ve r I a m , w h e n e v e r I c a n ,fo r a s lo n g a s I c a n w ith w h a te v e r I h a ve to try to m a k e a d iffe re n ce .”

P a b lo P ic a sso sa id , “M y m o th e r sa id to m e , ‘If y o u b e c o m e a so ld ie r, y o u w illb e a g e n e ra l. If y o u b e c o m e a m o n k , y o u w ill e n d u p a s th e P o p e .’ In ste a d Ib e ca m e a p a in te r a n d w o u n d u p a s P ic a sso .”

R a b b i Z u sya sa ys, “In th e w o rld to c o m e , I sh a ll n o t b e a sk e d , ‘W h y w e re y o un o t M o se s?’ I sh o u ld b e a sk e d w h y w e re y o u n o t Z u sy a .”

W .E . G la d sto n e sa y s, “N e ve r fo rg e t th e p u rp o se fo r w h ich a m a n liv e s is th eim p ro v e m e n t o f th e m a n h im se lf so th a t h e m a y g o o u t o f th is w o rld h a v in g , inth is g re a t sp h e re o r a sm a ll o n e , d o n e so m e little g o o d fo r h is fe llo w c re a tu re sa n d la b o re d a little to d im in ish th e sin a n d so rro w th a t a re in th is w o rld .”

M a n y tim e s w h e n w e h a ve o u r d re a m in m in d , w e a re n o t firm ly a tta ch e d too u r “w h y” o r o u r re a so n fo r th e d re a m . W e ca n g e t d istra c te d a n d b lo w n o ffc o u rse , b u t w h e n w e u se o u r “w h y” a s o u r a n c h o r, w e c a n ’t b e m o v e d in th ew ro n g d ire c tio n . T h e fo llo w in g sto ry sh o u ld g iv e y o u a c le a r id e a o f w h a t Im e a n . It is ca lle d “T h e R o se ”:

J o h n B la n ch a rd sto o d u p fro m th e b e n c h , stra ig h te n e d h is a rm y u n ifo rm a n dstu d ie d th e c ro w d o f p e o p le m a k in g th e ir w a y th ro u g h G ra n d C e n tra l S ta tio n .



H e lo o k e d fo r th e g irl w h o se h e a rt h e k n e w , b u t w h o se fa ce h e d id n ’t: th e g irlw ith th e ro se .

H is in te re st in h e r h a d b e g u n 1 3 m o n th s b e fo re in a F lo rid a L ib ra ry . T a k in g ab o o k o ff th e sh e lf, h e fo u n d h im se lf in trig u e d , n o t w ith th e w o rd s o f th e b o o kb u t w ith th e n o te p e n c ile d in th e m a rg in . T h e so ft h a n d w ritin g re fle c te d ath o u g h tfu l so u l a n d a n in sig h tfu l m in d . In th e fro n t o f th e b o o k , h e d isc o v e re dth e p re v io u s o w n e r’s n a m e , M s. H o llis M a yn e ll.

W ith tim e a n d e ffo rt, h e lo c a te d h e r a d d re ss. Sh e live d in N e w Y o rk C ity . H ew ro te h e r a le tte r in tro d u c in g h im se lf a n d in v itin g h e r to co rre sp o n d . T h e n e x td a y h e w a s sh ip p e d o ve rse a s fo r se rv ice in W o rld W a r II. D u rin g th e n e x t y e a ra n d o n e m o n th , th e tw o g re w to k n o w e a ch o th e r th ro u g h th e ir m a il. E a chle tte r w a s a se e d fa llin g o n a fe rtile h e a rt. A ro m a n ce w a s b u d d e d .

B la n ch a rd re q u e ste d a p h o to g ra p h , b u t sh e re fu se d . S h e fe lt th a t if h e re a llyc a re d it w o u ld n ’t m a tte r w h a t sh e lo o k e d lik e . T h e d a y fin a lly ca m e fo r h im tore tu rn fro m E u ro p e a n d th e y sc h e d u le d th e ir first m e e tin g , 7 :0 0 P M a t G ra n dC e n tra l S ta tio n in N e w Y o rk . Y o u w ill re c o g n ize m e sh e w ro te , b y th e re d ro seI’ll b e w e a rin g o n m y la p e l.

S o a t 7 :0 0 o ’c lo ck , h e w a s in th e sta tio n lo o k in g fo r th e g irl w h o se h e a rt h elo v e d b u t w h o se fa ce h e h a d n e ve r se e n . I’ll le t M r. B la n c h a rd te ll y o u w h a th a p p e n e d n o w .

“A y o u n g w o m a n w a s c o m in g to w a rd s m e , h e r fig u re lo n g a n d slim . H e r b lo n dh a ir la y b a ck in cu rls fro m h e r d e lic a te e a rs. H e r e ye s w e re b lu e a s flo w e rs.H e r lip s a n d c h in h a d a g e n tle firm n e ss a n d h e r p a le g re e n su it w a s lik esp rin g tim e c o m e a live .

I sta rte d to w a rd h e r e n tire ly fo rg e ttin g to n o tice th a t sh e w a s n o t w e a rin g aro se . A s I m o v e d , a sm a ll p ro v o c a tiv e sm ile c u rv e d h e r lip s. “G o in g m y w a y ,S a ilo r,” sh e m u rm u re d . A lm o st u n co n tro lla b ly I m a d e o n e ste p c lo se r to h e r a n dth e n I sa w H o llis M a y n e ll. Sh e w a s sta n d in g a lm o st d ire c tly b e h in d th e g irl. Aw o m a n w e ll p a st 4 0 , sh e h a d g ra y in g h a ir tu c k e d u n d e r a w o rn h a t. Sh e w a sm o re th a n p lu m p . H e r th ic k a n k le d fe e t th ru st in to lo w h e e le d sh o e s.

T h e g irl in th e g re e n su it w a s w a lk in g q u ic k ly a w a y . I fe lt a s th o u g h I w a s sp litin tw o , so k e e n w a s m y d e sire to fo llo w h e r a n d ye t so d e e p w a s m y lo n g in g fo rth e w o m a n w h o se sp irit h a d tru ly co m p a n io n e d m e a n d u p h e ld m y o w n . A n dth e re sh e sto o d , h e r p a le p lu m p fa c e w a s g e n tle a n d se n sib le . H e r g re y e ye sh a d a w a rm a n d k in d ly tw in k le . I d id n ’t h e sita te .

M y fin g e rs g rip p e d th e sm a ll, w o rn , b lu e le a th e r c o p y o f th e b o o k th a t w a s toid e n tify m e to h e r. T h is w o u ld n o t b e lo v e , b u t it w o u ld b e so m e th in g p re c io u s:so m e th in g p e rh a p s e ve n b e tte r th a n lo ve , a frie n d sh ip fo r w h ic h I w o u ld e ve rb e g ra te fu l.

I sq u a re d m y sh o u ld e rs a n d sa lu te d , h e ld o u t th e b o o k to th e w o m a n e ve nth o u g h w h ile I sp o k e , I fe lt c h o k e d b y th e b itte rn e ss o f m y d isa p p o in tm e n t. “I



a m L ie u te n a n t Jo h n B la n ch a rd a n d y o u m u st b e M s. M a y n e ll. I a m so g la d yo uc o u ld m e e t m e . M a y I ta k e y o u to d in n e r?”

T h e w o m a n ’s fa ce b ro a d e n e d in to a to le ra n t sm ile . “I d o n ’t k n o w w h a t th is isa b o u t so n , sh e a n sw e re d , b u t th e y o u n g la d y in th e g re e n su it w h o ju st w e n tb y , sh e b e g g e d m e to w e a r th is ro se o n m y c o a t. A n d sh e sa id if y o u w o u ld a skm e o u t to d in n e r I sh o u ld g o a n d te ll y o u th a t sh e is w a itin g fo r y o u in th e b igre sta u ra n t a c ro ss th e stre e t. S h e sa id it w a s so m e k in d o f te st.”

S o Jo h n B la n ch a rd ’s d re a m w a s to fin d H o llis M a y n e ll. H is “w h y” w a s th a t h e ’dfa lle n in lo v e w ith h e r sp irit, a n d sh e w a s th e o n e fo r h im . H e d id n ’t lo se sig h to f h is “w h y” a n d h e e n d e d u p w ith th e w o m a n o f h is d re a m s.

A n o th e r m o re in -y o u r-fa ce illu stra tio n o f th e “w h y” c a n b e fo u n d in a lo t o fm a te ria l th a t is c ircu la tin g th e In te rn e t w o rld rig h t n o w . If y o u h a ve b e e no n lin e a n d y o u h a ve b e e n lo o k in g fo r m a rk e tin g tip s fo r m o re th a n a b o u t 1 5m in u te s, I a m su re y o u h a ve se e n o n e o f th e c h a lle n g e s o f th e In te rn e t g u ru sd o . T h e y u su a lly b e g in so m e th in g lik e th is:

“A rm e d g o o n s b re a k in to y o u r h o m e , tie u p y o u r sp o u se a n d ch ild re n a n dth re a te n to k ill th e m if y o u d o n ’t c o m e u p w ith $ 1 0 ,0 0 0 in th e n e x t 2 4 h o u rs.Y o u r b a n k a cc o u n t is e m p ty . Y o u r lin e s o f c re d it a re m a x e d a n d n o o n e ca nh e lp y o u . W h a t d o y o u d o ? H o w d o yo u c re a te th e $ 1 0 ,0 0 0 ?”

W e ll o f c o u rse th e a n sw e r u su a lly h a s so m e th in g to d o w ith w h a te ve r p ro d u c to r sy ste m th e y a re se llin g , b u t th e m o tiva tio n is a lw a y s th e sa m e . Y o u w ill d ow h a te v e r y o u h a v e to d o b e ca u se y o u r fa m ily ’s liv e s a n d y o u r o w n a re o n th elin e . Y o u w ill d o w h a te ve r it ta k e s a n d I b e t th a t if so m e b o d y b ro k e in to y o u rh o u se a n d th re a te n e d y o u w ith so m e th in g sim ila r, y o u w o u ld fin d a w a y toc o m e u p w ith th a t m o n e y .

In th a t situ a tio n , y o u r “w h y” h a s re a l p o w e r. O u r c h a lle n g e a n d o u r g re a to p p o rtu n ity to d a y is to fin d th e b ig g e st, stro n g e st “w h y” w e p o ssib ly c a n fo ry o u r d re a m s. W h ich “w h y” is stro n g e n o u g h to p u sh y o u th ro u g h th e d o u b t, th eo b sta c le s, a ll th e w h y n o ts th a t litte r th e p a th s to c re a tin g a n y a n d e ve ryd re a m ?

S o g o b a c k to th e p ic tu re o f y o u r d re a m , th e v isio n y o u cre a te d la st tim e iny o u r w o rk b o o k . C lo se y o u r e y e s a n d p u t y o u rse lf b a c k in to th e v isio n . W h y isth a t v isio n y o u rs? W h y is th a t d re a m im p o rta n t? W h a t c o u ld k e e p y o u fro ma ch ie v in g it? W h a t a re th e o b sta c le s th a t sta n d b e tw e e n y o u a n d c re a tin g yo u rd re a m ? W h a t d riv in g fo rce w ill p ro p e l y o u th ro u g h a n d b e y o n d th o se o b sta c le s?W h y w ill y o u a b so lu te ly , p o sitiv e ly , w ith o u t a d o u b t m a k e y o u r d re a m a re a lity ?

R e m e m b e r w ith o u t th is “w h y”, w ith o u t a re a so n a n d a p u rp o se stro n g e n o u g hto d ra w y o u to it, y o u r d re a m w ill re m a in ju st th a t, a d re a m . O u r p u rp o se h e reis to c re a te y o u r d re a m , to m a k e it re a l lik e th e W rig h t B ro th e rs d id w ith th e ir



a irp la n e . T o d a y is th e d a y y o u so lid ify a n d ca p tu re y o u r “w h y”, m a k e it re a l,m a k e it stro n g a n d g ive it p o w e r.

In ste p th re e o f o u r sc ie n tific -e x p lo ra tio n p ro c e ss w e a re g o in g to sta rtb re a k in g y o u r d re a m d o w n to se e h o w it w o rk s. Y o u w ill a c tu a lly b e g in to se ew h a t is a t th e co re o f it a n d h o w to c la rify th e stre n g th o f y o u r tie s, b u t rig h tn o w y o u n e e d y o u r “w h y”.

S o u n til n e x t tim e , se e y o u r d re a m a n d h a v e a fa n ta stic d a y .



E x p lo ra tio n 3 : W h a t w o rk s?

W h a t w o rk s fo r y o u ? A re y o u re a d y to g e t in to th e n itty g ritty o f w h a t m a k e sy o u r d re a m w o rk ? T h is is th e p a rt w h e re it re a lly sta rts to g e t e x c itin g . U p ton o w , y o u h a ve b e e n c la rify in g y o u r v isio n a n d m a k in g su re th a t y o u h a v e ag o o d , so lid a n d p o w e rfu l “w h y” to su p p o rt y o u .

T o d a y y o u a re g o in g to th in k a b o u t w h a t y o u a re d o in g a n d w h o y o u a re th a tw ill m a k e y o u r d re a m a re a lity . W e ca ll th is th e “W h a t w o rk s?” p h a se . A ll rig h t,a ll rig h t. Y o u a re p ro b a b ly th in k in g , “W h y o n e a rth d o I h a v e to fig u re o u t w h a tw o rk s if it is a ll g o in g rig h t? I w a n t to g e t o n w ith c h a n g in g th in g s.

A n y w a y , if I w e re d o in g th in g s rig h t, I’d a lre a d y h a ve m y d re a m , rig h t?” W e llju st h o ld o n to y o u r h o rse s, b e c a u se th is is re a lly im p o rta n t. R e m e m b e r th is is asc ie n tific p ro c e ss, a n d it w o rk s in ste p s. W e w a n t to fig u re o u t w h a t yo u a red o in g a n d w h o y o u a re b e in g th a t w o rk s so th a t w e d o n ’t sc re w it u p b y try in gto c h a n g e it. In e sse n c e , w e d o n ’t w a n t to th ro w th e b a b y o u t w ith th e b a thw a te r.

T h e o d d s a re y o u a re d o in g a ll k in d s o f th in g s rig h t th a t a re e sse n tia l to th ec re a tio n o f y o u r d re a m , a n d w e w a n t to m a k e su re th a t yo u k e e p d o in g th e m .W e w a n t to m a k e th e se th in g s th a t yo u a re d o in g , th a t m o v e y o u c lo se r to y o u rd re a m , stro n g e r a n d m o re p o w e rfu l. In sh o rt, w e w a n t to m a k e su re w e a rec re a tin g a n d stre n g th e n in g y o u r g o o d h a b its, y o u r b e st tra its, a n d b a sica llyw h a t w o rk s.

L ik e B a rb a ra B u sh sa id , “Y o u ju st d o n ’t w o rk in to th in g s a s m u ch a s y o u w o u ldlik e to th in k th a t y o u d o . Y o u b u ild ste p b y ste p .”

In fa c t th e re a re a w h o le lo t o f o th e r su c ce ssfu l d re a m cre a to rs w ith p le n ty tosa y o n th e su b je ct o f fin d in g o u t w h a t w o rk s a n d c u ltiva tin g it.

T y ro n E d w a rd s sa ys, “T h o u g h ts le a d o n to p u rp o se s. P u rp o se s g o fo rth ina c tio n . A c tio n s fo rm h a b its. H a b its d e c id e ch a ra c te r, a n d c h a ra c te r fix e s o u rd e stin y .”

V in c e L o m b a rd i sa y s, “W in n in g is a h a b it, a n d u n fo rtu n a te ly , so is lo sin g .”

H e n ry D a v id T h o re a u , “A s a sin g le fo o tste p w ill n o t m a k e a p a th o n th e e a rth ,so a sin g le th o u g h t w ill n o t m a k e a p a th w a y in th e m in d . T o m a k e a d e e pp h ysic a l p a th , w e w a lk a g a in a n d a g a in . T o m a k e a d e e p m e n ta l p a th , w e m u stth in k o v e r a n d o ve r th e k in d o f th o u g h ts w e w ish to d o m in a te o u r live s.”

E v e n u s (A n c ie n t G re e k P o e t), “H a b it, m y frie n d , is p ra c tic e d lo n g p u rsu it th a ta t la st b e c o m e s th e m a n h im se lf.”



O g M a n d in o , fro m T h e G re a te st Sa le sm a n in th e W o rld , “In tru th th e o n lyd iffe re n ce b e tw e e n th o se w h o h a v e fa ile d a n d th o se w h o h a v e su cc e e d e d lie sin th e d iffe re n ce o f th e ir h a b its. G o o d h a b its a re th e k e y to a ll su cc e ss. B a dh a b its a re u n lo c k e d d o o rs to fa ilu re . T h u s, th e first la w I w ill o b e y w h ichp re c e d e s a ll o th e rs is I w ill fo rm g o o d h a b its a n d b e c o m e th e ir sla ve .”

W illia m J a m e s, in th e P rin cip le s o f P sych o lo g y , sa y s, “T o m a k e o u r n e rv o u ssyste m o u r a lly in ste a d o f o u r e n e m y , w e m u st m a k e a u to m a tic a n d h a b itu a l,a s e a rly a s p o ssib le , a s m a n y u se fu l a c tio n s a s w e c a n .”

A n d fin a lly , A risto tle , “W e a re w h a t w e re p e a te d ly d o . E x c e lle n c e th e n is n o ta n a ct, b u t a h a b it.”

A lo n g th e p a th o f c re a tin g y o u r d re a m , th e re w ill b e m a n y tim e s w h e n y o u ’refa c e d w ith irrita tio n a n d se tb a ck s, c h a lle n g e s a n d a lte rn a te p a th s th a t m a y a tfirst lo o k lik e sh o rtcu ts. D u rin g th e se tim e s, it h e lp s to h a ve firm ly in y o u r m in dw h a t y o u a lre a d y d o th a t w o rk s. S o y o u c a n a s D o ry in D isn e y ’s F in d in g N e m osa ys, “ju st k e e p sw im m in g , ju st k e e p sw im m in g .” A n d fo r th a t m a tte r, ju stk e e p sw im m in g in th e rig h t d ire c tio n .

H e re is a le sso n fro m A R a in y D a y , w ritte n b y a w o m a n n a m e d G ra ce :

“O n A u g u st 2 6 th, 1 9 9 9 , N e w Y o rk C ity e x p e rie n ce d a to rre n tia l d o w n p o u r. T h ere le n tle ss ra in c a u se d th e stre e ts to flo o d . T h e N e w Y o rk C ity su b w a y sy ste mc a m e to a sc re e ch in g h a lt a s th e su b w a y sta tio n s w e re in u n d a te d w ith w a te r.U n fo rtu n a te ly , th is h a p p e n e d d u rin g th e m o rn in g ru sh h o u r. M a n y p e o p le w h ow e re g o in g to w o rk w e re stra n d e d a n d fo rc e d to g o h o m e . So m e b a ttle d w ithfe llo w N e w Y o rk e rs to h a il a c a b o r g e t o n a b u s. S till o th e rs b ra ve d th e sto rmw a lk in g m ile s to g e t to w o rk .

I h a p p e n e d to b e o n e o f th e p e o p le o n o u r w a y to w o rk th a t m o rn in g . I w e n tfro m su b w a y lin e to su b w a y lin e o n ly to fin d th a t m o st se rv ic e s h a d sto p p e d .A fte r ru n n in g a ro u n d lik e c ra z y a n d m a k in g m y w a y th ro u g h c ro w d s o f p e o p le , Ifin a lly fo u n d a su b w a y lin e th a t w a s o p e ra tin g . U n fo rtu n a te ly th e re w e re som a n y p e o p le w a itin g to b o a rd th e su b w a y, I co u ld n ’t e v e n g e t d o w n th e sta irsto th e p la tfo rm .

U n d a u n te d a n d d e te rm in e d to g e t to w o rk , I d e c id e d to ta k e th e tra in u p to w nse v e ra l sto p s a n d th e n sw itc h b a c k to th e d o w n to w n tra in . It w a s a h a ssle , b u tit p a id o ff. H o w e ve r, th e tra in g o t m o re a n d m o re p a c k e d a t e a c h sto p . P e o p lep u sh e d a n d sh o ve d a n d I w a s c o n sta n tly h it w ith e lb o w s a n d b a g s. F in a lly a fte rw h a t se e m e d lik e a n e te rn ity , th e tra in re a c h e d m y sto p , b u t th e jo u rn e y w a sn o t o v e r y e t. I w o u ld still h a ve to w a lk se ve ra l b lo ck s to g e t to m y o ffice .

T h e ra in h a d in te n sifie d a n d n o u m b re lla w a s e n o u g h to w ith sta n d th e fo rce s o fM o th e r N a tu re . W h e n I fin a lly g o t to w o rk , I w a s c o m p le te ly so a k e d a n d le ft a



p u d d le o f w a te r e ve ry w h e re I sa t. I w a s a lso e x h a u ste d a n d d isc o u ra g e d fro mm y c o m m u te . M y c o -w o rk e rs a n d I sp e n t m o st o f th e d a y d ry in g o ff.

W h e n fiv e o ’c lo ck ro lle d a ro u n d , I w a s re a d y to g o h o m e . I w a s a b o u t to lo g o ffm y c o m p u te r w h e n I re ce ive d a n e m a il fro m G a rth , m y d e p u ty d ire c to r. Io p e n e d th e e m a il a n d fo u n d th e fo llo w in g m e ssa g e . “I w o u ld lik e to th a n k a ll o fth o se a sso c ia te s w h o m a d e th e e ffo rt a n d e v e n tu a lly re p o rte d to w o rk . It isa lw a y s re a ssu rin g a t tim e s lik e th e se w h e n e m p lo y e e s so c le a rly d e m o n stra teth e ir d e d ica tio n to th e ir jo b . T h a n k y o u .”

A s y o u c a n se e , G a rth ’s e m a il w a s sh o rt, b u t I le a rn e d m o re fro m th a t b rie fm e ssa g e th a n I e v e r d id fro m a te x t b o o k . T h e e m a il ta u g h t m e th a t a fe ww o rd s o f a p p re c ia tio n ca n m a k e a b ig d iffe re n ce . T h e ra in sto rm a n d th e tra n sittro u b le s h a d m a d e m e m ise ra b le a n d w e a ry , b u t G a rth ’s w o rd s im m e d ia te lyin v ig o ra te d m e a n d p u t a sm ile b a ck o n m y fa c e .

G a rth ’s a c tio n s a lso m a d e m e re a lize th a t w o rd s o f a p p re c ia tio n n o t o n ly m a k ey o u fe e l g o o d , b u t it a lso m o tiva te s a n d in sp ire s y o u . A fte r re a d in g h is e m a il, Ife lt th a t c o m in g to w o rk th a t d a y w a s a n a c c o m p lish m e n t th a t I sh o u ld b ep ro u d o f. Su d d e n ly g e ttin g d re n ch e d a n d th e e x tre m e ly lo n g co m m u te d id n ’tse e m q u ite so b a d . A s a m a tte r o f fa c t, h is e m a il m a d e th e w h o le su b w a yo rd e a l a ll w o rth w h ile .

Y o u k n o w , so m e tim e s w e a re so w ra p p e d u p in o u r liv e s th a t w e fo rg e t th em a g ica l p o w e r o f a p p re c ia tio n . G a rth h a d b e e n ca u g h t in th e ra in ju st lik e th ere st o f u s. H e h a d to te n d to h is re sp o n sib ilitie s. H e a lso h a d to c o p e w ithn u m e ro u s a b se n c e s in th e five a re a s th a t h e m a n a g e s. A n d h e h a d to ta k e o nh is b o ss’s re sp o n sib ility b e ca u se sh e w a s u n a b le to g e t in to w o rk . Y e t h e stillfo u n d tim e to se n d a n e m a il th a n k in g h is e m p lo y e e s fo r th e ir d e d ica tio n a n dth e e x tra e ffo rt th e y h a d m a d e to g e t in to w o rk .

G a rth ta u g h t m e th a t I sh o u ld n e v e r b e to o b u sy to sh o w m y p e o p le m ya p p re c ia tio n a n d to a ck n o w le d g e p o sitive th in g s th a t th e y d o . T h is w a s th em o st v a lu a b le le sso n th a t a n y o n e c o u ld h a ve e ve r ta u g h t m e , a n d fo r th a t I w illa lw a y s b e th a n k fu l to G a rth .”

Y o u se e , G a rth k n e w w h a t w o rk s. H e k n e w th a t a ck n o w le d g in g h is e m p lo y e e sa n d sh o w in g h is a p p re c ia tio n fo r th e m , e sp e cia lly w h e n th e y h a d g o n e th ee x tra m ile , w a s a n im p o rta n t p a rt o f b e in g a g o o d le a d e r. It w o u ld h a ve b e e ne a sy fo r h im to g rip e a n d c o m p la in o r to sim p ly d o n o th in g a t a ll. B u t ink n o w in g w h a t w o rk s in h is ro le a s th e d e p u ty d ire cto r, h e m a d e a b igd iffe re n ce in th e m o ra le o f h is p e o p le .

T h e fu n n y th in g a b o u t cre a tin g d re a m s is th a t o fte n y o u d o n ’t e v e n re a lizew h a t y o u h a ve g o in g fo r y o u in th e p ro c e ss. Y o u d o n ’t re a lize w h a t y o u a red o in g th a t a c tu a lly w o rk s.

N o w I w a n t y o u to g e t y o u r w o rk b o o k a n d tw o p ie ce s o f d u c t ta p e . T w o p ie c e sfo r th a t b ra tty little v o ice th a t is g o in g to w a n t to p o p u p a n d te ll y o u



e ve ry th in g th a t is w ro n g a n d h o w n o th in g y o u a re d o in g ca n p o ssib ly b e rig h t.T w o p ie c e s b e ca u se y o u d o n ’t w a n t to h e a r a p e e p o u t o f h im d u rin g th ise x e rc ise . It’s tim e to sit d o w n a n d id e n tify th e b a b y so w e d o n ’t th ro w h e r o u tw ith th e b a th w a te r.

S o th e q u e stio n s a re n u m b e r o n e – w h a t h a b its o r tra its d o y o u h a ve th a tsu p p o rt y o u r d re a m ? N u m b e r tw o – w h a t e x p e rie n c e s h a ve y o u h a d o r le sso n sh a ve y o u le a rn e d th a t y o u c a n d ra w fro m to h e lp y o u cre a te yo u r d re a m ?N u m b e r th re e – w h a t re so u rce s d o y o u h a v e o r k n o w h o w to a c ce ss th a t ca nh e lp y o u cre a te yo u r d re a m ? N u m b e r fo u r – w h o a re y o u th a t w ill e n a b le y o u rd re a m to b e c o m e a re a lity ?

L e t m e te ll y o u , y o u a re so m e b o d y th a t is w illin g to d o so m e th in g p ro b a b lym o re th a n a little b it o u t o f y o u r c o m fo rt zo n e fo r o n c e . Y o u a re b o ld a n dd e te rm in e d a n d , b e lie ve m e , m o st p e o p le d o n ’t g e t th is fa r. Y o u a re o n e o f th efe w . N u m b e r fiv e – w h a t a re y o u g o in g to d o w ith w o rk in g n o w to cre a te y o u rd re a m ? N u m b e r o n e o n y o u r list sh o u ld b e th e fa c t th a t yo u a re d o in g th e see x e rc ise s. N u m b e r six – ju st to re c a p , is w h a t a re y o u d o in g th a t’s rig h t?

N o w y o u b e tte r h a v e a g o o d -size d list in a n sw e r to th e se q u e stio n s b e c a u se y o ua re d o in g th in g s th a t a re w o rk in g . Y o u a re a p e rso n w h o c re a te s y o u r d re a m .D o n ’t le t yo u r d o u b ts o r in se c u ritie s g e t in th e w a y o f a ck n o w le d g in g w h a t y o ua re d o in g . Y o u r m o th e r is n o t g o in g to re a d th is so yo u d o n ’t n e e d to w o rrya b o u t a ll o f th o se tim e s sh e to ld y o u n o t to to o t y o u r o w n h o rn . Y o u r fa th e r isn o t g o in g to re a d it a n d n e ith e r is y o u r A u n t M ild re d . T h is is fo r y o u , y o u a n dy o u a lo n e , fo r y o u to d isc o v e r w h o y o u a re a n d w h a t y o u d o th a t g ive s y o u rd re a m th e p o w e r to c o m e to y o u .

N o w in th e n e x t e x e rc ise , w e a re a c tu a lly n o t g o in g to u se th e d u c t ta p e . I a mn o t g o in g to te ll y o u a n y m o re th a n th a t b e ca u se yo u d o n ’t n e e d a n y th in g e lseto d istra c t y o u fro m a c k n o w le d g in g w h a t w o rk s. G o b a c k a n d re a lly th in k a b o u tth o se q u e stio n s, a n d w rite d o w n a ll o f y o u r a n sw e rs.

U n til th e tim e , p le a se , p le a se , p le a se ta k e th is e x e rc ise se rio u sly a n d p a ty o u rse lf o n th e b a c k fo r w h a t y o u a re d o in g th a t w o rk s.

S e e y o u r d re a m a n d h a ve a fa n ta stic d a y .



E x p lo ra tio n 4 : W h a t’s m issin g ?

W h a t a re y o u r b ro k e n k e y s?

It’s in th is le sso n w h e re th a t little v o ic e lik e s to te ll u s th a t w e a re n o t p e rfe c t.T h e re a re so m e lim its th o u g h . T h e v o ice o f c o n trib u tio n s h a v e to b ec o n stru c te d o r e lse th e d u c t ta p e is c o m in g rig h t b a c k o u t. C a n y o u g u e ss w h a tw e a re g o in g to e x p lo re to d a y ?

Y o u g o t it. W e a re ta lk in g a b o u t w h a t’s m issin g . W e a re g o in g to e x p lo ree ve ry th in g w e c a n th in k o f th a t y o u n e e d to b e o r d o th a t y o u a re n o t b e in g o rd o in g a n d d o n ’t h a ve rig h t n o w to m a k e yo u r d re a m a re a lity .

N o w th e re is a n o th e r g ro u n d ru le fo r th is e x e rc ise . T h is e x e rc ise is n o t a c h o re .It is n o t a “to d o ” list, a n d it is n o t so m e th in g to m a k e y o u fe e l in a d e q u a te o rg u ilty . If y o u sta rt fe e lin g a n y o f th a t, p u t it d o w n , w a lk a w a y a n d ta k e ab re a k . W h e n y o u co m e b a ck , sit d o w n w ith yo u r v isio n sh e e t, p u t y o u rse lf rig h tin th e m id d le o f th e d re a m , a n d sta rt o ve r.

T h is e x p lo ra tio n is o n e o f th e m o st e x c itin g p a rts o f th e w h o le p ro ce ss. M a n yp e o p le m e e t th is ste p w ith th e m o st d re a d . P e o p le w h o g e t th ro u g h it fe e le m p o w e re d . T h e y c a n w a lk o n w a te r, th e y fe e l.

H e re y o u g e t to te ll a ll o f th e w o n d e rfu l th in g s th a t y o u w ill b e b rin g in g in toy o u r life to m a k e y o u r d re a m a re a lity , a n d yo u w ill a lso g e t to d e c id e w h ichth in g s y o u w a n t to le a ve b e h in d . W h a t is m issin g is re a lly y o u r o p p o rtu n ity tog ro w so e m b ra ce it a n d e n jo y it.

R e m e m b e r th e w o rd s o f E a rl N ig h tin g a le w h e n h e sa id , “Y o u a re a t th ism o m e n t sta n d in g rig h t in th e m id d le o f y o u r a cre s o f d ia m o n d s.”

N o rm a n V in c e n t P e a le sa id , “H o w yo u th in k a b o u t a p ro b le m is m o re im p o rta n tth a n th e p ro b le m itse lf. S o a lw a ys th in k p o sitiv e ly .”

L e s B ro w n sa ys, “F o rg iv e y o u rse lf fo r y o u r fa u lts a n d y o u r m ista k e s a n d m o v eo n .”

R o b e rt L y n d , “O n e o f th e g re a te st jo y s k n o w n to m a n is to ta k e flig h t in toig n o ra n c e in se a rch o f k n o w le d g e .”

A n o th e r re a lly g o o d o n e fro m N o rm a n V in c e n t P e a le —I lik e h is—is, “B e lie v e it isp o ssib le to so lv e y o u r p ro b le m s. T re m e n d o u s th in g s h a p p e n to th e b e lie v e r. S ob e lie v e th a t th e a n sw e r w ill c o m e . It w ill.”



Iv y B a k e r, “T h e w o rld is ro u n d , a n d th e p la c e w h ic h m a y se e m lik e th e e n d m a ya lso b e th e b e g in n in g .”

T ra c y B rin k m a n n , “B e fo re y o u b e g in c lim b in g th a t la d d e r o f su c c e ss, m a k e su reit is le a n in g to w a rd s th e w in d o w o f o p p o rtu n ity y o u d e sire .”

L o u is P a ste u r, “L u c k fa v o rs th e m in d th a t is p re p a re d .”

J o h n D e w e y , “A p ro b le m w e ll sta te d is a p ro b le m h a lf so lv e d .”

A n d a fin a l o n e fro m N o rm a n V in ce n t P e a le , “W h e n a p ro b le m c o m e s a lo n g ,stu d y it u n til y o u a re c o m p le te ly k n o w le d g e a b le , th e n fin d th e w e a k sp o t,b re a k th e p ro b le m a p a rt a n d th e re st w ill b e e a sy .”

T h e c o n c e p t o f w h a t is m issin g c a n b e a trick y o n e to e x p la in c le a rly so I a mg o in g to u se tw o sto rie s h e re to h e lp m e g e t th e p o in t a cro ss.

C a n y o u se e w h a t is m issin g fro m th e w e lfa re re c ip ie n ts’ liv e s in th is first sto ry ?It is ca lle d E v e ryb o d y H a s a D re a m , b y V irg in ia S a tir:

S o m e ye a rs a g o , I to o k o n a n a ssig n m e n t in a so u th e rn c o u n ty to w o rk w ithp e o p le o n p u b lic w e lfa re . W h a t I w a n te d to d o w a s sh o w th a t e v e ry b o d y h a sth e c a p a c ity to b e se lf su ffic ie n t a n d a ll w e h a ve to d o is a c tiva te th a t in th e m .I a sk e d th e c o u n ty to p ic k a g ro u p o f p e o p le w h o w e re o n p u b lic w e lfa re ,p e o p le fro m d iffe re n t ra c ia l g ro u p s a n d d iffe re n t fa m ily c o m p ila tio n .

I w o u ld th e n se e th e m a s a g ro u p fo r th re e h o u rs e ve ry F rid a y . I a lso a sk e d fo ra little p e tty ca sh to w o rk w ith a s I n e e d e d it. T h e first th in g I sa id a fte r Ish o o k h a n d s w ith e ve ry b o d y w a s “I’d lik e to k n o w w h a t y o u r d re a m s a re .”E ve ry b o d y lo o k e d a t m e a s if I w a s k in d o f w a c k y. D re a m s? W e d o n ’t h a v ed re a m s.

I sa id , “W e ll, w h e n y o u w e re a k id , w h a t h a p p e n e d ? W a sn ’t th e re so m e th in gth a t yo u w a n te d to d o ?”

O n e w o m a n sa id to m e , “I d o n ’t k n o w w h a t yo u ca n d o w ith d re a m s; th e ra tsa re e a tin g a t m y k id s.”

“O h ”, I sa id , “T h a t’s te rrib le . N o , o f c o u rse , y o u a re ve ry in v o lve d w ith th e ra tsa n d y o u r k id s. H o w c a n th a t b e h e lp e d ?”

“W e ll, I c o u ld u se a n e w sc re e n d o o r b e c a u se th e re a re h o le s in m y sc re e nd o o r. Is th e re a n y b o d y a ro u n d h e re w h o k n o w s h o w to fix a sc re e n d o o r?”

T h e re w a s a m a n in th e g ro u p w h o sa id , “A lo n g tim e a g o , I u se d to d o th in g slik e th a t, b u t n o w I h a ve a te rrib ly b a d b a c k . I c a n try .”



I to ld h im th a t I h a d so m e m o n e y, a n d if h e w o u ld g o to th e sto re , b u y so m esc re e n in g , a n d g o a n d fix th e la d y ’s d o o r, I w o u ld a p p re c ia te it. “D o y o u th in ky o u ca n d o th a t”, I sa id .

“Y e s, I’ll try ”, h e sa id .

N e x t w e e k w h e n th e g ro u p w a s se a te d , I sa id to th e w o m a n , “W e ll, is y o u rsc re e n d o o r fix e d ?”

“O h ye s!” sh e sa id .

“T h e n w e ca n sta rt d re a m in g , c a n ’t w e ?”

S h e so rt o f sm ile d a t m e .

I sa id to th e m a n w h o d id th e w o rk , “H o w d o y o u fe e l?”

H e sa id , “W e ll, y o u k n o w it is a ve ry fu n n y th in g . I a m b e g in n in g to fe e l a lo tb e tte r.”

T h a t h e lp e d th e g ro u p to b e g in to d re a m . T h e se se e m in g ly sm a ll su c ce sse sa llo w e d th e g ro u p to se e th a t d re a m s w e re n o t in sa n e . T h e se sm a ll ste p s b e g a nto g e t p e o p le to se e a n d fe e l th a t so m e th in g c o u ld re a lly h a p p e n . I b e g a n toa sk o th e r p e o p le a b o u t th e ir d re a m s.

O n e w o m a n sh a re d th a t sh e a lw a y s w a n te d to b e a se c re ta ry . I sa id , “W e llw h a t sta n d s in y o u r w a y ?” T h a t is a lw a y s m y n e x t q u e stio n .

S h e sa id , “I h a v e six k id s, a n d I d o n ’t h a v e a n y o n e to ta k e c a re o f th e m w h ile Ia m a w a y .”

“L e t’s fin d o u t,” I sa id .

“Is th e re a n yb o d y in th e g ro u p w h o w o u ld ta k e c a re o f six k id s fo r a d a y o r tw oa w e e k w h ile th is w o m a n g e ts so m e tra in in g h e re a t th e c o m m u n ity co lle g e ?”

O n e w o m a n sa id , “I’v e g o t k id s to o , so I co u ld d o th a t.”

“L e t’s d o it” I sa id .

A p la n w a s c re a te d , a n d th e w o m a n w a s in sch o o l. E ve ry o n e fo u n d so m e th in g .T h e m a n w h o p u t th e sc re e n d o o r in b e ca m e a h a n d y m a n . T h e w o m a n w h oto o k in th e ch ild re n b e ca m e a lice n se d fo ste r-c a re p e rso n . In 1 2 w e e k s, I h a da ll o f th e se p e o p le o ff o f w e lfa re . I h a v e n o t o n ly d o n e it o n c e ; I h a v e d o n e itm a n y , m a n y tim e s.

S o w h a t w a s m issin g fro m th e liv e s o f th e p e o p le in V irg in ia ’s sto ry ? It w a s th eb ig p ic tu re . M a n y tim e s th e b ig g e st o b sta c le fo r p e o p le in m a k in g p ro g re ss inth e ir d re a m s a n d liv in g th e ir live s is th a t th e y fo rg e t th a t th e re is so m e th in gm issin g – th a t th e re is so m e th in g b ig g e r th a n th e ir cu rre n t situ a tio n .



T h e y g e t m ire d d o w n in th e m in u tia e o f th e ir d a ily liv e s, a n d th e y n e ve r se eth e fo re st fo r th e tre e s. If y o u a re h a v in g a h a rd tim e try in g to fig u re o u t w h a tis m issin g , w h y n o t sta rt w ith ta k in g a ste p b a ck a n d lo o k in g a t th e b ig p ic tu reo f y o u r life . Y o u m ig h t ju st se e so m e th in g th a t lo o k s lik e th is…

It is ca lle d “A B ro k x n K x y”:

E vx n th o u g h m y ty p x w ritx r is a n o ld m o d x l, it w o rk s q u itx w x ll x x c x p t fo r o n x o fth e k x y s.

I h a vx m a n y tim x s w ish x d th a t it w o rk x d p x rfx c tly .

It is tru x th a t th x rx a rx fo rty -o n x k x ys th a t fu n c tio n w x ll x n o u g h , b u t ju st o n xk x y n o t w o rk in g m a k x s th x d iffx rx n c x .

S o m x tim x s it sx x m s to m x th a t m y lifx is so m x th in g lik x m y ty p x w ritx r -- n o t a llth x k x y p a rts a rx w o rk in g p ro p x rly .

Y o u m a y sa y to y o u rsx lf, "W x ll, its o n ly o n x littlx k e y , it d o x sn 't m a k x o r b rx a kth x ty p x w ritx r."

B u t it d o x s m a k x a b ig d iffx rx n cx , b x c a sx a typ x w ritx r, to b x x ffx c tivx , n x x d sx vx ry k x y fo r th x m x ssa g x it ty p x s to m a k x sx n sx .

S o , th x n x x t tim x y o u fin d so m x th in g la ck in g in y o u r lifx a s y o u w o rk to C rx a txy o u r D rx a m , rx m x m b x r m y ty p x w ritx r a n d sa y to y o u rsx lf, "T h is is a k x yc o m p o n x n t o f m y lifx a n d m y D rx a m . I rx a lly n x x d it to w o rk !"

T h is is w h a t h a p p x n s w h x n o n ly o n x k x y isn ’t w o rk in g . W h a t h a p p x n s w h x nth x rx a rx m u ltip lx a rx a s o f y o u r lifx th a t a rx n ’t w o rk in g to C rx a tx yo u r D rx a m ?

T h x w h o lx th in g ju st w o n ’t m a k x a b it o f sx n sx !

S o , le t’s id e n tify th e m issin g a n d b ro k e n k e y s a n d g e t th e m fix e d so w e c a nw rite th e sto ry o f y o u r D re a m ! A re y o u re a d y? G e t y o u r p e n a n d p a p e r o u t a n dle t’s m a k e a list o f w h a t’s m issin g . W h a t th in g s d o y o u fe e l k e e p k n o ck in g y o ua w a y fro m y o u r v isio n ? W h a t d o y o u fe e l is sta n d in g in y o u r w a y ? W h a t d o y o un e e d in y o u r life to c re a te th e d re a m th a t y o u d o n ’t h a ve n o w ?

W h a t k in d o f tra its a n d h a b its d o y o u n e e d to b e th e p e rso n w h o is in y o u rd re a m ? W h a t re so u rc e s d o y o u n e e d to a cc e ss to m a k e y o u r d re a m a re a lity ? Isth e re a n y th in g c u rre n tly in y o u r life th a t c o u ld p re ve n t o r m a k e it m o red iffic u lt? T h is m a y n o t se e m to w o rk , b u t in fa c t it is. In th is ca se , th e “w h a t’sm issin g” w o u ld b e th e sp a ce th a t is b e in g ta k e n u p b y p o o r h a b its,u n su p p o rtive re la tio n sh ip s, c lu tte r o r a n y n u m b e r o f o th e r th in g s.



L o o k a t y o u r v isio n list, w h a t’s m issin g fro m y o u r life n o w th a t y o u w a n t tob rin g in to it, a n d w h a t d o y o u h a ve to d o in o rd e r to c re a te y o u r d re a m ?R e m e m b e r if y o u sta rt fe e lin g o v e rw h e lm e d , g u ilty o r h a v e a n y n e g a tiv ityd u rin g th is e x e rc ise a t a ll, g e t u p a n d ta k e a b re a k . C o m e b a ck w h e n y o u a rere fre sh e d a n d sta rt o ve r.

It is ve ry im p o rta n t th a t y o u c re a te th is list o f w h a t’s m issin g fro m th e re a lm o f“p o ssib ility ” th in k in g a n d n o t “n e g a tiv ity” th in k in g . W ith “p o ssib ility” th in k in gy o u ca n a ttra c t e v e ryth in g y o u n e e d . W ith “n e g a tiv ity ,” y o u w ill re p e l it. T h in kp o ssib ility—p o sitiv e a ttra c ts. N e g a tiv ity is n e g a tive , w h ich re p e ls.

T a k e y o u r tim e w ith th is e x e rc ise , a n d list e ve ry th in g y o u c a n th in k o f th a t isa n o p p o rtu n ity fo r y o u to g ro w in to th e p e rso n w h o liv e s in y o u r v isio n . In th ec h a p te r n e x t w e e k , w e a re g o in g to m o v e fo rw a rd in th e cre a tin g o f y o u rd re a m . U p to th is p o in t, w e h a ve b e e n c la rify in g a n d stre n g th e n in g , a s w e ll a sfig u rin g o u t w h a t w e h a ve a n d d o n ’t h a ve to w o rk w ith rig h t n o w .

In th e n e x t le sso n , w e a re g o in g to sta rt p u ttin g th e p ie ce s to g e th e r a n dm o v in g to w a rd th e c u lm in a tio n o f th e S cie n ce o f C re a tin g Y o u r D re a m s se rie sth a t w e w ill e x p lo re in e x e rc ise se ve n , w h ich is c a lle d Id e n tify in g Y o u r “C ”F a c to r.

A fte r to d a y , th e p re p w o rk is d o n e . M a k e su re th a t y o u h a v e a g o o d list o f w h a tis m issin g , a n d u n til n e x t tim e , se e y o u r d re a m a n d h a ve a fa n ta stic d a y .



E x p lo ra tio n 5 : W h a t’s n e x t?

W e ll, h e re w e a re : e x p lo ra tio n n u m b e r fiv e o f th e se ve n in o u r se rie s S cie n c eo f C re a tin g Y o u r D re a m le sso n s. S o fa r w e ’v e c re a te d th e p ic tu re o f y o u rd re a m , y o u r v isio n . W e ’ve id e n tifie d th e d rivin g fo rc e b e h in d it, y o u r w h y . W efo u n d o u t w h a t y o u d o a n d w h o y o u a re th a t m a k e s y o u r d re a m p o ssib le ,w h a t’s w o rk in g . A n d w e ’ve e x p lo re d w h a t is le ft to b e d o n e a n d w h o y o u stilln e e d to b e c o m e , w h a t’s m issin g .

S o w h a t’s n e x t? W e ll th a t is e x a c tly it. T o d a y w e e x p lo re w h a t’s n e x t in th ep ro c e ss o f c re a tin g y o u r d re a m . W e sta rt p la y in g w ith th e p o ssib ilitie s a n dfo rm u la tin g y o u r p la n . W e sta rt b u ild in g u p to id e n tify in g y o u r c ritica l “C ”F a c to r a n d m a k in g y o u r d re a m a re a lity . A re y o u re a d y ?

G re a t. A re y o u sta rtin g to fe e l a little o v e rw h e lm e d ? W e ll, d o n ’t w o rry , it’sn o rm a l. C re a tin g yo u r d re a m is a b ig jo b , b u t th e re su lts a re w o rth it, a re n ’tth e y ? D e n n is W a itle y sa y s, “D o n ’t d w e ll o n w h a t w e n t w ro n g . In ste a d , fo c u s o nw h a t to d o n e x t. S p e n d y o u r e n e rg ie s o n m o vin g fo rw a rd to w a rd s fin d in g th ea n sw e r.” I h a v e a lw a ys lik e d th is o n e , b u t I’m n o t su re w h e re it c o m e s fro m ,“T h e sig n o f th e d o o r o f o p p o rtu n ity re a d s ‘p u sh ’.”

B ria n T ra c y sa id , “T h o se p e o p le w h o d e ve lo p th e a b ility to c o n tin u o u slya c q u ire n e w a n d b e tte r fo rm s o f k n o w le d g e th a t th e y c a n a p p ly to th e ir w o rka n d to th e ir liv e s w ill b e th e m o ve rs a n d sh a k e rs in o u r so c ie ty fo r th ein d e fin ite fu tu re .” K a h lil G ib ra n sa id , “M a rc h o n . D o n o t ta rry . T o g o fo rw a rdis to m o ve to w a rd p e rfe c tio n . M a rc h o n , a n d fe a r n o t th e th o rn s o r th e sh a rpsto n e s o n life ’s p a th .”

“L e t u s m o ve fo rw a rd w ith stro n g a n d a c tiv e fa ith ,” fro m F ra n k lin D . R o o se ve lt.“T h e o n ly w a y to m a k e se n se o u t o f c h a n g e is to p lu n g e in to it, m o v e w ith ita n d jo in th e d a n c e ,” fro m A la n W . W a tts.

O riso n S w e tt M a rsd e n sa id , “D o n ’t w a it fo r e x tra o rd in a ry o p p o rtu n itie s, se izec o m m o n o c ca sio n s a n d m a k e th e m g re a t. W e a k m e n w a it fo r o p p o rtu n itie s;stro n g m e n m a k e th e m .”

C h a rle s K e tte rin g , “T h e re e x ist lim itle ss o p p o rtu n itie s in e v e ry in d u stry . W h e reth e re is a n o p e n m in d , th e re w ill a lw a y s b e a fro n tie r.”

G e o rg e B e rn a rd Sh a w , “P e o p le a re a lw a y s b la m in g th e ir c ircu m sta n ce s fo r w h a tth e y a re . I d o n ’t b e lie ve in c irc u m sta n c e s. T h e p e o p le w h o g e t o n in th is w o rlda re th e p e o p le w h o g e t u p a n d lo o k fo r th e c ircu m sta n c e s th e y w a n t, a n d ifth e y c a n ’t fin d th e m , th e y m a k e th e m .”



F in a lly , “T h e im p o ssib le is o fte n u n trie d .”

A s w e e x p lo re w h a t’s n e x t, k e e p in m in d a ll o f th e w o rk th a t w e ’v e d o n e u p toth is p o in t. S ta rtin g fro m to d a y , fro m y o u r situ a tio n rig h t n o w , w h e re ca n y o ug o to c re a te y o u r d re a m ? H e re is a re a lly g o o d sto ry . I lik e it. It is c a lle d T h eC h ick e n , b y G a ry B a rn e s:

O n ce u p o n a tim e , th e re w a s a la rg e m o u n ta in sid e w h e re a n e a g le ’s n e stre ste d . T h e e a g le ’s n e st c o n ta in e d fo u r la rg e e a g le ’s e g g s. O n e d a y a ne a rth q u a k e ro ck e d th e m o u n ta in ca u sin g o n e o f th e e g g s to ro ll d o w n th em o u n ta in to a c h ick e n fa rm lo ca te d in th e va lle y b e lo w .

T h e ch ic k e n s k n e w th a t th e y m u st p ro te c t a n d c a re fo r th e e a g le e g g , so a n o ldh e n v o lu n te e re d to n u rtu re a n d ra ise th e la rg e e g g . O n e d a y, th e e g g h a tc h e da n d a b e a u tifu l e a g le w a s b o rn . Sa d ly , h o w e ve r, th e e a g le w a s ra ise d to b e ac h ic k e n .

S o o n th e e a g le b e lie v e d h e w a s n o th in g m o re th a n a c h ick e n . T h e e a g le lo v e dh is h o m e a n d fa m ily , b u t h is sp irit c rie d o u t fo r m o re . W h ile p la y in g a g a m e o nth e fa rm o n e d a y , th e e a g le lo o k e d a t th e sk y a b o ve a n d n o tice d a g ro u p o fm ig h ty e a g le s so a rin g in th e sk y .

“O h ,” th e e a g le c rie d . “I w ish I c o u ld so a r lik e th o se b ird s.” T h e ch ick e n sro a re d w ith la u g h te r. “Y o u c a n ’t so a r w ith th o se b ird s. Y o u ’re a ch ick e n a n dc h ic k e n s d o n o t so a r.” T h e e a g le co n tin u e d sta rin g a t h is re a l fa m ily u p a b o ve ,d re a m in g th a t h e c o u ld b e w ith th e m . E a ch tim e th e e a g le w o u ld le t h isd re a m s b e k n o w n , h e w a s to ld it c o u ld n ’t b e d o n e .

T h a t’s w h a t th e e a g le le a rn e d to b e lie v e . T h e e a g le , a fte r a tim e , sto p p e dd re a m in g a n d c o n tin u e d to liv e h is life a s a c h ick e n . F in a lly , a fte r a lo n g life a sa c h ick e n , th e e a g le p a sse d a w a y .

T h e m o ra l o f th e sto ry : y o u b e c o m e w h a t y o u b e lie v e yo u a re . So if yo u e ve rd re a m e d o f b e c o m in g a n e a g le , fo llo w yo u r d re a m a n d n o t th e w o rd s o f ac h ic k e n .

W e a re h e re to m a k e su re y o u r life is liv e d a s th e e a g le th a t y o u w e re b o rn tob e . M a n y o f u s w e re ra ise d a n d h a v e liv e d th e m a jo rity o f o u r liv e s o n th ep ro v e rb ia l c h ick e n fa rm . W h a t ste p s d o y o u n e e d to ta k e to e sca p e fro m th ec h ick e n fa rm a n d so a r w ith th e e a g le s?

H e re is a n o te : re n t M e l G ib so n ’s m o v ie , C h ick e n R u n . If y o u n e e d a littlein sp ira tio n , it’s g re a t.

S in c e w e a re ta lk in g a b o u t m o v in g fo rw a rd to c re a te y o u r d re a m fro m w h e rey o u a re rig h t n o w , th e re m ig h t b e q u ite a b it in y o u r life th a t is o n th e “w h a t’sm issin g” list, e sp e c ia lly o n th e “n e e d s to b e c le a re d a w a y” p a rt. D o n ’t le t a n y



o f th a t m ire y o u d o w n a n d k e e p y o u fro m m o v in g to w a rd s w h a t’s n e x t. T a k e ap a g e fro m T h e O y ste r’s B o o k : L e sso n s fro m a n O y ste r:

T h e re w a s o n ce a n o y ste rW h o se sto ry I te ll,W h o fo u n d th a t so m e sa n dH a d g o tte n in to h is sh e ll.

It w a s o n ly a g ra in ,B u t it g a ve h im g re a t p a in .F o r o y ste rs h a ve fe e lin g sA lth o u g h th e y ’re so p la in .

N o w , d id h e b e ra teT h e h a rsh w o rk in g s o f fa teT h a t h a d b ro u g h t h imT o su c h a d e p lo ra b le sta te ?

D id h e c u rse a t th e g o v e rn m e n t,C ry fo r e le c tio n ,A n d c la im th a t th e se a sh o u ldH a ve g iv e n h im p ro te c tio n ?

“N o ,” h e sa id to h im se lfA s h e la y o n a sh e ll,“S in ce I ca n n o t re m o ve it,I sh a ll try to im p ro v e it.”

N o w th e y e a rs h a ve ro lle d a ro u n d ,A s th e ye a rs a lw a y s d o ,A n d h e c a m e to h is u ltim a teD e stin y ste w .

A n d th e sm a ll g ra in o f sa n dT h a t h a d b o th e re d h im soW a s a b e a u tifu l p e a rlA ll ric h ly a g lo w .

N o w th e ta le h a s a m o ra l,F o r isn ’t it g ra n dW h a t a n o y ste r ca n d oW ith a m o rse l o f sa n d ?

W h a t c o u ld n ’t w e d oIf w e ’d o n ly b e g inW ith so m e o f th e th in g sT h a t g e t u n d e r o u r sk in ?



W ith th a t in m in d , ta k e a ll o f y o u r e x p lo ra tio n e x e rc ise s y o u ’ve d o n e u p to th isp o in t, a n d g o to th a t q u ie t p la ce w ith y o u r d u c t ta p e . T h e d o u b tin g v o ice g o tits sa y la st tim e , so it’s tim e fo r h im to b e q u ie t a g a in . S it d o w n a n d re a d o ve ra ll o f y o u r e x p lo ra tio n s, th e n c lo se y o u r e y e s a n d re la x .

A s th e m in d ch a tte r sta rts to fa d e , a sk y o u rse lf th e fo llo w in g q u e stio n : w h a tc h a n g e s in m y life d o I w a n t to m a k e th a t w ill le a d m e in e v ita b ly to c re a tin gm y d re a m ? Ju st sit q u ie tly a n d w a it fo r th e a n sw e rs to c o m e .

S o o n y o u r b ra in w ill b e g in to flo o d w ith id e a s. W rite th e m d o w n . W rite th e m a lld o w n . T h is is n o t th e tim e to ce n su re y o u rse lf, a n d it’s ce rta in ly n o t th e tim eto le t th a t d o u b tin g v o ic e e ve n in th e sa m e ro o m w ith y o u . T h is flo w o f id e a sw ill c o m e fro m p u re p o ssib ility th in k in g a n d it w ill b e y o u r d re a m -cre a tio ng o ld m in e . W rite d o w n e ve ry th in g th a t p o p s in to y o u r h e a d .

In th e n e x t e x p lo ra tio n , w e ’ll sta rt siftin g th ro u g h th e id e a s so w e c a n fin d y o u r“C ” F a c to r fo r e x p lo ra tio n n u m b e r se ve n , b u t rig h t n o w , w rite th e m a ll d o w n .

U n til th e n e x t tim e , se e y o u r d re a m a n d h a v e a fa n ta stic d a y .



E x p lo ra tio n 6 : F o c u s

W e ’re g e ttin g c lo se r. L a st w e e k y o u w ro te d o w n th e e n tire flo o d o f id e a s fo rh o w y o u ca n m o v e to w a rd th e c re a tio n o f y o u r d re a m . T o d a y , w e a re g o in g tota k e a g o o d lo o k a t th a t list a n d sta rt so rtin g th ro u g h it. W e ’ll p rio ritize it, a n db e g in to fo c u s. I c a n ju st h e a r y o u m o a n in g a n d g ro a n in g n o w , “W h y d o I h a v eto fo c u s? I th o u g h t y o u sa id a ll o f th e id e a s w e re im p o rta n t. H o w a m I su p p o se dto k n o w h o w to so rt a n d p rio ritize th e se th in g s? T h e re a re so m a n y o f th e m .”

C a lm d o w n a n d d o n ’t h y p e rv e n tila te . W e w ro te d o w n a ll o f th e id e a s to k e e pth e flo w c o m in g so y o u w o u ld n ’t m iss a n y o f th e re a lly g re a t o n e s. W h a t w e a reg o in g to d o to d a y is sta rt sip h o n in g th e m o ff in to se p a ra te c o n ta in e rs o r h o ld in gta n k s, so th a t y o u c a n w o rk o n th e m in m a n a g e a b le c h u n k s.

W h e n w e sta rt to g o o ve r th e list, y o u a re g o in g to a sk y o u rse lf so m e v e rysp e c ific q u e stio n s th a t w ill h e lp sift a n d so rt th e id e a s in to th e ir id e a lc o n ta in e rs. T h e flo w w ill p ro b a b ly su rp rise y o u w ith h o w e a sy it b e c o m e s.

F o cu s is a b so lu te ly e sse n tia l to fin d in g y o u r “C ” F a c to r a n d c re a tin g y o u rd re a m . S o le t’s g e t d o w n to b u sin e ss.

A s L e s B ro w n sa ys, “Y o u m u st re m a in fo c u se d o n y o u r jo u rn e y to g re a tn e ss.”

J . H e rm a n R a n d a ll sa y s, “A n y in d iv id u a l ca n b e in tim e w h a t h e e a rn e stlyd e sire s to b e if h e b u t se ts h is fa ce ste a d fa stly in th e d ire c tio n o f o n e th in g a n db rin g a ll o f h is p o w e rs to b e a r u p o n th e p a y m e n ts.”

“I lo o k a t o n e o f m y sto n e c u tte rs h a m m e rin g a w a y a t ro c k s, p e rh a p s a h u n d re dtim e s w ith o u t so m u c h a s a c ra ck sh o w in g in it. Y e t a t th e 1 0 1 st b lo w , it w a ssp lit in tw o a n d I k n e w it w a s n o t th a t b lo w th a t d id it, b u t a ll th a t h a d g o n eb e fo re ,” fro m Ja c o b A . R iis.

M a x w e ll M a ltz sa y s, “Y o u c a n o n ly d o o n e th in g a t a tim e . I sim p ly ta c k le o n ep ro b le m , a n d c o n ce n tra te a ll m y e ffo rt o n w h a t I a m d o in g a t th e m o m e n t. N olife e v e r g ro w s g re a t u n til it is fo c u se d , d e d ic a te d , a n d d isc ip lin e d .”

J a ck D ix o n sa y s, “If y o u fo c u s o n re su lts, y o u w ill n e ve r ch a n g e . If y o u fo cu s o nc h a n g e , y o u w ill g e t re su lts.”

A n th o n y R o b b in s sa y s, “M o st p e o p le h a ve n o id e a o f th e g ia n t ca p a c ity w e c a nim m e d ia te ly c o m m a n d w h e n w e fo c u s a ll o f o u r re so u rc e s o n m a ste rin g a sin g lea re a o f o u r liv e s.”

O u r p u rp o se in th e Sc ie n ce o f C re a tin g Y o u r D re a m s se rie s is n o t to tu rn y o u rw e a k n e sse s in to stre n g th s. A lth o u g h in th e p u rsu it o f y o u r d re a m , y o u m a y ve ry



w e ll d o th a t. T h e fo llo w in g sto ry c a n te a ch u s a g re a t d e a l a b o u t th e p o w e r o ffo c u s. It is ca lle d W e a k n e ss o r Stre n g th ?:

S o m e tim e s yo u r b ig g e st w e a k n e ss c a n b e c o m e y o u r b ig g e st stre n g th . T a k e fo re x a m p le th e sto ry o f o n e 1 0 -y e a r-o ld b o y w h o d e c id e d to stu d y ju d o d e sp iteth e fa c t th a t h e h a d lo st h is le ft a rm in a d e va sta tin g ca r a c c id e n t. T h e b o yb e g a n le sso n s w ith a n o ld Ja p a n e se ju d o m a ste r. T h e b o y w a s d o in g w e ll so h ec o u ld n ’t u n d e rsta n d w h y a fte r th re e m o n th s o f tra in in g th e m a ste r h a d ta u g h th im o n ly o n e m o v e . “Se n se i” th e b o y fin a lly sa id , “sh o u ld n ’t w e b e le a rn in gm o re m o v e s?” “T h is is th e o n ly m o v e y o u k n o w , b u t it is th e o n ly m o ve y o u w ille ve r n e e d to k n o w ,” th e se n se i re p lie d .

N o t q u ite u n d e rsta n d in g , b u t b e lie v in g in h is te a ch e r, th e b o y k e p t tra in in g .S e v e ra l m o n th s la te r, th e se n se i to o k th e b o y to h is first to u rn a m e n t. Su rp risin gh im se lf, th e b o y e a sily w o n th e first tw o m a tch e s. T h e th ird m a tc h p ro v e d tob e m o re d iffic u lt, b u t a fte r so m e tim e h is o p p o n e n t b e c a m e im p a tie n t a n dc h a rg e d . T h e b o y d e ftly u se d h is o n e m o ve to w in th e m a tc h .

S till a m a ze d b y h is su c ce ss, th e b o y w a s n o w in th e fin a l. T h is tim e , h iso p p o n e n t w a s b ig g e r, stro n g e r a n d m o re e x p e rie n ce d . F o r a w h ile , th e b o ya p p e a re d to b e o ve rm a tch e d . C o n ce rn e d th a t th e b o y m ig h t g e t h u rt, th ere fe re e ca lle d a “tim e o u t”. H e w a s a b o u t to sto p th e m a tc h w h e n th e se n se iin te rv e n e d .

“N o ”, th e se n se i in siste d , “L e t h im c o n tin u e .” S o o n a fte r th e m a tc h re su m e d ,h is o p p o n e n t m a d e a c ritic a l m ista k e . H e d ro p p e d h is g u a rd . In sta n tly th e b o ym o ve d to p in h im . T h e b o y h a d w o n th e m a tch a n d th e to u rn a m e n t. H e w a s th ec h a m p io n .

O n th e w a y h o m e , th e b o y a n d se n se i re v ie w e d e v e ry m o ve in e a ch a n d e ve rym a tc h . T h e n th e b o y su m m o n e d th e c o u ra g e to a sk w h a t w a s re a lly o n h ism in d . “S e n se i, h o w c o u ld I w in th e to u rn a m e n t w ith o n ly o n e m o v e ?”

“Y o u w o n fo r tw o re a so n s,” th e se n se i a n sw e re d . “F irst, y o u a lm o st m a ste re do n e o f th e m o st d ifficu lt th ro w s in a ll o f ju d o , a n d se co n d , th e o n ly k n o w nd e fe n se fo r th a t m o v e is fo r y o u r o p p o n e n t to g ra b y o u r le ft a rm .”

T h e b o y ’s b ig g e st w e a k n e ss h a d b e c o m e h is b ig g e st stre n g th .

W h a t in y o u r life c a n y o u fo cu s o n th a t w ill m a k e y o u a n u n sto p p a b le fo rce inth e c re a tio n o f y o u r d re a m ?

T h is is a n e x p e rim e n t. O n a c le a r, su n n y d a y ta k e a p o w e rfu l m a g n ify in g g la ssa n d a sta ck o f n e w sp a p e rs o u tsid e . In a su n n y sp o t, h o ld th e m a g n ify in g g la sso v e r a p ile o f c ru m p le d p a g e s a n d se e w h a t h a p p e n s.

E v e n th o u g h y o u a re m a g n ify in g th e p o w e r o f th e su n ’s ra y s th ro u g h a g la ssle n s, yo u w ill n e ve r sta rt a fire if y o u k e e p m o v in g th e g la ss. B u t if y o u h o ld th em a g n ify in g g la ss still, a llo w in g y o u to fo c u s th e ra y s in a c o n ce n tra te d b e a m o f



e n e rg y , y o u h a rn e ss th e p o w e r o f th e su n a n d m u ltip ly it th ro u g h th a t le n s,sta rtin g a fire .

T h e fo c u sin g o f e n e rg y a lso w o rk s to cre a te yo u r d re a m . T ry it a n d ig n ite y o u rw a n d e rin g id e a s w ith th e p o w e r o f y o u r c o n ce n tra te d e n e rg y .

A re y o u re a d y to g e t sta rte d ? G re a t. T a k e y o u r list o f id e a s fro m w h a t’s n e x t,ta k e y o u r v isio n sh e e t, a n d g o to y o u r q u ie t sp o t. R e v ie w y o u r v isio n e x e rc ise inth e w o rk b o o k . P u t y o u rse lf b a c k in to y o u r d re a m a n d a sk y o u rse lf, “W h a t a reth e to p -th re e m o st im p o rta n t c h a ra c te ristics o f th e p e rso n w h o liv e s in m yv isio n ? W h a t m a k e s th is p e rso n th e o n e w h o c a n liv e th e re ?”

N o w w e o n ly w a n t th e to p th re e b e ca u se w e a re u sin g th e p o w e r o f fo c u s h e re .T h e re m a y b e m a n y im p o rta n t ch a ra c te ristic s, b u t w e w a n t th e m o st im p o rta n to n e s.

O n ce y o u h a ve th o se ch a ra c te ristic s w ritte n d o w n , b e g in re v ie w in g a ll o f th eid e a s fro m th e “w h a t’s n e x t” e x e rc ise , re a d in g th e m o v e r a n d o v e r a g a in .

O n ce y o u h a ve b e e n th ro u g h th e list th re e o r fo u r tim e s, sto p a n d a sk y o u rse lf,“W h ic h o f th e se id e a s b e st su p p o rts m y d e v e lo p m e n t o f th o se to p th re ec h a ra c te ristics?”

B e g in so rtin g a n d ca te g o rizin g yo u r id e a s u n d e r th o se th re e c h a ra c te ristics.D o n ’t w o rry if so m e o f th e id e a s d o n ’t fit, th e y w o n ’t a ll d o it. Y o u a re g o in g tok e e p th e list so th a t y o u c a n g o b a ck to it a t a la te r d a te (o n c e y o u h a v ed e ve lo p e d w h a t y o u w a n t to o f th e to p th re e a n d a re re a d y to ta k e th e n e x tste p ). D o n ’t fe e l a s if e v e ry th in g o n th e “w h a t’s n e x t” list n e e d s to b e o n th ec a te g o rie s list.

K e e p g o in g th ro u g h y o u r list to fin d a n d h o n e th e id e a s th a t su p p o rt w h o y o uw a n t to b e c o m e . T h e se ch a ra c te ristic c a te g o rie s a re w h a t w e w ill u se toid e n tify y o u r “C ” F a c to r in th e n e x t e x p lo ra tio n .

U n til n e x t tim e , se e y o u r d re a m a n d h a v e a fa n ta stic d a y .



E x p lo ra tio n 7 : Y o u r “C ” F a c to r

W e ll h e re w e a re : e x p lo ra tio n n u m b e r se ve n , th e fin a l e x e rc ise in T h e Sc ie n ceo f C re a tin g Y o u r D re a m .

T o d a y is th e o n e w h e re w e id e n tify y o u r “C ” F a c to r, th e m o st im p o rta n t ste py o u ca n ta k e in th e c re a tio n o f y o u r d re a m .

W h a t is a “C ” F a c to r? If y o u h a v e h e a rd o f a stru c tu ra l su p p o rt c a lle d a“k e y sto n e ”, th e “C ” F a c to r w ill m a k e a lo t o f se n se to y o u . In ca se y o u d o n ’tk n o w a b o u t k e ysto n e s, le t m e e x p la in .

If y o u h a v e e v e r se e n a n y o f th e g re a t c a th e d ra ls in E u ro p e , y o u k n o w th a t th e yh a ve m a ssiv e a rch e d c e ilin g s th a t se e m to ju st g ro w lik e b ra n c h e s o f sto n e tofo rm a c a n o p y . It se e m s lik e it w o u ld b e im p o ssib le w ith th e w e ig h t o f th o sea rc h e s n o t to ca u se th e e n tire stru c tu re to c o m e c ra sh in g d o w n . S o w h a t h o ld sth o se c e ilin g s u p ?

In th e c e n te r o f e a c h a rch , a t its p in n a c le , th e re is a m a ssive sto n e c a lle d ak e ysto n e . T h is o n e sto n e su p p o rts th e e n tire w e ig h t o f th e a rc h a n d , in fa ct, itis th e w e ig h t th a t lo c k s it in p la c e a n d k e e p s th e w h o le stru c tu re fro mc o lla p sin g . T h e k e y sto n e h o ld s u p th e e n tire a rc h se c tio n .

In e a c h ca th e d ra l th e re a re m u ltip le a rch se ctio n s, so th e re a re m a n yk e ysto n e s. W h ile th e re a re m a n y se c tio n s a n d a rc h e s in th e c a th e d ra l, th e y a ren o t a ll b u ilt a t th e sa m e tim e . C a n y o u se e w h e re I a m g o in g w ith th is a n a lo g y ?

T h e c a th e d ra l is y o u r d re a m . E a c h a rch in th e c a th e d ra l is a n e sse n tia lc o m p o n e n t o f y o u r d re a m . W ith o u t th e m a ll, th e c a th e d ra l—in o th e r w o rd s, th ed re a m —is in c o m p le te .

S o w h a t h o ld s u p th e a rc h e s? W h a t is th e k e ysto n e o f e a ch c o m p o n e n t o f y o u rd re a m ? T h e k e ysto n e is y o u r “C ” F a cto r. T h e “C ” F a c to r is a p a rt o f y o u .

Y o u h a v e to b e c o m e th e c re a to r o f y o u r d re a m . Y o u h a v e to b e c o m e th a tp e rso n w h o y o u k n o w in th e d e e p e st p a rt o f y o u r so u l y o u c a n b e . Y o u m u st b eth e p e rso n w h o is so p o w e rfu lly fo c u se d o n liv in g y o u r d re a m th a t y o u a re lik ea m a g n e t d ra w in g iro n filin g s to y o u , a ttra c tin g e ve ryth in g in life th a t y o u e ve rtru ly , d e e p ly d e sire d a n d ch a n g in g th e fa ce o f th e w o rld fo re ve r b y d o in g th ew o rk th a t y o u ca m e h e re to d o .

Y o u r “C ” F a c to r is th e k e y sto n e , th e ly n c h p in o f e a ch p a rt o f y o u th a t ise sse n tia l to y o u r tra n sfo rm a tio n in to th e tru e y o u – th e y o u w h o cre a te s th o sed re a m s.



S o u n d a little sc a ry ? Y e a h , it is. S o u n d a little va g u e ? I’ll m a k e it c le a r, b u t fo rn o w , ju st sit th e re w ith th e v a stn e ss o f it, a n d le t it sin k in a little b it. D o y o uh a ve a w h o le sw a rm o f b u tte rflie s d a n c in g a ro u n d in y o u r sto m a ch ? I k n o w Ia lw a ys d o w h e n I th in k a b o u t th is.

Y o u se e , th e “C ” F a c to r is w h a t m a k e s p e o p le g re a t. W h ile o n ly in T h e Scie n c eo f C re a tin g Y o u r D re a m h a s th is p h e n o m e n o n b e e n n a m e d th e “C ” F a c to r, it iso n e o f th o se c o n c e p ts th a t p e o p le h a v e a lw a y s re c o g n ize d . In fa c t Jo h n F .K e n n e d y sa id , “L e t u s re so lve to b e th e m a ste rs, n o t th e v ic tim s o f o u r h isto ry ,c o n tro llin g o u r o w n d e stin y w ith o u t g iv in g w a y to b lin d su sp ic io n s a n de m o tio n s.”

M a h a tm a G a n d h i sa id , “T h e h isto ry o f th e w o rld is fu ll o f m e n w h o ro se tole a d e rsh ip b y sh e e r fo rce o f se lf-c o n fid e n c e , b ra ve ry , a n d te n a c ity .”

“W e w a n t to liv e in th e p re se n t, a n d th e o n ly h isto ry th a t is w o rth a tin k e r’sd a m n is th e h isto ry w e m a k e to d a y ,” fro m H e n ry F o rd .

S te p h e n R . C o ve y sa id , “L iv e o u t o f y o u r im a g in a tio n , n o t y o u r h isto ry .”

D w ig h t D . E ise n h o w e r sa id , “N e ith e r a w ise n o r a b ra ve m a n lie s d o w n o n th etra ck s o f h isto ry to w a it fo r th e tra in o f th e fu tu re to ru n o v e r h im .”

J . C . P e n n e y sa id , “G iv e m e a sto c k c le rk w ith a g o a l, a n d I w ill g iv e y o u a m a nw h o w ill m a k e h isto ry . G ive m e a m a n w ith n o g o a ls, a n d I w ill g iv e y o u a sto ckc le rk .”

E a rl N ig h tin g a le sa id , “T h e m in d m o v e s in th e d ire c tio n o f o u r cu rre n tlyd o m in a n t th o u g h ts.”

R o b e rt C o llie r sa id , “S ta rt w h e re y o u a re . D ista n t fie ld s a lw a y s lo o k g re e n e r,b u t o p p o rtu n ity lie s rig h t w ith w h e re y o u a re . T a k e a d va n ta g e o f e v e ryo p p o rtu n ity o f se rv ice .”

O riso n S w e tt M a rd e n , “T h e g o ld e n o p p o rtu n ity y o u a re se e k in g is in y o u rse lf. Itis n o t in y o u r e n v iro n m e n t. It is n o t in lu ck o r in c h a n c e o r in th e h e lp o fo th e rs. It is in y o u rse lf a lo n e .”

W . C le m e n t S to n e , “I th in k th a t th e re is so m e th in g m o re im p o rta n t th a nb e lie v in g : a c tio n . T h e w o rld is fu ll o f d re a m e rs. T h e re a re n o t e n o u g h w h o w illm o ve a h e a d a n d b e g in to ta k e co n c re te ste p s to a c tu a lize th e ir v isio n .

D a n C u ste r, “E ve ry m o rn in g is a fre sh b e g in n in g . E v e ry d a y is th e w o rld m a d en e w . T o d a y is a n e w d a y . T o d a y is m y w o rld m a d e n e w . I h a v e liv e d a ll o f m ylife u p to th is m o m e n t to c o m e to th is d a y , th is m o m e n t. T h is d a y is a s g o o d a s



a n y m o m e n t in a ll e te rn ity . I sh a ll m a k e o f th is d a y , e a c h m o m e n t o f th is d a y ,a h e a ve n o n e a rth . T h is is m y d a y o f o p p o rtu n ity .”

S o w h a t’s th e c o re o f y o u r d re a m ? W h a t is th e c o re o f th e p e rso n w h o liv e s iny o u r d re a m ? H e re is a sto ry c a lle d C h a n g in g th e W o rld :

W h e n I w a s a yo u n g m a n , I w a n te d to c h a n g e th e w o rld . I fo u n d it w a s d ifficu ltto ch a n g e th e w o rld , so I trie d to ch a n g e m y n a tio n . W h e n I fo u n d th a t Ic o u ld n ’t c h a n g e th e n a tio n , I b e g a n to fo cu s o n m y to w n . I c o u ld n ’t ch a n g e th eto w n a n d a s a n o ld e r m a n , I trie d to c h a n g e m y fa m ily . N o w a s a n o ld m a n , Ire a lize th e o n ly th in g I ca n c h a n g e is m e , a n d su d d e n ly I re a lize d th a t if lo n ga g o I h a d ch a n g e d m y se lf, I c o u ld h a v e m a d e a n im p a c t o n m y fa m ily . M yfa m ily a n d I c o u ld h a ve m a d e a n im p a c t o n o u r to w n . T h e ir im p a c t c o u ld h a vec h a n g e d th e n a tio n , a n d I co u ld in d e e d h a v e ch a n g e d th e w o rld .

In o u r la st e x e rc ise w e id e n tifie d th e th re e m o st im p o rta n t ch a ra c te ristics o fth e p e rso n w h o liv e s in y o u r d re a m , th e tru e y o u . W e a lso liste d a ll o f th e id e a sfo r h o w y o u ca n su p p o rt th o se ch a ra c te ristic s.

N o w I w a n t y o u to g o b a ck th ro u g h th o se lists fro m th e th re e c h a ra c te risticsy o u ch o se a n d c h o o se th e o n e , th e sin g le m o st im p o rta n t ch a ra c te ristic o f th a tp e rso n . N o w th e re is n o rig h t o r w ro n g a n sw e r to th is q u e stio n . Y o u w ill k n o ww h ic h o n e is fo r y o u . Y o u w ill b e d ra w n to it o v e r a n d o ve r a g a in .

T h is c h a ra c te ristic w ill b e c o m e th e first co m p o n e n t o f y o u r d re a m th a t y o ub u ild : th e first a rch o f y o u r c a th e d ra l. W h e n y o u h a v e ch o se n , ta k e th e list o fth e o th e r tw o ch a ra c te ristics a n d p u t th e m in a sa fe p la ce . Y o u w ill w a n t toc o m e b a c k to th e m in th e fu tu re , b u t rig h t n o w y o u w a n t to fo c u s o n th is o n e .

N o w ta k e y o u r list o f id e a s th a t su p p o rt th a t c h a ra c te ristic a n d sit w ith it fo r aw h ile . G o b a ck to y o u r v isio n a n d lo o k fo r m o re d e ta ils th a t su p p o rt th isc h a ra c te ristic . W rite d o w n a n y a d d itio n a l id e a s y o u m a y h a ve .

W h e n y o u a re fin ish e d w ith th a t, a sk y o u rse lf th e c ritica l q u e stio n , “W h a t o n eth in g , if I sa w it, fe lt a b o u t it, o r d id it d iffe re n tly , c o u ld m o ve m e c lo se r tob e in g th e p e rso n in m y v isio n ? T h is is y o u r “C ” F a cto r fo r c re a tin g th is se ctio no f y o u r d re a m .

W h e n th e se c tio n is c o m p le te , w h e n y o u h a v e b u ilt th e “C ” F a c to r u p so it’sstro n g a n d th e a rc h se c tio n fo r it is c o m p le te , o r w h e n yo u fe e l y o u a re re a d yto sta rt b u ild in g th e n e x t se c tio n , g o b a c k to y o u r list a n d b e g in th e p ro c e ssa g a in .

T h a t is re a lly a ll th e re is to it. T h e p ro c e ss is sim p le . B u t a lw a ys re m e m b e r th a tsim p le d o e s n o t n e ce ssa rily m e a n e a sy . W h e n b u ild in g y o u r “C ” F a c to r, it h a sto b e th e stro n g e st p a rt o f th a t e n tire se c tio n . It h a s to su p p o rt th e w e ig h t o fy o u r d re a m .



Y o u w a n t to b e su re th a t th e “C ” F a c to r is stro n g in e ve ry a re a o f y o u r life , n o tju st o n e o r tw o . In stre n g th e n in g o u r “C ” F a cto r, w e d isc o v e r th a t th e re a re 1 2m a jo r se ctio n s in e a c h o f o u r liv e s, a n d th a t th e y a ll m u st b e b a la n c e d fo r u s tob e c o m e th e p e rso n w h o liv e s in o u r d re a m .

N o w w h ile d isc o v e rin g th e “C ” F a c to r is a sc ie n c e , b a la n c in g a ll th e fa c to rsin v o lv e d is a g a m e . W e c a ll th a t th e “g a m e o f life ,” a n d I h a v e a lso d u b b e dth is th e “q u a n tu m g a m e ”.

T h ro u g h o u t th e se e x e rc ise s, w e h a ve d e lve d in to th e sc ie n c e o f c re a tin g y o u rd re a m . If y o u a re tru ly se rio u s a b o u t liv in g th e sto ry o f y o u r d re a m e a c h a n de ve ry d a y a n d m o v in g fo rw a rd w ith p a ssio n , p u rp o se , a n d v e lo c ity , ta k e th en e x t ste p . C o m e , a n d p la y th e g a m e .

If y o u w a n t to c h e c k o u t p la y in g th e g a m e w ith o th e r p e o p le , g o to th e w e b sitew w w .T h e Q u a n tu m G a m e .c o m .

I k n o w th a t, a s y o u h a ve w o rk e d th ro u g h th e e x p lo ra tio n s to g e t c le a r o n w h e rey o u a re a n d w h e re yo u w a n t to g o , y o u h a v e re c e iv e d a lo t o f g re a t v a lu e fo rth e sc ie n ce o f c re a tin g y o u r d re a m .

It is m y h o p e th a t y o u w ill jo in th e g a m e a s w e ll a n d le t it b e c o m e p a rt o fw h a t’s h e lp in g y o u tru ly liv e yo u r d re a m .

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