treating the non-offending parent by: angelé morgan, m.s.w., l.c.s.w
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Treating the Non-Offending Parent
By:Angelé Morgan, M.S.W., L.C.S.W.
Definition of a Non-Offending Parent (NOP)
• Any caregiver who ignores (directly or indirectly) the signs and symptoms of child abuse and neglect and fails to protect a child
Purpose of Treating the
Non-Offending Parent
This is accomplished through:
- Education- Guidance- Support
Family Safety
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What to Expect as a
Facilitator
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In The Beginning
Expect Resistance and Anger from the clients
- Non-Offending Parents feel judged by “the system” and “forced” to make quick decisions.
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During The Process
Some of the clients will not see the purpose of the treatment or engage in the learning process
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The Others
Will engage in treatment and actively learn
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Facilitator Challenges
Counter-Transference:
Our ability to listen and help a parent who fails to protect their child.
Client’s Right to Choose:
This class is particularly difficult for facilitators because, as hard as most of us try, we cannot understand how a parent would choose to be with an offender over their own child. So in order for the NOP’s to listen and learn from the facilitator there must be a non-judgmental and caring attitude going into each session.
Hearing this choice repeatedly can make it very difficult to stay motivated to help non-offending parents and to maintain the goals of treatment.
• Encourage parents to learn safety factors to protect their children
• Provide a better understanding and level of support for the parent’s current situation
• Help parents move out of denial
Goals of Treatment
Different Roles of the Non-Offending Parent
• Parent• Spouse/Partner• Victim• Offender (Neglect and Failure to Protect)
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What are some reasons a non-offending parent might be in
denial?
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FEAR
- Fear of having to choose between abuser and child
- Financial Fears
- Fear of facing their own past abuse
- Fear of being blamed or called a bad parent
Dynamics Associated with Non-Offending Parent
• NOP is grieving the loss of a relationship
• NOP may be a victim of past abuse themselves
• NOP may be feeling like a “bad” parent for not protecting his/her own child
• NOP may be in denial
• NOP may be jealous
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Outcomes for the Treatment of the Non-Offending Parent
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Measure the Concepts Learned
- Use a written test to measure what the non- offending parent has learned
- The facilitator offers recommendations to the referral source based on the non-offending parent’s participation, application of what they have learned (scenarios), and test scores
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Moving Forward
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Two Types of Reunification
• Reunification between the victim and the Non-Offending Parent
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Reunification steps when the victim is removed from the
home
Step1
Individual therapy session for the victim to discuss concerns related to returning home with the non-offending parent. The victim may want to make a list of questions for the non-offending parent to answer
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Step 2
Individual therapy session with the non-offending parent to address concerns and questions the victim has listed from step 1.
This session is to ensure the non-offending parent is not blaming the victim and is addressing the victim’s concerns appropriately
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Step 3
Family therapy session between the non-offending parent and victim to discuss the concerns and provide solutions which will ensure safety
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• Reunification between the victim and the abuser
Reunification Process Between the Victim and Abuser
No- Process stops
Does the victim want reunification?
Yes
No- Process stops
Has the victim completed counseling?
Yes
No- Process stops
Does the victims counselor agree that
victim is ready? Yes
No- Process stops
Does the abuser’s counselor agree
that abuser is ready? Yes
Reunification Process with Abuser
• Apology Session
• Clarification Session
• Family Safety Session
• Ongoing Family Sessions
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