USING GIFTS TO BUILD USING GIFTS TO BUILD CONNECTIONSCONNECTIONS

USING GIFTS TO BUILD USING GIFTS TO BUILD CONNECTIONSCONNECTIONS

Developed by Michael Smull with Lynne Plourde Kelly, Marg Eggert, Helen Developed by Michael Smull with Lynne Plourde Kelly, Marg Eggert, Helen Sanderson and Cindy Kernan January 2008Sanderson and Cindy Kernan January 2008

Not just better Not just better plans…plans…

Help people get better Help people get better liveslives

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ServiceLife

CommunityLife

• Important for addressed

• No organized effort to address important to

• To and for present• Active circle of support• Included in community life

• To and for present

• Closest people are paid or family

• Few real connections

Moving from Service Life to Community LifeMoving from Service Life to Community Life

A Good Paid Life

Focus on connecting, building relationshipsand natural supports‘Important to’ present

‘Important to’ recognized

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A Good Paid Life

ServiceLife

CommunityLife

Moving from Service Life to Community LifeMoving from Service Life to Community Life

• Important for addressed

• No organized effort to address important to

• To and for present• Active circle of support• Included in community life

• To and for present

• Closest people are paid or family

• Few real connections

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Relationship MapsRelationship MapsRelationship MapsRelationship Maps

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FROM PRESENCE TO CONTRIBUTIONFROM PRESENCE TO CONTRIBUTIONFROM PRESENCE TO CONTRIBUTIONFROM PRESENCE TO CONTRIBUTION

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PresentPresentHaving Having a a PresencPresencee

Actively Actively ParticipatiParticipatingng

ConnectiConnecting with ng with OthersOthers

ContributiContributingng

Going to the Going to the Football Football gamegame

Wearing Wearing Team Team ColoursColours

Cheering and Cheering and shouting at shouting at the refereethe referee

Joining the Joining the Supporters Supporters ClubClub

Setting up the Setting up the team team magazinemagazine

UnderstandUnderstand

What you hear depends onWhat you hear depends onwhat you are listening forwhat you are listening for

ListenListen

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THE FIVE QUESTIONS THE FIVE QUESTIONS THE FIVE QUESTIONS THE FIVE QUESTIONS

1.1.What do we know about what is important to the focus What do we know about what is important to the focus person, what does the focus person enjoy doing?person, what does the focus person enjoy doing?

2.2.What do others like and admire about the focus person?What do others like and admire about the focus person?

3.3.What does the focus person, do well?What does the focus person, do well?

4.4.How is the focus person smart?How is the focus person smart?

5.5.What have those who like and admire the focus person What have those who like and admire the focus person learned from the focus person, how has the focus person, learned from the focus person, how has the focus person, contributed to their lives how has the focus person, made contributed to their lives how has the focus person, made a difference in their lives?a difference in their lives?

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BRAINSTORMING RULESBRAINSTORMING RULESBRAINSTORMING RULESBRAINSTORMING RULES

1.1.All ideas are captured in a listAll ideas are captured in a list

2.2.The list should include the most silly and far out ideas.The list should include the most silly and far out ideas.

3.3.No editing until the list is generatedNo editing until the list is generated

4.4.Questions of clarity are expected and should also be asked of the Questions of clarity are expected and should also be asked of the person and a list should be generated. Don’t forget to include person and a list should be generated. Don’t forget to include the person in this process. the person in this process.

Then ask: Then ask:

““Given what we have learned where might (the Given what we have learned where might (the person’s name) gifts and contributions be person’s name) gifts and contributions be appreciated?”appreciated?”

LIKERT SCALELIKERT SCALELIKERT SCALELIKERT SCALE

1.1.Not at this timeNot at this time

2.2.Fair ideaFair idea

3.3.Good ideaGood idea

4.4.Very good ideaVery good idea

5.5.Exceptional ideaExceptional idea

ACTION PLANACTION PLANACTION PLANACTION PLAN

In pairs4 minute turns for all 4 questionsListener gives good attentionThinker talks 4 minutesSwapShare ‘freshest thinking’ with the group in a roundPost 1-2 of the ‘best’ ideas per question

Adapted from Kline, Nancy. (1998). Time to Think: Listening to Ignite the Human Mind. Cassell Illustrated.

Timed TalkTimed Talk

What did you learn?

What will you try based on what you learned? (what will you start on right now?)

What do you think you can accomplish?

What will your challenges/obstacles be?

What did you learn?

What will you try based on what you learned? (what will you start on right now?)

What do you think you can accomplish?

What will your challenges/obstacles be?

4 Questions4 Questions

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