using growth mindset to maximize your children's potential
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GROWTH MINDSET A Parenting
Approach:Introduction
Shona Schwartz S2 Training and Development [email protected]
Google, Feb. 16th. 2016
Have you ever said….
Fixed vs. Growth Mindset Fixed Growth
Intelligence and ability is innate. People are either smart or not. They are born with talent.
Intelligence and ability is developed through effort. Intelligence can be improved. Talents can be learned.
Traits: ● Blames others● Ignores feedback● Gives up● Avoids challenges ● Sees effort as a waste of time
Traits: ● Takes responsibility● Accepts critique and feedback● Persists ● Accepts challenges ● Sees effort as a path to improvement
The science behind mindset
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t4np5wLAhWw)
We need to strengthen our brain’s pathways for all learning!
“I think I can, I think I can, I think I can!!”
MAXIMIZING our children!
Our intentions… -Enjoy learning
- Work hard
-Confidence and feel good
-Succeed
-Independent
-Infinite opportunities
Raising children with a growth mindset:
Process over Product
Don’t protect from failure
Discipline: analysis and growth
The harm in praise Research studies
Problem with ‘go to’ phrases… “You learned that so quickly….you’re so smart!”
If I don’t get it I’m not smart?
“ Wow, you did so well without even studying much, you’re brilliant!”
If I study I’m not brilliant?
“ Gorgeous drawing! You’re the next Picasso!”
Oh no… I better only do things I’m ‘good at’
1) Process Vs. Product Growth mindset:(On process) Fixed mindset: (On product) I see you’re struggling to keep your room clean. What about trying…. (brainstorm)
Stop being so lazy!!
I’m proud that you didn’t procrastinate You’re so smart, you’ll do great.
I’m sorry you were frustrated, what can you do different next time?
Math isn’t your thing, it’s OK
I noticed that you put in a lot of effort to work collaboratively with others
You’re the smartest one in the group
It always takes lots of practice to learn new things
Here, I’ll do it for you
Give it a try- here’s an idea of a way to do it No one in our family was ever good at that
Let’s work together to get to know each other…
Such a stubborn baby
Instead of praise try…
2) Don’t protect from failure!
-Scenario of Elizabeth: Dweck pg.
180
DO NOT: - Protect kids from
failure.
DO: - Analyze failure and
support improvement
3) Discipline: Discipline:
The purpose: To teach.
DO NOT TEACH:
Children who break rules are punished and shamed
DO TEACH:
Think through issues. Always Think:
“Am I judging and punishing you or am I helping you think and learn”
What Growth Mindset is NOT:
Talent = Effort + Persistence Effort = product/outcome The Spectrum!
The Challenges…
1) Time
2) Change ourselves!
3) Support of others
4) Reality
Maximize Our Child!