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VALUES, GOALS, & MOTIVATION Child Care Skills: Successful Living

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VALUES, GOALS, & MOTIVATION

Child Care Skills: Successful Living

VALUES- PRINCIPLES THAT GUIDE BEHAVIOR - Based on our feelings and thinking about events, situations, groups of people and things. These are based on PREVIOUS experiences!

- Valuing is an ongoing process and this forms an integral part of YOUR personality and behaviors.

- Absolute values: extreme and definitive; black and white/Honesty is best.

- Relative values: Based on the context; seen in shades of grey. Honesty except when you need to put friendship, politeness, or consideration first.

Traditional, Personal, Professional.

SOCIETAL VALUES

Family/societal values can be influenced by : Family or societal upset, technological, economic cultural or environmental changes/threats.

Dramatic events such as war, famine and/or disease.

Ex: Global warming. The great depression influenced a generation to be cautious spenders.

CULTURAL VALUES

Generally held conceptualizations of what is right or wrong in a culture or what is preferred.

Our customs, manners, and gestures. Any examples you can think of? – In the U.S. you address someone using a formal name; Mrs. Mr. Miss to show respect.

In South Korea you bow to your elders or superiors.The ‘Ok’ gesture is an obscene gesture in some Latin American countries!

Location, location, location.

HOW DO WE DEFINE RICH?

How much money is a lot of money? Does money make you rich?

A recent study asked people ‘How much money would it take to make you feel rich?” Now matter how much money people had, it was always more. Those making $30,000 thought it would be $100,000 and

those making $100,000 thought it would be

$300,000. The result of the survey was that

everyone thinks they would be rich if they

had more money. Very few people felt

what they had was enough.

STANDARDS & FORMING YOUR VALUES The quantitative and/or qualitative criteria used to measure values and goals.

Each family has its own set of standards that vary from cleaning to spending time together.

How do you form your values?

Passed from older to younger members of a society.

Families help you.

Changes over time; more autonomy, less concern for conformity and/or obedience.

Socialization: The process by which children learn the rules and values of society. Media, friends, extended family are big influences. …other sources you can think of?

ATTITUDES ..say WHAT?

ATTITUDES

Are outlooks that may express our values, serve as a means of evaluation, or demonstrate a feeling in regard to some idea, person, object, event, situation, or relationship.

Your state of mind or feelings, likes and dislikes about something (musical artists, politics, etc.)

Attitudes are learned. Think- prejudice about racial or cultural issues, characteristics of rich vs. poor, ideas about war or politics, etc.)

The difference between attitudes and values…

Values are fairly CONSTANT whereas attitudes can CHANGE.

Values represent broad tendencies and highly prized beliefs (helpfulness, courage, ambition). Attitudes are narrower predispositions (clothing style & musical taste).

GOALS: BIG, SMALL, AND EVERYWHERE IN

BETWEEN Do you have any?!

GOAL ATTRIBUTES & ROLES

Intensity: Commitment, how much the goal is desired.

Complexity: The number of the goal’s interrelationships. What will be affected by it?

Priority: How important the goal is.

Resource Use: How much the goal is going to cost (energy & money) and how many resources will be put into this goal vs. other pursuits.

Timing: How long will it take to attain the goal?

Personal. Professional. Societal. Familial. – Goals in all or only one of these categories?

GOALS

Specific & realistic. Plan for potential problems. Stay active with it!

Help you focus the direction of your life and accomplish tasks.

Require commitment, energy, and motivation to achieve.

They reflect your wants, needs, values, and personality.

Short term: Less than 3 months to reach

Long term: 3 months- 1 year to reach Can often be broken down into a series of short term or intermediate goals so that it is less overwhelming.

They must be reasonable, affordable, and your MUST

have the resources to meet the goal.

Think of buying a house: down-payment and

monthly mortgage payment.

Buying a new car: Registration, inspection, license plates, and interest fees.

Goals should present a challenge BUT still be achievable.

Clearly formed and simply stated: “I want to buy a car!” vs. “I plan to buy a 2009 jeep wrangler within 1 year!” – This way you can visualize your goal.

Be optimistic! Your goals ARE reachable. (Insert cute famous actor meme).

SETTING GOALS

ANTHONY’S GOALS

Within the next 5 years Anthony would like to: Own a fitness center Have a nice apartment Date someone seriously, have lots of friends Work out daily

Are his goals realistic for someone who works fulltime in a gym and has a degree in nutrition and fitness?

Would any of these goals need to be broken into secondary goals?

MEETING YOUR GOALS

You need a plan… Set specific goals and prioritize them. State goals clearly and positively. Determine possible future events and resources (materials & effort) needed to deal with them. Expect possible problems, think of solutions for some that may pop up. Implement your plan!

OVERCOMING OBSTACLES

Resilience is KEY

Divide larger goals into smaller goals – you will feel like you are getting closer to your large goal.

Have a friend check up on you periodically …think of a gym buddy. Motivation!

Look for roadblocks in advanced. Think- how can you possibly deal with them?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-gQLqv9f4o

MOTIVATION!

“The biggest human temptation is…to settle for too little.” – Thomas Merton

Motivated people work harder to meet their goals.

Motivation is a process born of tension that a need is unsatisfied. The tension drives the person to meet that need by searching for resources or information to reduce the tension.

Intrinsic motivation: internal need. (satisfaction from the process).

Extrinsic motivation: External forces. (Money, promotion, grades, other rewards).

Who is your support system?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLYECIjmnQs