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HAPPINESSQUOTIENT


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THEHAPPINESSQUOTIENTLifesGreatestPrize Happiness

KingofBhutanCoinedthetermGrossNational

Happiness 1972ThisisonlyBody,MindandSoulyouwillbegiven.

Takecareofwhatisyoursandenjoyit.

Note:ThispresentationispreparedfrombookTheHappinessQuotient,viewsaretakenfromthebook

as

it

is

and

summarized

in

presentable

form

to

spread

happinessandtoguideyoutothestateof joyfulliving .With

Warm

Regards

YourColleagueMr.AshokMisal


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ConceptofHQ

Thehappinessquotient(HQ)isaconceptthatmeasureapproximately,themeasureofhappinesseachpersonhasachievedinhislife.Thepresentationprovidesa

blueprintto

increase

ones

HQ.

It

starts

by

describing

thecreationofpositivemindspace,onethatnurturesthepositiveemotionsthatincreasehappiness.Italsodiscussestheimpactofnegativefields

andhowto

avoidthem.

Antihappinesstraps,too,findspecialplaceinthispresentation.Theyrequirespecialidentificationastheycanbeverymisleading,likeacomfortablegoldencage

full

of

fruits.

Whatever

the

external

circumstancesmaybe,theindividualisresponsibleforhisinnerstate.Eventsarenotinourcontrol,butourperceptionsandreactionstothemare.This

presentationis

an

investment

in

Life's

Greatest

Prize

HAPPINESS


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7 Radiant Actions for

Joyful Living


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7RadiantActionsforJoyfulLiving

The1stRadiantActionforPhysicalWellness

The2ndRadiantActionforEmotionalWellness

The3rdRadiantActionforPersonalWellness

The4thRadiantActionforNurturingThe

Workplace

The5thRadiantActionforSocialBonding

The6th

Radiant

Action

for

Family

Bonding

The7thRadiantActionforDharmic (Spiritual)Living.


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The1stRadiantActionforPhysical

Wellness


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PhysicalWellness

Physicalfitnessisofutmostimportanceasit

is

the

starting

point

for

wellnessof

mind

and

spirit.Takecareofyourselfasnooneelse

cando

it

for

you.

Thebodyisourvehicleforthejourneyofour

soulin

this

world.

Body

vehiclehastobemaintainedingoodcondition,sothatwe

mayachieve

the

goals

for

whichwewerecreated.

Listentoyourbody.

Ifyou

are

tired,

rest.

Ifyouarehungry,eat.

Ifyouarelonely,communicate,askforhug.Ifyouareangry,dealwithyourangerconstructively,andresolve

it.


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PhysicalWellness

Food:YouarewhatyoueatRulesforeating:

Sit

down

peacefully

to

eat.

Closeyoureyesandallowyourmindtoleaveallothersubjectsandreturntothefoodbeforeyou.

Thankstheuniverseforcreatingthefoodthatwillgiveyoutheenergytoaccomplishyourgoals.

Focuson

the

sight,

smell,

feel,

touchandfinallythetasteofthefoodyouareeating.Asyouchew,becompletely

assuredthat

the

food

is

gently

repairingallthecellsofyourbody.

SomeAsanas

Padmasana

(LotusPose)

Sarvangasana

(Shoulderstand)

Matsyasana

(FishPose)

Dhanurasana

(BowPose)

Savasana

(Shanti

Asana)

Silence:Practicesilence

Themindisadrunkenmonkeythatisbittenbyascorpion

allowittorelaxintosilence.


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Padmasana

(Lotus Pose) Sarvangasana

(Shoulderstand)Matsyasana

(Fish Pose) Dhanurasana

(Bow Pose )

PhysicalWellness


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The2ndRadiantActionforEmotionalWellness


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EmotionalWellness Emotions&FieldofEnergy

Positivefieldbypositive

emotions.Apositivefilediscreatedbypositiveemotions.

Somepeoplealwayslook

radiant,and

everything

in

theirlifeflourishesandgrows.Theyhavepositiveenergyfieldaroundthem.

GreatMusicianTansen

sang,it

issaid

that

deer

wandered

into thepalacetolisten

ScientistJ.C.Boseshowedthatplantsgrowfasterwith

pleasant

music

and

their

growthis

retarded

in

noise

or

harshsound.

Negativefieldbynegative

emotions.Whenwearetired,ourenergylevelgoesdown;wedonotfeellikedoinganything.Whenfield

around

is

negative

with

anger,

hurt,possessiveness,greed,jealousy,fearandabhorrence(feelingofextremeaversion),wearelessabletoactwith

speedand

efficiency.

These

negativeemotionssucktheenergyandlifeforceoutofus.


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EmotionalWellness

ThePositiveField( )TheNegativeField(x)

!! Create !! !! Erase !!


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EmotionalWellness:+ve

Verbal,TonalandNonverbalBehaviors:Aprayer

Acommon

exercise,

a

company

song,commongoals.Ahandshake,afriendlylook,anencouragingword.Thinking,believingandactingina

positivemanner.Laughterandsharedjokes.

Meditation,practicedregularly,helpseliminatenegativefieldsbydevelopingthecapacitytobepositiveanddisciplined.

Positiveaffirmations:

ActsofappreciationsCompliments

Dontsayharshorhurtingwords,ifyouhavetosaysomething

unpleasant,say

it

as

kindly

as

possible.

ThroughLoveandReverenceEverydayexperiencecanbeelevatedtothe

level

of

sacredness

by

feeling

of

love

andreverence(Shraddha),Mentalbath,SacredPlace.

ConceptofDrala:

Itsaysthatanyspacecanbemadesacred.

When

person

treats

his

office

space

with

reverenceand

keep

it

clean

and

sparkling,heattractsdrala

intothat

space.Dralamakesthatspacepowerfulandattractive.Whenpersondressescarefully,speaks

and

acts

mindfully,

he

attracts

personal

Drala.DralaatHome

WhiteflowerpatternsdrawnattheentrancetoattractgoddessLakshmi(Goddessofgoodfortune)

Fragranceof

incense

and

joss

sticks

CertainsoundslikethatofMantrasorsoundofbellaresaidtopurifythefield.

Learn to create positive field is an important part of the climate of

wellbeing. A positive field is created by:

E ti l W ll


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EmotionalWellness

:+

ve StepstowelcomeDralaintoyourlife:

Keepyour

surrounding

and

living

spaces

clean

CreatebeautyinthemwithflowersandcrystalsKeepthemwellfurnished

Fillthem

with

music

Bemindfulofwhatpassesyourlips

foodandwords.Letthem

behealthyNurturingthePrana

:Prana

isthelifeforcethatflowsinall

livingthings,

when

prana leavesthebody,bodydies.WhenPrana

isfullflow,thepersonisfullofvitality,energyandenthusiasm.Prana

createsafieldofpossibilitieswherethe

seedofanyideadevelopsrapidly,whereouractivities

proceedssmoothly

and

bear

rich

dividends.

Todevelopprana,meditation,pranayama

andcalmattitude

arekeys.Eatingtoomuch,consumingstale(notfresh)food,exercisingtill

you

are

ready

to

drop

dead,

constant

arguments,

overworking,gettingemotionallyupset,breathingpollutedair,allinterferewithsmoothflowofprana.


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EmotionalWellness: veIfpeopleinthegroupfeelexcluded,theycannotcontributegoodideasorhelptocreateahappyatmosphere.Theymayevenchangethenatureofpositivefieldbytheirunhappiness.

Justas

a

drop

of

cyanide

can

poison

a

clear

pool

of

water

so

too

cantheunhappinessofasinglepersonpoisonthefieldinahomeoracompany.Negativitygivesofftoxicwavesofhostility

whichturnaflourishingfieldintodesert.In

the

negative

field,

individuals

are

afraid

to

think

differently;

newideasfadeawaybeforetheyareformulated.Insuchafield,onlythemostobviousideaswhichappearpracticalandsensiblewillbeshared.Allbutthemostobviousideaswillberejected.

Theseideasareusuallyoflittleuseastheyarestaleandoutdated.Achildneverpraisedorcomplimentedturnsintoaninsecureadultwithlittleselfesteem.Heiswaryaboutsayingordoing

anythingfor

fear

of

disapproval

or

scorn.

Continued

exposure

to

negativefieldcancausemanyhealthproblemstoo.


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EmotionalWellness: ve

Lackofenthusiasm.

Interesttoviolentoutburstsofrage,tosuspicion

andsour

look.

PoliticsandManipulationsbecometheorderof

theday.BeAWARE that:

Innegativefieldthebigfiveemotionsoflust,anger,obsession,greedandjealousyhaveafreerun.

//Inhabitingthisnegativefieldcanbeasoulsappingexperience //

Howtoidentifyanegativefieldinyourhomeand

organization?Lookforfollowingsignals:


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Negativefield

to

be

destroy

byfollowingErasingNegatives:

Eraseall

mental,visualandemotionaltapesthatarehurtful,upsetting

and

destructive.

Theyhavebeenputintherebyteachers,parents,friendsandenemiesinthepastand

present.

Each

time

you

play

them,consciously

or

otherwise,yourbodyisinundatedbytoxinsthatseriouslydamageit.

Negativefieldcanbereplacedusing

positive&bychangingyourself

?

Dealingwith

negative

emotions:

AngerRedLight

Stop,calmdownandthink

before

you

act.YellowLight

Statetheproblemandhowyoufeel

Setapositivegoal.

Thinkof

several

solutions

to

a

problem.

Thinkaheadtotheconsequencesofyouractions.

GreenLight

Goahead

and

execute

the

bestplan


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Dealingwithnegativeemotions:

Depression:

Lowmoodandlossofinterestin

everydayactivities.

How

to

treat

depression?

Recognizetheproblemandmakedeliberateeffortstoriseabovethegloom.

Calmyourself

by

talking

kindly

to

yourself

Drawonmemoriesoftimeswhenyoufelthappy,appreciatedandconfident.

Practice

some

form

of

meditation

or

silence

as

it

will

heal

andilluminateyourinnerspace.

The 3rd Radiant Action for Personal


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The3rdRadiantActionforPersonalWellness


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PersonalWellness

Beforeyouareahusband,afather,asonorateammate,youareaperson.Explorethe

self,the

you

in

your

life.

Eachofuscomesintotheworldwithaneedtolearn

manythings.

Life

is

the

ultimateclassroom.Eachofushasdifferentproblemstosolve,teststopass.Events

willswirl

around

us

uncontrolled,regardless.Ourresponseissomethingwecancontrol.

Followingfactorsareseriouslyjeopardizingtheindividualspersonalwellnesstoday.

Stress:Any

of

the

big

five

emotions

kama,kroda,madha,lobha,

matsarya

(Lust,Anger,Arrogance,

greed,jealousy)canfloodthebody

withthe

chemicals

of

stress.

Stress

isdestructive.Stressisageing.Stressisakiller.

WorkplaceandStress:Stressis

pricewe

pay

for

success

ModerntechnologyandStress

Theglobaleconomy

Replacingautocraticsystemswith

democraticModes

Thetriumphoftheindividual

Womenintheworkplace

Personal Wellness


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PersonalWellness

Yourlifeprovidesyouwithachancetoachievethehighestinyourself,byusingpainas

steppingstones

to

enlightenment.

Noonecanavoidbadtimes,but

youcan

ensure

that

you

look

at

thistimeasatimeforgrowthandlearning

Poor

music

into

your

soul.

Touchpeoplewholoveyou.Explorenewplaces.Reachintogreatbooksandstudyalternate

futures.Pamper

yourself

and

askyourlovedonesforhugs.

EverythinglifeoffersisPrasadblessedbygods.

GoodandBad

experiences,peoplewholove

youand

those

who

hate

you,

are

allsentheretoteachyou.Goontoachieveyourhighestpotential.

Look

for

the

highest

in

others.

Knowyourpurposeonearth,thehighestthatgodcreateyoutobecome.Questioninjustice,

standup

for

those

who

cannot

fight,speakforthosewhohavenovoice,speakgentlyandwithlove

HALT:(DontBetoo,Hungry,Angry,Lonely&Tired)

Howtosolvetheproblemsingreattextbookoflifetoachieve

personalwellness?

The 4th Radiant Action for Nurturing


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The4thRadiantActionforNurturingTheWorkplace

Nurturing the workplace


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NurturingtheworkplaceValuingHumanEffort:

Ahuman

effortdoesntmatterhowsmallshouldbetreatedwithrespect.Learntodealwithothersandtheir

feelings: Sympathyv/s empathy.DrugaddictonceexplainedYoucanneverfeelanythingbutsympathyformeandwhatIneedisempathy.Empathyisthecapacitytofeelmypaininyourheart.Tobesociallytone

deaf

can

lead

to

a

life

with

brokenrelationships.(Petersalovey).Developthecapacitytopickupsubtleverbal,tonalandnonverbalsignalsfromothers.Learnalsothe

ability

to

send

nurturing

signals

to

others,thus

creating

a

positive

interpersonalfield.

HealthAngle:

Todaysomuchofour

livesarespentintheoffice.Thecorporatejungletakesanunimaginabletollontheheart.Duetomodernurge

to

change

jobs

rapidly,

many

executivesfind

themselves

in

threateningenvironmentssurroundedbypotentialenemies.Theyhavehadnotimetodevelopfriendsortrustedsupports.Everydaytheywalkintothe

modernequivalent

of

a

jungle

infested

withwildanimalsanddanger.Familysupportsystemsarefaraway.Mostofusspendmostofourtimeatwork.Ifwedonotenjoyourwork,ifwefeeloverwhelmedbyit,itwillsurely

damageus.

The

constant

pressure

of

negativeemotionscausesinescapabledamagetoourarteriesandotherdelicatetissues.Italsoslowsdownthebodyscapacitytorepairthisdamage.

Politics

can

make

the

blood

boiled

with

suppressedrage

and

unexpressed

anxiety

Ways to enhance a positive work field :

Nurturing the workplace


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NurturingtheworkplaceMakeyourworkplacecleanandComfortable.Surrounditwithhappypictures.Ensureanatmospherefreeofair

and

sound

pollution.Haveanindoorgarden.StarttheworkingdaywithaprayerorplayVande

Mataram

Shareathoughfortheday.

Createa

friendly

atmosphere.

Greetpeoplewarmly.Respectothers.Haveanatmosphereofmutualunderstanding.Create

meaningful

personal

relationshipwithcoworkers.Keeppromises.Takeresponsibilityandownership

Beopen

minded

PlaysoftmusicinproductionareaMeetinrecreationalclubStartahumorclub,sharejokeoninternet

Starta

book

and

magazine

club

CelebratebirthdaysandanniversariesShareinterestingarticleswithyourcolleaguesAlwaysencourage,donotdiscourage.Appreciate,

not

criticize

people

SharestrengthandweaknessesAppreciatetalent.Eliminateselfishness

Neveruse

peoples

possessions

withouttellingthem.DonnotdisturbpeoplewhoareworkingBeintouch withbestpracticesinyour

fieldNetworkwiththebestprofessionalsinyourfield.

Ways to enhance a positive work field :

The 5th Radiant Action for Social


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The5thRadiantActionforSocialBonding

S i l B di


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SocialBondingSomepeoplehavetheabilitytoempathise

withothers.Theycan

recognizeand,tosomeextent,sharefeelingsthatarebeingexperienced

by

another.

This

skill

involvesbeingabletopickupthesubtleverbal,tonalandnonverbalsignalsthatpeoplegive.Charismaticleadersarewellversed

in

this

skill,

they

use

it

to

break

barriersbetween

people

and

reach

outtothem.Thosewhoaretonedeaftosignalsfromotherspayaheavyprice.Theymaystruggletounderstandwhytheir

relationships

do

not

last

and

whyeveryoneseemstofleefromthem.Apersonwithoutpersonalintelligence,trappedincaregivingprofessionsliketeaching,salesand

management,

is

likely

to

be

terribly

stressedout,

damaging

himself

by

wanderingthroughanemotionallandscapelittered withlandmines

Interpersonalintelligence:This istheabilitytounderstandotherpeople,tocommunicateeffectivelywiththem,toidentifywhatmotivatethem,andtowork

cooperatively

with

them.

Intrapersonalintelligence

:Thisisthe

inwardabilitytounderstandandformanaccuratemodelofonesselfandtooperatethatmodeleffectivelytolive

lifeNote:

Forthosewhodefinesuccessas

happiness,thesetwoelementsareessentialtolearnandpractice

Remarks:

Thebasisofsocialsuccessliesin

theability

to

build

successful,

pleasantlyharmonious,lifetimerelationshipswithall.Whenyoumeetanyone,alwayslookforwhatisgood.Listenforvalue.Celebratethepositiveinallinteractions.RestassuredthatGod

did

not

create

you

for

the

sole

purposeofcorrectingothersormakingthemunhappy.Youarenottheworlds oliceman

Man is a social animal and needs to live in harmony with fellow human beings.

Concept of personal intelligence Two aspects of personal intelligence

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SocialBondingPhrasesthatBuildingLifetimeRelationships

Iagree.

Ireally

enjoy

talking

to

you.

Thatsgood!

Goodjob!

Imadeamistake,Imsorry.

Ilike

the

way

you

left

your

room

cleantoday.

Thatsagreatidea!

Youareontherighttrack

Thatsa

winner!

Ibelieveyoucandoit!

Iknowyoucanmakeitwork!

Ifanyonecandoit,youcan.

Congratulations!Beautiful!

WhatIreallylikeaboutyouis

PhrasesthatDestroyRelationship:

WhatIcantstandaboutyouis

Youare

always

messing

things

up.

Trustyoutocomeupwithanimpossibleidea.

Everytimeyoucomehere,thereisamess.

Youhavenoideaaboutthis.

Wehavetriedallthatyousay.Itdoesntwork.

Itsoundsokay,butitisquite

impractical.Beserious.Bepractical.

Hasanyonedoneitbefore?

Letsaskfiftypeopleaboutit.

Youdont

understand

our

culture

Phrases that Building Lifetime Relationships v/s Destroy Relationship

S i l B di


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SocialBonding

Studythegrouptowhichyoubelongandseewhetheryoushare:

Commongoals,LanguageShare

jokes,

pet

names

Personalsuccess/failureAcommonshorthandofthinkingandspeakingCompliment,comfortandsupport

Affirmation

and

helpJOINSUCHAGROUP

(INCLUSION)

Groups

candamageuifthey

excludeu,by:

Constant

criticism,

never

paying

complimentsSpeakinginsecretcode,sharing

jokeswhichudontunderstandNotmakingeyecontactConstantteasing,notofferingseatNotsendinginvitationforgatheringsLaughingatyourideas,gangingupagainstyou

LEAVESUCH

A

GROUP

IMMEDIATELY(EXCLUSION)

Guidelines for Inclusion and Exclusion from groups -

Belonging to a supportive nurturing group is the best protection you can have againstdisease and unhappiness. Being loved can prevent you from the flood of negativeemotions that have a capacity to destroy you. Today many people have no friendsand are not in touch with their families either. Old people have to make do with dogs

instead of grandchildren. Keep in touch with your family and extended families.Join supportive groups

The 6th Radiant Action for Family


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The6th

Radiant

Action

for

Family

Bonding

Family bounding


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Familybounding

FamilyandChildren

Teenagersinthe

family

Timewithchildren

Roleof

wife

Thenewwomen:onthecuspofchange

CreatingJoyinfamilylife

Familyas

a

community

CelebrationsHappinesscreatingActivities

TheIdeal

Home

The 7th Radiant Action for Dharmic


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The7th

Radiant

Action

for

Dharmic (Spiritual)Living.

Dharmic Living


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Dharmic Living

Ashta

Lakshmis:

Adi

Lakshmi

orMaha

Lakshmi

an

ancientformofLakshmi

asdaughterof

sageBhrigu.

Dhana

Lakshmi

is

goddess

for

money

andgold.Dhanya

Lakshmi

isthegoddessofgrain

andgiverofagriculturalwealth.Gaja

Lakshmi

isgiverofanimalwealth

like

cattle

and

elephants.SantanaLakshmi

isthebestower

of

offspring.Veera

Lakshmi

isthebestower

of

valour

inbattlesandcouragefor

overcomingdifficultiesinlife

Vijaya

Lakshmi

is

the

giver

of

victory.

Vidya Lakshmi isbestower ofknowledgeabouttheartsandsciences.

TruewellbeingencompassestheAshta

Lakshmis.Eachofthese

Goddessessymbolizesaformof

wealth,

which

as

a

package,

can

giveyou

a

feeling

of

complete

contentmentandhappiness.Beinghappyisyourresponsibility.Youhavetotakeresponsibilityforthechanges,Allchangehastostartwith

you,

REMEMBER?

Weallfearextinction.Soweseektoleavealegacythatwillendure,afootprint,whichwillleavetheworld

a

better,

happier,

place.

To

bebornamanisprivilege,LetusthankGodforthisgiftoflife

Dharma is the Law of right living

You can fool everybody, but you cant fool yourself. Not even for the single minute.Doing your dharma as you understand it, alone can make you happy. If you feel thatwhat you are doing is adharma, you can never be happy. Unless you live by your owninternal standards you can never be happy. When you bend the rules you reduce your

chances for true, pure happiness.


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