Was He Married?BYSTEVIE SMITHWas he married, did he tryTo support as he grew less fond of themWife and family?

No,He never suffered such a blow.

Did he feel pointless, feeble and distrait,Unwanted by everyone and in the way?

From his cradle he was purposeful,His bent strong and his mind full.

Did he love people very muchYet find them die one day?

He did not love in the human way.

Did he ask how long it would go on,Wonder if Death could be counted on for an end?

He did not feel like this,He had a future of bliss.

Did he never feel strongPain for being wrong?

He was not wrong, he was right,He suffered from others, not his own, spite.

But thereisno suffering like having made a mistakeBecause of being of an inferior make.

He was not inferior,He was superior.

He knew then that power corrupts but some must govern?

His thoughts were different.

Did he lack friends? Worse,Think it was for his fault, not theirs?

He did not lack friends,He had disciples he moulded to his ends.

Did he feel over-handicapped sometimes, yet must draw even?

How could he feel like this? He was the King of Heaven.

...find a sudden brightness one day in everythingBecause a mood had been conquered, or a sin?

I tell you, he did not sin.

Do only human beings suffer from the irritationI have mentioned? learn too that being comicalDoes not ameliorate the desperation?

Only human beings feel this,It is because they are so mixed.

All human beings should have a medal,A god cannot carry it, he is not able.

A god is Mans doll, you ass,He makes him up like this on purpose.

He might have made him up worse.

He often has, in the past.

To choose a god of love, as he did and does,Is a little move then?

Yes, it is.

A larger one will be when menLove love and hate hate but do not deify them?

It will be a larger one.

Stevie and Marriage: Preface Florence Stevie Smith grew up in unstable family conditions. Her family was falling apart, and she observed every moment with hushed censure. These repressed feelings can be seen in her poetry. Her unfortunate childhood experiences attribute to a mistrustful, cynical tone in her poem Marriage I Think.For sources I have consulted three separate levels of libraries. At the high school library I found a series called Critical Survey Of Poetry that has been most helpful in providing background information on Smith, as well as critical reviews of some of her poems. The Shippensburg Public Library as well as the Bosler Library has provided a collection of Smiths later poems (of which I chose my focus poem) called Me Again, as well as The Norton Anthology Of Literature By Women that has helped with finding out about Smiths childhood and other biographical information. The Dickinson College Library has been most helpful. There I checked out Stevie Smith, In Search of Stevie Smith, and Stevie, all of which contain vast amounts of research into her childhood and younger years as related to her later poems, thus providing a wealth of both criticism and biographical information. I have also consulted numerous websites to look for her poems and other information, but with very little success.I have two main sections to my paper, excluding my introduction and conclusion. The first section contains information about Smiths view of the institution of marriage. This section provides evidence from the focus poem, Smiths friends, as well as her own life. The second section of my paper contains information regarding the way in which she saw men or interacted with them as a result of her childhood. It has evidence from her further literary works, her own life, as well as interviews with friends.Stevie and MarriageFlorence Stevie Smith grew up in unstable family conditions. Her family was falling apart, and she observed every moment with hushed censure. These repressed feelings can be seen in her poetry. Her unfortunate childhood experiences attribute to a mistrustful, cynical tone in her poem Marriage I Think.Smiths poem Marriage I Think contains many references to her belief that the bond of marriage between a man and a woman is fraudulent, particularly for the woman. Her poem reads,Marriage I thinkFor womenIs the best of opiatesIt kills the thoughtsThat think about the thoughts,It is the best of opiates.(lines 1-6)By comparing marriage (for women) to a mind-numbing narcotic, Smith clearly uses a pessimistic tone. She contends that the marital bond, contrary to popular belief, hurts women on the inside. In 1906 4-year-old Smith, her ill mother Ethel, sister Molly, and aunt Margaret are deserted by her father Charles, the main support of the family. Charles grows bored with the marriage, and abruptly sets out on his childhood dream of becoming a naval officer (Sternlicht 4). At this point, Smiths family of four women, including two children and a sick mother, are left to fend for themselves, with the care of Smiths aunt. In another one of Smiths poems entitled Papa Love Baby, she writes that she wished mama hadnt made such a foolish marriage./it showed in my eyes unfortunately/And a fortnight later papa ran away to sea (Barbera and McBrien 9). As she grows up in a predominantly feminine household, Smith dwells on her fathers family desertion. She jokes that for many, marriage is a chance clutch upon a hen-coop in mid-Atlantic (Barbera and McBrien 65). The evidence in the poems points to feelings of loneliness and abandonment. Smith also wrote in her poem Every Lovely Limbs a Desolation about women who are caught up in dead-end relationships fretting over loneliness (Magill 3075). The evidence from Marriage I Think shows that later in her life, she focused on the abandonment of her mother in a supposedly sacred marriage. Smith grew up in an England where women were to support and submit to the furthering of men, but broke out of that trap, not with a powerful rebellious thrust of a sword, but subversively, with the stealth of oil (Stevie Smith 16). In her maturity, Smith maintained a calm, passive exterior. Inwardly she laughed, cried, seethed, suffered, and defended self (Sternlicht 24). No matter how much she resisted the female stereotype, Smith was not in the least a feminist. Rather, Stevie fought the ancient battle against male control alone and in the only way she could: by being herself (Stevie Smith 105). After growing up knowing the harsh reality of an uncaring husband, Smith realizes that a marriage is nothing more than a mental narcotic that dulls a womans perception of reality.Smiths realization of marriage as a fraud leads to loneliness and heartbreak in her life, most of which stems from her fathers desertion. Stevie nursed a lifelong resentment against her father. She took the desertion personally, and it made her suspicious of men and their commitments (Stevie Smith 2). Evidence of this grudge can be found in Smiths lifelong devotion to poetry.But too long in solitude shed dwelt,And too long her thoughts had feltTheir strength. So when the man drew near,Out popped her thoughts and covered him with fear.(lines 8-11)Within Smiths writing, a clear and ominously lonely tone appeared. She maily wrote with three separate voices: a child, an adolescent, and a lonely old woman, but the lonely old woman seems to speak the loudest in such poems (Stevie Smith 101). Eventually a ray of hope dawned on the horizon in the form of a German who Smith became aquainted with. Even after this romance was dashed because of a war, Smith met another boy named Eric Armitage. Unfortunately Armitage was looking for a conventional wife, which Smith practically detested, so they went their separate ways (Stevie Smith 6). In her book Novel On Yellow Paper, she describes their courtship like a game that has no significance but to play we are engagedand in our hearts we are beginning to think: Never never can we marry (Barbera and McBrien 59). Throughout all of these relationship disasters, Smith has one solid relationship that she relies on. This pillar of friendship is based around her Aunt Lion whom she was cared for by as a child. In an interview Peter Orr, Smith talks about this relationship. I live with an aunt who is ninety. Im very fond of her, but we live alone (Sternlicht 37). Eventually Smith learns to accept the way women are treated in her society. She goes on to write in her poem,Better that she had kept her thoughts on a chain,For now shes alone again and all in pain;She sighs for the man that went and the thoughts that stayTo trouble her dreams by night and her dreams by day.(lines 13-16)Through acceptance, Smith sees her life for what it really is due to her choices. However, she did not anticipate the loneliness waiting in the middle-age desert of biological singlehood (Sternlicht 8). This solemn void has a significant impact on Smith, but she remains steadfast. Even after gazing over the vast wasteland of this desert, Smith regains a sense of endurance that her archly crafted, powerfully ambiguous poetic performance strives to negotiate (Sternlicht 110).The mistrustful, cynical tone in Stevie Smiths poem Marriage I Think is a result of her unique childhood circumstances. This tone can be traced back to hidden feelings from a young age, in which Smith observed the horrible situation of her environment. Smith is one of many poets that rely on adolescent experiences to communicate retained attitudes.AppendixMarriage I Thinkby Stevie Smith

Marriage I thinkFor womenIs the best of opiates.It kills the thoughtsThat think about the thoughts,It is the best of opiates.So said Maria.But too long in solitude shed dwelt,And too long her thoughts had feltTheir strength. So when the man drew near,Out popped her thoughts and covered him with fear.Poor Maria!Better that she had kept her thoughts on a chain,For now shes alone again and all in pain;She sighs for the man that went and the thoughts that stayTo trouble her dreams by night and her dreams by day.