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Welcome to Week One: Being You FearlesslyNOTE: This is WEEK ONE of the CODEPENDENCE-TO-CONFIDENCE Training HEAL. To get the full training + Addiction-to-Connection & THRIVE Strategy + Live Mentoring Hours, go to: http://pass.freetheself.com

Make sure to watch the training here before doing today's exercises: https://www.freetheself.com/start-healing-now/

Let's get started!

BEING

Being is all about occupying the fact we exist and that our existence is worthwhile, valuable, and matters. Our beingness has been neglected through being ignored, used, dismissed, and discarded. We've found ourselves left alone facing big problems, scary situations, and handling overwhelming emotions. When we expressed ourselves, we may have found ourselves shutdown, criticized, diminished, or absorbed (where they make your expression about their value).

What we are NOT giving is a concept called “Reflection”. Reflection means that another person communicated back to you their awareness of YOU, what YOU like, what YOU dislike, what YOU feel, and YOUR value. They've taken time to take who you are within their consideration and reflect back to you who they see there.

An example from my experience: A few years back a friend and I were wandering down aforest trail gabbing about life. I brought up a childhood experience and my home in Flagstaff, AZ. I expressed some affection and longing for home. She reflected that back in a very kind tone, “Flagstaff is really important to you, isn't it?”

The fact she took time to see that Flagstaff was indeed important to me and reflect it back showed me she was listening and that what I felt and cared about mattered to her, too. That is reflection in action.

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This week's journey is to begin releasing the shame around your BEINGNESS, reconnecting with love for your existence, and begin knowing who you are from the experience of simply being you as you are.

You will be doing some reflection exercises in the Discovery Journal elements that are a part of each week. Take your time with this, but please do them. Those that fall into the 98% success rate I have are those that do the work and stick with the growth curve.

To get the most out of this week, please complete the following before you begin Week 2 in 7 days.

• Complete watching the “Welcome Workshop” if you haven't already• Watch the Week One: BEING Workshop• Watch the Week One: BEING video• Complete each Daily Discovery Practice (follow the guide below or the email

prompts you'll be receiving)• Complete the Evaluations that come with each day

To review, the HEAL process happens in 3 Steps:

• STEP ONE: Clear the Emotion that binds you (shame, fear, guilt, or fatigue, or otheremotion that shows up or validating the emotions that show up and need that)

• STEP TWO: Integrate the Love that completes you • STEP THREE: Discover the Real You

Step One uses the clearing meditations to help you begin dislodging old, stuck shame, guilt, fear, and fatigue from your body and mind. Step Two uses the Daily Integrative Meditations to integrate love and bring in comfort, compassion, nurture, and expansion to your emerging Self. Step Three uses the Embodiments to help you discover the Real You. The Embodiment is an experiment you do over the 7-day period for each attribute. You do not need to do the Embodiment Practice all in one day!

The Daily Discovery Practice has you focus on one category of your life each day for clearing. The schedule goes as follows:

• DAY ONE: The Father relationship• DAY TWO: The Mother relationship

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• DAY THREE: The Lover/Significant Other relationship • DAY FOUR: The Peer/Friend relationship• DAY FIVE: Your Relationship with You• DAY SIX: Rest and/or Clear on A Category You Want Progress On• DAY SEVEN: Rest and Discovery Evaluation of the Week's Progress

This variety gives you deep clearing, and gives you a chance to gauge where to do more work specific to your situation.

DAY ONE Daily Discovery Practice starts on the next page.

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Daily Discovery Practice – DAY ONEToday's Clearing Target: Your Father's Treatment regarding Your Existence

Your relationship to your father can impact how you feel about anger, emotional intimacywith other males, how safe and confident you feel in life, as well as impact your sense of security with other men. They are our first model about what masculinity and “being a man” means.

Healthy fathers protect, nurture, play, and promote the confidence and well-being of their children. They provide safe territory to explore the world in, help them face their demons and challenges, and conquer the monsters that come up occasionally in life.

Unhealthy fathers leave us exposed, do not protect or nurture, and tend to be the most physically aggressive and intimidating when abusive. They also may be entirely emotionally detached and avoidant.

COURSE NOTICES:

You can revisit this specific set of clearings AT ANY TIME, so don't worry about getting everything healed right this instant. You will likely revisit most of them at least twice as you work through your past. This is completely normal and expected.

Complete the following questions and evaluations before doing the meditations. Record your thoughts and the feelings and memories that surface in your journal. Share questions and insights in the group!

Performance Note: Don't try to do this perfectly. Take breaks if you feel pressured or overwhelmed. Allow yourself space to rest and grow.

Step One starts on the next page.

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STEP ONE: Clearing the EmotionInstructions:

• Ponder The Clearing Questions below.◦ Print them out using the printable/usable version here: (click to open the

question set document)• Note the emotions that surface along with memories• What is the dominant emotion?

◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below◦ Use the Emotional Clearing Chart to determine which Clearing to use if the

emotion isn't clearly Shame, Guilt, Fear, or Fatigue• Perform the appropriate Clearing.

◦ Shame Clearing: Click me to start◦ Guilt Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fear Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fatigue Clearing: Click me to start◦ General Clearing For Any Other Emotion: Click me to start◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below

• (Optional) Experience/Emotion Validation Instructions: ◦ CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF:

▪ Do you feel a need to have your feeling and/or experience validated? If yes, validate those feelings before doing the Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM). This is an act of LOVE for yourself.• Instructions on how the Sedona Method-type Questions work that are

used in the Validators below:◦ Instruction Video on The Sedona Method-type Questions

◦ Use these Validators to help you honor and legitimize feelings that may arise after the Clearings.▪ Legitimacy of your Emotions: Click me to Start▪ Anger Validator: Click me to Start▪ Sadness/Grief/Hurt Validator: Click me to Start▪ Experience Validator: Click to Start▪ Sense of Injustice Validator: Click to Start

• Complete the daily discovery evaluation chart to track your progress and discoveries

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The Clearing Questions

Your Father◦ How did your father respond to your existence?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he respond to your bids for his time?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he respond to your bids for his affection?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he treat your feelings?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he discipline you?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he communicate about problems and concerns?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he respect your boundaries and your person (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he show his love for you (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he show affection for you (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ What was the dominant message you got from your father about how he felt

about you?◦ What is the emotion your body feels when you reflect on your relationship with

your father?◦ How did he treat your mother?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he treat your siblings?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did he treat your peers/friends?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?

Remember to rate their intensity, complete the clearing, and rate the intensity again. Record your results below. This will show you the shift you're experiencing in your Governing Value.

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Emotional Intensity Rating Chart

Emotion Before Clearing After Clearing

Shame 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Fear 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Guilt 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Fatigue 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Love 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Peace 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Joy 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Confidence 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Safety 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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STEP TWO: Integrating the LoveThe Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM) leads you through a deeper experience of releasing your old emotional association with yourself and connecting with your genuine nature of Love. Each week's DIM is tailored to that week's topic. These can be listened tocasually and deliberately to help you integrate love and evolve deeper into who you reallyare.

(Required) Daily Integrative Meditation Instruction:

• Complete the Daily Integrative Meditation Titled: 1st-person-integrative-meditation-being-1.mp3 (click me to start it)

• Answer these questions in your journal:◦ What was challenging for you in this?◦ What was comforting?◦ What was easy for you?◦ What was surprising (if anything)?◦ What did you learn about yourself?◦ How do you feel now?

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STEP THREE: Discover the Real YouThe Embodiment Experiment

This week's Embodiment: Occupying the Space of Being You (Attribute: Existing)

Being you is your first right. You have the right to be you without apology. This means youget to feel what you do, think what you do, believe what you do, and choose and act as you do. This week's embodiment is all about you getting used to occupying the sense of existing.

Follow the MP3 guide below and explore your experience of EXISTING.

Complete the Embodiment Practice by listening to the MP3:

• Embodiment MP3: Click to Begin the Guide• Complete the evaluation below• Choose a BEHAVIOR you found yourself doing during the Embodiment experience

and practice that in your daily life

Once completed, fill out the INWARD EXPERIENCE chart below:

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THE EMBODIMENT MAP – YOUR INWARD EXPERIENCE

What Attribute Did you Embody?: _____________________________

What feelings and sensations did youexperience?

What thoughts did you have being thisattribute?

What choices did you see yourselfmaking while being this attribute?

What behaviors did you see yourselfdoing while being this attribute?

What Behavior Will You Practice DoingThis Week?

Other Things You'd Like to Note:

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EVALUATION OF TODAY'S WORKWhat Did You Discover Today About How

You Were Treated?What Did You Gain Through The

Clearing?

What Did You Gain Through theIntegration?

What Did You Discover Through theEmbodiment?

How do You Feel About BEING YOU? How Is This Different from Before YouBegan HEAL?

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COMPLETIONYou've completed today's DDP. Good work!

Share in the Student Community and/or the THRIVE Community how you feel and what you learned today!

• THRIVE Community

Got questions? Need support? Contact us here:

• experts@freetheself.com• Text or Call: 208.918.0907

Remember, you're worth loving, you're worth knowing, and you're worth keeping.

Marshall BurtcherMentor in Thriving Beyond Codependency, Neglect, & Narcissistic Abuse

phone: 208.918.0907web: http://www.freetheself.com/facebook: http://facebook.freetheself.com/my tribe: http://tribe.freetheself.com/youtube: http://tv.freetheself.com/

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Daily Discovery Practice – DAY TWOToday's Clearing Target: Your Mother's Response to You

Mothers are our first point of connection, intimacy, nurture, and protection in our lives. Healthy mothers are active, attentive, and mindful of their children and their needs. Theyhelp guide the child to understand themselves and become whole individuals that know they have a safe harbor in their mother.

Unhealthy mothers often end up trying to control their children or avoid being highly engaged with them. A mother's neglect and denial of a child's need for connection, protection, affection, and belonging with their mother leaves the child feeling unwanted, injured, and confused about their worth.

COURSE NOTICES:

You can revisit this specific set of clearings AT ANY TIME, so don't worry about getting everything healed right this instant. You will likely revisit most of them at least twice as you work through your past. This is completely normal and expected.

Complete the following questions and evaluations before doing the meditations. Record your thoughts and the feelings and memories that surface in your journal. Share questions and insights in the group!

Performance Note: Don't try to do this perfectly. Take breaks if you feel pressured or overwhelmed. Allow yourself space to rest and grow.

Step One starts on the next page.

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STEP ONE: Clearing the EmotionInstructions:

• Ponder The Clearing Questions below.◦ Print them out using the printable/usable version here: (click to open the

question set document)• Note the EMOTIONS that come up in your journal.• What is the dominant emotion?

◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below◦ Use the Emotional Clearing Chart to determine which Clearing to use if the

emotion isn't clearly Shame, Guilt, Fear, or Fatigue• Perform the appropriate Clearing.

◦ Shame Clearing: Click me to start◦ Guilt Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fear Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fatigue Clearing: Click me to start◦ General Clearing For Any Other Emotion: Click me to start◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below

• (Optional) Experience/Emotion Validation Instructions: ◦ CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF:

▪ Do you feel a need to have your feeling and/or experience validated? If yes, validate those feelings before doing the Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM). This is an act of LOVE for yourself.• Instructions on how the Sedona Method-type Questions work that are

used in the Validators below:◦ Instruction Video on The Sedona Method-type Questions

◦ Use these Validators to help you honor and legitimize feelings that may arise after the Clearings.▪ Legitimacy of your Emotions: Click me to Start▪ Anger Validator: Click me to Start▪ Sadness/Grief/Hurt Validator: Click me to Start▪ Experience Validator: Click to Start▪ Sense of Injustice Validator: Click to Start

• Complete the daily discovery evaluation chart to track your progress and discoveries

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The Clearing Questions

Your Mother◦ How did your mother respond to your existence?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she respond to your bids for her time?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she respond to your bids for her affection?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she treat your feelings?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she discipline you?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she communicate about problems and concerns?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she respect your boundaries and your person (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she show her love for you (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she show affection for you (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ What was the dominant message you got from your mother about how she felt

about you?◦ What is the emotion your body feels when you reflect on your relationship with

your mother?◦ How did she treat your father?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she treat your siblings?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did she treat your peers/friends?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?

Remember to rate their intensity, complete the clearing, and rate the intensity again. Record your results below. This will show you the shift you're experiencing in your Governing Value.

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Emotional Intensity Rating Chart

Emotion Before Clearing After Clearing

Shame 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Fear 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Guilt 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Fatigue 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Love 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Peace 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Joy 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Confidence 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Safety 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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STEP TWO: Integrating the LoveThe Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM) leads you through a deeper experience of releasing your old emotional association with yourself and connecting with your genuine nature of Love. Each week's DIM is tailored to that week's topic. These can be listened tocasually and deliberately to help you integrate love and evolve deeper into who you reallyare.

(Required) Daily Integrative Meditation Instruction:

• Complete the Daily Integrative Meditation Titled: 1st-person-integrative-meditation-being-1.mp3 (click me to start it)

• Answer these questions in your journal:◦ What was challenging for you in this?◦ What was comforting?◦ What was easy for you?◦ What was surprising (if anything)?◦ What did you learn about yourself?◦ How do you feel now?

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STEP THREE: Discover the Real YouThe Embodiment Experience Assessment

This week's Embodiment: Occupying the Space of Being You (Attribute: Existing)

How is the Experiment Going? Do you need to refresh your experience of that embodiment? Go through the process again here:

Being you is your first right. You have the right to be you without apology. This means youget to feel what you do, think what you do, believe what you do, and choose and act as you do. This week's embodiment is all about you getting used to occupying the sense of existing.

Follow the MP3 guide below and explore your experience of EXISTING.

Complete the Embodiment Practice by listening to the MP3:

• Embodiment MP3: Click to Begin the Guide• Complete the evaluation below• Choose a BEHAVIOR you found yourself doing during the Embodiment experience

and practice that in your daily life

Once completed, fill out the REAL LIFE PRACTICE chart below:

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THE EMBODIMENT MAP – REAL LIFE PRACTICE (FOR ALL THE OTHER DAYS)

If you need to tune up your experience, simply do the embodiment practice in DAY ONE again.

What Attribute Did You Practice Being?: _____________________________

How easy was it to tune into thisattribute within you?

What thoughts and feelings showed upas you attempted to be this attribute?

What decisions and actions did you takewhile being this attribute?

How did people respond to you? Howdid you respond to them?

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EVALUATION OF TODAY'S WORKWhat Did You Discover Today About How

You Were Treated?What Did You Gain Through The

Clearing?

What Did You Gain Through theIntegration?

What Did You Discover Through theEmbodiment?

How do You Feel About BEING YOU? Howhas your Governing Value (that sense of

your value) shifted?

How Is This Different from Before YouBegan HEAL?

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COMPLETIONYou've completed today's DDP. Good work!

Share in the Student Community and/or the THRIVE Community how you feel and what you learned today!

• THRIVE Community

Got questions? Need support? Contact us here:

• experts@freetheself.com• Text or Call: 208.918.0907

Remember, you're worth loving, you're worth knowing, and you're worth keeping.

Marshall BurtcherMentor in Thriving Beyond Codependency, Neglect, & Narcissistic Abuse

phone: 208.918.0907web: http://www.freetheself.com/facebook: http://facebook.freetheself.com/my tribe: http://tribe.freetheself.com/youtube: http://tv.freetheself.com/

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Daily Discovery Practice – DAY THREEToday's Clearing Target: Your Peers' and Friends' Response to You

Peers and friends carry a special weight when it comes to how we see ourselves. We are a social species and need one another to thrive. Our needs, wants, thoughts, and feelings are means to connecting and sharing with others. When we grow up feeling excluded, rejected, different, or somehow unwanted or worthless socially, we tend to suffer greatly. Anxiety, depression, a sense of isolation, and a sense of danger tend to become very normal to us.

Today, we begin to clear the pain of rejection, isolation, exclusion and such that may havehappened in your peer and friend relationships. Be gentle and patient with yourself, andtake things at a pace that works for you. Remember: you do not need to go at the pace the course happens at. You know your capability best. Follow it with commitment and care.

COURSE NOTICES:

You can revisit this specific set of clearings AT ANY TIME, so don't worry about getting everything healed right this instant. You will likely revisit most of them at least twice as you work through your past. This is completely normal and expected.

Complete the following questions and evaluations before doing the meditations. Record your thoughts and the feelings and memories that surface in your journal. Share questions and insights in the group!

Performance Note: Don't try to do this perfectly. Take breaks if you feel pressured or overwhelmed. Allow yourself space to rest and grow.

Step One starts on the next page.

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STEP ONE: Clearing the EmotionInstructions:

• Ponder The Clearing Questions below.◦ Print them out using the printable/usable version here: (click to open the

question set document)• Note the EMOTIONS that come up in your journal.• What is the dominant emotion?

◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below◦ Use the Emotional Clearing Chart to determine which Clearing to use if the

emotion isn't clearly Shame, Guilt, Fear, or Fatigue• Perform the appropriate Clearing.

◦ Shame Clearing: Click me to start◦ Guilt Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fear Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fatigue Clearing: Click me to start◦ General Clearing For Any Other Emotion: Click me to start◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below

• (Optional) Experience/Emotion Validation Instructions : ◦ CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF:

▪ Do you feel a need to have your feeling and/or experience validated? If yes, validate those feelings before doing the Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM). This is an act of LOVE for yourself.• Instructions on how the Sedona Method-type Questions work that are

used in the Validators below:◦ Instruction Video on The Sedona Method-type Questions

◦ Use these Validators to help you honor and legitimize feelings that may arise after the Clearings.▪ Legitimacy of your Emotions: Click me to Start▪ Anger Validator: Click me to Start▪ Sadness/Grief/Hurt Validator: Click me to Start▪ Experience Validator: Click to Start▪ Sense of Injustice Validator: Click to Start

• Complete the daily discovery evaluation chart to track your progress and discoveries

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The Clearing Questions

Your Peers◦ How did your peers respond to your existence?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they respond to your bids for their time?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they respond to your bids for their affection?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they treat your feelings?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they discipline you?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they communicate about problems and concerns?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they respect your boundaries and your person (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they show their love for you (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they show affection for you (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ What was the dominant message you got from your peers about yourself?

Your Friends◦ How did your friends respond to your existence?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they respond to your bids for their time?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they respond to your bids for their affection?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they treat your feelings?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they discipline you?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they communicate about problems and concerns?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?

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◦ How did they respect your boundaries and your person (if at all)?▪ What feelings come up with that for you?

◦ How did they show their love for you (if at all)?▪ What feelings come up with that for you?

◦ How did they show affection for you (if at all)?▪ What feelings come up with that for you?

◦ What was the dominant message you got from your friends about yourself?

Remember to rate their intensity, complete the clearing, and rate the intensity again. Record your results below. This will show you the shift you're experiencing in your Governing Value.

Emotional Intensity Rating Chart

Emotion Before Clearing After Clearing

Shame 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Fear 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Guilt 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Fatigue 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Love 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Peace 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Joy 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Confidence 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Safety 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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STEP TWO: Integrating the LoveThe Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM) leads you through a deeper experience of releasing your old emotional association with yourself and connecting with your genuine nature of Love. Each week's DIM is tailored to that week's topic. These can be listened to casually and deliberately to help you integrate love and evolve deeper into who you really are.

(Required) Daily Integrative Meditation Instruction:

• Complete the Daily Integrative Meditation Titled: 1st-person-integrative-meditation-being-1.mp3 (click me to start it)

• Answer these questions in your journal:◦ What was challenging for you in this?◦ What was comforting?◦ What was easy for you?◦ What was surprising (if anything)?◦ What did you learn about yourself?◦ How do you feel now?

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STEP THREE: Discover the Real YouThe Embodiment Experience Assessment

This week's Embodiment: Occupying the Space of Being You (Attribute: Existing)

How is the Experiment Going? Do you need to refresh your experience of that embodiment? Go through the process again here:

Being you is your first right. You have the right to be you without apology. This means youget to feel what you do, think what you do, believe what you do, and choose and act as you do. This week's embodiment is all about you getting used to occupying the sense of existing.

Follow the MP3 guide below and explore your experience of EXISTING.

Complete the Embodiment Practice by listening to the MP3:

• Embodiment MP3: Click to Begin the Guide• Complete the evaluation below• Choose a BEHAVIOR you found yourself doing during the Embodiment experience

and practice that in your daily life

Once completed, fill out the REAL LIFE PRACTICE chart below:

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THE EMBODIMENT MAP – REAL LIFE PRACTICE (FOR ALL THE OTHER DAYS)

If you need to tune up your experience, simply do the embodiment practice in DAY ONE again.

What Attribute Did You Practice Being?: _____________________________

How easy was it to tune into thisattribute within you?

What thoughts and feelings showed upas you attempted to be this attribute?

What decisions and actions did you takewhile being this attribute?

How did people respond to you? Howdid you respond to them?

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EVALUATION OF TODAY'S WORKWhat Did You Discover Today About How

You Were Treated?What Did You Gain Through The

Clearing?

What Did You Gain Through theIntegration?

What Did You Discover Through theEmbodiment?

How do You Feel About BEING YOU? Howhas your Governing Value (that sense of

your value) shifted?

How Is This Different from Before YouBegan HEAL?

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COMPLETIONYou've completed today's DDP. Good work!

Share in the Student Community and/or the THRIVE Community how you feel and what you learned today!

• THRIVE Community

Got questions? Need support? Contact us here:

• experts@freetheself.com• Text or Call: 208.918.0907

Remember, you're worth loving, you're worth knowing, and you're worth keeping.

Marshall BurtcherMentor in Thriving Beyond Codependency, Neglect, & Narcissistic Abuse

phone: 208.918.0907web: http://www.freetheself.com/facebook: http://facebook.freetheself.com/my tribe: http://tribe.freetheself.com/youtube: http://tv.freetheself.com/

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Daily Discovery Practice – DAY FOURToday's Clearing Target: Your Lovers'/Significant Others'/Spouses' Response to You

Those people we have love, attachment, and romantic interest with present us with our deepest hopes and often our deepest fears. Often we feel anxious or avoidant when it comes to love and connection with someone we feel special feelings and desires about. Codependency and neglect often have us seeking a sense of closure about our past broken connections through the new ones we're having.

This week, we will begin the process of healing the past betrayals, hurts, and losses that happened to us or that we created by our choices. Go gently into this.

COURSE NOTICES:

As always, you can revisit this specific set of clearings AT ANY TIME, so don't worry about getting everything healed right this instant. You will likely revisit most of them at least twice as you work through your past. This is completely normal and expected.

Complete the following questions and evaluations before doing the meditations. Record your thoughts and the feelings and memories that surface in your journal. Share questions and insights in the group!

Performance Note: Don't try to do this perfectly. Take breaks if you feel pressured or overwhelmed. Allow yourself space to rest and grow.

Step One starts on the next page.

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STEP ONE: Clearing the EmotionInstructions:

• Ponder The Clearing Questions below.◦ Print them out using the printable/usable version here: (click to open the

question set document)• Note the EMOTIONS that come up in your journal.• What is the dominant emotion?

◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below◦ Use the Emotional Clearing Chart to determine which Clearing to use if the

emotion isn't clearly Shame, Guilt, Fear, or Fatigue• Perform the appropriate Clearing.

◦ Shame Clearing: Click me to start◦ Guilt Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fear Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fatigue Clearing: Click me to start◦ General Clearing For Any Other Emotion: Click me to start◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below

• (Optional) Experience/Emotion Validation Instructions: ◦ CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF:

▪ Do you feel a need to have your feeling and/or experience validated? If yes, validate those feelings before doing the Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM). This is an act of LOVE for yourself.• Instructions on how the Sedona Method-type Questions work that are

used in the Validators below:◦ Instruction Video on The Sedona Method-type Questions

◦ Use these Validators to help you honor and legitimize feelings that may arise after the Clearings.▪ Legitimacy of your Emotions: Click me to Start▪ Anger Validator: Click me to Start▪ Sadness/Grief/Hurt Validator: Click me to Start▪ Experience Validator: Click to Start▪ Sense of Injustice Validator: Click to Start

• Complete the daily discovery evaluation chart to track your progress and discoveries

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The Clearing Questions

Your S.O.s/Lovers/Spouses◦ How did your lovers/significant others respond to your existence?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they respond to your bids for their time?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they respond to your bids for their affection?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they treat your feelings?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they discipline you?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they communicate about problems and concerns?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they respect your boundaries and your person (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they show their love for you (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did they show affection for you (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ What was the dominant message you got from your lovers/significant others

about yourself?

Remember to rate their intensity, complete the clearing, and rate the intensity again. Record your results below. This will show you the shift you're experiencing in your Governing Value.

Emotional Intensity Rating Chart

Emotion Before Clearing After Clearing

Shame 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Fear 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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Guilt 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Fatigue 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Love 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Peace 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Joy 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Confidence 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Safety 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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STEP TWO: Integrating the LoveThe Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM) leads you through a deeper experience of releasing your old emotional association with yourself and connecting with your genuine nature of Love. Each week's DIM is tailored to that week's topic. These can be listened tocasually and deliberately to help you integrate love and evolve deeper into who you reallyare.

(Required) Daily Integrative Meditation Instruction:

• Complete the Daily Integrative Meditation Titled: 1st-person-integrative-meditation-being-1.mp3 (click me to start it)

• Answer these questions in your journal:◦ What was challenging for you in this?◦ What was comforting?◦ What was easy for you?◦ What was surprising (if anything)?◦ What did you learn about yourself?◦ How do you feel now?

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STEP THREE: Discover the Real YouThe Embodiment Experience Assessment

This week's Embodiment: Occupying the Space of Being You (Attribute: Existing)

How is the Experiment Going? Do you need to refresh your experience of that embodiment? Go through the process again here:

Being you is your first right. You have the right to be you without apology. This means youget to feel what you do, think what you do, believe what you do, and choose and act as you do. This week's embodiment is all about you getting used to occupying the sense of existing.

Follow the MP3 guide below and explore your experience of EXISTING.

Complete the Embodiment Practice by listening to the MP3:

• Embodiment MP3: Click to Begin the Guide• Complete the evaluation below• Choose a BEHAVIOR you found yourself doing during the Embodiment experience

and practice that in your daily life

Once completed, fill out the REAL LIFE PRACTICE chart below:

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THE EMBODIMENT MAP – REAL LIFE PRACTICE (FOR ALL THE OTHER DAYS)

If you need to tune up your experience, simply do the embodiment practice in DAY ONE again.

What Attribute Did You Practice Being?: _____________________________

How easy was it to tune into thisattribute within you?

What thoughts and feelings showed upas you attempted to be this attribute?

What decisions and actions did you takewhile being this attribute?

How did people respond to you? Howdid you respond to them?

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EVALUATION OF TODAY'S WORKWhat Did You Discover Today About How

You Were Treated?What Did You Gain Through The

Clearing?

What Did You Gain Through theIntegration?

What Did You Discover Through theEmbodiment?

How do You Feel About BEING YOU? Howhas your Governing Value (that sense of

your value) shifted?

How Is This Different from Before YouBegan HEAL?

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COMPLETIONYou've completed today's DDP. Good work!

Share in the Student Community and/or the THRIVE Community how you feel and what you learned today!

• THRIVE Community

Got questions? Need support? Contact us here:

• experts@freetheself.com• Text or Call: 208.918.0907

Remember, you're worth loving, you're worth knowing, and you're worth keeping.

Marshall BurtcherMentor in Thriving Beyond Codependency, Neglect, & Narcissistic Abuse

phone: 208.918.0907web: http://www.freetheself.com/facebook: http://facebook.freetheself.com/my tribe: http://tribe.freetheself.com/youtube: http://tv.freetheself.com/

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Daily Discovery Practice – DAY FIVEToday's Clearing Target: Your Response to You

How we see ourselves is the first and last limit we put on ourselves. When we begin to value, honor, and cherish our feelings, our BEING, our nature, our existence, we begin to respect it. This means we start to defend it, stand up for it, and even advocate for it. Thisis where natural confidence and boundaries emerge.

Today we will begin to heal your relationship with your existence. Often grief, anger, judgment, and hate are found here. Sometimes we're upset that we exist at all. Sometimes we have seriously painful judgments about how we exist, what our limitationsare, and what we do and do not have.

Healing this will set you free to embrace your natural magic and discover love for yourselfand real love with others without having fix, change, or alter yourself. The goal here is to come to love you as you are.

COURSE NOTICES:

You can revisit this specific set of clearings AT ANY TIME, so don't worry about getting everything healed right this instant. You will likely revisit most of them at least twice as you work through your past. This is completely normal and expected.

Complete the following questions and evaluations before doing the meditations. Record your thoughts and the feelings and memories that surface in your journal. Share questions and insights in the group!

Performance Note: Don't try to do this perfectly. Take breaks if you feel pressured or overwhelmed. Allow yourself space to rest and grow.

Step One starts on the next page.

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STEP ONE: Clearing the EmotionInstructions:

• Ponder The Clearing Questions below.◦ Print them out using the printable/usable version here: (click to open the

question set document)• Note the EMOTIONS that come up in your journal.• What is the dominant emotion?

◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below◦ Use the Emotional Clearing Chart to determine which Clearing to use if the

emotion isn't clearly Shame, Guilt, Fear, or Fatigue• Perform the appropriate Clearing.

◦ Shame Clearing: Click me to start◦ Guilt Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fear Clearing: Click me to start◦ Fatigue Clearing: Click me to start◦ General Clearing For Any Other Emotion: Click me to start◦ Rate its Intensity using the Emotional Intensity Rating Chart below

• (Optional) Experience/Emotion Validation Instructions: ◦ CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF:

▪ Do you feel a need to have your feeling and/or experience validated? If yes, validate those feelings before doing the Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM). This is an act of LOVE for yourself.• Instructions on how the Sedona Method-type Questions work that are

used in the Validators below:◦ Instruction Video on The Sedona Method-type Questions

◦ Use these Validators to help you honor and legitimize feelings that may arise after the Clearings.▪ Legitimacy of your Emotions: Click me to Start▪ Anger Validator: Click me to Start▪ Sadness/Grief/Hurt Validator: Click me to Start▪ Experience Validator: Click to Start▪ Sense of Injustice Validator: Click to Start

• Complete the daily discovery evaluation chart to track your progress and discoveries

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The Clearing Questions

Yourself◦ How did you respond to your existence?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did you respond to your need for time with yourself?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did you respond to your bids for affection from others?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did you treat your feelings?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did you keep yourself accountable?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did you stand up for your problems and concerns?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did you respect your boundaries and your person (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did you show your love for yourself (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ How did you show affection for you (if at all)?

▪ What feelings come up with that for you?◦ What was the dominant message you give yourself about you?

Remember to rate their intensity, complete the clearing, and rate the intensity again. Record your results below. This will show you the shift you're experiencing in your Governing Value.

Emotional Intensity Rating Chart

Emotion Before Clearing After Clearing

Shame 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Fear 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Guilt 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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Fatigue 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Love 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Peace 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Joy 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Confidence 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Safety 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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STEP TWO: Integrating the LoveThe Daily Integrative Meditation (DIM) leads you through a deeper experience of releasing your old emotional association with yourself and connecting with your genuine nature of Love. Each week's DIM is tailored to that week's topic. These can be listened tocasually and deliberately to help you integrate love and evolve deeper into who you reallyare.

(Required) Daily Integrative Meditation Instruction:

• Complete the Daily Integrative Meditation Titled: 1st-person-integrative-meditation-being-1.mp3 (click me to start it)

• Answer these questions in your journal:◦ What was challenging for you in this?◦ What was comforting?◦ What was easy for you?◦ What was surprising (if anything)?◦ What did you learn about yourself?◦ How do you feel now?

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STEP THREE: Discover the Real YouThe Embodiment Experience Assessment

This week's Embodiment: Occupying the Space of Being You (Attribute: Existing)

How is the Experiment Going? Do you need to refresh your experience of that embodiment? Go through the process again here:

Being you is your first right. You have the right to be you without apology. This means youget to feel what you do, think what you do, believe what you do, and choose and act as you do. This week's embodiment is all about you getting used to occupying the sense of existing.

Follow the MP3 guide below and explore your experience of EXISTING.

Complete the Embodiment Practice by listening to the MP3:

• Embodiment MP3: Click to Begin the Guide• Complete the evaluation below• Choose a BEHAVIOR you found yourself doing during the Embodiment experience

and practice that in your daily life

Once completed, fill out the REAL LIFE PRACTICE chart below:

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THE EMBODIMENT MAP – REAL LIFE PRACTICE (FOR ALL THE OTHER DAYS)

If you need to tune up your experience, simply do the embodiment practice in DAY ONE again.

What Attribute Did You Practice Being?: _____________________________

How easy was it to tune into thisattribute within you?

What thoughts and feelings showed upas you attempted to be this attribute?

What decisions and actions did you takewhile being this attribute?

How did people respond to you? Howdid you respond to them?

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EVALUATION OF TODAY'S WORKWhat Did You Discover Today About How

You Were Treated?What Did You Gain Through The

Clearing?

What Did You Gain Through theIntegration?

What Did You Discover Through theEmbodiment?

How do You Feel About BEING YOU? Howhas your Governing Value (that sense of

your value) shifted?

How Is This Different from Before YouBegan HEAL?

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COMPLETIONYou've completed today's DDP. Good work!

Share in the Student Community and/or the THRIVE Community how you feel and what you learned today!

• THRIVE Community

Got questions? Need support? Contact us here:

• experts@freetheself.com• Text or Call: 208.918.0907

Remember, you're worth loving, you're worth knowing, and you're worth keeping.

Marshall BurtcherMentor in Thriving Beyond Codependency, Neglect, & Narcissistic Abuse

phone: 208.918.0907web: http://www.freetheself.com/facebook: http://facebook.freetheself.com/my tribe: http://tribe.freetheself.com/youtube: http://tv.freetheself.com/

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Daily Discovery Practice – DAY SIXThis is a rest day.

Journal about your experience so far, share it with the group, and practice the Daily Integrative Meditation.

Complete the Daily Integrative Meditation Titled: 1st-person-integrative-meditation-being-1.mp3 (click me to start it)

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