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The Art of HumorHumor breaks barriers in social settings. People have courage if theycan use laughter to address a situation or problem. Humor also allowsindividuals to get to know each other and connect on a higher level.

Flirting with humor is a two-way street,said James Hodgson, asophomore majoring in political science.It allows people to connecton the same page.Establishing a connection through laughter sendsa message that you are friendly. If you feel a little shaky on the art ofhumor, dont let that deter you from having fun.

Be careful of is using too much self-deprecating humo r. Its unattract-ive and comes off like you are not confident in yourself. Instead, use

THE CHEMISTRY BEHIND RELATIONSHIPS

What happens inside our bodies as we date? Allan Judd, aphysiology and developmental biology professor, explainedsome of the basic physiology behind dating.

Positive experiencestrigger the release ofa neurotransmitter

called epinephrine.This hormone causesyour pupils to dilate,which allows morelight into your eyes,causing them tosparkle.

When you anticipatekissing or holdingsomeones hand,

your body releasesepinephrine. Thishormone causes yourheart to beat faster,your palms to sweatand your blood pres-sure to rise.

A good boyfriendgives his girlfriendchocolate, but a wise

boyfriend makes itdark chocolate. Darkchocolate containscannabinoids,aneurotransmitterthat makes peoplethink everything inthe world is better!

Oxytocinis a power-ful neurotransmitterthat influences us totrust the person weare with when thehormone is released.This is why yousometimes long foryour ex again.

Kissing triggers therelease of oxytocin.As the hormoneflows through yourbody, you begin totrust the person youare with. This is whyour bodies trustpeople with whomwe are physicallyintimate.

Fearis another

trigger thatcauses the releaseof oxytocin andepinephrine. Thesehormones keeppeople coming backto scary movies,midnight hikes andhaunted houses.

Oxytocin alsoinfluences us to

think others aremore attractiveespecially theperson we are withwhen the hormoneis released. This iswhy people gettwitterpated.

Good dates consistof food for a reason.

Eating triggersthe release ofdopamine, whichsends endorphinsand cephalin intothe body. Thesehormones createfeel-goodsensations.

Knowing thesehormones affect

our decisions ofwho to date andwho to marry, Juddencouragedstudentsto include theirhearts and mindsin those importantdecisions. Dont leavethem up to youremotions, Judd said.

humor that is witty and uplifting. It allows you to break the ice andget a good laugh, but not at your own or someone elses expense.

If you think you are bad with humor, this could be because youhavent been talking to the r ight people.Humor is subjective, youhave to find the right pers on that has the same humo r,Hodgson said.So whether your humor involves knee slappers, dry humor or wittyhumor, it is all good humor when you find the right person to shareit with.

What He Doesnt Notice

Women go to so much more trouble and spend so much more time getting ready for the

day than men do, and most men dont even notice. Case in point: hair. When guys talk

about what theyre most attracted to in women, they dont say, Oh my gosh! I just love it

when their hair is really shiny!But guys miss more than that! Here are some other things

that men and women around campus identified as things guys just dont notice:

Soundsawful!

LOVE SCIENCEStandback, wereabout to do science

TWOsense

Dating DiaryI WENT ON A DATEto an aquarium with a guy I barely knew, and from the way he made it sound I thought it was just g

be us. But he picked me up in a minivanalong with his entire family. At the aquarium you could stick your hand in the

the wildlife, but I didnt want to because I was wearing a dry clean-only jacket. He grabbed my hand and forced it into t

way. When we got home I was locked out and he tried to make me come home with his family. It was the longest, wor

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Frisbee

in the mud. LAUREN

EHLEN, Los Angeles (Just

to be clear, not all guys are

that dense.)

Guys dont tend to no-

tice when girls dont

like each other, or

when there is tension

between girls in the

room. LAURENEHLEN

Boys dont notice when we drive

well, they only notice when we are

bad. JENESSACHERRY, Provo

They also dont notice when their

apartments stink, and they bringus

over anyway. JENESSACHERRY

And sometimes, they just dont

notice when were there. JENESSA

CHERRY

I dont notice eyebrows, and if they

wouldnt see a sp

you tried to show

CALVERT, Parker, C

I dont notice when

to get out of the

MCKAYJONES, Sand

Guys dont notice h

thought and effo

their appearance.

get married. ALDI

Austin, Texas

Guys do

much

put in

for th

WHEEL

Ohio

I dont notice whe

split ends in their

STEVECLARKE, Ame

can Fork

are large, small, thin etc.JACOB

SHUSS, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

Guys dont notice when a girl is

interested in them. CASSANDRA

FREEMAN, Saint Charles, Mo.

Men dont notice when women

are trying to make moves or hit on

them. For example, a girl tells a guy,

Hey youre cute we should hang

out sometime.Then five seconds

of silence go by when the guy says,

Hey youre adorable

we should go out

sometime.Like did

you not notice I said

theexact same thing?

Psh, men. PEYTON

CRAM, Orem

Girls seem to always notice

when other girls have

split ends. Guys

I dont

ever noticewhetheror

not my girlfriend is wear-

ing that eyelash makeup stuff.

ANDREWMANWAR-

ING,Seattle, Wash.

(Yes, he was referring

to mascara.)

I have to admit: most

recently, when my

wife dyed her hair the exact same

color as it already was, I didnt

notice. Sue me she lasted a few

hours before she finally burst, and

told me she had colored it. SCOTT

LIBUTTI, Provo

They cant always tell whether or

not Im wearing makeup. I had

one guy tell me that I looked the

same as I did on a normal day, even

though we had just played ultimate