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Mountain Life Church/Life Pack/July 13-14, 2013
When a Man Stands
Tall
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When a Man Stands TallSermon Notes
July 13-14, 2013
I. The Heavenly PictureA. Marriage: God’s Idea
1. The Bible begins with a wedding and ends with a wedding
2. A picture of the trinity3. A picture of God’s redemptive purpose
B. The Man as Christ1. Head2. Servant leader (v. 23)3. Cherishing (vs. 25-33)4. Understanding (I Peter 3: 7)5. Sacrificial (v. 26-27)
C. The Bride as the Church1. Submissive (v. 22)2. Respectful (vs. 22 & 33)3. Honoring (vs. 22 & 33)
II. The Fallen ManA. The Sin of Adam
1. PassivityShows itself in spiritual, relational, and practical passivityShows itself also in dominating, aggressionShows itself in no felt need for relationship with God or with people, especially their wives.
2. Fallen masculinity defined in sexual terms and worldly accomplishment
The focus on work and identity with workThe focus on sexualityDominance or puppy-fication
B. The Chic-ification of American Culture1. The feminine reaction to fallen masculinity2. Women take over3. Men become more passive
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Table TalkTeens
Read Ephesians 5:25-33 Question One:Paul does not emphasize the husband’s authority; instead, he calls on husbands to love self-sacrificially.
What does it mean to love self-sacrificially? Question Two:We are to emulate Christ’s love, the kind of love that is willing to lay down ones life for another person and serve that person even if it means suffering.
Share some examples how we can emulate Christ’s love. Question Three:In these verses, Paul briefly outlines what Jesus has done for the church.
List some things that Jesus has done for the church. Question Four:In verse 5:32, Paul compares a Christian marriage between a husband and wife to a great mystery.
What is this mystery? Question Five:
Describe what we can learn from the example that Paul shows us between marriage and Christ’s relationship with the church.
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III.The Redeemed ManA. A Lover
1. Relational pursuitRobert Lewis’ definition of a real man: A real man rejects passivity, accepts responsibility, leads courageously, and seeks the greater reward, God’s reward.
2. A selfless servantHis leadership is not dominating, but rather firm, masculine selflessnessHis leadership takes initiative to pursue her holinessNot passive and soft, not dominating and overly aggressive
B. The Priest of the Home1. Pursues her holiness and purity2. Initiator of selfless prayer3. Loves her in an understanding way4. Cherishes her
Jack Taylor: You can tell what a man has invested or withheld from his wife by the countenance on her face.
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Life Group Questions for July 13-14, 2013
Message =When a Man Stands TallIce Breaker: Tell about a male figure who impacted your life. What was it about that man that impacted you.
Read Ephesians 5: 23-‐‑33.
1. What stands out to you about this passage?
2. Have the group throw out one word definitions of manhood as seen in this passage.
3. Randy talked about how male passivity shows itself as passivity in relationships and leadership, or as over aggressive, dominance. Invite the men of the group to share a liCle about their struggle with passivity.
4. Ask the women of the group to share about ways that their husbands have been able to love them like Jesus loved His church, and have them tell how this love has affected them as women.
5. Have someone read verses 25-‐‑27 again. Define the love that Paul is talking about in this passage.
6. What are some practical ways to pursue the holiness and purity of another person?
7. Have someone read I Peter 3: 7. What do you think it means for a man to live with his wife in an UNDERSTANDING way? What else does this verse say to you?
8. Pray for one another.
Table TalkElementary
Bible Passage-Ephesians 5:25-33 Question 1 - I'm pretty sure that you are NOT married! Most likely you haven't even thought about marriage at your ripe young age. This week's passage focuses on how to love a woman like Jesus loves His church. How does a person decide who to marry? Ask your parents this same question (how did they decide who to marry?). Question 2 - Is it better to be single or married? Explain your thinking. Since you are not married, nor have you (most likely) contemplated marriage, we are going to shift our focus this week to Christ's love for you! Love is not just a word (a noun), it's actually an action that shows itself. How did Christ show that He loves us? (His work on the cross). How do you show others that you love them? How do you show Jesus that you love Him? Question 3 - Have you ever uttered the words "I'm not your friend anymore" (or had anyone say that to you?), only to be friends the next day/week? 2 Timothy 2:24 instructs us not to be quarrelsome (have lots of arguments), but to be kind and patient to all. Are you a patient person? What are some things that cause you to be impatient? Who is the kindest person you know? What actions show their kindness? Focus on being kind and doing kind things for others this week. Keep track of your kind actions in a journal until kindness becomes a way of life and you show kindness on a regular basis.
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Table TalkPreschool & Nursery
Hebrews 11:1-3, Luke 17:5-6, Matthew 17:20, Galatians 5:22-23 Day 1: Read Luke 10:25-37
Ask your children what they think it means to have faith. Faith is a confidence in believing without seeing, or putting conviction in a belief of truth. So many of the stories in the Bible are examples of what happens when we have faith or are faithful to God (e.g., Noah, Moses, Abraham, Joseph, Mary, Paul, healings by Jesus & the disciples). Share an example of faithfulness in your life. Day 2: Read Luke 17:5-6 and Matthew 17:20As a family, discuss how faithfulness comes from God through the Holy Spirit. It is an action based on our faith once we believe. All we need is just a tiny little bit of faith and we are filled with the mighty power of the Holy Spirit. God wants us to tell others about our faith. God rewards our faithfulness with life changes and His promise of an everlasting life with Him. Talk about what to do if we ever feel like we do not believe sometimes or when it is hard to believe. We can pray! Memory Verse:“And without faith it is impossible to please God.” - Hebrews 11:6a Day 3: Read Galatians 5:22-23Repetition is a key element in learning for Toddlers and preschoolers. Discuss again how, when we live according to the Holy Spirit, God brings special gifts into our lives. Similar to how He brings fruit to the fruit trees, only the fruit He gives us are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Continue to work together as a family to memorize the fruits of the spirit.
Activity: Put 3-5 small common items that are safe and known to your children in a paper bag or box. Take turns reaching into the bag with your eyes shut or blindfolded. Can you correctly identify each item without looking? How are you able to tell what the item is without seeing it? Discuss how this may be similar to having faith in God.
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Personal Devotion PagesThe following pages are designed to help you enjoy a regular time alone with God. We have divided up the curriculum to help us grow wherever we are at in our relationship with God and in our knowledge of His Kingdom.
LEVELS: Since we are a Colorado church, we use skiing imagery to communicate the different levels of intensity and time involved in relating to God.
BEGINNER: If you are new in your relationship with God, we encourage you to try the exercises under this symbol:
INTERMEDIATE: If you have walked with God for some time and would like a little more challenge and more time involvement, try the exercises under this symbol:
ADVANCED: These exercises are for people who have walked with God for some time and display maturity in their relationship with Him.
These exercises provide a practical way to encounter God and His truth on a regular basis. There are no rules here. Please don’t hurry through the process. Slow meditation and memorization seems to soak in better than cramming.
Enjoy!
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Day One1. Take some time to praise the Lord for who He is and enjoy
thanking Him for what He has done in your life lately.
2. Meditate on Ephesians 5: 21-‐‑33.
3. Read Genesis 3: 1-‐‑19. Write down some observations you have about Adam’s sin, and the curse put on Eve and Adam.
Memorize I Peter 3: 1.
Memorize I Peter 3: 1-‐‑2.
Memorize I Peter 3: 1-‐‑2, 7.
A real man rejects passivity, accepts responsibility, leads courageously, and seeks the greater reward, God’s reward.
~Robert Lewis
Boys play house, men build homesBoys shack up, men get married.
Boys make babies, men raise childrenA boy won't raise his own children, a man will raise someone else's.Boys invent excuses for failure, men produce strategies for success.
Boys look for somebody to take care of them, men look for someone to take care of.Boys seek popularity, men demand respect and know how to give it.
~Anonymous
Growing up is difficult for most men. It comes through great tribulation. If a boy doesn’t get a chance to face hardship and overcome it, he will remain a veritable Peter Pan. The good news is this: God is the King of second chances... and third, and fourth, and three hundred sixty ninth!
At some point, manhood becomes not about achieving what the world declares as important, but what God deems as important. Real manhood is not about sexual prowess, trophies, and financial abundance. Paul tells us that manhood is all about sacrificial, serving love. Real men pursue relationship with God, with their wives, their children, and others who call upon God in passionate truth.
The first step toward real manhood is through admitting failures, admitting sins, and confessing our inability to be like Jesus. Without those things, we will continue to be boys in men’s bodies. The second step is to walk in adventurous faith and follow God with wild abandonment.
Day Five
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Day Five1. Take some time to praise the Lord for who He is and enjoy
thanking Him for what He has done in your life lately.
2. Meditate on Proverbs 31.
3. Meditate on how you see Jesus loving His church (His disciples) in the Gospels. Write some things down that you discover.
4. Finish your Bible memorization today.
Day OneWhen the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate.
~Genesis 3: 6
Most Biblical scholars agree that the great sin of the man in this narrative was that of passivity. He had been created to be the head of the wife, the great protector and caregiver of the priceless lady, but now he passively let her be deceived and enter into sin, and then he joined her in it.
Had he been on his game, he would have demanded that the serpent depart because his trustworthy and kind Creator had commanded them not to eat of the tree. The command had come first to him, before Eve was even created, and he passed that command onto her.
But Adam stood by while the unprotected Eve journeyed into darkness. Then, he went into sin with her.
This passivity remains the great weakness of the male race. It rears its ugly head in one of two ways. Men have the tendency to either be relationally passive or overly aggressive and dominating. Both of these are a symptom of spiritual passivity.
Man was originally created to live in an understanding, compassionate, relational, and serving role as the leader of his home. His strength of character would enable him to be a capable provider and protector, as well as a just disciplinarian. The passivity that came with the Fall of Man causes men to fall on either side of this goal. He will either be too passive or too dominating.
Father, teach me what it means to love as You love!
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Day Two1. Take some time to praise the Lord for who He is and enjoy
thanking Him for what He has done in your life lately.
2. Meditate on I Peter 3: 1-‐‑7.
3. Ask the Lord to show you how to love your spouse like Jesus loved His church.
4. Take time to pray for your spouse with a selfless heart. If you are single, then pray for your future spouse. Ask the Lord to make you into a wholehearted worshiper so that you will be ready for your spouse.
5. Continue memorizing and meditating on the scriptures for this week.
Day FourAnd you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man is actually loving himself when he loves his wife.
~Ephesians 5:25-28, NLT
This passage paints a picture of Jesus as a groom who PURSUES His bride. My little brother talked to me this past weekend and told me that men love to pursue goals, dreams, visions, and money, but it’s hard to find a man who pursues deeper relationships. His words convicted me. In comparison to my beautiful bride, I am a pitiful pursuer of relationships - and I’m an extrovert!
I meet so many men who have no felt need for relationships. The operative word there is FELT. We men don’t feel a need for relationships because we’re broken. We are nowhere near being what God created us to be. The curse that came upon us when Adam and Eve sinned brought us into spiritual and relational passivity.
Yet, Jesus pursued us by coming to earth and living as a regular human. Today, He pursues us continually by seeking our holiness and purity. He is always after us. A passive man is a neutered man. Real masculinity finds life in pursuing personal holiness and a deep relationship with Jesus. That life bubbles over within us as we pursue the holiness and purity of our wives and children.
Father, forgive me for my passivity in things that are eternally important. Make me into a person who continually pursues others and You!
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Day TwoAnd you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God’s word.
~Ephesians 5:25, 26, NLT
The first Adam stood by and watched his bride slide into darkness. The second Adam, Jesus of Nazareth, laid down His life for his bride, providing a way of redemption.
It is beautiful to see Jesus’ sacrificial love, His selflessness, and His attitude of a servant toward His bride. His focus was on her. His primary vocation was her redemption, and His primary desire was to present her spotless and blameless on the wedding day.
One aspect of women that reflects the nature of God is the inner sensor they all possess in regard to the love of their husbands. A woman intuitively knows when she is first place in her man’s life. Her sensor strikes an alarm when he places anything or anyone above her. When a man puts too much into his work, she feels it. He puts too much into sports and TV, she feels it deeply. God made her with this sensor to help her man keep a holy love for his bride. A holy love tells the bride through words, deeds, and priorities, that there is no other before her.
Holy love goes after the woman’s best, prays for her holiness and growth, and intercedes for her like a priest prays for his parish.
Father, teach me to love with selfless holiness. Help me to pursue the best for others.
Day Four1. Take some time to praise the Lord for who He is and enjoy
thanking Him for what He has done in your life lately.
2. Meditate again on I Peter 3: 1-‐‑7. Husbands, take time to pray for your wife to be holy and blameless before God. Wives, ask God to show you how to submit to your husband and ask God to show you how to respect him, even when he is not respectable. If you’re not married, ask God to prepare you for your future mate.
3. Ask the Lord to show you who you need to push into relationship with, but have not done so until now. Take the initiative to call them this week and spend time with them.
4. Continue meditating on and memorizing the scripture for this week.
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Day Three Day Three1. Take some time to praise the Lord for who He is and enjoy
thanking Him for what He has done in your life lately.
2. Meditate again on Ephesians 5; 21-‐‑33.
3. Bring at least three friends or loved ones to the Lord and ask Him to bring them to repentance and faith. Ask Him to show you how you can boldly love them and speak the words of Jesus into their lives.
4. Continue meditating on and memorizing the scripture for this
week.
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In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man is actually loving himself when he loves his wife. No one hates his own body but lovingly cares for it, just as Christ cares for his body, which is the church. And we are his body.
~Ephesians 5:28-30, NLT
Many years ago, the Holy Spirit broke through and helped me realize God’s profound love for me. I still go through waves of tears when I think about it. I don’t think a person can really live until they know how much God loves them. It’s not enough to cognitively understand that Jesus died on a cross for me and for His church. It is something that must go down to the core of who you are. It’s something only the Spirit can reveal and, until He does reveal it, we bobble around like a ship without a rudder.
What challenges me about this passage is when Paul tells the husband to love his wife like Jesus loves His church. After getting the revelation of His love for me, I feel inadequate to love my bride like He does His bride.
Yet, I firmly believe God does not command us to do what He can not empower us to do. All of God’s love is within us and the tap is at our fingertips.
Father, I choose to love like You love today. I pray for those whom I love and ask You to empower me to selflessly and sacrificially lay down my life for them. I pray that Your kingdom would come in their lives as it has in mine. I ask that Your transforming love would flow through me!
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