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Unlearn, LearnGourmet food for the brain

Samir Elias ZehilMember of the Worldwide Association of Business Coaches (WABC)

Member of the International Coach Federation (ICF)

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12.5% OF SUCCESS COMES FROM TECHNICAL

KNOWLEDGE

87.5 %COMES FROM

CHARACTER

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TWO INDICATORS FOR A PERSON’S GOOD CHARACTER

HOW HE DEALS WITH PEOPLE WHO CANNOT FIGHT BACK

&HOW HE DEALS WITH PEOPLE

WHO CANNOT DO HIM ANY GOODABIGAIL VAN BEUREN

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3 MEASURES FOR A HEALTHY PERSONALITY

1. YOUR PERSONALITY IS HEALTHY TO THE DEGREE TO WHICH YOU SEE THE GOOD IN EVERY SITUATION AND PERSON

2. YOUR PERSONALITY IS HEALTHY TO THE DEGREE TO WHICH YOU CAN FORGIVE

3. YOUR PERSONALITY IS HEALTHY TO THE DEGREE TO WHICH YOU CAN GET ALONG WITH ALL KINDS OF PEOPLE

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WE DON’T TELL A PERSON WHAT SHE DOESN’T KNOW, WE JUST REVEAL TO HER WHAT SHE ALREADY KNOWS

ARISTOTLE

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2 Steps to G-Attitude

• Focus on the Future/ Solution

“What do we do from here?”

• Look for the Good/ Valuable Lesson

“What did we learn?”

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What Sabotages Self Esteem?

Destructive Criticism

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Correcting People Constructively through

7 Actions

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-1- ALWAYS MENTION A POSITIVE

QUALITY OF THE PERSON

protect people’s self esteem before

engaging in any discussion

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- 2 -ATTACK THE PROBLEM NEVER THE

PERSON

Say always “ the way you did that was

wrong”

and use the “ I felt bad when this happened”

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- 3 -BULLET- POINT THE PROBLEM

Say always there are only 2 things that

you must work on, and the rest is

perfect

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- 4 - FOCUS ON THE FUTURE NOT THE

PAST

Say always “from now on, we will...”

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- 5 - LEADERS ALWAYS SAY

“WE”

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- 6 -FINISH THE MEETING WITH A

POSITIVE NOTE

Say “I am sure you will do it right next

time”

(To trigger positive expectations)

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- 7 - PIP is sacred

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Part VII Unlearn Stress

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7 Sources of stress

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1. Lack of Direction

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2. Unfinished Things

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3. Trying to please everyone

Type A behavior

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4. Denial

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5. AngerGross physical impact

activity

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6. Inability to say NO

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7. Toxic Friendship

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Part VIII

The 5 A’s to improve relationships

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1. Agreeable

2. Acceptance

3. Appreciation

4. Admiration

5. Attention

Boomerang principle

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Energy Sappers• We all have between 60 and 100 small things pending

• Open a file on your phone and name it “Energy Sappers”

• These drain your energy, reducing your ability to attract success

• By simply writing them down, we regain 30% back of our energy

• They’re like the a/c, you don’t realize how loud they are until you turn them off

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CLUTER CONTROL• You CANNOT accept anything new in your life unless you create the

space for it

• Clutter are in Closets, Cars, Houses, & Old Magazines….

• What you have NOT used for the last 6 months, you are NEVER going to use it (unless it its seasonal)

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What Clutter does!• Less Stuff = More Energy

• Clutter make you FAT (Karen Kingston)

• Clutter slows down the attention, focusing and thinking clearly

• Clutter can cause excess fatigue & even depression

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Comfort Zone is…

Your Number One Personal

Enemy!

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Traits of People who Suffer From Homeostasis

• Late risers

• Unfit, overweight

• Take same road to their work

• Read newspaper, not books

• Never consider changing jobs

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Traits of People who Suffer From Homeostasis

• Sit with same people in the cafeteria

• Hang out with the same group of people

• Never change their eating habits

• Never change their talking habits

• Changing house furniture for them is a nightmare

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Traits of People who Suffer From Homeostasis

• Dog-eat-dog strategy with restructuring

• Fight any new software

• Paralysis through analysis

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What is Psycho Sclerosis?

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Symptoms of Psycho Sclerosis

It is when we are in love with our own ideas…

• We become impatient

• We like to hear and talk about ourselves

• We hate contradictions (B. Ghali)

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Whatever you are, be a good oneGeorges Washington

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