Session 3: X3pure Men’s Series

Session 3: X3pure Men’s Series

• Review

Session 3: X3pure Men’s Series

• Review- Sexual addiction

Session 3: X3pure Men’s Series

• Review- Sexual addiction

- What sexual addiction means

Session 3: X3pure Men’s Series

• Review- Sexual addiction

- What sexual addiction means

- Accepted, I assume, that we have Unwanted Sexual Behavior

Session 3: X3pure Men’s Series

• Review- Sexual addiction

- What sexual addiction means

- Accepted, I assume, that we have Unwanted Sexual Behavior

- Introduced our Sexual Sobriety Map

Session 3: X3pure Men’s Series

• Review- Sexual addiction

- What sexual addiction means

- Accepted, I assume, that we have Unwanted Sexual Behavior

- Introduced our Sexual Sobriety Map

- And just started touching on the concept of change

Session 3: What is Change?

• Two Types of Change

Session 3: What is Change?

• Two Types of Change

Session 3: What is Change?

- White Knuckle Change

• Two Types of Change

Session 3: What is Change?

- White Knuckle Change

- Real Change

White Knuckle Change

White Knuckle Change

• The change in behavior without addressing the system, or environment, that is causing the behavior.

White Knuckle Change

• The change in behavior without addressing the system, or environment, that is causing the behavior.

• Change in sexual activities without change in the system, or environment can lead to relapse.

White Knuckle Change

• The change in behavior without addressing the system, or environment, that is causing the behavior.

• Change in sexual activities without change in the system, or environment can lead to relapse. - Relapse is when you have tried to abstain (or stop) from using a substance of abuse but have returned to using it again and again.

Example

• The identified cause of this man’s desire to use pornography was stress.

Example

• The identified cause of this man’s desire to use pornography was stress.

Example

• Stress from?

• The identified cause of this man’s desire to use pornography was stress.

Example

• Stress from?- His current job?

• The identified cause of this man’s desire to use pornography was stress.

Example

• Stress from?- His current job?

- His vocation over all?

• The identified cause of this man’s desire to use pornography was stress.

Example

• Stress from?- His current job?

- His vocation over all?

- His societal expectations?

• The identified cause of this man’s desire to use pornography was stress.

Example

• Stress from?- His current job?

- His vocation over all?

- His societal expectations?

- His family-of-origin expectation?

• The identified cause of this man’s desire to use pornography was stress.

Example

• Stress from?- His current job?

- His vocation over all?

- His societal expectations?

- His family-of-origin expectation?

- His personal expectations?

Real Change

• Real Change is about:

Real Change

• Real Change is about:

Real Change

- Understanding what is going on in our brains when we engage in Unwanted Sexual Behavior.

Real Change

Real Change

• Real Change is about making a decision to abstain from our Unwanted Sexual Behavior not because we want to please anyone, but because we want to…

Real Change

• Real Change is about making a decision to abstain from our Unwanted Sexual Behavior not because we want to please anyone, but because we want to…- Heal your brains.

Real Change

• Real Change is about making a decision to abstain from our Unwanted Sexual Behavior not because we want to please anyone, but because we want to…- Heal your brains.

- Engage in life-giving activities.

Real Change

• Real Change is about making a decision to abstain from our Unwanted Sexual Behavior not because we want to please anyone, but because we want to…- Heal your brains.

- Engage in life-giving activities.

- Discover that wonderful person who is hidden inside of all of us that we

maybe didn’t even know existed.

Real Change

• Real Change is about making a decision to abstain from our Unwanted Sexual Behavior not because we want to please anyone, but because we want to…- Heal your brains.

- Engage in life-giving activities.

- Discover that wonderful person who is hidden inside of all of us that we

maybe didn’t even know existed.

- Become servants of God.

Real Change

• Real Change is about making a decision to abstain from our Unwanted Sexual Behavior not because we want to please anyone, but because we want to…- Heal your brains.

- Engage in life-giving activities.

- Discover that wonderful person who is hidden inside of all of us that we

maybe didn’t even know existed.

- Become servants of God.

- And know God on a more intimate, amazing level than we ever before

dreamed.

Real Change

Real Change

• Real Change is about putting sobriety first in your life in order to let that decision shape the course of other decisions.

Example

Example

• This man made a decision to remain on the Real Change side of our map, which means that he chose to remain sober no matter the circumstances.

Example

• This man made a decision to remain on the Real Change side of our map, which means that he chose to remain sober no matter the circumstances.- When he got stressed and wanted to use porn he would take time off from

work to exercise.

Example

• This man made a decision to remain on the Real Change side of our map, which means that he chose to remain sober no matter the circumstances.- When he got stressed and wanted to use porn he would take time off from

work to exercise.

- When he got stressed and wanted to use porn he would call a friend to get

support.

Example

• This man made a decision to remain on the Real Change side of our map, which means that he chose to remain sober no matter the circumstances.- When he got stressed and wanted to use porn he would take time off from

work to exercise.

- When he got stressed and wanted to use porn he would call a friend to get

support.

- When he got stressed and wanted to use porn he thought long and hard

about whether or not he truly liked his job enough to remain in that position.

Real Change

Real Change

• Your addiction, your Unwanted Sexual Behavior, is not simply a “bad habit.” It is God’s way of telling you that something is not quite right with the way you live, and the way relationships in it, are arranged. If you do not seek to deal with what is “not quite right,” either by continuing to use your Unwanted Sexual Behavior or White-Knuckling your change, you will be plugging your ears to God’s voice in your life.

Assignment

Assignment

• Reflect on this lesson

Assignment

• Reflect on this lesson

• Pray