you matter too!
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You matter too!
Practical Self-care and Humor Skills
Linda Hancock, FNP, PhD [email protected]
VCU Wellness Resource Center
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FIRST THINGS FIRST
•CONGRATULATIONS •Young people need what you do!
•THANKS
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Why me?
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This year I will celebrate 29 years of working with college students!
She who laughs lasts!
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WARNING -- I don’t look like a college student…
but I talk like one!
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Self-Care
Includes any intentional actions you take to care for your
physical, mental &
emotional health.
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12 minute TED Talk on Happiness
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You don't get happy by achieving success.
•Dopamine, which your brain makes when you're happy, has an important side effect:
•It makes you smarter.
•A positive brain is 31% more productive.
You achieve success by getting happy.
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21 DAY CHALLENGE • Take two minutes every day and do these things:
• 1. Write down 3 new things you are grateful for that day. • 2. Journal about one positive experience you've had in the
last 24 hours. • 3. Use the first email you write every day to praise or thank
someone you know. Spread the happy.
AND • 4. Meditation • 5. Exercise
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Pair and Share with a buddy
What 3 things you are grateful for…
The POINT – Gratitude and Happiness are actually self-care skills we can learn and teach!
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The POINT…
Gratitude & Happiness are actually self-care skills we can learn and teach!
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How stressed are you at work these days?
Not much VERY
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Why learn about anxiety? Why help youth to deal with it?
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Anxiety Trends
in College
http://www.apa.org/monitor/2014/09/cover-pressure.aspx
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Anxiety has a purpose. I YOUTUBE STRESS RESPONSE: Savior to Killer by Robert Sopolsky
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sPS7GnromGo
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Think about how our bodies developed over millennia
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An observation about stress…
• Hold up an arm….
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Unrelenting Stress?
SHORT BREAKS MAKE YOU MORE RESILIANT!
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Your body works reflexively
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Smile
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Practical skills: chest vs. belly breathing
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If you carry all the baggage from the past and all the worries of the future, it crushes you in the present.
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What is “mindfulness”?
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Radical but true concept….
YOU are NOT your thoughts!
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Mindfulness for Health Professionals
Stop. Breathe. Be.
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STRESS is the health issue that MOST negatively impacts academic success!
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Why mindfulness is a superpower. By Dan Harris Happify
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Normal people & the brain’s plasticity
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MRI scans showing 8 weeks of mindfulness based stress reduction changes the brain
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Mindful Awareness
Stimulus
Stimulus Response
Reaction
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Meditation Misconceptions
The Daisy Pattern is normal. Not judging, just noticing and returning to the breath yields awareness.
breath
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www.mindfulschools.org
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?
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www.Mindfulschools.org Youtube: Just Breathe by Salzman
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3 main types of Mindfulness Exercises
•Focused awareness •Usually on breath
•Unfocused Awareness •Just noticing and letting go
•Heart Practices •Practicing compassion
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What relaxes you the most?
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Mindfulness helps you keep perspective
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Apps for Mindfulness Heaspace Buddify
Calm.com
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Mindfulness – many, many practices
• Meditation is one type of mindfulness • 3 deep breaths • Stop. Breathe. Be. • Walking mindfully – chi gong, Tai Chi • Yoga • Running with awareness • Centering Prayer • And more!
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I believe humor is a form of mindful self-care
Humor is the most important tool I have
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What is humor? •An attitude toward life. •Taking your job seriously… but yourself lightly. •Humor is healthy. •Humor connects us to others. •Everyone can increase their use and enjoyment of humor!
• SET A MENTAL CHANNEL
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People are NOT born funny…
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Smile study:
•Waitresses •Nurses •7-11 Clerks •School Staff?
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“The shortest distance between two people… is a smile.” -Victor Borge
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Humor can be used with any issue… Just remember to use the
A T & T Principle of humor: Is it…. Appropriate
Timely, and Tasteful?
“If it is sincere and from the heart, it will usually be greeted with appreciation.”
(Allen Klein)
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Using humor
•Communicates that you care.
•Makes messages much more memorable
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You need to be aware of the culture gap.
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The youth culture sees things differently
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Learning & Laughter
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Why don’t people use humor?
FEAR…. “I might bomb!”
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Although some people are gifted joke tellers!
Humor is not just JOKES
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Humor Tools (and Norman)
• Verbal • Jokes • Anecdotes • Quotes • Definitions • Lists
• Visual • Cartoons • Greeting Cards • Funny Pictures • Props • Internet pics
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BOMB PROOF your humor…
Make it Relevant! Borrow it!
Poke fun at yourself!
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Anecdotes •Let’s play… Anecdote, Anecdote, whose
got the anecdote?
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Start a humor file
.
And use it frequently!
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Why is humor so important?
Because over time what you say fades but RELATIONSHIP REMAINS.
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Go ahead… Jump in and start using humor skills!
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Never, ever give up – Self-care matters!
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After long and thoughtful consideration, I have come to a rather interesting conclusion.
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Even though the global population is soaring into the billions, with thousands of religions, languages, philosophies and cultures represented,
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ultimately, there are only two kinds of people.
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There are those that are certain the world is going to hell in a hand basket,
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and those that believe the best is yet to come.