1 maximised manhood by dr. edwin louis cole lessons 10 to 12

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Maximised Manhoodby

Dr. Edwin Louis Cole

Lessons 10 to 12

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Primary Syllabus

3Dr. Edwin Louis Cole“Build Men - Raise Sons”

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Maximised Manhood

Chapter TwelveLesson 10

“Our Father, Which Art Inactive”

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Lesson 10 - Chapter 12

I. "Our Father, Which Art Inactive"

A. The greatest thing a father can do for his children is ____ their mother. (page 137)

1. Read Colossians 3:19 (NIV).

"Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them."



I. "Our Father, Which Art Inactive"

A. The greatest thing a father can do for his children is lovelove their mother. (page 137)

1. Read Colossians 3:19 (NIV).

"Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them."



2. Read Philippians 2:3-5 (NIV).

"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus."



What attitudes and attributes from these verses might God expect in a husband?

1. _____

2. _____

3. _____

4. _____

5. _____



What attitudes and attributes from these verses might God expect in a husband?

1. humilityhumility,

2. servanthood,servanthood,

3. selflessness,selflessness,

4. givinggiving,

5. lovelove



B. Fathering is a comprehensive task requiring maximized manhood.



1. Fathering takes: (page 140)

(fill in more requirements, in your own words)

studying thinking monitoring recommending influencing loving

_____ _____ _____

_____ _____ _____



1. Fathering takes: (page 140)

(fill in more requirements, in your own words)

studying thinking monitoring recommending influencing loving

sharingsharing caringcaring givinggiving

guardingguarding guidingguiding governinggoverning



2. Read 2 Timothy 2:15 (TLB). "Work hard so God can say to you, "Well done." Be a good workman, one who does not need to be ashamed when God examines your work."

What does this mean to you

_____



C. Love is doing what is best for the one _____, not gratifying our own desires at the expense of _____. (page 140)



C. Love is doing what is best for the one lovedloved, not gratifying our own desires at the expense of othersothers. (page 140)



D. What hour is one of the most important in a child's life? (pages 140-141)

1. show and tell

2. naptime

3. suppertime

4. Sesame Street



D. What hour is one of the most important in a child's life? (pages 140-141)

1. show and tell

2. naptime

3. suppertime

4. Sesame StreetSesame Street



E. Television

1. Look up John 10:10 (KJV). "The thief cometh not but for to _____, and to kill, and to destroy …"

2. One of the greatest thieves of family time is _____. (page 141)



E. Television

1. Look up John 10:10 (KJV). "The thief cometh not but for to stealsteal, and to kill, and to destroy …"

2. One of the greatest thieves of family time is televisiontelevision. (page 141)



3. Uncontrolled, television time will:

(page 141)

a. _____ time

b. kill _____

c. _____ relationships



3. Uncontrolled, television time will:

(page 141)

a. stealsteal time

b. kill initiativeinitiative

c. destroydestroy relationships



4. Read out loud:

Proverbs 12:11 (TLB). "Hard work means prosperity; only a fool idles away his time. "

Proverbs 10:27 (TLB). "Reverence for God adds hours to each day …"

How can you apply these verses to yourself? _____



F. The _____ father is the curse of our day. (page 142)

Think it over: The average American father gives only thirty-five seconds of undivided attention to his child every day. Proverbs 29:15 (KJV). "… a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."



F. The absenteeabsentee father is the curse of our day. (page 142)

Think it over: The average American father gives only thirty-five seconds of undivided attention to his child every day. Proverbs 29:15 (KJV). "… a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."



G. _____ funds can never be a substitute for a _____ of _____. (page 143)



G. TrustTrust funds can never be a substitute for a fundfund of trusttrust. (page 143)



H. The true legacy of the father is in the _____ he gives his children. (page 143)

1. Proverbs 13:22 (KJV). "A good man leaveth an inheritance to his _____ _____."

2. The children of a maximized man will be taught a strong relationship with God. (page 143)

_____ True ___ False



H. The true legacy of the father is in the spiritspirit he gives his children. (page 143)

1. Proverbs 13:22 (KJV). "A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children's childrenchildren."

2. The children of a maximized man will be taught a strong relationship with God. (page 143)

__ True ___ False



Practical:

1. Commit to spend a "private time" weekly or monthly with every member of your family just to LISTEN. Your family doesn't need to know your intentions. Just follow your plan, and they'll eventually figure out what you're doing. Ask them leading questions to draw them out.



Save your comments until later. If they are negative in your first few "private times," remember that you are making an investment, and both consistent listening and prayer will help re-establish relationship.



"Private time" with my wife. Time/Day:

_____

"Private time" with my child. Time/Day:

_____

"Private time" with my child. Time/Day: _____



2. A father sees his toddler hit a household table with a toy, marring it. He yells, and grabs the toy from the child, swatting the child and scolding him, ordering him out of the room.

Is he punishing or correcting the child? _____

What is another way he could handle the situation? _____



3. The fourteen-year-old son stays in his room listening to music and playing on his computer. The parents worry, but the father insists they must respect the boy's privacy.

Is he giving the boy freedom or losing his relationship with him? _____

What might he do differently to reach out to his son? _____



Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, In Jesus Name, I want to be a quality listener. I choose today to walk in love, and be patient as I listen to my wife and children. I will incline my ear to You, and to my family, and search to understand what they're really wanting to communicate to me. Forgive me for my impatience towards them. Thank You for Your patience towards me. I love you Father! Amen.


Lesson 10 - Self Test

1. The greatest thing a man can do for his children is:

a. love their mother

b. correct them

c. give them gifts



1. The greatest thing a man can do for his children is:

a. love their motherlove their mother

b. correct them

c. give them gifts



2. What is one of the major curses of the day?

_____



2. What is one of the major curses of the day?

absentee fatherabsentee father



3. Name three attributes God expects in a good husband and father.

a. _____

b. _____

c. _____



3. Name three attributes God expects in a good husband and father.

a. selflessnessselflessness

b. servanthoodservanthood

c. humilityhumility



4. Name three activities God expects in a good husband and father.

a. _____

b. _____

c. _____



4. Name three activities God expects in a good husband and father.

a. guideguide

b. guardguard

c. governgovern



5. _____ desires to benefit others even at the expense of self, because _____ desires to give.

6. What thief affects families in America today?

_____



5. LoveLove desires to benefit others even at the expense of self, because lovelove desires to give.

6. What thief affects families in America today?

televisiontelevision

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Maximised Manhood

Chapter ThirteenLesson 11

“Stop, Look, Listen”

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“Stop, Look, Listen”Lesson 11 - Chapter 13

I. "Stop, Look, Listen”

A. The one who _____ before he _____ will succeed. (page 145)

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I. "Stop, Look, Listen”

A. The one who listenslistens before he talkstalks will succeed. (page 145)


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I. Read the following:

Proverbs 18:13 (NIV). "He who answers before listening-that is his folly and his shame."

James 1:19 (KJV). "Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath."

Revelation 2:7 (KJV). "He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith ..."


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1. God's attitude is that success is a result of _____. (page 145)

2. Listening is _____. (page 145)

3. What priority does God place on listening? (page 145)

_____


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1. God's attitude is that success is a result of listeninglistening. (page 145)

2. Listening is ministryministry. (page 145)

3. What priority does God place on listening? (page 145) First priority First priority - He places a premium on it- He places a premium on it.


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4. To succeed in sales or counselling, listen until you hear what the _____ is, then meet it.

(pages 145 and 147)

5. Men must learn to _____. (page 146)


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4. To succeed in sales or counselling, listen until you hear what the needneed is, then meet it.

(pages 145 and 147)

5. Men must learn to listenlisten. (page 146)


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C. Men and women are different!

1. Men need to learn to listen to their wives and children: (check all that apply) (page 146)

___ to affirm their uniqueness

___ to learn their needs

___ to discover if they are satisfied

___ to keep the relationship solid

___ to make the relationship grow

___ to hear their inner longings


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C. Men and women are different!

1. Men need to learn to listen to their wives and children: (check all that apply) (page 146)

to affirm their uniqueness

to learn their needs

to discover if they are

to keep the relationship solid

to make the relationship grow

to hear their inner longings


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2. Men are ____-____. Women are ____ ____ people. (page 147)

3. The fine print is part of ____. To minister to a woman, you must give her some ____ ____. (page 148)


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2. Men are head-linershead-liners. Women are fine fine printprint people. (page 147)

3. The fine print is part of ministeringministering. To minister to a woman, you must give her some fine printfine print. (page 148)


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D. The sin of _____ is the basic sin of humanity. (page 148)

1. The only reason you do _____ is because you don't do right. (page 148)

2. Men go to hell not because of what they _____, but because of what they ____ _____. (page 148)


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D. The sin of omissionomission is the basic sin of humanity. (page 148)

1. The only reason you do wrongwrong is because you don't do right. (page 148)

2. Men go to hell not because of what they dodo, but because of what they didn't dodidn't do. (page 148)


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3. To begin doing right, we must fill our minds with godly _____ and divine _____. (page 149)

4. Read James 4:17 (KJV). "Therefore to him that knoweth to do _____, and doeth it not, to him it is _____."


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3. To begin doing right, we must fill our minds with godly thoughts thoughts and divine

truthstruths. (page 149)

4. Read James 4:17 (KJV). "Therefore to him that knoweth to do goodgood, and doeth it not, to him it is sinsin."


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E. Communication is the _____ of life. (page 149)

Read Luke 4:4 (KJV): "... it is written, That man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God."


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E. Communication is the basisbasis of life. (page 149)

Read Luke 4:4 (KJV): "... it is written, That man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God."


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How important is God's Word to us?

_____

How important should our word be to others?

_____


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How important is God's Word to us?

It is what sustains us. We live by It is what sustains us. We live by it!it!

How important should our word be to others?

It is our bond.It is our bond.


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Practical:

1. Set a date on your calendar three weeks from now. Every day for the next three weeks concentrate on listening to people until they are finished, not worrying about what you'll say next.


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2. Often men don't even listen to a name that's given. When you know you'll be introduced to someone, plan ahead to listen carefully to the name, and repeat it several times immediately to commit it to memory.

3. In what areas of your life are you failing because of what you're NOT doing?

_____


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Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, once again I ask for Your forgiveness-this time for my sins of omission, as well as my sins of commission. Please cleanse me from unrighteousness, purify my mind through Your Word, and bring me ever more into the newness of life Your Son provides for me. I confess the power of Christ within me to overcome old habits, restore right relationships, and keep me on the straight course I have chosen. Thank You for making the way for me. I love you, Lord. Amen.


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1. Men are head-liners; women are ____ ____ people.

2. What is the basic sin of humanity?

_____


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1. Men are head-liners; women are fine fine printprint people.

2. What is the basic sin of humanity?

sin of omissionsin of omission

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3. a. _____ is the basis of life.

b. When communication stops, _____ sets in.

c. The ultimate end of abnormality is _____.


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3. a. CommunicationCommunication is the basis of life.

b. When communication stops, abnormalityabnormality sets in.

c. The ultimate end of abnormality is death to the relationshipdeath to the relationship.


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4. Men must stop and listen to their family's _____.


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4. Men must stop and listen to their family's needsneeds.


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Maximised Manhood

Chapter Thirteen & FourteenLesson 12

“Born Again Marriage” &“What’s the Question?”

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“Born-Again Marriage”Lesson 12 - Chapter 14

I. "Born-Again Marriage"

A. Marriages are ordained by God.

1. Read out loud Ephesians 5:31 (NIV). "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."

2. Marriage can be the closest thing to a _____ or _____ on this earth. (page 153)

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I. "Born-Again Marriage"

A. Marriages are ordained by God.

1. Read out loud Ephesians 5:31 (NIV). "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."

2. Marriage can be the closest thing to a heavenheaven or hellhell on this earth. (page 153)

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B. Jesus is the Saviour of every area of our lives.

1. It is harder to _____ than it is to _____. (page 156)

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B. Jesus is the Saviour of every area of our lives.

1. It is harder to maintainmaintain than it is to

obtainobtain. (page 156)

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2. Read Mark 4:16-17 (KJV).

"And these are they likewise which are sown on stony ground; who, when they have heard the word, immediately receive it with gladness; And have no root in themselves, and so endure but for a time."

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What areas of your lifeyour life are difficult to maintain? (check any that apply)

_____ love in marriage

_____ patience with children

_____ positive attitude

_____ weight loss

_____ enthusiasm for work

_____ prayer life

_____ other

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3. Jesus gives us life principles and _____ to live according to those principles. (page 156)

4. Jesus is the Saviour of your _____. (page 156)

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3. Jesus gives us life principles and powerpower to live according to those principles. (page 156)

4. Jesus is the Saviour of your total lifetotal life. (page 156)

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5. Jesus has a place in marriage and family in the same way He has with an individual.

Read Ecclesiastes 4:12 (TLB). "And one standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."

How does this verse apply to your marriage? _____

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“What’s the Question?”Lesson 12 - Chapter 15

II. "What's the Question?"

A. One major reason for so much _____ today is because of so little _____. (page 162)

When people spend time in _____, meditating in it, praying over it, confessing it, it will become their counsellor. (page 162).

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II. "What's the Question?"

A. One major reason for so much Christian Christian counsellingcounselling today is because of so little

prayingpraying. (page 162)

When people spend time in the Word of the Word of GodGod, meditating in it, praying over it, confessing it, it will become their counsellor. (page 162).

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B. Men have two great questions to answer in life. (page 164) (see Luke 9:18-20)

1. _____

2. _____

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B. Men have two great questions to answer in life. (page 164) (see Luke 9:18-20)

1. What think ye of Christ?What think ye of Christ?

2. Will you be a man?Will you be a man?

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C. Manhood is like a magic art. (page 165)

___ True ____ False

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C. Manhood is like a magic art. (page 165)

___ True ___False

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D. Abraham pitched his _____, but built his _____. (page 165)

1. Today many men spend too much time on the _____ and not enough on the _____.

(page 165)

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D. Abraham pitched his tenttent, but built his

altaraltar. (page 165)

1. Today many men spend too much time on the temporaltemporal and not enough on the

eternaleternal. (page 165)

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Read Colossians 3:1-2 (NIV). "Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things."

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2. You can pitch _____, but you must build _____. (pages 165-166)

Read Proverbs 31:30 (TLB). "Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn't last ...."

3. When the _____ wears off, you have nothing but _____ left. (page 166)

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2. You can pitch personalitypersonality, but you must build charactercharacter. (pages 165-166)

Read Proverbs 31:30 (TLB). "Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn't last ...."

3. When the charmcharm wears off, you have nothing but charactercharacter left. (page 166)

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E. Churches, homes, and nations are only as strong as their men.

1. To be strong, man must conquer _____. (page 166)

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E. Churches, homes, and nations are only as strong as their men.

1. To be strong, man must conquer himselfhimself. (page 166)

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Read Proverbs 16:32 (TLB). "It is better to be slow-tempered than famous; it is better to have self-control than to control an army."

Read Proverbs 25:28 (TLB). "A man without self-control is as defenseless as a city with broken-down walls."

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2. Manhood and _____-_____ are synonymous. (page 166)

Read Romans 8:29 (TLB). "For from the very beginning God decided that those who came to him-and all along he knew who would-should become like his Son, so that his Son would be the firstborn, with many brothers."

What does this mean to you personally?

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2. Manhood and Christ-likenessChrist-likeness are synonymous. (page 166)

Read Romans 8:29 (TLB). "For from the very beginning God decided that those who came to him-and all along he knew who would-should become like his Son, so that his Son would be the firstborn, with many brothers."

What does this mean to you personally?

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Practical:

1. Manhood is not magic, but rather a building process. What areas can you begin to "press through" in your quest for manhood?

_____

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2. Read 1 Timothy 4:8 (TLB). "Bodily exercise is all right, but spiritual exercise is much more important and is a tonic for all you do. So exercise yourself spiritually and practice being a better Christian, because that will help you not only now in this life, but in the next life, too."

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What will you do to "exercise" yourself spiritually and start the Christ-life in you?

1. _____

2. _____

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Repeat this prayer out loud: Father, in Jesus' Name, I have made my decision - no more wavering, no more hesitating. I will become the man You created me to be, the man You've always seen I could be. I have Your faith operating in me, and the power of Your Son making me like Him. I will do the work of being a man, a husband, a father, and I will show myself to be a worthy son of Yours. Thank You for loving me, strengthening me, and covering me with the blood of Christ. Amen.

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“What’s the Question?”Lesson 12 - Self Test

1. What is possibly the closest thing to a heaven or hell that an individual will ever experience on earth?

_____

2. Which is more difficult, maintaining or obtaining?

_____

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1. What is possibly the closest thing to a heaven or hell that an individual will ever experience on earth?

marriagemarriage

2. Which is more difficult, maintaining or obtaining?

maintainingmaintaining

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3. Jesus gives us _____ to live by, and His power to do it.

4. Abraham pitched his altars, but built his tents.

___ True ____ False

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3. Jesus gives us life principleslife principles to live by, and His power to do it.

4. Abraham pitched his altars, but built his tents.

___ True ___ False

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5. Men pitch personality, but _____ must be built.

6. _____ and _____-_____ are synonymous.

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5. Men pitch personality, but charactercharacter must be built.

6. ManhoodManhood and Christ-likenessChrist-likeness are synonymous.

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“What’s the Question?”Lesson 12

Congratulations - you’ve completed “Maximized Manhood” now find 12 guys and slap a big “High Five”.

Remember, we don’t just study the principles of God’s Kingdom - we need to live them out, in and through the power of the Holy Spirit. Go for it!

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