5 love languages of children
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5 Love Languages of Children. Presented by: Melissa J. MacDonald. Love as the foundation. You may truly love your child but unless she/he feels it they will not feel loved. Every child has an emotional tank, a place of emotional strength that can fuel them now and in the future. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
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5 Love Languages of Children
Presented by: Melissa J. MacDonald
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Love as the foundation
• You may truly love your child but unless she/he feels it they will not feel loved.
• Every child has an emotional tank, a place of emotional strength that can fuel them now and in the future.
• By speaking your child’s own love language you can fill his “emotional tank” with love.
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The 5 Love Languages
• Physical Touch
• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Gifts
• Acts of Service
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Remember
• Every child has their own special way of perceiving love.
• No child can receive too much appropriate unconditional love
• Your children will sense how you feel about them by how you behave toward them.
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Physical Touch
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Physical Touch
• Physical touch is one of love’s strongest voices.
• Studies have found that most parents only touch when necessary
• All children need to be touched
• A hug given before a child leaves for school could be the difference between emotional security and insecurity through the day.
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Physical Touch
• Keep filling the love tank even if your child isn’t showing signs they need it
• In pre-adolescent and adolescence you must keep touching
• Be intentional about physical touch
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Loving through physical touch
• Snuggle while watching tv together
• Hug and kiss your child every day before and after school and as you tuck them into bed.
• Give high fives
• Play games that require physical touch
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Words of Affirmation
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Words of Affirmation
• Words of affirmation goes beyond just saying “I love you”
• If you use praise too frequently, your words will have little positive effect.
• The word encourage literally means “to instill courage”
• The greatest enemy of encouraging is is anger. • The volume of your voice matters greatly
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Words of Affirmation
• Be careful not to give the right message in the wrong manner. • ie. Yelling “stop screaming and yelling at
your brother”
• Your words are very important and help shape your child
• Be intentional• “Parenting is not just a matter of doing what
comes naturally”
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Loving through words of affirmation
• Put a note in your child’s lunch
• Mention specific moments you’ve observed that highlight your child’s accomplishments
• Create a special nickname for your child
• Say, “I love you”
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Quality Time
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Quality Time
• “He does things with me”
• Quality time is focused, undivided attention.
• Quality time is a parent’s gift of presence to a child.
• You don’t necessarily have to go anywhere
• Use eye contact
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Quality Time
• Quality time is not just doing things together, it’s a time for knowing your child better
• Children never outgrow the need for quality conversations with parents and adults.
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Loving through quality time
• Stop what your doing when your child is telling you something important and make eye contact with them.
• Ask specific questions about your child’s day
• Take family walks and bike rides together.
• Share meals as a family
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Gifts
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Gifts
• Other love languages must be given along with a gift
• A true gift is not a payment for services rendered, it is an expression of love for the individual
• If we do not present gifts as expressions of love, children may learn to receive them as “what is to be expected”
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Gifts
• Be careful not to abuse gift-giving
• Parents and grandparents may need to give less rather than more, carefully choosing gifts that will be meaningful.
• Not all gifts must come from a store
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Loving through gift giving
• Make a meal you know your child likes.
• Give your child a special song.
• Create a “secret drawer” where your child can keep her small “treasures”- anything from a bird feather to a pack of gum.
• Hide a small gift in your child’s lunch box.
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Acts of Service
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Acts of Service
• The day you found out you would have a child you enrolled into full-time service.
• What would most please your children at the moment is likely not the best way to express your love.
• As you express acts of service to your children you are setting a model.
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Acts of Service
• Loving service is an internally motivated desire to give one’s energy to others.
• Do an attitude check every now and then to be sure that your acts of service are communicating love.
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Loving through acts of service
• help your children practice for their sports team
• Begin teaching your child the importance of serving other through regular involvement together in a local community group or church ministry.
• Create flash cards for your child’s upcoming test or quiz
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Finding your child’s love language
• It takes time
• Kids are constantly growing and shifting
• Children need all love languages to fill their love tank
• Observe how your child expresses love
• Listen to what your child requests most often
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Finding your child’s love language
• Notice what your child frequently complains about
• Give your child a choice between two options
• Be multi-lingual
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5 Love Languages of Children
Presented by: Melissa J. MacDonald