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Page 1: About the Author · • They have no qualms teasing themselves • They look for ways to make things fun • They make wiQy remarks or observa.ons You needn't be a mile-a-minute comedian
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AbouttheAuthor:ChaseAmantehasprac.cedseduc.onsince2004,andrunGirlsChase.comsince2008.Hespecializesinintui.ve,effortlessapproaches,movingfast,andarelianceonsolidfundamentalsandgoodbasicgame.

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Hithere!I'mChaseAmante.IwrotethisbookwhileinBucharestfilmingmyrevolu.onarynewcourseOneDate&TheDa.ngAr.san.OneDateintroducesanewwaytothinkaboutda.ngandhavingsex...Andtodothis,itreferences1092scien.ficstudies.Itisthesinglemostheavilyresearchedcourseonseduc.onthereis.Togiveyouasneakpeekofthatcourse,Iwantedtocreateabookthatusessomeoftheresearchwe'vefoundtohelpyougetlaid.Thisisa.poftheicebergofwhatwe'vefound,butit'llgetyouresultsimmediatelyifyouapplyit.Todaywe'lltalkaboutwhatgirlslookfortohookupfastandhavecasualsex.Someofityoumightknoworsuspectalready.Butsomemaysurpriseyouindeed.Throughoutthisbook,you'llseehypertextlinksthatdirectyoutoresourcesformoreinforma.on.Ihopeyouenjoythebook.

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EverybodyknowslooksmaQer.ButhowmuchdotheymaQerforsex?Scien.stshavefoundwomenhaveafarbroaderrangeofkindsoffacestheylikethanmendo.*Theirpreferencesdependonthecountrythey'rein†,theirpasthistorywithmen‡...Evenwhat.meofmonthitis(hornygirlsliketheirmentolookmasculine).§ThepreYeragirlis,themoremasculineandbeQer-lookingshewantsherguytobe.‖Butthere'salotmoretobothlooksandmasculinitythanthefaceyourDNAcodesfor.

*Cellerino,2003|†DeBruine,Jones,Crawford,Welling,&LiQle,2010;Soleretal.,2010|‡Wiszewska,Pawlowski,&Boothroyd,2007|§Provost,Kormos,Kosakoski,&Quinsey,2006|‖

LiQle,Burt,Penton-Voak,&PerreQ,2001

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Sowhydohornygirlswantmanlymen?Girlsuseaman'smasculinityraBngtoguesshissexstrategy.*Ifheseemslikeanice,sweetman,sheassumeshewon'tpickherupfastandgiveherhard,orgasmicsex.Ifheseemslikeastrong,masculineman,sheassumeshewill.Thelessonisthatifthegoalisaone-nightstand,youmustgetmasculinetobeattheodds.

*Boothroyd,Jones,Burt,DeBruine,&PerreQ,2008;Kruger,2006

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Dominanceisthekeyelementofmasculinity.Itplaysahugeroleinhowothersevaluateyou.*Itdirectlypredictsyourdesirabilityforbothaone-nightstandandalong-termrela.onship.†Andgirlsdon'tevenrealizetheywantit.‡Girlslookformoderatelevelsofdominance.§Toomuchandyou'retooaggressive.TooliQleandyouaren'tupforconsidera.onasafastsexpartner.So,youwanttobedominant,yetyouhavetohittherightnote.

*Locke,2000|†Bryan,Webster,&Mahaffey,2011|‡Burger&Cosby,1999|§Stephen,Oldham,PerreQ,&Barton,2012

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Masculinemen:•  Takeupspace*•  Askforcompliance•  Touchmenandwomenalike•  Movepeoplearoundphysically•  Leadthecourtshipforward•  Behaveinaconfidentway•  AresociallydominantSocialdominancedoesnotmeanthespotlightisalwaysonyouorthatyouareloud,rude,orboorish.Socialdominanceisasmuchaboutsocialjiujitsuasanythingelse:youmustlearntoside-stepopponents'effortstotoolyouandgirls'effortstotestyou.

*Weisfeld&Beresford,1982

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Justbecauseyou'remasculinedoesn'tmeansheenjoysthecourtship.Anothervitalkeytoone-nightstandsishumor.Themoreshelaughs,themoreinterestedinyousheis(andbecomes).*Humormakesherfollowyourlead.†Ittellsheryou'recour.ngher(anddon'tjustwanttobefriends).‡AndagoodsenseofhumorevenmakesyoubeQer-lookingtoher.§Whatguysgetmostwrongwithhumoranddominanceistofocusonone.Eitherthey'refunnybutnon-dominant...Orthey'redominantbutserious.Themenwhopullone-nightstandsonaregularbasisdoboth:theyareplayfulanddominant.

*Hall,2015|†Guéguen,2010|‡Cowan&LiQle,2013|§Tornquist&Chiappe,2015

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Playfulmensharesomecommontraits:•  Theydon'tlet(most)talksgettooserious•  Theyhavenoqualmsteasinggirls•  Theyhavenoqualmsteasingthemselves•  Theylookforwaystomakethingsfun•  TheymakewiQyremarksorobserva.onsYouneedn'tbeamile-a-minutecomedian(norshouldyoube)togetplayfulnessright.Butyoudoneedacertainspiritofirreverentfuntohelpherletherhairdownandenjoyyourcompany.

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Thekillermixforone-nightstandsistheguywho’sgotplayfulnessanddominanceinhealthypor.ons.DominanceisamajoraQractant.HumorisamajoraQractant.Andwhenyou’vegotboth,youaremajorlyaHracBve.

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Here'sasampleplayful-dominantinterac.on:You: Soyou'refromSouthAfrica.DoyouspeakAfrikaans?Her: Yep!You: Yeah,likefluently?Showme,Iwanttohearthis.Her: [speaksAfrikaans]You: Youjusttoldmeyouliketoskydivenaked,didn’tyou.Her: [laughs]Ijustsaiditisverynicetomeetyou.You: Oh.It'snicetomeetyoutoo!Here,stepoverheresoyoudon'tgetrunover.Ilikethisnecklace,bythe

way.Looksgoodonyou.Whenyoutellherto"showyou",that'sacompliancedemand,whichisdominant.Likewisewhenyoutellher"stepoverhere."Youaskhertostepoversoshedoesn't"getrunover",whichisprotec.ve(dominant).AndyouapproveofherAfrikaansandofhowhernecklacelooksonher-dominant.Whenyouimplyshemighthaveinsultedyou("mynoseistoobig"),that'splayful.Thereasonforthemove("soyoudon'tgetrunover")isaliQlesilly,soplayful.Andifyoutouchhernecklaceasyouremarkonit,that'splayfultoo.

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It'scommonforamantomeetagirlsomewhereandthennotmovehermuchoratallunBlhegoesforthepull.Forexample,hemightmeetherbythecouch,sitwithherthere,talkforhours...Theninviteherhome.Orhemaymeetheronthesidewalk,takehertoacafé,talkthere,thenpull.Butthiscanmakeithardtopull.Themindisnotgoodatprocessing.me.Evenifyouhaveadeepchatwithheronthecouchforhours,onceit'soveritallcramstogetherforher.Butifyouchatwithherfor20minutesonthecouch...Thentakehertogodance...Thenwalkaroundthevenue...Thenleaveforasmaller,quieterplace...Andthenyouinviteherhome,itfeelslikeyou'vesharedsomanyexperiencesit'snaturalforhertosay"yes".Mixsomevarietyintoyourcourtships.Takegirlsdifferentplaces(evenwithinthesamevenue).Dodifferentthingswiththem.Givethemdifferentexperiences.Andwhenitcomes.metopull,it'seasier.

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Shouldgowithoutsaying,but...ItmightsurprisehowoLenmenhaveplatonicchatswithagirl,onlytofindshedoesn'tgethorny.Whetheryouusewords,bodylanguage,eyes...Youmustusesomethingtoturnheron.Otherwise,you'llneverbeanythingmorethanfriends.Thereareavarietyofwaysyoucanmakeyourconversa.onssexier.Sexualinnuendoisone(mypersonalverbalfavorite).Sextalk'sanother.S.llanotheristheuseofsexstories.Youcanevenmakedirectsexualcomplimentstoher("God,your.tsareperfect.I'llbettheyfeelincredible.Doyoueverjustrubthemforfun?")...ThoughthisispreQyadvanced.Andwilllikelybackfireonbeginners!There'sevenmoreyoucandowithsexualnonverbals.Yournonverbalcommunica.oniscrucialtoasexualvibe...Withoutsexualnonverbals,anythingsexualyousaywillfeeloutofplace.Butwithsexualnonverbals,eventhemostplatonicthingintheworldbecomessensual."Gomakemeasandwich,"hesaid,inhisdeep,gu:uralvoice,ashiseyesdartedoverherbodylikeapredatortakesinprey.Shebitherlip,andfelthercheeksflushred.

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What'sthedifferencebetweenaguywithgreatgameandfundamentalsbutmediocrelogis.cs...Andaguywithmediocregameandfundamentalsbutgreatlogis.cs?Thesecondguygetslaidmore,that'swhat.LogisBcsarehandsdownthatvital.Ifyou'vegot'em,it'seasy.Ifyoudon'thave'em,it'stough.Yourlogis.csarethespotsyouhavetopullto,andhowworkabletheyare.Ifyouhavebadlogis.csornologis.cs,shemightbehorny,butyouhavenowheretotakeher.Now,ifyoucangetagirlSUPERturnedon,she'lls.ckaroundasyoufigureoutevencrummylogis.cs.Butyoudon'twanttohavetorelyonalwaysgeYnggirlssuperturnedon.It'sniceifyoucandoit,butit'snotaconsistentstrategy.YouwantgoodlogisBcs.

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Partoflogis.csisjustyourgameplan.Ifyouthinkyouhavebadlogis.cs,dothis:sitdownfor40minutesandplanyoursout.Listalltheplacesyoucantakegirls.Listoutplansandbackupplans.Seewhatyoucancomeupwith.Becrea.ve.Dothis,andyou'llsurpriseyourself...You'llrealizeyouhavemoreplacestotakegirlsthanyou'drealized.Liveanhourfromdowntown?There'sahottubplacenearwhereyoumeetgirlsthat'sfun,cheap,andrentsbythehour.S.lllivewithyourparents?Kidshavebeendoingitinthebackseatsincethecoveredwagondays.Metahotgirlattheclubbutnowheretotakeher?Howaboutthatdarkalley?Thefirstfew.mesyougetcreaBvewithlogisBcsitmightfeelawkward.Willsheactuallygoforthis?You'llsoonfindtheanswer'soyen"YES."She'sdreamedofmeeBngaguywho'dbringthiskindofexcitementtoherlife.Whenyouworkoutsidetheboxonlogis.cs,that'syou.Also,don'tforgetyoucanoyengobacktogirls'places,too.Infact,ifyourlogis.csaredismal,youmayevenwanttoscreenforgirlswithgoodlogisBcs.

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Witheverythingelseset,it's.metoinviteherhome.Thebiggestreasonmostguysdon'thavemoreone-nightstandsistheydonotask.Starttoaskmoregirlshome,andyou'llstarttohavemoregirlscomehomewithyou.Simple,right?Toinviteherhome,youcan:•  Seedsomethingearlieroninyourchatwithher(likewineorhotchocolate)andinviteherbackfor

itlater

•  Askhertocomegrabanightcapwithyouorcomewatchamovie

•  Invitehertoanayerpartyatyourplace(whereit'sjustyouandher),ifit'satnight

•  Tellheryouwanttohearaboutsomestoryofhers,andinvitehertotellittoyouoverdrinks...Thentakeherbacktoyours

Youcanusealmostanythingasaninvite.Solongasshelikesyouenough,there'sagoodchanceshe'llsayyes.Dokeepinmindthoughthatmostgirlsneedplausibledeniability*,sounlessyou’vegoQenhersuperturnedon,probablystayawayfrom”Let’sgohavesex.”UsealiQleambiguity.

*Cooper,Skinner,&George,1989;Lang,1985

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Basicgroundrules:•  Shoesoffatthedoor.Getshercomfortableandhashertakeanar.cleofclothingoffrightaway

•  MakesureshesitsRIGHTnexttoyou.Nopurseoranythingbetweenyoutwo(justtellher"Putyourpurseoverthere").Don'tlethersittoofaraway("You'resofar.Comecloser!")

•  Lethergetcomfortablefirstbeforeyoukissher.Unlessshe'scrazyturnedon.Ifshe'scrazyturnedon,thenassoonasyougetherhomejustkissher

•  Followthe10MinuteKissRule.Sheisn'tallowedinyourplacemorethan10minutesbeforeyoutrytokissher

•  Don'tfretrebuffs.Ifsherefusesyourkiss,yourtouch,yourescala.on,anything,don'tworry.Justbackoffabit,rebuildhercomfort,con.nuetoturnheron,andtryagaininaminuteortwo

MakeuseoftheseBpsandthemajorityofgirlsyoubringbacktoyourplacewillendupinyourbedwithyou.

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Thesecrettoloadsofone-nightstandsistohaveasolid"getgirls"processyoucanfollowevery.me.AndthebestplacetogetthatprocessisOneDate&TheDa.ngAr.san.OneDate/TDAgivesyouallthetoolsyouneedtomeetagirl,aHracther,intrigueher,andgethertojoinyoubackhomeatyours.OneDates.ckstotheGirlsChasephilosophyof"movefasterwithgirls",andshowsyoujusthowtodothat.Fromdeepdivestochaseframestothefundamentalsthatmakeyousexyashell,thisisthecoursethatgivesyouitall.Watchmypresenta.onandletmeshowyouhowIhaveachievedandyoucanachievemasterfulsuccesswithwomen:

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