bj mckay · 2020. 8. 19. · ego is the enemy “you are the center of the universe” - the ego....

XSELF AWARENESS: THE EGO’S ANTIDOTE

BJ MCKAY

BJ MCKAY | LEADERSHIP CONSULTANT | ADVISA

YOU ARE NOT

ENOUGH

EGO IS THE ENEMY

“YOU ARE THE CENTER OF

THE UNIVERSE”- THE EGO

WHERE DOES MY EGO LIVE

EGO PROTECTS MY VULNERABILITY

A

DOMINANCE & VULNERABILITY

TEAM IMPACTINTERNAL SELF CONFIDENCE

Let me include others and collaborate

Needs:Independence

ControlChallenges

EXTRAVERSION & VULNERABILITY

B

INFLUENCE DATA

EXTERNALSELF CONFIDENCE

Provide me time to think it through.

Needs:

Social acceptanceSocial validation

Social connection

PATIENCE & VULNERABILITY

C

VARIETYPROCESS AND FAMILY =

SELF CONFIDENCE

I need variety.Needs:

TIME

ProcessFamily

Stability

FORMALITY & VULNERABILITY

D

FLEXIBILITYCORRECTNESS = SELF CONFIDENCE

Don’t box me inNeeds:

Clear expectations

Performance Feedback

Fairness

YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE WHAT YOU

UNDERSTAND

WHY IS THIS A PROBLEM

“WE SPEND SO MUCH OF OUR LIVES

REACTING TO LABELS, OUR OWN AND

OTHERS”- ANTHONY DE MELLO

What labels am I busy defending each day?

• :90 exercise• List as many labels/roles that you

carry rapid fire• EX: Mother, Daughter, Teacher,

Boss, Co-worker, Mentor, Athlete, etc

YOU ARE MORE

EGO THREATENS HEALTHY WORK

CULTURES

WHAT IF WE CAN’T MANAGE THE FORCE?

STOP.BREATHE.

BE.

10 MINUTES

EXERCISE:PICTURE YOURSELF

OVERLOOKING A RIVER

PRACTICE:FOUNDATION OF

SELF AWARENESS

PLAN

3 COLUMNS

5 MINUTES

HOW MUCH IS LEFT HERE?

YOUR GOAL:SEPARATE REAL FROM PERCEIVED

THREATS

THE VALUE RANKING BATTLE

WE SEE THINGS AND PEOPLE NOT AS THEY ARE, BUT AS WE ARE.

PRESENCE +

LISTENING+

VULNERABILITY

ACTION• 3 minutes• Think + write down 3 actions you

intend to take based on your personal notes from this session

• SMART style • Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant

and Timebound

IT’S TIME TO EVOLVE

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THANK YOU

BJ MCKAY | LEADERSHIP CONSULTANT | ADVISA