compliments, personal idioms, & gifts
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COMPLIMENTS, PERSONAL IDIOMS, & GIFTS
WHAT THINGS GET COMPLIM ENTED?
Performance Attire/Appearance Personality/Whole Person Possessions
COMPLIMENT FORM
DIRECT GENERAL NO COMPARISONS LITTLE LIKELIHOOD OF
AMPLIFICATION
REPLIES TO COMPLIMENTS
RITUALISTIC/PLEASED ACCEPTANCE (53%)
ACCEPTANCE WITH AMENDMENT NOT ACKNOWLEDGED DENIAL
WHO GIVES & GETS COMPLIMENTS?
SAME AGE GROUP (56%) SAME SEX (64%) SAME STATUS (71%)
REASONS FOR GIVING COMPLIMENTS
DESERVED (66%) NORMATIVE MANIPULATIVE
FUNCTIONS OF PERSONAL IDIOMS
BUILD RELATIONSHIP COHESIVENESS
IDENTIFY & NEGOTIATE BEHAVIORAL NORMS FOR THE RELATIONSHIP
TYPES OF PERSONAL IDIOMS PARTNER NICKNAMES EXPRESSIONS OF AFFECTION LABELS FOR OTHERS OUTSIDE THE
RELATIONSHIP CONFRONTATIONS REQUESTS AND ROUTINES SEXUAL REFERENCES & EUPHEMISMS SEXUAL INVITATIONS TEASING INSULTS
GIVING GIFTS
TIMING IS IMPORTANT– The unexpected gift– The forgotten gift– The too frequent gifts– The “make up” gift
TAILORING THE GIFT IS IMPORTANT– Give to other’s needs & relationship needs– Stress relationship needs on anniversaries
NEGOTIATION IS IMPORTANT– Norms for when they are expected, costs,
etc. THE RESPONSE IS IMPORTANT
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