dummies guide to coaching

The Dummies Guide to CoachingThe key is to start practicing…

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Skills You NeedCoaching

Ways of Relating to Create Results

Leading Having people follow me to change the future

Managing Having a play produce a pre-determined outcome

Teaching Passing on knowledge and skills – usually theory

MentoringAdvising and passing

knowledge from a position of experience

Counseling Listening and advising – tends to be passive

Coaching Having a player win at THEIR goal – very active

Why would you use performance coaching?

• Share, pass on experience, knowledge

• Responsibility with player, evoke commitment, player’s goals

• Day-to-day, directive, review, Control

• Big Picture, Inspire, Set Vision

Leadership Conversation

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Management Conversation

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Mentoring Conversation

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Coaching Conversation

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Producing Results Through People

Relationship Challenge

Without Challenge Leads To

Without Relationship Leads To

• Friendship• Popularity• Low Energy• Poor Results• Lack of Task Completion• No demand for

Performance Coaching

• Short-Term Results (Unsustainable)

• Pressure• Conflict• Compliance• Stress• Resignation of the Player

Ori

enta

tion

Who am I? / Who

is the Player?

• Do we have mutual interests?

What’s the

Game?

• When does it start?

• When does it end?

How do we Win?

• How do we measure our progress?

How will we Work

Together?

•What it is like to be coached by me

•Here and the models that I will use

•How would you like to be coached?

Why is this important to

you?

What experience

are you looking to

create?

What’s in it for you?

How would you feel about

starting versus not starting?

Are there any back

doors? (time, money, job, family, age

etc.Com

mit

ment

Coaching Questions

Psychological• IN• WHY?

Action• OUT• WHAT?• WHERE?• WHEN?• WHO?

HOW?

Motivational Traps

Motivational Traps

Arrogance of Success

ResignationApathy

Ability• I can stand on my own... but I know when to ask for coaching - and I do so

Correction• Getting the player back into action

Competency• This is the 'How' - Competency & Skills - The more specific the better

Commitment• Intention & Mechanism / What's Compelling

Orientation• What's the game? How do we work together? Who do we win?

Create Relationship Check Current Results

Find Something to Acknowledge

Committed Questions•What's Working?•What's Not Working?•What's Missing?•What's Next?

Agree actions and time for next conversation

Repeat back to me what we have just

agreed

Listen for conviction and buy in.

Close the the conversation on a

positive note.

Concentration

• Previous history determines goals• Short-Term• Obj: To create a winning habit which will build confidence in

your player

Momentum

• Goals depend on personal best or external environment• Longer Term• Obj: To challenge the player to be the best they can be

Breakthrough

• Previously unimagined goals, realm of the impossible• Audaciously Futursitic• Obj: To step back and let your player be in the 'zone'

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