looking out/looking in thirteenth edition 2 communication, identity, and the self

Looking Out/Looking InLooking Out/Looking InThirteenth EditionThirteenth Edition

22Communication, Identity, Communication, Identity, and the Selfand the Self

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• Self-Concept and Self-Esteem

• What is the difference between the two?

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• Self-Concept and Self-Esteem• People with high self-esteem

• Likely to think well of others• Expect to be accepted by others• Evaluate their own performance more favorably• Perform well when being watched• Inclined to feel comfortable with views of others• Able to defend themselves against negative

comments

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• Self-Concept and Self-Esteem• People with low self-esteem

• Likely to disapprove of others• Expect to be rejected by others• Evaluate their own performance less favorably• Perform poorly when being watched• Feel threatened by people they view as superior• Have difficulty defending themselves against

others’ negative comments

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• Come up with a time when your self esteem impacted your communication.(positively or negatively – both if you can!)

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• Self-Concept and Self-Esteem• Self-esteem and communication behavior

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• Biology and the Self-Concept• Personality is part of our genetic makeup• Biology influenced traits

• Extroversion• Shyness• Assertiveness• Verbal Aggression• Willingness to communicate

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• Socialization and the Self-Concept• Reflected Appraisal

• Each of us develops a self-concept that reflects the way we believe others see us

• Social Comparison• Social Comparison and The Media

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• Characteristics of the Self-Concept• Distorted self-evaluations can happen and

may be based on: • Obsolete information• Distorted feedback• Emphasis on perfection

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• The Self-Concept Resists Change• Cognitive Conservatism

• We seek out people who support our self-concept• Are you funny? Or, do you surround yourself with people

who tell you that you’re funny?

• Most communicators are reluctant to downgrade a favorable impression of themselves

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• Culture, Gender, and Identity

• How does gender and culture impact our identity?

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy• Types of Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

• Self-imposed prophecies• When your own expectations influence your behavior

• Prophecies imposed by others• Expectations and behaviors of one, govern another’s

actions

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Communication and the SelfCommunication and the Self

• Changing Your Self-Concept• Have a realistic perception of yourself• Have realistic expectations• Have the will to change• Have the skill to change

• Seek Advice• Observe Models

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Communication as Identity Communication as Identity ManagementManagement

• Public and Private Selves• Perceived Self (Private)

• A reflection of the self concept

• Presenting Self (Public)• The way we want others to

view us

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Communication as Identity Communication as Identity ManagementManagement

• When do we manage identities?• Why do we manage identities• How do we manage identities?