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Marriage ProblemsMarriage Problems
Though there are no perfect husbands / wives, parents / children, our standard is perfect (2 T.3:16-17)
Keeps us going in right direction
Love your wife sometimes?
Submit to your husband when you feel like it?
II Lack Of CommitmentII Lack Of Commitment
Instant societyInstant society: many Americans quit at first sign of trouble
No fault divorceNo fault divorce
“We can always divorce”
Gn.2:18-24; Mt.19:3-9
Mal.2:14-16
Marriage vows are mere words to many
Self-commitment?Self-commitment?Our selfish society encourages self-commitment
Pro.31:11-12 1 Co.7:33
Some marry, then quit courting… Marriage is when you agree to spend the rest of your life sleeping in a
room that’s too warm, beside some-one who’s sleeping in a room that’s too cold
IIII FornicationIIII Fornication
No one is strong enough to let his guard down – (2 Sm.11)
Nothing new:
Pro.7:9-10 (22-23, 26)
Some fantasize that the grass is Some fantasize that the grass is greener in a new marriagegreener in a new marriage
IIIIII Uncontrolled AngerIIIIII Uncontrolled Anger
Col.3:19, harsh, irritable
Positive: always be considerate
People mishandle anger in two ways:
1. 1. LosingLosing it (blowing it (blowing up)up)
Some encourage it
Mk.3:5
Some let loose angry wordsSome let loose angry words
I don't know why I did it. I guess I lost my head. I should have said ‘I love you’ but used angry words instead. Angry words, that were so unfair. Angry words, I should have said ‘I care’
Some let loose angry actionsSome let loose angry actions
A problem since Gn. 4
Some use silent treatment; turns into grudge…finally explodes…
Silent treatment is not same as cooling off before talking
2. Keeping it (bottling it up)2. Keeping it (bottling it up)
Ep.4:26-27
We may be angry at evil w/o sin, but anger based on selfish resent-ment is always sinful
If it lives beyond a day it cannot be justified
One of the hardest things in the world: be angry w/o sin
IV Submission IssuesIV Submission Issues
Some women have a hard time submitting. Ep.5:21-24, asas... (Lord)
Liberation movement
Some men have a hard time leading.Ep.5:25-29, asas… (sacrificial love)
Some bully to get their way
Others view it as a democracy
V DisagreementsV Disagreements
Money –Money –The number one argument
Most divorce papers simply list incompatibility (first place)
Divorce doesn’t solve money problems; it compounds
them!
1 T.6:10
Children – Children –
1. DisciplineDiscipline – pushover vs strict disciplinarian
A united front is necessary 2. LifestyleLifestyle – pamper and giving
vs work and doing w/o 3. GoalsGoals –
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