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Why Personal Intelligence?(EQ + IQ)

8 Myths Disproven by Science

Science: EQ All Grown Up!

Launched 1999 Launched 2015

Exhilarating Disruptive Revolution

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Myth-busting

People resist change because they believe in myths science has disproven.

Myth 1: Brain is fixed &immutable

fMRI takes a peek into the brain

Findings:• Brain structure is not fixed

• It is a ‘plastic’ mouldable structure

This means:• We are more flexible than we think

• We can adapt to change

If you don’t use it ...

Our brain is refreshed and stimulated by newness Perhaps we need to fear predictability (boredom) rather than change

Myth 2: Genes determine our lives

Scientists agree: Genes X Environment (creates infinite possibilities)

Nature vs Nurture (a futile argument and a limiting myth)

There is no such thing as pure genetic determinism

Freedom to choose

Our lives are not dictated to by the contents of our ‘jeans’ (or our genes ). We have more freedom than we think.

Myth 3: Personality is fixed

Thoughts ‘wire-up’ the brain

Memes (units of social conditioning) soft-wire the brain and we get into the habitof behaving according to who we think we are – this we call our ‘personality’.

You are not your brain

Not all memes are true, neither are they necessarily useful.We don’t need to believe every thought (meme)

that meanders through our brain.

Myth 4: You can’t trust feelings

Mood: the emotional habit we’re in

Emotion: the life-giving system that runs the traffic between our brain and body. Feelings give us important feedback about our wellbeing (our energy levels)

Happiness is mood stasis (balance)

Stormy moods are warning lights – emotions tell you what is threatening your happiness?

Brain follows what feels good

Any activity used to soothe unhappyfeelings can become an addiction:arguments, shopping, tv, junk food, social media, complaining, gambling, procrastination, needing to be right ...

Unfelt emotions >>> addiction

Addiction (defn): something you can’t stop

New research shows howyou can break free

Myth 5: The ‘law of attraction’

‘If our thoughts had the magnetic power to attract material goods and/ or money our heads would stick to large metal objects like our cars or refrigerators.’

Barbara Ehrenreich: Scientist & Author of Bright-Sided How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America

The brain likes shortcuts

Shortcuts such as ‘magical thinking’ appeal to our energy-efficient brain but ...

Magical thinking is de-motivational

Techniques to ‘manifest’ success use the energy needed to get on with the task or challenge.20 years of research into starry-eyed day dreaming shows you do worse when you use magical thinking.

Mind Power – Magic Wand?

Quick Fixes: If it seems too good to be true, it probably is!

Myth 6: Multi-tasking is efficient

Multi-tasking usually means doing everything half-heartedly

Life-loadinternet

stimulation expectation

complaints noise

change

activity

twitter

aggression

fear

pollution

facebook

instagram

entertainmenttoxinsthrills

decisions

technology

commitment

media

talk

concern

worry

choicemiserywork

people

possessions

fatigueinformation

messages

indulgence

traffic

stress

debt

television

violence

greed

attitude

demands

ego

criticism

spending

busy

spin

pressure

indoctrination

manipulation

deception consumption

shoppingdistractionanxiety

eatingboredom moaning

partyingarroganceinsecurity

OverloadOverload

We wanted more & we got it

Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress!

Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress! Stress!

Breathing space needed

Making margin

Myth 7: Self-esteem is important

The emphasis on self-esteem is producing narcissism

Confidence produces results

Confidence is about ability

Approx 10 000 hours of deliberate practise

produces expertise fromability

‘Deliberate practise’requires feedback and

Improvement

Mantra for being future fit

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Myth 8: Live your passion ...

... and the money will follow

Passion helps but ...

"I play tennis for a living even though I hate tennis,

hate it with a dark and secret passion and always have.“

Andre Agassi,

eight-time Grand-Slam champion & still considered one of the greatest

tennis players of all time.

Greatness is produced by sweat,persistence, grit, mental strength,

and dogged determination.

So, what makes change possible?

We are our habits

Perception = thinking habits Mood = emotional habitsHealth = physical habitsPersonality = behavioural habitsWellness = all the above habits rolled into one

Good news

Our habits were programmed in and with persistence anddetermination we can re-programme (or rewire) these habits

and keep reinventing ourselves.

Benefits of shaking habits

Live comfortably in your own skinThink clearlyMake well-informed decisionsLive your prioritiesFind more energyFocusMake marginEnjoy uncluttered relationships(at work and at home)Manage inevitable conflict Gain cooperationConfidently produceMake things happenEnjoy lifeLive happily ever ... NOW!

If you want real science to help you develop future fit

teams who are inspired by change

contact Steph @:

steph@eqsa.co.zawww.eqsa.co.za

Tel: +27 11 486-1211

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