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The Self Confidence Booster Workshop Workbook

Your Secret To Success For Finding Love After 50!

Lisa Copeland FindAQualityMan.com

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A Thought . . .

Weareeachresponsibleforallofourexperiences.

Everythoughtwethinkiscreatingourfuture.

Thepointofpowerisalwaysinthepresentmoment.

Everyonesuffersfromself-hatredandguilt.

Thebottomlineforeveryoneis,

“I’mnotgoodenough.”

Wemustreleasethepastandforgiveeveryone.

Wemustbewillingtobegintolearntoloveourselves.

Self-approvalandself-acceptanceinthenowarethekeystopositivechanges.

Whenwereallyloveourselves,everythinginourlife

works.

Excerptfrom:LouiseHayYouCanHealYourLife

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Your Goals For This Workshop: 1.2.3.

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I am grateful for: 1.2.3.

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Daily Gratitude Exercise:

1) Keep a daily journal of three things you are thankful for. This works well first thing in the morning, or just before you go to bed.

2) Make it a practice to tell a someone you really like something you appreciate about them every day.

3) Look in the mirror when you are brushing your teeth, and think about something you have done well recently or something you like about yourself. Appreciate yourself too!

Doing these 3 steps ultimately boosts your confidence in you and helps you get past your flaws and the flaws of someone you’re dating.

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Part 1 . . . Limiting Beliefs and How They Keep You From Attracting Love With A Good Man Notes . . .

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10 things I am critical of about myself.... 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10.

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Notes . . .

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Limiting beliefs about yourself:

Examples:

• Men won’t love women who look like me.

• There are no men out there to date

• Men only date younger women

Jot down 3 Limiting Beliefs you have about men, dating or yourself.

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1. What is my Limiting Belief about men, dating or myself? Who told me this or what experience caused me to create and hold onto this limiting belief? What evidence did I collect to support my belief and make it seem true?

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How does this limiting belief make me feel? What is it costing me or what will I lose if I continue to hold onto this limiting belief. How would I feel if I didn’t have this limiting belief?

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My Turnaround Statement or New Affirmation: 2. What is my Limiting Belief about men, dating or myself? Who told me this or what experience caused me to create and hold onto this limiting belief? What evidence did I collect to support my belief and make it seem true?

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How does this limiting belief make me feel? What is it costing me or what will I lose if I continue to hold onto this limiting belief. How would I feel if I didn’t have this limiting belief?

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My Turnaround Statement or New Affirmation: 3. What is my Limiting Belief about men, dating or myself? Who told me this or what experience caused me to create and hold onto this limiting belief?

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What evidence did I collect to support my belief and make it seem true? How does this limiting belief make me feel? What is it costing me or what will I lose if I continue to hold onto this limiting belief.

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How would I feel if I didn’t have this limiting belief? My Turnaround Statement or New Affirmation: Notes . . .

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Forgiveness Work Resources...

Hoʻoponopono

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hoʻoponopono

• I love you

• I’m sorry

• Please forgive me

• Thank you

Katie Byron

• A Mind at Home with Itself: How Asking Four Questions Can Free Your Mind, Open Your Heart, and Turn Your World Around

Louise Hay

• You Can Heal Your Life

Brene Brown • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're

Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are • Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms

the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

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Notes . . .

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Part 2.... Creating Your Inner Glow That Attracts The Right Men to You

Confidence Scale . . .

On a scale of 1-10 where is your confidence in life...work, family, friends? _______

Now on a scale of 1-10 where is your confidence with men and being able to attract the right man for you? _______

Notes . . .

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Let’s Light Up Your Inner Glow List 15 things you either love or are grateful for about your physical body 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11.

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12. 13. 14. 15. List 15 things you either love or are grateful for about your personality 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.

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8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15. List 15 things you are good at, interested in or like to do 1. 2. 3.

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4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. 14. 15.

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What is the ONE thing in life you are most passionate about?

Notes . . .

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Part 3 . . . Lighting Up Your Outer Glow...Let’s Create Some Magic and Fun!

I am Statements (allow yourself to dream and than act as if and watch the magic happen)

1. I am

2. I am

3. I am

4. I am

5. I am

6. I am

7. I am

8. I am

9. I am 10. I am

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Outer Glow Looks.... 3 Outfits That You Feel Amazing Wearing Checklist Ideas: Take an Inventory of each category and write down what makes you feel good to wear. Pants Any Jeans make me feel sexy and girly

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• Dress pants that make me feel soft and feminine

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Capri’s or shorts that make my legs look amazing

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• Ankle length pants that make me feel sexy and girly

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• Other things in my closet I love

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Dresses that look great on me and make me feel amazing to wear

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• Skirts that are feminine and make me feel sensual and good about myself

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• Blouses that show off the best you

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Sweaters that are flattering and make me feel pretty

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• Other Tops that I love and feel good wearing

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• Scarves I love

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Jewelry to enhance my outfit

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• Heels

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• Boots

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• Purses

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Put together 3 outfits from your closet that make you feel amazing and match your Inner Glow 1. 2. 3.

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Notes . . .

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Ready to talk about your next step for finding love after 50? Write to me at Lisa@findaqualityman.com and we’ll set up a time to chat about how we can jumpstart your love life and get you the man and relationship you want. Enjoy this workshop and want to help other women know how valuable this work is? You’re testimonial helps other women decide if this is for them or not. If you feel, you’ve gotten a lot out of this workshop and would like to write about your experience...all you have to do is answer 1-2 sentences using the two questions below as your guide. When you’re done, you can send it to me at Lisa@findaqualityman.com

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Questions

1. What was the challenge or problem you had before our workshop?

2. How did the workshop help you?

I so appreciate you doing this and so do other women who will need this workshop!

Reach out if you have any questions.

Lots of love and hugs to you~