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“Learn from My
Mistakes!Leadership in Education”
Karen J. Nichols, DO, MA, MACOI, CSDean, Chicago College of Osteopathic Medicine
Midwestern University
Professor, Internal Medicine
Past President, American Osteopathic Association
Osteopathic International Alliance, Board Member
September 10, 2017 1
©KarenJNicholsDO2017September
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“the wisdom is in the room”
• “You must learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t possibly live long
enough to make all of them yourself.” - Sam Levenson (1911-1980)
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• My Mistakes!!• Not giving feedback
• Not making time for your team
• Being too “hands on”
• Being too “hands off”
• Being too friendly
• Failing to define goals
• Misunderstanding motivation
• Hurrying recruitment
• Not “walking the walk”
• Not delegating
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• Know yourself
• “No one knows his own strengths who does not know his own weaknesses”
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• Know yourself
• “No one knows his own strengths who does not know his own weaknesses”
• Enlightenment Instruments
• Myers-Briggs Type Indicator
• DiSC
• Strengths Finders (latest version)
• Enneagram
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So what do I need to learn? 6
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So what do I need to learn?
• Communication skills
• Setting priorities
• Getting organized
• Persuasion approaches
• Negotiation techniques
• Conflict management
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So what do I need to learn?
• Communication skills
• Motivating others
• Managing change
• Strategic thinking
• Innovation approaches
• Problem-solving
• Managing culture
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So what do I need to learn?
• Communication skills
• Team building
• Situational leadership
• Crisis management
• Relationship management
• Emotional intelligence
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What was odd about those last 3
slides? 10
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Communications!!
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• “The single biggest problem in communications is the illusion that it has
occurred.”
• William H. Whyte, Fortune, 1950 42:77-83
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Teen Language Quiz
• Fly
• Grill
• Gucci
• Biscuits
• Salty
• Bounce
• Rides
• GOAT
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Circle the Wagons!
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Observation Exercise 17
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What did you see? 18
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• “The way we see the problem, IS the problem”
• Steven Covey
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Ladder of Inference 20
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Ladder of Inference
• 1-Directly observable data
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Ladder of Inference
• 2-Observe and select data
• 1-Directly observable data
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Ladder of Inference
• 3-Translate and label
• 2-Observe and select data
• 1-Directly observable data
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Ladder of Inference
• 4-Evaluate and causally explain
• 3-Translate and label
• 2-Observe and select data
• 1-Directly observable data
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Ladder of Inference
• 5-Decide whether or not to respond
• 4-Evaluate and causally explain
• 3-Translate and label
• 2-Observe and select data
• 1-Directly observable data
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• Inquire to Learn
• Paraphrase for Clarity
• Acknowledge their Feelings
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• Inquire to Learn
• Paraphrase for Clarity
• Acknowledge their Feelings
• Don’t talk too fast
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• Inquire to Learn
• Paraphrase for Clarity
• Acknowledge their Feelings
• Don’t talk too fast
• What is the question behind the question you are being
asked?
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• Inquire to Learn
• Paraphrase for Clarity
• Acknowledge their Feelings
• Don’t talk too fast
• What is the question behind the question you are being
asked?
• Look at the situation from the other person’s perspective
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• Inquire to Learn
• Paraphrase for Clarity
• Acknowledge their Feelings
• Don’t talk too fast
• What is the question behind the question you are being
asked?
• Look at the situation from the other person’s perspective
• Look for a way to say yes to part of the request.
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• Inquire to Learn
• Paraphrase for Clarity
• Acknowledge their Feelings
• Don’t talk too fast
• What is the question behind the question you are being
asked?
• Look at the situation from the other person’s perspective
• Look for a way to say yes to part of the request.
• “I” not “you”
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• Inquire to Learn
• Paraphrase for Clarity
• Acknowledge their Feelings
• Don’t talk too fast
• What is the question behind the question you are being
asked?
• Look at the situation from the other person’s perspective
• Look for a way to say yes to part of the request.
• “I” not “you”
• “It’s NOT about….”
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• Inquire to Learn
• Paraphrase for Clarity
• Acknowledge their Feelings
• Don’t talk too fast
• What is the question behind the question you are being
asked?
• Look at the situation from the other person’s perspective
• Look for a way to say yes to part of the request.
• “I” not “you”
• “It’s NOT about….”
• “Yes, AND…” (Don’t say “Yes, BUT…”)33
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• Inquire to Learn
• Paraphrase for Clarity
• Acknowledge their Feelings
• Don’t talk too fast
• What is the question behind the question you are being
asked?
• Look at the situation from the other person’s perspective
• Look for a way to say yes to part of the request.
• “I” not “you”
• “It’s NOT about….”
• “Yes, AND…” (Don’t say “Yes, BUT…”)
• Amygdala Hijack 34
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How to Put in to Practice
• Acknowledge their Feelings
• The “last” thing is the “real” thing
• Tears tell the tale
• Acknowledging is not agreeing
• Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
• Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen
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Resources
• Written Materials
• Periodicals• Harvard Business Review
• Articles
• Books
• Instructional Programs
• Courses and Seminars
• Fellowships• Costin Institute for Osteopathic Medical Educators
• AACOM Senior Leadership Development Program
• Certificate Programs• Specialty college-based
• Degree Programs• UNE-COM
• Personal Guidance
• Mentor
• Coach
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• Many people want to “be” leader, they don’t want to “do” leader. Strive to
deserve the title!
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