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Sneak Peak of the August/September relaunch of Ashes For Beauty Magazine.TRANSCRIPT
Let’s&call&her&Tina.
She& walked& into&my& investment& seminar&
looking&for&all&the&world&like&a&Nordstrom&model&
right&out&of&the&latest&catalog:&Coach&designer&
bag,& Anne& Klein& suit,& Ferragamo& shoes.& For&
the& next& hour,& she& took& copious& notes& as& I&
presented& a& talk& called& Investing& in& Volatile&
Times.& Afterward& she&waited& to& speak& to&me&
oneGonGone,&and&as&we&talked,&it&became&clear&
that&this&together&woman&with&a&great&income&
had& one& selfGdestructive& problem,& she& was&
carrying&a&counterfeit&purse.
“I&have&worked&for&the&same&employer&for&
more&than&20&years&and&saved&little&or¬hing&
for&retirement.&And&I’ve&dated&the&sameman&for&
13&years,”&she&said,&adding&Galmost&needlesslyG
��������������������� �������������������romantic& relationship.& & Tina& had& traveled& in&
the&wrong&direction& for&many& years,& but& now&
she&was&serious&about&setting&her&compass&on&
true&north.&To&dothat,&she’d&made&an&emotional&
Bad belief no. 1: A Man is a Financial Plan.To& marry& for& money& or& for& what& a& potential&
mate& can& do& for& you& springs& from& the& false&
assumption&that&someone&else&wants&to&take&care&of&
you&now&and&always.&Tsk,&tsk:&very,&very&unwealthy&
of& you.&Tina& invested& far& too&much&of&her& time& in&
a&relationship&and&on&trying&to& look&a&certain&way,&
neither&of&which&ultimately&bore&fruit.
Bad belief no. 3:�������� ����������������Over&the&years&and&the&relationship&roadblocks,&
Tina&let&several&retirement&plan&enrollment&periods&
pass&by.&Although&she&was&an&accountant,&she&had&
associated&investing&with&high&risk.
Tina&had& to& learn& that& real& risk& is¬&having&
the& money& you& will& need& to& retire.& And& she& did&
learn&that.&She&continued&to&attend&seminars.&&She&
traded&fashion&magazine&subscriptions&for&The&Wall&
Street&Journal.&Instead&of&buying&Coach&bags,&she&
shopped&for&Coach&stock.&She&learned&the&language&
��� ���������� � � ��� ��� ���� ���� ���������� ���� ������������������������� �������
Tina’s&story&shows&that&people&can&escape&the&
������� ������������������������������������������changes& also& show& that& all& good& things& start&with&
� ������������������ ������ � ���������� ���until&an&emotional&and&intellectual&pivot&resets&the&
compass&to&true&north.
Bad belief no. 2:���������������������You&still&singing&the&“I’ll&wait”&song?&“I’ll&wait&
until& I& pay& all& my& bills.”& “I’ll& wait& until& the& stock&
market& goes& down.”& When& it& comes& to& building&
wealth,& time& is& the&one& thing&you&can&never&have&
enough&of.
Tina’s& song& was& sapping& her& time& and& her&
income.&Finally&she&grew&tired&of&the&waiting&game&
and&decided& to&purchase&only& thethings&she& really&
wanted&for&herself,&and&to&save&money&to&invest&in&
herself.&In&no&time,&she&had&three&months&of&income&
in&a&money&market&mutual&fund.
ARE YOU CARRYING A COUNTERFEIT PURSE?
You’ve seen her, know her, and might even be her! The woman with the “counterfeit purse.” That’s the term for the symbolic bag carried by women who dress fashionably and drive a nice car but have nothing of real value. It may look great right now, but it won’t hold up over the long term.
pivot.& By& that& I&mean& that& she’d& accurately&
������ ����� ������� ����� ������� �����was&ready&to&change.
Ten& years& later,& Tina& is& the& picture& of&
������ ���������������� ���������������� � ���������� ����� ����� ���� ���� �������Meanwhile,too& many& Tinas& are& still& out&
there:& otherwise& smart& women& needing& an&
emotional& pivot& to& begin& the&march& toward&
good&habits&and&a&wealthy&lifestyle.
��� ����� � ���� ������ ���� ����� ����willingness& to& change& the& beliefs& that& held&
her&hostage,&the&very&thinking&that&could&be&
tyingup&your&future&as&well.&
DEBORAH(OWENS
Let’s look at those bad beliefs:
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Reversing the Pain Of InfidelityBy Coach Da-Nay Macklin,BS, CCLC
Your husband’s infidelity has left you with a deep pain that just won’t go away. You want your marriage to heal, but that hurt is almost a hollow feeling that used to be filled with trust, joy and confidence. Is there any way to get back what was taken from you?
Yes, but you have to want it badly enough to make some tough decisions.
The first decision is to create an atmosphere of forgiveness in your home. Talk it over with him and decide together that you both will always try to be in a forgiving frame of mind toward each other and others. Do not tolerate holding grudges for every little infraction or irritation. Have everyone in your family get into the habit of thinking about the needs of others first and... quickly asking for forgiveness when they
accidently upset someone or hurt their Feelings. Be quick to go the extra mile for each other and just as quick to forgive when the other person doesn’t quite measure up. Habitual forgiveness starts to fill that hollow spot by allowing you to trust that the other person really cares about you.
The second decision is to choose if you want your marriage restored or if you’d rather keep playing the victim. Misery loves company! There is no changing the past. Your husband damaged your marriage relationship. You were the victim, but if you keep reminding yourself and him that you are the one who got hurt, you will relive it over and over again. The pain will not only be as deep as it was when it first happened, but your mind will exaggerate it, compounding it by adding all the other hurtful things
you can think of that he has ever done to you. By the time you are finished reenacting the past, you are drowning in mental and emotional misery and absolutely furious at him. He walks into the kitchen... to get a beverage and you are ready to jump down his throat.
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“Stop playing the victim and choose to restore your marriage by pushing away bad memories.”
Da-Nay Macklin “ The Marriage Makeover Coach”Da-‐Nay is a cer2fied coach, speaker, entrepreneurial mentor and acclaimed author who has assisted thousands to achieve their life purpose and marriage makeovers through her personal development blog and coaching: www.danaymacklin.com.
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WORSHIPThe Ultimate Expression of LoveBy Stacey Joseph Harris Most of us are enamored with the idea of love. The windows of our soul give way to the texture and feel of a new love. Our minds and hearts adjust to the ups and downs of love. We make concessions for the 2me that it takes for love to germinate in our hearts. We simply want to experience it and give it away. I believe that our hearts were uniquely designed by God to share. We are love children and we were made to love. It’s woven into the fiber of our being. It’s smeared across our ideals and thoughts. It is the compass that guides us along the streets of our journey where we find ourselves parked.
I believe that within each of us lies a “God spot”. It’s a place within our spirit that needs to express a deep and genuine love to God. And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. Mark 12:30 It’s the depth of our souls that must bear everything, with all sincerity, to the one that loved us first. Worship is the ul2mate expression of love. I’m not regula2ng it to the first 30 minutes of service or the song that moves you to tears. It travels inten2onally beyond music or a church seNng. It finds its way into your thoughts throughout the day. It appears during a moment when you realize that you’re grateful for the grace that has carried you through the seasons of your life. It shows up while you parent your children and honor your spouses...
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