Be Proactive

HABIT #1

HABIT #1—BE PROACTIVE

Proactive Language

I’ll do it

I can do better than that

Let’s look at all our options

I choose to

There’s gotta be a way

I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me

Reactive Language

I’ll try

That’s just the way I am

There’s nothing I can do

I have to

I can’t

You ruined my day

HABIT #1—BE PROACTIVE

Proactive People

Are not easily offended

Take responsibility for their choices

Think before they act

Bounce back when something bad happens

Always find a way to make it happen

Focus on things they can change and don’t worry about things they can’t

Reactive People

Are easily offended

Blame others

Get angry and say things they later regret

Whine and complain

Wait for things to happen to them

Change only when they have to

HABIT #1—BE PROACTIVE

Circle of Control

Circle of No Control

ChoicesResponses

OurselvesAttitudes

Color of SkinW

eather

Past Mistakes

Cost of Tuition

ParentsRude Comments

Location Of Birth

Who will winThe NBA finals

HABIT #1—BE PROACTIVE

Self Awareness: I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions

Conscience: I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong

Imagination: I can envision new possibilities

Willpower: I have the power to choose

ASSIGNMENT #2—PART 1

Listen carefully to the words you use. Count how many times you use, “You make me…”, “I have to…”, Why can’t they…”, “I can’t”

Reactive Language I use most:

ASSIGNMENT #2—PART 2

Identify something in your circle of no control that you are always worrying about.

Thing that I cannot control that I always worry about:

ASSIGNMENT #2—PART 3

My most unhealthy habit:

What I am going to do about it