beyond networking: wapl 2014
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Given by Stef Morrill and Jean Anderson at WAPL, May 2014TRANSCRIPT
Beyond Networking: Building Meaningful Relationships and Collaborations
Jean Anderson, SCLSStef Morrill, WiLS
Why are we talking about this?
Personal History Exercise
● Where did you grow up?● How many siblings do you have and where
are you in the order?● What was the most difficult or important
challenge of your childhood?
The Clicking
● Similarity● Complementarity● Reciprocal Attraction● Competence● Proximity: Being where you are● Disclosure (vulnerability)
BIG CONCEPTS
Small Tips
1. Build trust
2: Be Genuine
Big Concept 4
3. Be vulnerable
APPLICATION
ASSIMILA
TION
LEAST
DISCLOSURE
MOST
DISCLO
SURE
Phatic statements: I’m fine. How are you?
Peak statements: I was hurt when you said that she is the most talented.
Factual statements: I’m a librarian.
Evaluative statements: I liked that movie.
Gut level statements: I miss you.
The Vulnerability Spectrum
October 2012
4. Cultivate Self-Awareness
I Didn’t Say You Were
Stupid.
5. Look at the whole picture
Rewards Cost
Outcome
6. Foster respect
7. Be Grateful
1. Build trust
8. Build Trust
Questions?
Resources
● Click: The Forces Behind How We Fully Engage with People, Work, and Everything We Do by Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman, 2010
● The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace by Gary Chapman and Paul White, 2010
● Building Collaborative Communities - an Essay by Scott London● The Power of Vulnerability, TED Talk by Brene Brown● Daring Greatly by Brene Brown● Know More about Building Community Collaborations (webinar) from
4/25/14 with Shawn Brommer, SCLS.● Overcoming the Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni
Thank you!
Jean Anderson Continuing Education & Multitype Consultant
South Central Library [email protected]; 608-246-5613
Stef MorrillDirector
608-263-2773