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A touch of hopeA touch of hope p22
4 June 7-20, 2012
To the ones who don’t come backBy Adarsh Madhavan
We knew them. We saw their photos staring back
at us from a stark condolence ad in the newspaper
and instantly recognised them. We have bumped into
them in lifts, said hi and bye in the corridor; yes we
knew them.
I saw them just the other day, my colleague said of
these two departed souls. How could they die?
We don’t know, but they did. Their young, vibrant and
meaningful lives were snuffed out by the cruel hand
of fate and yesterday’s smiling youth, full of promise,
ambition, love and laughter has been suddenly
yanked off this world reducing their loved ones to
endless tears. And it is not their fault to leave this
world in a sudden and violent way. It is not that these
young men (and many like them) went astray on the
road; they followed every rule in the book and drove
at the right pace, but somehow fate was not on their
side. You do everything right, but still someone’s
mistake can prove to be too costly for you.
Now what kind of logic is that? There you are, living
the life by the book and then someone comes and
makes a gross error and throws you off the track too.
Why should we suffer for someone else’s mistake?
But then that is how it is and that is how it will always
be. And that is what road safety campaigners should
understand. Surely there is a need to follow the rules;
execute the right way of driving on the road, but
what if the cars all around you are not following the
rules and care a hoot about them? So, what is the
point in it all? Yes, it does not make sense. Death
never makes sense especially death caused by the
mindless actions of those who care a dang about the
rules on the road. Despite the warning, despite the
rules and regulations and despite the campaigns, the
death toll continues unabated.
So, it is not working. I know so many efforts are
there to save people from the accident prone roads
of Oman, but it is not working. The dead are piling
up along with the accidents. This road epidemic
is a daily affair. And there is no respite. There are
campaigns after campaigns, and statistics are
floating with the numbers colliding against each
other…
You wake up after eight hours to know that
someone has died on the road. Every hour
someone is injured. Almost like every 24 hours, we
have 24 people injured on the road; every 56 km
there is a death on Oman’s roads.
Yes, everyone knows this; it is documented that
speeding and reckless driving account for 72 per
cent of all accidents on the road and it is a stark
scene out there with statistics showing that there
was a 30 per cent increase in the number of deaths
as a result of speeding from 2010 to 2011 and that
nearly 60 per cent of all deaths on the road are due
to excessive speeding and according to the WHO,
road traffic accidents are the third biggest killer of
people in Oman.
What happens here is that statistics remain static.
If we look beyond the statistic, we find the homes
of so many in Oman riddled with the agonising
aftermath of a death on the road. There are words
to be used here like tragic, unfortunate, unfair…
we can go on, but the anguish of a lost one can be
felt only by their loved ones. Only when we have
lost our own on the roads will we really understand
the pain. And there is nothing worse than this – to
lose someone who means the world to you to
something as ugly as a road accident is not just
painful, it is much beyond a catastrophe and just
as indescribable. What did they do to deserve
this misery? What post action, rule, regulation or
campaign can bring back the ones who left their
homes in the morning never to return?
All a
bout
X,
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The first step to dealing with autism is awareness and understanding. Timely attention, care and support can help autistic children overcome most of their challenges and claim their rightful place as productive members of the community.
A little change in perceptionmakes a big difference.
6 June 7-20, 2012
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Don't cry over Autism
Stop crying over autism. It is not a disease to be ashamed of; and parents need not feel
guilty about it. These were the two simple messages that the recent autism charity event in
Oman sent out to the public.
Editor-in-chief Mohamed Issa Al Zadjali
Managing editor Priya Arunkumar
Work editor Adarsh Madhavan
Design & production Beneek Siraj
Advt. & marketing Shannon D'Souza
Priyanka Sampat
Conte
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Down with a 'man flu'
Is the flu virus targeting only men
now? A major case for the ‘Man Flu’
seems to be on these days. Many
out there are baffled as to how a
strong, assertive, fearless lion of a
man suddenly becomes a sniffling,
helpless mouse of a whiner when he
gets a mere cold
Trucks everywhere
Trucks have to exist; they have to
ply on the roads, but why are so
many of them on the roads today?52
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Congratulations to the Black & White for the hat-trick
success story of their Sudoku for Autism event. I would like
to personally thank Mohamed Issa Al Zadjali, the editor in
chief, and also all the other key personnel of the Black &
White for the success of this charity event, which has been
so wonderfully organised. Black & White has in the short
period of its inception brought in some of the biggest known
names in the film industry and other celebrities, including the
likes of Yanni, Forest Whittaker, Susan Sarandon, the Bond
actors, Nandita Das, Hema Malini, and now Suniel Shetty
and George Widener. The most recent presence of Suniel
with George was quite good as it added the right sheen to
a humanitarian cause. Thanks to the B&W, I had the grand
opportunity to meet both the Bollywood celebrity as well
as the world famous autistic savant. I must say that it was
indeed a dream come true! Thank you B&W and I hope that
all your efforts bear fruit and all your dreams come true too!
S. A. S. Naqvi, Sports consultant, FMEC/OHA, Muscat.
The movement to support the cause of autism has lent
a new meaning thanks to the untiring efforts of Black &
White. I have attended all the three events organised by
the magazine and I find that there has been progressive
improvement, which by all means, is no mean feat. This last
event has been truly a wonderful experience and I hope and
pray that your efforts conjoined with other such efforts would
help bring about change in the management of this disease.
God be with you all!
Sanjeev B. Navrakkar, Seeb
I used to have a friend in England, during my school days
there who was quite adept at hand puppetry. Being a good
ventriloquist, he used to put us in splits with his dummy.
Reading your story about puppets and puppetry sent me
down memory lane. I wonder where my ventriloquist friend
is…he must be a great puppeteer and ventriloquist now!
Suleiman Al Habsi, Al Khuwair
A dream comes true
New meaning to the cause
Ventriloquism and puppets
Reader's
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8 June 7-20, 2012
Mail your views and opinions at
My first brush with puppets was during my childhood. My school organised
a special puppet show and I, among many, were quite enchanted by them.
Some of the finest stories of the Amar Chitra Katha were enacted by these
puppets and it was a totally new experience. Since then, both during my school
and college days, I have witnessed several puppet plays. But after college, I
did not have the chance to view a puppet show even once. So, it was quite
an experience for me when I obtained the chance to attend the first UNFPA
(United Nations Population Fund) organised ‘Puppetry Theatre Training of
Trainers – Oman 2012’ which was held at the auditorium of the ministry of
education recently. It transported me back to my puppet days and it was really
an invigorating experience!
Sumeet Chakraborty, Qurum
My puppet days
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10 June 7-20, 2012
Men r
ead
Down with
Surveys indicate that women call in sick twice as often as men do. Well, we can excuse them for this behaviour because they have a genuine reason: they are mostly the primary caregivers for their children and thus may require real time in order to care for their children when they are ill.
10 June 7-20, 2012
MEN REPORTING SICK
But what reason do you men
have? What is your excuse?
Er, your wife got ill; your
wife is out of the country
and you have to look after
all three children; she has
an important interview to
attend and there is no one at
home to tend to your ailing
parents…the list may go
on and on. But, tell us how
many times in a year does
this happen? And so, why
are you (urm!) all reporting
sick more than ever before?
MEN ONLY FLU?
Is the flu virus targeting only
men now? A major case for
the ‘Man Flu’ seems to be
on these days. Many out
there are baffled as to how
a strong, assertive, fearless
lion of a man suddenly
becomes a sniffling, helpless
mouse of a whiner when
he gets a mere cold. The
truth is that the cold brings
the worst in a man and he
is reduced to a mere child
– and suddenly, there is yet
another kid in the house. The
problem is that men are not
used to talking about their
inner states and expressing
if they are feeling happy
or not. In all honesty, they
really don’t know because
men are less in touch with
their feelings. So, unlike
women, men tend to really
fall ‘ill’ when they get a cold.
The social pressures on
them is much more than
women when it comes to
such illness issues because
society mainly looks at men
as tough, macho beings who
will not wither under a mild
attack of a cold.
NOT A JOKE
Man flu is often considered
as a joke; in the sense that men, who
were just down with a small cold,
exaggerate and claim they have the
flu. Such men were merely trying to
get attention of their mates. But, then
many questions arise: for example, how
does one explain it when the ‘flu man’ is
single? So, does this mean that the Flu
Man, or for that matter, man flu really
exists and is not just some Loch Ness
monster floating in the minds of some
people.
STUDIES PROVE IT RIGHT
And studies have supported this fact
too. Many dismiss exaggeration as a
woman’s common approach to life, but
then this is also open to dispute. There
is one particular study that found out
that men are not overreacting when
they get sick with the common cold.
The study seemed to support the fact
that the man flu was real and men
had a reason to complain as much as
they did. The supportive facts that they
unveiled was that women had more
infection-fighting blood vessels than
men and these cells were not just more
aware of the infections, but also good
at fighting them. Moreover, the recovery
period for women were also found to be
double quick and they had less-severe
symptoms than the males. So, man flu
is no longer a joke and seems to be as
real as the way the men make women
believe!
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12 June 7-20, 2012
This advice is imperative for men, because, the summer
blues can be quite devastating for them because of their
own stiff lipped approach to life, especially when it comes to
emotions. But, the more you wait out on the blues, hoping
it would resolve by the summer end, the misery it spells out
is not something one could live with, especially the long-
lasting effect of any type of depression.
The only good thing about a summer depression is that you
know when it is coming and in fact, you can mark it on your
calendar. Like for instance, “Oh no, it is June, so let me
brace myself for some bouts of depression!” Again, it cannot
be brushed off like that. Depression is serious business and
we need to really work at getting out of it, even if the bout is
a temporary one or not.
Summer depression gives you the chance to plan ahead;
much like preparing for a cyclone or a pre-warned natural
disaster that is set to happen in the near future, you can
prepare yourself for it. You can have your ammunition ready
and stocked up to confront this summer bout.
ACCEPTANCE, AWARENESS
The first and the most important thing is to accept that you
have depression. Don’t deny it; don’t hide it; don’t think it
would go away. Just accept it. You are an individual and
many of us are prone to depression. It is not something
to be ashamed of. Yes, you are a man; the cultural
expectation set upon you is a major limitation and many do
not understand this. This expectation actually hides the real
symptoms of depression in men. Thus deprived of venting
their normal and healthy depressive feelings, they would
instead express anger and portray an aggressive behaviour,
which is not only considered the norm, but glorified as the
true ‘tough’ guy image. So, accept your anger and be aware
that it is the internal frustration that leads you astray when
you have to rein in your temper.
Summer BLUESThe heat can really get you down. In fact, there is a term for it: summer
depression. If you are getting bogged down by summer depression, then, it is time to get help. If you don’t like to go to a therapist or a psychiatrist, then go to
someone who will understand you better, like an elderly friend or relative. Or, better still get clinical help because depression is not something one should
take lightly of.
Men r
ead
12 June 7-20, 2012
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BURNING THE CANDLE AT BOTH ENDS
Don’t burn both sides of the candle when
you are depressed. Depression could
sometimes be sleep depriving, but then the
thing to understand is that you need your
sleep. In fact, lack of sleep is considered a
trigger for depression. Early to bed, early to
rise, the adage works wonders here.
EXERCISE AWAY THE BLUES
Agreed it is hot and a little bit of running
around could be a sweaty affair. Summer
exercises could have you getting hot and
bothered under the collar. But, studies have
proven that proper and regular physical
activity can help keep the doctor as well as
depression away. Summer and exercise
are not easy playmates, but you can still
try to get yourself going even in the heat.
Find cooler options to get on the exercise
bandwagon. Shake a leg and do it, because
it can really help you get through the
summer blues.
MODERATION IS THE WORD
But, like in everything, moderation is the
key. Don’t throw yourself into being an
exercise freak so much so that you end up
getting tired and then ending up being more
depressive than you were at the beginning.
Eat and drink moderately and also follow the
same mantra when it comes to exercising.
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14 June 7-20, 2012
Off
the w
all
By Adarsh Madhavan
O
ff th
e wall
Dancing with the ghosts of the past
You remember…? I ask, but they don’t and I try in vain to
jog their memory to our friends past.
You don’t remember him, I insist. He was so funny, he
made us laugh so much and I recollected the fun moments
and laughed even though no one laughed with me. They
couldn’t remember him. They couldn’t remember his
laughter or the way they made them laugh…
I rolled on the floor with the mirth of the past, but those
around stare at me like I have been bitten by a bug and
ask: you ok? I am ok. It is just reminiscence, which plays
not just on the mind, but fills the heart, once again bursting
with memories of the good old times with good old people,
who are no longer here. There, somewhere…
And they couldn’t remember ‘her’ either. Or, they did, but
they did not seem to share the same sentiment about
her like I did. Something was missing. They were only
remembering the bad times with her. C’mon, I said, she
was our friend. We had some good times with her. Real
good times. Why should we just forget about that? Yes,
we all fight, we all break up… but, we break up only to
make up, right? And why should we hold grudges about
something that happened in the past. Forget it. But don’t
forget those happy moments…I can’t. Especially on days
like this. Rainy days…when memories pour down like a
sentimental monsoon morn…
I don’t know why but suddenly the floodgates open and
I remember the good old days, the good old friends with
whom we had good old times, good old moments…why
did we ever think we would grow past them, like growing
out of our old clothes, old habits…
For me, they don’t die. For me, they are out there, in their
past smiles and laughter that widens mine; in the mist that
cloud my eyes at times; the lump that jiggles on my throat
and in the thump of my aging heart…
The good old days of yore come flooding my heart,
cascading like a stream of happiness, which had
got stuck somewhere, somehow…and now coming
unstuck, free.
Remember, I tell those around me. Remember the
strength they gave us in times of need and remember
how they were there for us always, come what
may…remember the company they gave us and
the laughter…remember how they made us laugh
than how they made us cry, yes, remember the glory
days…
Remember, I said as the ghosts of the past danced
before my eyes; ghosts that no one seemed to see,
save for me. They came in all forms, sizes and
shapes. Some grinned from outside the window, or
peeked in through doors ajar; others stared back from
mirrors, standing next to me, so close, they could have
been part of me, like another head growing out of me.
I want to walk on the footprints of these past friends,
who left their note in the sands trailing towards the
sea. I try to fit my bare feet in their prints, and walk
towards the sea, hoping that the sea could part. I am
a friend of the friendless; I am a friend of the one who
could part the sea.
I walk again on these prints, hoping that the dusty
trails they have taken, sometimes towards the desert,
sometimes towards rocky mountains, sometimes
towards quiet corners and cosy homes…walk and find
nothing of them, not even a trace, not even a hint and
then realise that I was walking on the wrong path; I
should be trailing the ones heading towards my heart,
because that is where they are, these old friends,
safely ensconced in a world of my own.
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Audi Oman has announced the
arrival of its new compact SUV, the
Q3, in the Sultanate. Following the
success of the company’s Q5 and
Q7 SUV models, which made up a
high percentage of total Oman sales
in the first four months of 2012, Audi
Oman is confident about a highly
positive customer response to its
first premium SUV in the compact
segment. Abdel Karim Awwad,
national sales manager of Audi
Oman said: “The demand for both the
Audi Q5 and Q7 remains very strong
even though the new generations
are expected only in 2013 and early
2015 respectively. We are positive
that the new Audi Q3 will fare equally
as well.”
Audi Oman adds new 2012 Q3 to it SUV range
“Earlier this year the Audi Q3
received five stars – the highest
possible score – for passive crash
safety by the European consumer
protection initiative Euro NCAP (New
Car Assessment Programme),”
added Awwad. The Audi Q3 is being
launched with two four-cylinder
2.0 TFSI engines, which combine
direct injection with turbocharging
and feature an energy recovery
system. With power outputs of 170
hp and 211 hp, these engines are
as efficient as they are powerful.
For the 170 hp and 211 hp version
respectively, the engines deliver a
constant 280 and 300 Nm of torque
and accelerate from 0 to 100 km/h in
7.8 and 6.9 seconds on their way to a
top speed of 212 and 230 km/h. Fuel
consumption is just 7.7 liters per 100
km on average, which corresponds
to CO2 emissions of 179 grams per
km. Audi combines both engines with
quattro all-wheel drive and a fast-
shifting dual-clutch seven-speed S
tronic transmission. The Audi Q3 rolls
off the assembly line in Martorell near
Barcelona in Spain.
Nawras has expanded its popular
Elite Programme to reward customers
for recommending friends and family
to join Oman’s customer friendly
telecommunications provider. The ‘Elite
Friends’ programme is a new way for
customers to earn up to 10,000 Elite
points which can be redeemed for free call time or SMS
to other Nawras numbers. ‘Elite Friends’ rewards both
existing and new customers with Elite points based on
their chosen mobile or home broadband plan. Existing
customers will receive 20 per cent of the total earned
points on activation followed by an additional 20 per cent
each month for the next four months.
The new programme follows hot on the
heels of the recently introduced benefits
offered at the Grand Hyatt Muscat hotel,
which include special discounts on food
and beverage in addition to a new SMS
restaurant reservation service. Roma Al
Said, Loyalty and CRM specialist at Nawras, said, “Elite
Friends is another first for Nawras which allows us to give
more back to customers and reward them for their loyalty.
It gives customers the chance to earn thousands of points
by inviting friends and family to get closer and enjoy the
many advantages of using the same network provider.”
Nawras introduces ‘Elite Friends’ to reward customers
In keeping in line with their concept
of getting ‘closer to the customer’,
Towell Auto Centre’s (TAC) team
at Sohar recently invited teaching
staff from various schools and
colleges on a familiarisation tour of
their showroom. The teachers were
introduced to the TAC team and were
given a tour of TAC’s state-of the-art
facilities at the showroom. The prime
purpose of the meet was to brief and
educate the teachers on the efforts
undertaken by TAC to help serve
them better.
Speaking on the event, Annurag
Chawla, head of marketing and
communications commented, “We
had a very lively and interactive
session with the teachers, who we
found were amongst the majority of
our patrons in Sohar. The teachers
were impressed with our showroom
TAC organises ‘Customer Meet’ for teachers in Sohar
as well as our state-of-the art
facilities. We are very pleased with
the outcome of this meet and plan to
organise many more such customer
engagement initiatives in the future.”
16 June 7-20, 2012
Word
pre
ss
Hyundai Middle East has announced
the launch of its official Facebook
page, designed to allow fans from
right across the region to stay in
touch with the latest news from the
Korean manufacturer.
The new page is available in both
Arabic and English, and can be
accessed by friends that click onto
Facebook and search for ‘Hyundai
ME’ (http://www.facebook.com/
HyundaiME). With a focus on mixing
both regional and global content, it is
designed to complement the English-
only global page.
Tom Lee, the managing director of
Hyundai Middle East said: “When
it comes to sales, both across
the world and in the Middle East,
Hyundai has enjoyed phenomenal
success over recent years. With the
launch of the new Facebook page,
our Middle East friends can be part
of this success in a new and fun way,
Hyundai Middle East launches bilingual Facebook page
with the opportunity to interact with
the company and other members in
an enjoyable and informal manner.”
Mazoon
Electricity
Company
reinforced its
commitment to
instill an energy-
saving culture
by engaging
customers in an extensive
awareness campaign throughout
the governorates of Dakhiliyah,
North and South Sharqiya and
South Al Batinah. Entitled “Reduce
Energy Consumption for More
Electricity and Less Cost”, the
customer-centric initiative highlights
electricity efficiency measures, HSE
policies and practices adopted by
the company as well as the value-
added services provided by Mazoon
Electricity. “These initiatives and
activities are an integral part of
Mazoon Electricity Company’s social
responsibility programs. Our goal
is to promote the efficient use of
Oman’s energy resources to bring
about a myriad of benefits to the
country,” said Salim Said Al Kamyani,
commercial affairs manager. He
added, “In addition to disseminating
messages using conventional print
and broadcast media, this year’s
campaign will engage customers
through Twitter and Facebook. One-
on-one meetings with customers
will also be organised to discuss the
company’s service portfolio as well
as matters relating to health, safety
and environment in addition to the
recommendations brought forth by
the public.” Opening new channels
of communication with customers,
Mazoon Electricity Company will
conduct workshops for the Walis,
Sheikhs and key community leaders
of its licensed regions to continue to
keep them abreast of the campaign’s
progress and success.
Mazoon Electricity energy-saving culture
Mazoon Printing, Publishing &
Advertising, the leading printing press
in Oman has opened a new customer
service center in Madinat Sultan
Qaboos. Situated on the ground floor
at Hamra House in the heart of MSQ
the new center will have facilities to
enable customers to have more easy
access to Mazoon’s printing, signage
and publishing services.
In a friendly environment customers
will be able to meet with Mazoon
staff and brief in orders, receive
quotations, have business
meetings and discuss their general
requirements.
The center has plenty of free parking,
has good access from Sultan Qaboos
Highway and the Muscat Expessway
and is near to many of their
customer’s offices, from Wadi Kabir
to Seeb. It is also convenient for their
customers for different ministries.
‘Our customers are always welcome
at our factory in Wadi Kabir but we
also understand that in order to keep
ahead in our market we must make
our services available to our clients
and give them every opportunity to
deal with Mazoon in a professional
and easy way.
"Our customers are important to
us and time is valuable to them,
especially as Muscat is getting
bigger and busier. This new office
will ensure we always keep up the
best customer service Mazoon is
renowned for," said Graeme Selby,
general manager of Mazoon.
Mazoon opens customer service center in MSQ
17Black & White
Reinforcing her credentials as an
international authority on refractive
eye surgery, Muscat Eye Laser
Center’s medical director was
invited to present a pair of scientific
papers at the annual symposium
and congress of the American
Society of Cataract and Refractive
Surgery (ASCRS) in the United
States recently. Dr Maria Clara
Arbelaez’s inclusion in a roster of
top-flight presenters from around the
world attests to her standing as an
internationally recognised expert in
the field of cataract and refractive
eye surgery.
As the world’s signature forum
on anterior segment surgery, the
annual symposium and congress of
the ASCRS attracts specialists on
the frontline of ophthalmic research
and practice from around the
globe. An estimated 7,000 eye-care
professionals registered to attend this
year’s five-day-long event in Chicago.
In the first of two appearances at
the prestigious forum, Dr Maria
presented a case study based on a
yearlong follow-up of a keratoconic
patient with ‘Lamellar Corneal
Grafting after Pachymetry-Assisted
Laser Ablation’. Through this study,
she demonstrated the precision
of the excimer laser Amaris 750S
to achieve deep lamelar cornea
trepination. The procedure, Dr
Maria emphasised, has many
advantages in comparison with other
techniques, as it delivers a more
precise cut in terms of centration,
diameter site, and thickness. At
the same time, it eliminates the
risk of corneal perforation and the
need for conversion to penetrating
keratoplasty.
The visual results at the end of
a year-long follow-up have been
amazing: the patient’s uncorrected
visual acuity had improved from
‘counting fingers’ to 20/40, while
his best corrected visual acuity was
enhanced from 20/40 to 20/30.
Muscat Eye Laser Center’s research work
Lulu Hypermarket opened its much awaited outlet in
Buraimi recently. Inaugurated by Sayyid Ibrahim bin
Said Al Busaidi, governor of Buraimi in the presence
of Yusuffali MA, managing director and the senior
management of Lulu Group, number of high ranking
government officials, representatives from the local
business community.
This is the 12th outlet in Oman and the 101st for the
group. Close on the heels of the momentous opening
of the 100th outlet at Ras Al Khaimah, this hypermarket
boasts of several firsts. Built at a cost in excess of RO 20
million, this new hypermarket features a multiplex cinema,
amusement area, food court, coffee shops and a wide
variety of product lines under one roof.
On the sidelines of the inaugural ceremony, Yusuffali
said, “It is also with immense pride and pleasure that
we inaugurate our 101st outlet here. This momentous
occasion is even more special for us since we have
Lulu opens its 101st outlet in Buraimi
just crossed our 20th year of retailing. Over the last two
decades of success and accomplishments, we have
earned the reputation of providing our customers with an
unparalleled and world-class shopping experience. The
Lulu experience of quality and value is for everyone to
experience from every corner of Oman, and this is our
commitment. Our plans for Oman are quite ambitious and
the premise for this is the stable political climate under
the wise leader of His Majesty which has propelled the
nation on to the fast track of development,” Yusuffali said,
also praising the pro-development and liberalised policies,
which have attracted substantial investments to Oman.
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Second Cup Qurum recently hosted the first PechaKucha
night in Muscat. Six talented Omanis chose the
neighborhood café as the stage to showcase their
knowledge and skills that ranged from arts to filmmaking
and graphic design. Jannat Moosa, marketing director
at Bin Mirza International said: “Second Cup has always
been a venue for showcasing talent in the Sultanate. With
our ongoing Art Initiative, not only do we promote local
artists and their work but supports them by displaying
their pieces in-store to be sold to interested patrons.”
After a successful season
maintaining Wigan Athletic’s Premier
League status, Oman star keeper
Ali Al-Habsi has returned to Oman
to begin a gruelling three weeks of
training with the rest of the squad to
prepare for the upcoming 2014 FIFA
World Cup Brazil™ opener against
Japan on June 3.
National team captain, Ali Al-Habsi,
believes that the qualifying match
taking place at Saitama Stadium
in Japan next month can provide
another breakthrough for Omani
football internationally after the
unprecedented success of the past
two years.
The Red Warriors have started
training this week with Coach Paul
Le Guen in the Sultanate ahead of
this weekend’s friendly with Lebanon
on May 27 at Sultan Qaboos Sports
Complex.
Oman advanced to the next round of
qualifying for the 2014 FIFA World
Cup Brazil™ after beating Thailand
2-0 in February. With the win, Oman
finished second in Group D behind
Australia. The Gulf team overtook
Saudi Arabia, who may have gone
through with a draw or even a loss
had Oman not won. Instead, Oman
got the win and was qualified for the
fourth round of qualifiers.
Al-Habsi back to help Oman world cup bid
A group of 24 students of Indian School Salalah along with
teachers Parvinder Singh and Somi Brown are proceeding
on May 23 to attend the Summer Adventure Camp at
Gohar, Manali, Himachal Pradesh.
The group will start their activity with sightseeing at
Parwanoo with the ride of Timber Trail. After that they will
proceed to Shimla. After Shimla, the sightseeing group will
reach Manali and will take the enjoyment of Rohtang snow
line at the height of 16000 ft. After Manali sightseeing they
will reach Base Camp Hill Top Guest House Gohar.
On the way they will take a dip in the cold water of the
Himalayas by doing river rafting at Kullu. For a duration
of four days at the base camp the team will do trekking,
camping, night trekking, river and Burma bridge crossing,
rapling, rock climbing, etc.
The group will also visit Taj Mahal, Agra. All activities are
Adventure camp in Gohar, Manali, Himachal Pradesh
conducted by Gulf Hills Travel and Tourism Muscat,
in collaboration with Incredible Himalayas Tour and
Travels (An Eco Friendly Adventure).
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Microsoft has entered into a
distributorship agreement with Sarco
covering its Original Equipment
Manufacturer (OEM) and commercial
business for Oman.
The agreement comes in support of
Microsoft’s plan to widen its reach in
the Oman market and increase its
presence into the reseller channel.
Under the terms of this partnership,
Sarco will be responsible for steering
the reseller business, increasing
Microsoft OEM product revenue and
supporting with the development of
the local channel.
Welcoming Sarco into the fold,
Microsoft Oman and OEM director
Microsoft Gulf Armagan Demir said
Oman continued to be an important
market for Microsoft primarily due
to its investment in wide scale
access to information technology
as a key driver for growth and
competitiveness.
“We continue to invest in all
sectors within the Oman economy
including the establishment of strong
partnerships with local technology
partners like Sarco,” he said.
“Distributors are a fundamental
component of the reseller business
and we look forward to Sarco’s
positive contribution in the local
market”, he added.
The Sarco has been leading the
reseller landscape with a strong
portfolio of hardware and software
distributorship in Oman and proven
capability in the retail and consumer
market.
The Sarco Ceo Ajay Ganti said they
were honoured and excited to have
been chosen by Microsoft as their
distributor for Oman.
“Microsoft symbolises the essence of
dynamic IT software industry and the
tremendous growth opportunities that
exists,” he said.
“Through our efficient and dynamic
distribution capacity, Microsoft
products will now be made readily
available through Oman’s IT channel
and retail companies to end user
customers,” he added.
A student delegation from The
Sultan’s School recently took part
in a twinning conference in Beirut,
Lebanon, alongside other Unesco
associated schools as part of the
United Nations’ commitment to
contribute to peace and security
through international collaboration in
education, science and culture.
The central focus of the conference,
organised by the Lebanese National
Commission for Education, Culture
and Science, in cooperation with
its Omani counterpart, was to build
cultural bridges and create the
conditions for dialogue between
civilizations. Delegates spanning
the Arab and European world
were invited to take part, including
Denmark, France, Lebanon, Jordan
and Germany.
Amna Al-Balushi, National
Coordinator of Culture and Sciences
at the Ministry of Education said,
“This conference emphasises the
importance of bridging cultural
gaps and the promotion of inter-
faith and inter-cultural dialogue to
foster a positive understanding and
appreciation of diversity.”
Graeme Garrett, principal of
The Sultan’s School, said:
“Our participation is part of our
commitment to promote the values
of tolerance and acceptance. These
principles must be instilled in our
younger generation so hopes remain
high for a peaceful co-existence of
nations now and in the future.”
Microsoft and Sarco signs key distribution accord
The Sultan’s school at Unesco conference
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The New India Assurance Co Ltd (New India Oman),
which has been operating in Oman since 1974, has
shifted to new premises in the capital.
The official inauguration of the new head office (for Oman
operations) was done by J.S. Mukul, Indian ambassador,
recently. aDignitaries present in the inaugural ceremony
included Safinaz Naseeb, director auditing and field
monitoring department of Capital Market Authority, K.V.
Francis, chief operating officer for Oman Operations,
Majid Abdul Rahim Jaffar, chairman of Abdul Aziz &
Bros (division of Majid Group) apart from corporate
representatives of ‘New India-Oman’s vast clientele base.
J.S. Mukul complimented and congratulated the entire
team of ‘New India-Oman’ headed by K V Francis, chief
operating officer, for the proud achievements made by the
company in the Sultanate as well as globally.
Mukul also complimented the company in achieving
global premium of Rs 10,000 crores. He also
appreciated and acknowledged the tailor made policies
like ‘COMPAS’, which is very helpful to lower income
expatriates working in the Sultanate.
The National Bank of Oman (NBO) Academy of
Excellence recently launched its flagship 'NBO
Middle Management Development Programme'. This
comprehensive and rigorous programme that runs
over 10 consecutive weeks, aims to provide middle
managers of the bank with a solid, all-round practical
NBO banking and people leadership exposure. The
main objective of the programme is to cultivate a middle
management layer of hardcore professional bankers, who
will assume leadership roles in taking the bank to new
heights. The programme provides an in-depth coverage
on all the functional areas of the bank. It will enable
participants to understand and appreciate the functional
interdependencies of the various business constituents
of the bank, and to acquire a strategic perspective of
the business. The programme is targeted at selected
employees who have already gained considerable
banking experience, whose performance has consistently
been rated high and who have exhibited initiative
and potential for assuming higher responsibilities. While
inaugurating the programme, Ahmed Al Musalmi, NBO’s
deputy chief executive officer said: “I am very happy to
witness the come-back of this exclusive programme, at
NBO. I am a proud graduate of this programme! Those
who successfully complete this programme will see its
benefits in their lives and careers. We believe that this
is a quantum leap forward in transforming the mindset
of our employees and thereby enable them to take NBO
to the number one position. Developing our people,
therefore, will remain our foremost priority. We will leave
no stone unturned to groom staff to take NBO to where it
belongs and sustain that leadership position.”
NBO Middle Management Development programme
New India Assurance new premises
Awareness is the first step in the
battle against diabetes and the
debilitating effect it has on other
organs in the body. The NOVA
Medical Centers Middle East
organised a free camp on the early
detection of diabetes at its polyclinic
in Al Khuwair. The purpose of the
camp was to create awareness
about the importance of monitoring
diabetes on a regular basis; the
camp will be supervised by NOVA’s
in-house team of medical experts.
“Diabetes is a silent killer that can be
managed through astute medication
and lifestyle changes. Through our
first diabetic neuropathy camp, we
aim to increase the awareness about
health related
matters
pertaining
to diabetes. We want to stress on
how important timely intervention
for almost any type of disease can
lead to a better long term prognosis
for the patient,” elucidates Dr Ernest
Inbaraj from NOVA.
NOVA Medical Centers free diabetes camp
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REAL – NOT REEL -- CELEBRITIES
A cause does not require celebrities to promote it,
but, it sure helps. That is what we found out with the
presence of two amazing celebrities who flew from
around the world to assist and support our autism
drive.
Bollywood star Suniel Shetty and the autistic savant
and calendar artist George Widener’s presence at
the third edition of the Sudoku for Autism event held
at the Oman Auditorium of Al Bustan Palace hotel
recently lent a new meaning to the drive. Of course,
George had come earlier and he was instrumental in
starting the autism drive for us at the launch event two
years back. For us George is extra special; we have
this feeling that he is a blessing for us. And indeed,
both the celebrities, in their own way were a blessing
in disguise for us.
We need more people to attend such events and
the presence of the bollywood star was to give that
impetus. But, we don’t want people to just come
and not bother at all about the cause. And Suniel
was the right choice. Despite being a celebrity, a
businessman, his heart beats for humanity, which he
proved at our event.
His touching speech where he urged all of us to give a
little bit of our time to a child, any child, was indeed an
eye opener. His contention was that every child is our
collective responsibility and while it opened our eyes,
it also warmed our hearts.
George, meanwhile, amazed his with his new avatar:
he had shed around 30kgs and it gave the audience
yet another insight into what any human being,
autistic, sick or otherwise, can do if we set our minds
on it. George, who realised that he had to lose weight
as he had a predisposition for diabetes, just went
about his task like a horse with blinders on and he did
it, shaving off as much as 30-odd kgs in a space of six
George, who realised that he had to lose weight as he had a predisposition for diabetes, just went about his task like a horse with blinders and he did it, shaving off as much as 30-odd kgs in a space of six months
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months. So, it goes on to prove that a man with a will can
do just about anything, which is yet another lesson for all
of us! Thank you George; thank you Suniel, we learnt a lot
from you and you both made a difference to our event and
the cause. God bless you both!
Now, coming to our Sudoku championship, we are
delighted to see the fantastic and enthusiastic participation
– Sudoku seems to be a great reason to bring both
child and adult on the same platform battling to be the
numero uno in an exciting battle of numbers. Out of the
722 participants of various nationalities, we saw the eight
finalists battle it out on June 1 night. Though many of
them said it is unfair to select just eight out of 700- odd
participants, we know there can be only one champion.
We were fortunate enough to muster enough support
and bring in participants from all parts of Oman. Sudoku
is indeed a challenging game and a silent one too. The
game requires focus, sharp wit and presence of mind.
This year’s champion Vishwanath proved that he had it
all. While we congratulate the champ, we also would like
to place on record our thanks and appreciation to all the
722 participants, who made this game more popular and
exciting. For those out there who could not make it to the
event, B&W has published quite a lot of pictures that talk
quite a lot about the event. It is a humble endeavour and
we hope more will join us next year.
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Don't shed tears over
AUTISMStop crying over autism. It is not a disease to be ashamed of; and parents
need not feel guilty about it. These were the two simple messages that the
recent autism charity event in Oman sent out to the public.
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THIRD EDITION OF B&W SUDOKU FOR A CAUSE
The third edition of the Black & White Sudoku for a
Cause, You Play Sudoku Open to all Competition
witnessed two celebrities, one a world famous autistic
savant, George Widener and the other Bollywood actor
and philanthropist, Suniel Shetty.
Both of them in their own individual capacity gave an
insight into the world of autism, but spelt out the strong
message that neither was autism a disease to be afraid,
nor was it necessary for parents to hide the fact that their
children are autistic.
BE DIFFERENT – IT IS OKAY
George, who is autistic, stressed on how autism was
“simply a difference in the brain”. “And it is nothing to be
afraid of,” he added. What was important was to provide
children with enough love and care. “They need nurturing
and caring – perhaps a little more than other children;
but no one should be ashamed of them, nor should they
think that they are at fault (for the autistic condition in their
children) and feel unnecessarily guilt. Autistic children are
a little different, that is all. But, what is wrong with that?
Being different is okay!”
NOT A CRIME TO HAVE AUTISM
Suniel Shetty mirrored the same sentiments, adding that
parents should not feel guilty for the condition of their
autistic children. “It is not a crime to have autism – and
parents need not feel that they have done something
wrong and feel guilty. But, autistic children need greater
amount of attention than other children. And don’t lock
them in their homes – unless you take an effort to make
them normal, they will not be normal. Give them special
treatment; they are special children and need special care
and treatment and society should also pitch in and give
them the right environment to work in!”
AUTISTIC CHILD NOT INVALIDS
“A child with autism is similar to any other child,” adds
George. “Autistic kids are not invalids – it is just that their
brains are different. Let us accept them and support them
to support themselves!
“Autism is not a contagious disease for which the child
has to be kept hidden from home and parents to be
ashamed about.
“Autistic children are as sweet and innocent as any other.
So, accept them, support them, encourage them, train
them to live a normal life and include them in the society.
If their problem is detected early and attended to, autistic
children can lead a pretty normal life. It is when we hide
them that they lose touch with life!”
GO THE EXTRA MILE
Parents should focus on building a successful future for
their children, Suniel, who, along with his wife, runs an
organisation called ‘Save the Children India’ and a school
for speech impaired kids, noted. “Why should special
needs children be deprived of their future. Why can’t we
provide them with the right environment to survive and
succeed?
I have seen it at our school when special needs children
display happy and normal behaviour at the school
environment, happy to play, not irritated or difficult and
learn well. Their parents say that they all love to come to
school and spend time learning with their children. Why
should we judge them and keep them locked and away
from normal living? Let us go the extra mile and work to
give them the right environment!”
Suniel said he realised that children loved to spend time
with children of their age; this helps them; they are much
better off with them than their parents.
GIVE A LIFE
His philosophy in life hinged on these lines: “From what
you get, you make a living and from what you give, you
make a life.” He also stressed on the fact that more than
money, it was the ability to being there for somebody that
constituted real charity.
HIDDEN STRENGTH
George added: “Every child with autism is also special.
They need that special extra care and attention. Maybe
they need a little more training and guidance. I have
been fortunate enough to have talents and get some
attention and publicity because of my calendar and
calculating abilities. I can draw and it took me lot of focus
and determination to turn my strength in to my identity.
But the sad part is for every George on stage, there are
thousands of low functioning autistic children who will
never even make to school. It is them we have to focus
on to give aid and help. I believe every child has some
hidden talent or strength that can be brought out with
proper training and grooming.”
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Super savant visits autism centre
The sweet young autistic children of the Muscat Autism Centre recently had a pleasant surprise when the world famous autistic savant, George
Widener, visited the centre to be with the children.
George spent quite some time with both the children and the staff of the centre. He played, interacted with the children and also gave
some fine points to the staff there.
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Preliminary and Semifinal – May 30, 2012
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More than 700 participants joined the preliminary round of the third edition of the Sudoku competition, which was held at the Indian School Al Ghubrah, recently.
Twenty four of them were selected for the semi final, which was held at the same venue, out of which eight – Shymala Rama Iyer, Jade Pereira, S. Vishwanath,
Mohammed Dohadwalla, Amitabh Agarwal, Marwa Al Wadhahi, Vimala Thiyagarajan and Sriram Narayanan -- went into the final.
A five-member ‘Sudoku delegation’ from Haima, and
Duqm (Al Wusta region) proved to be a highlight of the
preliminary rounds of the Sudoku competition held at the
Indian School Al Ghubrah. The five Sudoku enthusiasts,
all teachers from the region, travelled 700kms to be part
of the Sudoku competition.
Prior to the event, a team from Black & White had
gone to Duqm to woo the teachers and the students to
participate in the Sudoku competition. This venture to
invite participants to the Sudoku competition from the
interior segments was taken by the team to widen the
participation from all segments in Oman.
The B&W team had met Mohammed Tuhami,
mathematics supervisor, directorate of education in
Haima, ministry of education and Siham Galer, a maths
teacher of Duqm Girls School, who agreed to form a
team and participate.
This is the first time that a team from the interior was
participating in this competition.
The five members were Mohammed Tuhami, Ramzi
Mohammed Tssouli, Dr Hamada Al Masry, Mohammed
Kheer and Azza Abdlelatty Abdul Hamid – all teachers
from different schools in the Wusta region .
The team, participating in such a competition for the first
time, did quite well, but they were not fast enough to get
into the final. However, the team said that they enjoyed
participating in the competition and left the city promising
to participate in the next edition with more numbers
and come better prepared. “You never know, next year,
we might even get into the final!” Mohammed Tuhami,
who hails from Morocco, enthused. The other teachers
roundly agreed
All the way from Al Wusta region
Preliminary and Semifinal – May 30, 2012
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Lunch with celebritiesBollywood star Suniel Shetty and autistic savant George Widener along with senior
heads of the companies that sponsored the third edition of the Sudoku for Autism
event at a lunch held at Al Khiran Terrace restaurant in Al Bustan Palace hotel.
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Grand finale
– June 1,
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It took four minutes, eight seconds, to decimate his opposition. Defending champion
S. Vishwanath needed only these many minutes to grab his crown again in the third
edition of the Sudoku competition, which was held at the Oman Auditorium of Al Bustan
Palace hotel, recently. Jade Periera came second, while Vimala Thyagarajan and
Mohammed Dodwalla, came third and fourth respectively.
The Sudoku for Autism event saw the two celebrities, autistic savant, George Widener
and Indian actor and philanthropist, Suniel Shetty attending. The top officials who
attended included: Khalil Al Khonji, chairman, Oman Chamber of Commerce and
Industry; Mohammed bin Mahmoud Al Zadjali, director general of investor services and
quality management, ministry of tourism; Mohammed Issa Al Zadjali, editor in chief,
Black & White and vice chairman of MPPH; Dr Yahya Al Farsi, assistant dean, training
and community service, College of Medicine and Health Sciences, Sultan Qaboos
University and Madhu Jesrani, general manager, Khimji’s Watches.
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Realise your Dream... the true meaning of life
By Dr CK Anchan
Dr Anchan C.K.
managing director,
World Wide Business House
There would rarely be an individual in this
world that does not have any goals or dreams
in life. Your dreams are the core of your life.
Have you ever had a dream that you wanted
to fulfill with all your heart? What happened
to it? Did you go after it or did you allow it to
die down? No matter what our station is in life
we all have dreams and goals that we want to
pursue. Unfortunately most people allow life
to get in the way. People who are passionate
about their dreams create a purpose for their
existence.
Have you noticed that when you think about
your dreams you feel excited, fired up and
happy? Thinking about the things you want
to achieve most evokes positive emotion.
Life can become dreary if you are doing
something day after day that you don’t really
like to do. There are very few things worse
than regret. What will you regret tomorrow
that you didn’t do today. Dreamers who took
action have created everything around you
A dream realises its worth when it comes
true. When you have a dream, it remains
within you. But when you work hard to
realise it, then it comes to its real sense.
Identify what principles you have that guide
your life through tough times, and when
things couldn’t be any better. They shouldn’t
change, and at your core, neither should you.
What are your principles? All of us should
have them, know what they are, and live your
lives by them
What you dream to achieve in your life may
be perceived as God’s scheme to keep
you involved in your life. There are some
dreams that He gifts you in the hope that by
following your dreams you will live your life in
a passionate manner. Dreams teach you to
look forward in life. I believe that we all have
a calling in life: That we are all destined to
fulfill a specific purpose.
Chasing your dreams will develop your
courage. Courage is your fuel to achieve
amazing success in life. Follow your dreams
and exercise courage, There have been
billions of people throughout history who
have had the ability to achieve greatness,
whether it was the talent or smarts, they
had it. What they didn’t have was the guts
to risk the life that they were living. No risk,
no reward. Those who have achieved real
success have often risked the most to get
there.
You can follow and realise your dream only
when you feel that you can work hard enough
for it. As the dream does not lie in the comfort
area, it seems out of reach. Following your
dreams needs sincere efforts and willingness
to change. While pursuing your dream,
you may feel a little uncomfortable in the
beginning but the passion for your dreams
keeps the hope alive.
We all have moments of doubt. We should
have unbreakable faith in the fact that what
we are doing is right, have your moments of
doubt, but do not let that doubt eat you up,
get back motivate yourself to the best.
You want to be remembered. Everybody
does. We remember those who follow their
dreams. Life is too short to be wasted on
regrets. At the end of the line what we end up
regretting are the things we didn’t get to do.
So while you are young, go after what you
want. Pursue your dreams.
It is in living your dreams that you get to
know the true meaning of life. If you don’t
follow your dreams you crush your dreams.
Eventually you’ll stop dreaming altogether.
There are no rules in life so why limit yourself
to what everybody else is doing? You are the
creator of your dreams, big or small.
Wishing you all the best and more power to
your dreams!
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Has charity become an increasingly overused word? Are people
getting tired of charity? Charity event organisers claim that their
recent events don’t muster the crowd that it deserves. Earlier
charity events used to draw a large crowd because most of the
people who used to come were serious
about the causes they supported. Today,
too many causes, too many events, and too
many charity initiatives seem to have taken
the shine off the cause(s) for which they are
campaigning, some observers opine. And
this has witnessed low turnouts at all such
events so much so that some organisers are
planning to adopt the old, time-tested method
to woo more crowds: include a celebrity to
such events. The more glamourous, the
better!
Trucks have to exist; they have to ply on the
roads, but why are so many of them on the
roads today, asks a frequent contributor to this
column. He works in a company near Wattayah
and now spends so much of time on the road
because the traffic is chock-a-block at certain
hours, he says. “Mostly when I leave office at
around 5/5.30pm…there are too many trucks
and trailers that we are stuck at the Wattayah
roundabout for almost an hour and more,” he
tells us. Add to it an unfortunate accident and
you may spend the rest of the day there on the
road and you have to incur the wrath of those
waiting in vain for you, he adds. He is right; we
have also seen a surge in the number of these
giant vehicles on the roads, owing probably
to the increase in construction activities in the
city. But, if so many of them are swarming the
roads, then movement is going to be greatly
restricted. So, what do we do? Traffic officials
would like to comment? No?
Charity events
no more a ‘hit’
Trucks everywhere
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We have been thinking of it since quite sometime now. Fi-nally, we have taken the plunge to bring home to you some offbeat stuff. Here goes, if you like it, give us the green signal for more; if not, just take it with a pinch of salt. For this fort-night, here is some nitter natter for the B&W Bitter Batter:
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Forget about charity dos, today most events see very
poor turnout, event managers add. Lately, the events
being held in the market have seen lukewarm response
from the public. Two musical events held recently
witnessed very bad response and the organisers had to
really juggle hard to keep their finances on top. Have
the public lost interest in entertainment activities in town;
have the purchasing power come down; have they lost
faith in the event organisers? Probably the latter are not
giving what they promise and the public are naturally
showing their disinterest. Or, woe betide, are events no
longer making their mark in Oman? The reason is still not
clear, but many recent events have seen very low turnout
despite the original ticket rates being scaled down to 50
percent or more. What is happening?
Even events draw
poor crowd
Reimburse now
(Note: Readers who have something bitter to chatter about can either email on [email protected] or call 99218461)
They brought a ticket for an event which was two months
or so back. The event never happened, but they want
reimbursement for the same after they realised that the
event was not going to happen. According to them the
event that was supposed to take place on one day did
not happen and then they were allegedly told that it would
happen on another day and this never happened. But,
two months after that they suddenly woke up and have
approached the event organisers for the reimbursement.
And they want it now, now, NOW! The event organisers
are in a quandary now as to how to make the payment
because the accounts on this have been closed a month
back.
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42 June 7-20, 2012
Fun facts on
4,000 years ago the first shoes were made of a single piece of rawhide that enveloped the foot for both warmth and protection
In the Middle East heels were added to shoes to lift the foot from the burning sand.
The first boots for ladies were designed in 1840 for Queen Victoria.
Before the 19th century, shoes were identical- there were no right or left.
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Tongue Twisters: Try them!I saw Susie sitting in a shoe shine shop. Where she sits she shines, and where she shines she sits.
The word 'stiletto' comes from Latin and means 'a stake; a pointed instrument'.
Thirteen percent of women admit that they occasionally hide their shoe purchases from their significant others.
First sneakers were made in the U.S. in the beginning of the 20th century. They were called keds at the time.
The first shoes were supposedly made from animal skins during the Ice Age. Their only purpose was to protect feet.
Nineteen percent of women consider their feet attractive.
Twenty three percent of women get pedicure every month.
It wasn’t until the 18th century that women’s shoes were different from men’s (Europe).
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44 June 7-20, 2012
Be hands–on at work.
Take the initiative to let others know
you are in charge, but life is not all
about work, don’t be too serious.
Lighten up, and have some fun.
Keeping them on their toes will keep
life exciting for you and that’s what
you need.
Home is where the heart
is usually rings true for you, but this
week home and hearth seems like a
lonely place. The moons move into
Aries mid week jolts your attention
over work matters, so attend to them
first then maybe you’ll get the respite
you need when you return to your
abode.
No matter how hard you
work or how much effort you put
in, it seems you’re the only one
who misses out on the rewards,
and you’re getting fed up with it.
Edgy conversations could lead to a
standoff but think long term before
making major decisions about work
or love. Calm down.
Filter the wild off the wall
ideas out of your mind over business
matters and concentrate on the tried
and tested ones that you know will
work. If a friend needs a shoulder to
cry on this week, be there for them.
They’ve been supportive of you in the
past and got you through some hard
times.
Trust your inner voice to
give you the guidance you need over
an emotional situation this week,
even if you have to work hard. You
haven’t played fair in the past and
now need to work out how to make
amends. Its only fair, especially if
you’ve been a taker and not a giver.
Sort it out.
Transform your life! If you
want things to be different in your
personal life, it’s up to you to take
action. Try to be sensitive to those
with less than you as you can be
rather brusque in your delivery of the
facts at times. Allow your softer side
to break through. You’ll get your own
way anyway.
March 21-April 20
June 22-July 23
April 21-May 20
July 24-August 23
May 21-June 21
August 24-September 23
Your ARIES
CANCER
TAURUS
LEO
GEMINI
VIRGO
Horo
scope
SIR JAMES PAUL MCCARTNEY (BORN 18 JUNE 1942)
is an English musician, singer-songwriter and composer.
With John Lennon, George Harrison and Ringo Starr, he
gained worldwide fame as a member of the Beatles in the
1960s, and with Lennon formed one of the most celebrated
songwriting partnerships of the 20th century. Following the
break-up of the Beatles, he began a solo career and later
formed the band Wings with his first wife Linda Eastman,
and singer-songwriter Denny Laine.
He has been described by Guinness World Records as the
"most successful composer and recording artist of all time",
with 60 gold discs and sales of over 100 million albums and
100 million singles, and "the most successful songwriter"
in UK chart history. McCartney has composed film scores,
classical and electronic music, and has released a large
catalogue of songs as a solo artist. He has taken part in
projects to help international charities, been an advocate
for animal rights, vegetarianism and music education,
campaigned against landmines and seal hunting, and
supported efforts such as Make Poverty History.
It’s not only you who have
problems and issues this week, so
stop being such a martyr and see if
there’s anyone in your circle you can
help. Embrace the unexpected and
see where it takes you over work
and love, and you might be happier
with the new direction you’ve been
pushed into.
Although you know you’ve
got commitments to meet this week
your heart’s not in it. That’s not to
say you won’t do your bit, you will,
but grudgingly. You need something
major to happen in your life that’ll
restore your faith and optimism in
everything and everyone. Make it
happen.
Your emotional energy
needs to be controlled this week to
ensure your decisions are effective
not chaotic. Money still seems to
be an edgy issue but focus on work
and health matters before thinking
of your cash flow. It’s a weekend to
separate fact from fantasy and truth
from exaggeration.
If loved ones are feeling
vulnerable, you’ll need to be patient
with them, even if they stretch your
last nerve to the max. You don’t
seem to be getting the results you
want from work situations, but make
the best of what’s going on. Home
and family need your full attention at
the weekend.
A growing inner confidence
in your decision making skills puts
you in the mood to experiment, but
don’t take too much of a chance or
you’ll feel out of your depth. Don’t
ignore your health. This is the time to
focus on health matters, so up your
activity levels and get moving.
Get ready for a creative
overload, a new project can get
attention. Over this period you
could find yourself in the public eye
so make sure you are on the best
dressed list. Try to see the best in
others at the weekend. They’re trying
their best.
September 24-October 23
December 23-January 20
October 24-November 22
January 21-February 19
November 23-December 22
February 20-March 20
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Cabbage Salads
Cabbage is one of the most medicinal vegetables you’ll find in your garden, Easy to buy, clean, and toss up a quick salad… they are known to be high in important nutrients such as vitamin C and selenium; they also contain hundreds of plant compounds that are known to fight cancer. Eat healthy to stay healthy…
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Cabbage slaw with apples and raisins
Cabbage Salad with Bacon
Creamy coleslaw
Ingredients:
1 cup unpeeled, cored, diced apples
1/2 cup raisins
1/2 cup Miracle Whip salad dressing
3 cups shredded cabbage
Preparation:
Combine apples, raisins, and salad dressing. Chill for one
hour. Just before serving, toss with shredded cabbage.
Ingredients:
8 to 10 slices bacon, cooked, drained, diced
4 cups chopped or shredded cabbage, about 1/2 medium
head or a small head
4 to 6 green onions, thinly sliced
1/4 teaspoon celery seeds
1/3 cup mayonnaise
3 tablespoons olive oil
1 to 2 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons apple cider or apple juice
1 to 2 tablespoons vinegar
salt and pepper, to taste
Preparation:
Toss the bacon, cabbage, green onion, and celery seeds
together in a bowl. In a large cup or small bowl, whisk the
mayonnaise, olive oil, 1 tablespoon sugar, apple cider,
and 1 tablespoon vinegar. Add salt and pepper, to taste,
along with more sugar and vinegar, if desired. Add the
dressing mixture to the cabbage mixture; toss to combine.
Cover and refrigerate until serving time.
Ingredients:
3/4 cup mayonnaise
3 tablespoons sugar
1 1/2 tablespoons white vinegar
1/3 cup oil
1/8 teaspoon onion powder
1/8 teaspoon dry mustard
1/8 teaspoon celery salt
1 dash black pepper
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1/2 cup half-and-half
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 large head cabbage, finely shredded
Preparation:
Directions for coleslaw
Blend mayonnaise, sugar, vinegar and oil. Add onion
powder, dry mustard, celery salt, pepper, lemon juice,
half-and-half and salt. Stir until smooth. Pour coleslaw
dressing over shredded cabbage in a large bowl and toss
until cabbage is well coated. Keep coleslaw refrigerated.
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50 June 7-20, 2012
Big boys do
By Claire McLeury
CRYThe best reply to the query why do men hide their feelings in a relationship is this: “Because someone has to remain rational (in the relationship)!”
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We can’t help laughing to that reply
posted by a guy (obviously) in a
website, but I wouldn’t mind looking
at the query again and try to get
to the depths of it. Why is it that
men find it so hard to express their
feelings? Or, on the other hand, are
we just talking of an issue that is no
longer applicable? This is an age
where men openly cry, so, are we
just talking about a dead issue?
Not exactly. Whatever the age, men
are conditioned to hide their feelings
and do not show it when they are hurt or vulnerable so it is harder for them
to show how they feel. Besides, even today, the stigma of crying exists for
men. So, women need to rethink some old theories. Many follow the dogmatic
theory that ‘Big boys don’t cry’ to a T. They also believe that ‘sensitive’ guys
are ‘sissies’. So, men shy away from crying and also hide their sensitive side
so that they are not branded weak in anyway, and men are dying and hoping
that women somehow understand this.
WOMEN LIKE TO BE WITH THE HAPPY MAN
Men who are known to be sensitive are roundly ignored by their peers and
are virtually kicked out of the group and treated like pariahs. They are not
just ignored by men, but women are also known to discard ‘weak’ men with
‘sensitive’ hearts. In such a situation, what else can they do but to hide their
feelings and act as though nothing will hurt them? But, few women realise
that this is just an act; something of a natural conditioning right from an early
age because that is how society makes them to be; even the actual sissy guy
of the lot will pretend as though he is superman when it comes to exposing
feelings. Because of this mask, few women realise that their happy-go-lucky
man they have been with is actually hiding his pain under a cloud of joy.
Every woman wants a happy guy and so, men make it a point to look happy
and pretend to be full of joie-de-vivre so that their women don’t leave them.
It is a fact. Just try to see if you find any women with a man who is morose
and depressed. Or, just see if women would like to be with a man who is too
emotional; yes, sometimes, fate offers you a path where you are stuck with
the partners not of your choice, but not always. When a woman has a choice,
she is going to be with the man with the happy smile (literally).
DON’T NEED AN EMOTIONAL MAN
Again, men have found it the hard way that their women don’t really enjoy
them displaying their emotions. Adipt Jay, an upcoming banker, and a self-
confessed ‘emotional’ man, explains how he pulled back when he realised
his emotional display was provoking a different kind of reaction in his wife.
“Ours is an arranged marriage. It is only when she came close to me that
she realised that I was quite an emotional man; but, then I soon discovered
that my emotional displays were instrumental in kickstarting unpredictable
emotions in Dipti (his wife). She became even more volatile than me and I
quickly pulled my hood (sans emotion) and hid under it. “I make sure that I am
more macho in my behaviour more often than one because I now believe that
women generally feel comfortable with that than an equally emotional man.
They may complain that their men are too stoic for their comfort, but they are
secretly pleased and comfortable about it. In all honesty, they don’t want an
emotional man!”
A WOMAN CAN MAKE OR BREAK A MAN
This is just one scenario; there are plenty of others wherein societal pressures
and their own better halves have made them hide their real feelings and
emotions under a sheet of armour and nonchalance, or even plain don’t-care
attitude. Some men who realise that women don’t really care a hoot about
their feelings, drive themselves away from their emotions. So, even the real
sensitive, fragile and emotional tend to bottle up their feelings, and protect
themselves from exposing any of their sensitivity. But, every girl should try
to understand that deep down most men are emotional, actually fragile and
sensitive. So, remember that before you tear him down with words, it could
very well break him. And you have that power: to make or break him!
52 June 7-20, 2012
Opin
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of women that men dislikeBy Lucille Daniel
Sadly, they dislike and are even quite
annoyed by some of the things we
do, which over the years, we have
taken for granted. Let us go over
them and at the same time, try to
analyse them in all honesty.
SO WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?
You ask that question to a man, and
he is likely to see red, even if he has
not done anything wrong. Why are
they getting angry? It is not known,
but it is important that we understand
that it somehow makes them mad.
One major reason that it makes
men mad is guilt. They are caught
off guard and they don’t have a
readymade answer for that. What
were they thinking? God alone
knows. But, they certainly weren’t
thinking of us! Or more importantly,
he was not thinking of you. This
question comes to them with the
pace of a speeding bullet and when
he was least expecting it. So, they
won’t have the chance to make up
Men, have a mind of their own. Whether we women
like it or not, this is the truth. Men have opinions and sometimes, they can
be against us. Look at these sentiments (read
complaints) of many men below and you will find out
that they certainly have a mind of their own.
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For women
something like, “yeah, I was thinking
of how to move to a bigger house in
a plusher area…you were saying that
you were tired of the house…”
Pah! Men are not that smart as
yet. In fact, if they are able to say
something like that in the blink of an
eye, they are going to rule us! But,
it is our world and it is our life and
men are just part of the whole. We
don’t want them to have any private
thoughts, but, this query is something
that they hate so much and if we
want them to stick on with us, it is
better we tone this inquisitive query
down.
I’M FINE
Now, they are aware that we can
really pick up a fight and even if our
men turn violent, we know that we
have the ability to put in the last word
twisting the word knife deep into their
wounds. And the famous last words
are nothing but this simple: “I’m fine!”
Simple, yes, but it reeks of such
controlled anger and unhappiness
that it can literally freeze any raging
bull. Sometimes, this “I’m fine” flows
amidst a bucket of tears and it is the
start of the big freeze.
The big silence! Where we go off on
a tangent and give them the silent
treatment. For us this, “I’m fine’
statement gains importance in its
inherent meaning for us. We know
we mean just the opposite when we
say that to them and lately men have
caught on to this little truth. Earlier,
they were confused about this
statement as they see us sometimes
break down and still mutter that we
are fine. But today, they know we
mean business. We dip into silence
and we move into self imposed
isolation and even in emergencies,
we only utter in monosyllables. This
has run down most men and they are
known to complain big time about
this.
TEARS COME EASY
Yes, they do. Somehow, even though
we are stronger than men, our tears
pour out as though we have no other
job to do. We cry whenever we get
emotional. And, we get emotional at
just about everything. The thing is
men don’t realise that our emotional
breakdown is temporary and it is in
fact a release. Once we are through
with the bawling, we don’t really care
a hoot at what we were crying our
heart out. But, again, that is not what
we are talking about here.
So, yes, we cry. We cry at funerals,
at weddings, at happy as well as
sad films. We cry because the tears
wash us over and we are clean and
emotion free after that. But, it is
these tears that men hate. They feel
awkward because they haven’t a clue
as to what to do. Where do all these
tears come from? We don’t know, but
it helps, even though they dislike it.
TALKING TOO MUCH
A woman makes an estimated
20, 000 words a day as against a
measly 7, 000 by a man. Of course,
we have a lot to say as against our
mealy mouthed counterparts, but,
why is it such a big sin? Men don’t
talk. We do. We have the ability to
talk our way out of things; out of a
tight situation; alleviate someone’s
suffering…despite all these strong
points, men still feel out of place
when we do the talking.
The problem is that when we talk,
some of the men walk. We lose
them because of our big mouth
(their version). It is not easy to pick
the right moment and just get to the
point, because most of the times, we
would like to digress…
Call me disabled, blind or handicapped.
I have no problem.
I am handicapped. I am blind.
I cannot see. I cannot do normal things.
I need help to walk, go places and even to
do my daily chores.
I need help to study, I need help to cross
roads.
Most of the time I am alone, because normal
people are scared of me, how to address
me, how to talk to me. They feel I should be
treated in a different way.
They feel I might take offense.
They feel I may not understand.
I understand. Of course I do.
What I don’t understand is they forget
though I am blind, I am normal in all other
functions.
I can hear.
I can react.
I can feel.
I enjoy the cool breeze, the evening walk,
and the long drives.
I can cry for the same reason you do.
I can think the same way all of you do.
I can sing, I can smile, I can eat and crave
for ice creams and sweets like any other
person.
I am normal in all other functions other than
the fact I am blind.
And no, I have no problem, no inhibitions
or hurt in being called blind, because I am
blind.
I am not special because I don’t have
anything extra.
I have a disability, a minus that I cannot see,
while the normal ones can.
So why call me special, when I am not even
normal?
The word special sometimes makes me feel
strange.
Please do me a favour, call me disabled,
handicapped and accept me as I am.
He was part of a talk show on television.
He genuinely seemed happy and intelligent
than all of us ‘normal’ beings.
And more normal than any one of us.
He sat there grinning, telling us that he is not
special; he need not be called as differently
challenged or special. It is always funny
when a normal being says that with a smirk,
oh my god, he is getting married? He is blind
right?
Can a blind not get married? Can I not drink
a cup of tea? He was laughing…
He was not ashamed to be called blind.
All he wanted was to be acknowledged as a
human being with a physical flaw. Blind.
Look at us. We are normal. We have our
eyes and ears and limbs intact.
But, we want to be treated special.
We want attention. We want wasta. We want
respect, money and recognition.
We want our subordinates to stand up and
greet us.
We want to be seen in VIP circles.
We hide our inhibitions, our flaws our
shortcomings well.
We cover ourselves with world famous
brands to add value.
We do not cry in public. We learn to control
our emotions and hide behind a veil of
reflection.
We learn diplomacy and put on an act as if
we know it all.
We attend charity events because it is the
latest in thing to be.
We do things to please others, even if it
makes us unhappy.
We cheat on our friends and family putting
them in dark of the reality.
We cover ourselves very cleverly with all
sorts of etiquettes and mannerisms.
We live a false life, because we are normal!
And we work very hard to make ourselves
special in other people’s eyes.
By Priya Arunkumar
Because, we are normal!
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