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Creating a Caring Community
Four Markers of Bullying
Imbalance of Power
Intent to Harm
Threat of Further Aggression
Terror
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The Ways and Means
Verbal Bullying (boys and girls use this equally)
Physical Bullying (mostly boys)
Relational Bullying (mostly girls)
Cyber-Bullying (boys and girls use this equally)
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Common Bully Traits
Likes to dominated peopleLikes to use others people to get what they want
Lack of empathySelf-Seeking
Violence in the absence of adultsView others as weak and potential prey
Uses blame, criticism, and false allegationsRefuses to accept responsibility
Lacks foresight and short/long term consequences
Craves attentionIn NOT typically about anger
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Common Victim Traits
Greater risk for physical and mental health problems
Misses school more frequentlyHigher levels of anxiety
Low self-worthPotential for depression, social anxiety, and
lonelinessPeers tend to avoid
Low social statusIsolation from peers (less likely to have close
friends)Feelings of powerlessness
Higher risk for suicidal ideation
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Warning Signs
Shows an abrupt lack of interest in school or refusal to go to school
Takes an unusual route to schoolSuffers a drop in grades
Withdraws from family and school activitiesIsolates
Is hungry after schoolMakes a beeline to the bathroom when returning
home from schoolIs sad, sullen, angry, or scared after receiving
communication (phone, text, email, chat, social networking, etc.)
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Warning Signs
Does something out of characterUses derogatory or demeaning language when
talking about peersStops talking about everyday activities
Has disheveled, torn, or missing clothingHas physical injuries not consistent with
explanationsHas stomach aches, head aches, panic attacks, is
unable to sleep, sleeps too much, is exhausted
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Bystandersfive reasons for not intervening
The bystander is afraid of getting hurt
The bystander is afraid of becoming a new target
The bystander is afraid of making things worse
The bystander doesn’t know what to do
The Bully is my friend/relative
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Principles/Values Driven
Effective Anti-Bullying Policies
Prevention Strategy
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Principles/Values Driven
1. Warmth, positive interest, and involvement from adults
2. Firm and consistent limits as to unacceptable behaviors
3. In case of violations of limits and rules, consistent application of non-hostile, non-physical sanctions
4. Behavior by adults at home and community organizations that creates an authoritative (not authoritarian) adult-child interaction
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Effective Anti-Bullying Policies
1. Strong positive statement of the organization’s desire to promote positive peer interactions
2. A succinct definition of bullying3. A declaration of rights of the individuals and
groups in the community4. A statement of the responsibility of witnesses5. Encouragement to speak to leaders when
concerns of victimization surface6. A general description of how the
organization/community will deal with bully/victim problem
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Prevention Strategy
1. Gather information about bullying directly from students
2. Establish clear organizational rules about bullying
3. Train all willing adults to respond sensitively and consistently to bullying
4. Provide adequate adult supervision5. Improve parental awareness and
involvement in addressing the problem