Chapter 11Chapter 11Lessons 1: Getting Along with OthersLessons 1: Getting Along with OthersLesson 2: Communicating EffectivelyLesson 2: Communicating Effectively

Farwah HaqFarwah HaqAlesia ApanaAlesia ApanaBrittany LaneBrittany LaneMaya GeorgeMaya GeorgeTania ParachaTania Paracha

The target audience is 9The target audience is 9thth grade students grade students The setting is a classroom The setting is a classroom

1. Healthy relationships1. Healthy relationships-Types of healthy relationships-Types of healthy relationships

-Components of a healthy relationship-Components of a healthy relationship

2. Communication2. Communication

-Speaking-Speaking

-Listening-Listening

- Non-verbal Communication- Non-verbal Communication

Bond or connection between peopleBond or connection between people Affects your physical, mental, & social Affects your physical, mental, & social

healthhealth Different typesDifferent types

Family relationshipsFamily relationships FriendshipsFriendships Community relationshipsCommunity relationships

Provide the strongest bondsProvide the strongest bonds Last a lifetimeLast a lifetime Usually with people you turn to when sick Usually with people you turn to when sick

or injuredor injured Parents/guardians provide love & care, Parents/guardians provide love & care,

teach values, & give guidanceteach values, & give guidance

Relationships based on caring, toleration, Relationships based on caring, toleration, & trust& trust

Vary in importance based on how Vary in importance based on how challenging & complicated they arechallenging & complicated they are

Lots of work to maintainLots of work to maintain Usually with people you share interests Usually with people you share interests

or hobbies withor hobbies with

Community leaders & businesses provide Community leaders & businesses provide services to meet the citizens’ needsservices to meet the citizens’ needs

Can be formed in community classes, Can be formed in community classes, book clubs, & recreational activitiesbook clubs, & recreational activities

Choose people who:Choose people who: Support youSupport you Encourage your best qualitiesEncourage your best qualities

Healthy relationships satisfy your basic Healthy relationships satisfy your basic human needs of safety, security, value, & human needs of safety, security, value, & recognitionrecognition

A part that you play in a relationshipA part that you play in a relationship Examples: Examples:

BrotherBrother DaughterDaughter Student Student Band DirectorBand Director EmployeeEmployee

Roles switch suddenly or change Roles switch suddenly or change gradually depending on needs and some gradually depending on needs and some situationssituations

Can have more than one role at a timeCan have more than one role at a time Roles can be confusing in a relationshipRoles can be confusing in a relationship

Increase self-esteemIncrease self-esteem Improve mental and emotional healthImprove mental and emotional health Help you have fuller livesHelp you have fuller lives

Mutual RespectMutual Respect TrustTrust HonestyHonesty SupportSupport CooperationCooperation

Fairness/EqualityFairness/Equality Separate IdentitiesSeparate Identities Good CommunicationGood Communication CompromiseCompromise

A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive

behavior.

- SpeakingSpeaking

- ListeningListening

- Non-verbal CommunicationNon-verbal Communication

Say CLEARLY what you meanSay CLEARLY what you mean Do not assume anyone else can read your Do not assume anyone else can read your

mindmind Use of “I” messagesUse of “I” messages

o A statement in which a person tells how A statement in which a person tells how her or she feels using the pronoun “I”her or she feels using the pronoun “I”

o Helps to avoid blaming or name-calling.Helps to avoid blaming or name-calling.

Changes in your tone and voice and its Changes in your tone and voice and its pitch and loudness play an important rolepitch and loudness play an important roleo Kind words in a sarcastic toneKind words in a sarcastic toneo Speaking too loudly may make others see Speaking too loudly may make others see

you as arrogant and bossyyou as arrogant and bossyo Speaking too softly may make others think Speaking too softly may make others think

you are not too sure of what you are sayingyou are not too sure of what you are saying

Most often overlookedMost often overlooked Hearing is not the same as listeningHearing is not the same as listening Skilled Listeners use active listening Skilled Listeners use active listening

skillsskills

Active listening skillsActive listening skillso Reflective listening: rephrase what the other Reflective listening: rephrase what the other

person has saidperson has saido Clarifying: ask questions to gain a better Clarifying: ask questions to gain a better

understandingunderstandingo Encouraging: give signals to show interestEncouraging: give signals to show interesto Empathizing: feeling the other’s feelings as Empathizing: feeling the other’s feelings as

you listenyou listen

Sending messages through gestures, Sending messages through gestures, behaviors, and facial expressionsbehaviors, and facial expressions

SubtleSubtle Often take place subconsciouslyOften take place subconsciously Helps to make sure you are sending the Helps to make sure you are sending the

messages you intend.messages you intend. It is important that your body language It is important that your body language

and intended message matchand intended message match

Examples of Examples of GOOD and BAD GOOD and BAD body languagebody language

Unrealistic ExpectationsUnrealistic Expectations

The need to Project a Superior ImageThe need to Project a Superior Image

PrejudicePrejudice

Your intended message is not received Your intended message is not received as expected.as expected.

Not being prepared for reality.Not being prepared for reality.

A person may feel attackedA person may feel attacked

Usually occurs during pubertyUsually occurs during puberty

Makes individuals hard to reachMakes individuals hard to reach

Impedes progressImpedes progress

A prejudice is an unfair opinion or judgment A prejudice is an unfair opinion or judgment about a person or a group of peopleabout a person or a group of people

Free communication is difficult to attainFree communication is difficult to attain

Neither side is heardNeither side is heard

Clouds judgmentClouds judgment

Accept the situation for what it isAccept the situation for what it is You are not always going to be able to solve every You are not always going to be able to solve every

problemproblem Encourage both parties to let down their Encourage both parties to let down their

guardsguards Ex. Through peer mediationEx. Through peer mediation

Try to set realistic expectationsTry to set realistic expectations This will prevent both parties form getting frustratedThis will prevent both parties form getting frustrated

Educate people in order to get rid of existing Educate people in order to get rid of existing prejudiceprejudice

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TrustTrust SupportSupport HonestyHonesty CooperationCooperation CompromiseCompromise

Separate IdentitiesSeparate Identities Fairness/EqualityFairness/Equality Mutual RespectMutual Respect Good CommunicationGood Communication

•Types of Relationships–Family Relationships–Friendships–Community Relationships

•Role•Traits of a Healthy Relationship

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CommunicationCommunication SpeakingSpeaking ListeningListening Nonverbal CommunicationNonverbal Communication

Communication BarriersCommunication Barriers Unrealistic ExpectationsUnrealistic Expectations Need to project a superior imageNeed to project a superior image PrejudicePrejudice

Proper communication leads to sustaining Proper communication leads to sustaining healthy relationships healthy relationships

You just found out that your younger brother/sister just You just found out that your younger brother/sister just read your diary. What would you do to react?read your diary. What would you do to react?

Your parents found some drugs in your bag, they’re not Your parents found some drugs in your bag, they’re not your drugs, but your parents are really furious at you. your drugs, but your parents are really furious at you. What do you do?What do you do?

Your best friend is going to cheat on her next exam. Your best friend is going to cheat on her next exam. She/He asks if they can cheat off of you. You know it’s She/He asks if they can cheat off of you. You know it’s wrong, how do you explain it to them? wrong, how do you explain it to them?