Chapter

Friendship, Intimacy, and

Singlehood

Chapter 9

Chapter OverviewI. Critical ThinkingII. Introductory “Quiz”III. Thought for the WeekIV. YJUV. What is Love?VI. A Series of Film Clips Depicting

“Love”VII. Consider the Following

I. Critical ThinkingAfter reading the chapter, write a question about love.

(2 pt. possible)

Due Next Class Period

II. Introductory “Quiz”

1. The best sign of true love is that the person spends a great

deal of time thinking of his or her beloved.

False

2. Family and friends can know who is a better match for a

person.

True

3. Arranged marriages are a good idea.

Define “good idea.”

4. Falling in love and staying in love are natural.

False

5. When you’re really in love, you’ll know it.

False

6. It is easier to fall in love than to stay in love.

True

7. Being a loving person is the best way to be loved.

True

8. True love means that you have no other interests outside the

relationship.

False

9. Older people make poor newly-weds because they can’t change.

False

10. When people marry, they always get more intimate.

False

III. Thought for the Week:

True love is not so much a matter of romance as it is

a matter of anxious concern for the well-being

of one’s companion.

IV. YJU

Love is a choice.

V. What is Love?A. Class Project: Define LoveB. Davis and Todd:

The Fabric of Friendship and The Tapestry of Love

A. Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory

Enjoyment

Mutual assistance

Respect

Spontaneity

Passion Cluster

Fascination

Sexual Desire

Exclusiveness

Caring Cluster

Champion/Advocate

Giving the Utmost

Acceptance

Trust

Understanding

Confiding

Friendship

Love

V. What is Love?A. Class Project: Define LoveB. Davis and Todd:

The Fabric of Friendship and The Tapestry of Love

A. Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory

A. Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory

1. Diagram2. What is Commitment?

a. Class Discussionb. A Quotation

Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory of Love

Commitment: a promise of time and energy. Commitment in strong families means that the family as a whole is committed to seeing that each member reaches his or her potential. It does not mean that the individuals suffer so that others in the family can grow.

G. H. Hinkley, 1984

VI. A Series of Film Clips Depicting “Love”

Place graphic of

CD here.

VI. Consider the Following:

A. “Here is a secret that should not be kept; love is time.” (Dr. Allen Button)

B. In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling.

Steven R. CoveyThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective People