christian triage by mixue. outline: decision-making process decision-making process important vs...
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Christian TriageChristian Triage
By MiXueBy MiXue
Outline:Outline:
Decision-making processDecision-making processImportant vs UrgentImportant vs UrgentDeciding what is ImportantDeciding what is ImportantBiblical PrioritiesBiblical PrioritiesTriaging for important Triaging for important prioritiespriorities
Starting with end in mindStarting with end in mind
TriageTriage
Triage is the process of Triage is the process of sorting/ranking of prioritiessorting/ranking of priorities
in the midst of chaos and in the midst of chaos and turmoil where resources are turmoil where resources are
inadequateinadequate and and limitedlimited..
Sort for:Sort for:
1. 1. DieDie
2. 2. DelegateDelegate to others to others
3. 3. DevoteDevote your efforts your efforts forfor
Sorting is ChoosingSorting is Choosing
SacrificeSacrifice is is
exchangingexchanging something you something you lovelove
for something you for something you love morelove more
Yes Yes == NoNo
to somethingto something to to something something
elseelse
How do you decide?How do you decide?
UrgentUrgent
vs.vs.
Important Important
What is important to What is important to you?you?
What do you value?What do you value?
1. Start with the 1. Start with the endend in mind in mind
2. What does 2. What does GodGod value? value?
Quality TestingQuality Testing
1. Work will be evaluated1. Work will be evaluated
2. Test by Fire2. Test by Fire
What is the test by Fire?What is the test by Fire?
PurityPurity
DurabilityDurability
Revelation of EssenceRevelation of Essence
What is eternal?What is eternal?
PeoplePeople go into Eternity go into Eternity with or without God with or without God
WordWord lasts forever lasts forever
WorksWorks motivated by faith, hope, love, motivated by faith, hope, love,
righteousness, holiness, justice righteousness, holiness, justice
What is important to What is important to you?you?
Whatever you Whatever you spendspend your your resources on:resources on:
TimeTimeMoneyMoneyEnergyEnergyAttention & focusAttention & focus
You You add valueadd value to something by to something by inputting your resourcesinputting your resources into it. into it.
What are you?What are you?
OwnerOwneroror
StewardSteward
Owner:Owner:
Everything I have, I earned and Everything I have, I earned and deserve.deserve.
I own it all and can do as I please I own it all and can do as I please with it.with it.
I answer to no one but myself. I answer to no one but myself.
Stewardship:Stewardship:
I am owned by God.I am owned by God.
Everything I have Everything I have
is given to me by God.is given to me by God.
We are given roles to We are given roles to steward:steward:
good works
Christians
God
parents
ministry
work
children
husband
You
How do we know how to How do we know how to prioritize? prioritize?
TheThe Word Word reveals reveals
GodGod’s values’s values
10 Suggestions?10 Suggestions?
10 Commandments10 Commandments
The Word is The Word is notnot given to given to you you
to make you to make you smartersmarter, ,
But to make you But to make you holierholier..
ObeyObey the Word the Word
What should get What should get Priority?Priority?
Self
Good works
friends
siblingsparents
ministry
work
children
husbandGod
You
#1 Priority for God:#1 Priority for God:
"You shall love the LORD your God "You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. (Deu soul and with all your might. (Deu 6:5) 6:5)
GodGod = Highest Supreme Being = Highest Supreme Being YouYou = Humble grateful servant = Humble grateful servant
Giving God #1 Priority:Giving God #1 Priority:
Spend Spend timetime getting getting to know Himto know Him
WordWord (vs newspaper/readings) (vs newspaper/readings)
PrayerPrayer (vs talking to friends) (vs talking to friends)
PracticePractice (Obedience vs ignoring (Obedience vs ignoring it)it)
#2 Priority for Husband:#2 Priority for Husband:
““For this reason a man For this reason a man
shall shall leaveleave his father and his his father and his mother,mother,
and be and be joinedjoined to his wife; to his wife;
and they shall become and they shall become oneone flesh.” flesh.”(Gen 2:24)(Gen 2:24)
Giving Husband #2 Giving Husband #2 Priority:Priority:
Submission: unnaturalSubmission: unnatural
Cultural vs Biblical submissionCultural vs Biblical submission
Submission ≠ AgreementSubmission ≠ Agreement
Put on your seatbeltPut on your seatbelt
Honor vs dishonoring WordHonor vs dishonoring Word
A Wife is Ultimate Team A Wife is Ultimate Team PlayerPlayer
The heart of her husband The heart of her husband truststrusts in her, in her,
and he will have no lack of gain. and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him She does him good good
and not evil and not evil
all the days of her life. all the days of her life. Prov. 31:11-12Prov. 31:11-12
Top 10 Top 10 SubmissiveSubmissive WaysWays
10.10.She doesn’t complain when I bring people home She doesn’t complain when I bring people home for dinner or staying over without prior notice.for dinner or staying over without prior notice.9. She lets me smoke cigars in the home9. She lets me smoke cigars in the home8. She never insists I have to spend time w/ her 8. She never insists I have to spend time w/ her
family. family. 7. She tries not to comment about my driving. 7. She tries not to comment about my driving. 6. She trusts me with our investments including 6. She trusts me with our investments including
home ownership decisions. home ownership decisions. 5. She supported my desire to attend seminary and 5. She supported my desire to attend seminary and
move the family to Hong Kong.move the family to Hong Kong.4. She always asks me about her career decisions. 4. She always asks me about her career decisions. 3. She defers to me in decisions re: raising the 3. She defers to me in decisions re: raising the
kids.kids.2. She tries not to disagree with me/belittle me in 2. She tries not to disagree with me/belittle me in
public. public. 1. She is very attentive to my needs over her own.1. She is very attentive to my needs over her own.
Sex is God’s ideaSex is God’s idea
created for marriage onlycreated for marriage only
otherwise:otherwise:
Fornication/immoralityFornication/immorality
AdulteryAdultery
SexSexBefore Before After After Marriage: Marriage: Marriage:Marriage:
YES! NO! YES! NO!
SexSexBefore Before After After Marriage: Marriage: Marriage:Marriage:
YES! YES! NO!NO!
SEXUAL PERVERSIONSEXUAL PERVERSION
Sex as Spiritual WarfareSex as Spiritual Warfare
Stop deprivingStop depriving one another, one another, except by agreement for a time,except by agreement for a time,so that you may devote yourselvesso that you may devote yourselvesto prayer, and come together to prayer, and come together
againagainso that Satan will not tempt youso that Satan will not tempt youbecause of your lack of self-because of your lack of self-
control.control. (1Cor. (1Cor. 7:5) 7:5)
1+1=11+1=1
1+1=11+1=1
Husband/Head Husband/Head +Wife/Helper+Wife/Helper
Oneness Oneness
Christ and the ChurchChrist and the Church
1 + 1 = 11 + 1 = 1
#3 Priority for Children:#3 Priority for Children:
Training: Obedience & DisciplineTraining: Obedience & Discipline
Imparting: FaithImparting: Faith
Security: Best GiftSecurity: Best Gift
Train for ObedienceTrain for Obedience
““The rod and reproof give The rod and reproof give wisdom, wisdom,
But a child who gets his own But a child who gets his own wayway
brings brings shame to his mothershame to his mother.”.” Prov. 29:15Prov. 29:15
Teach children to obey Teach children to obey authority:authority:
1. parent1. parent 2. teachers2. teachers 3. bosses3. bosses 4. husband (if daughter)4. husband (if daughter) 5. police5. police 6. government6. government 7. God7. God
Discipline DisplaysDiscipline Displays
Sign of legitimacySign of legitimacy
EffortEffort
LoveLove
Fruit of DisciplineFruit of Discipline
All discipline for the moment seemsAll discipline for the moment seems
not to be joyful, but sorrowful; not to be joyful, but sorrowful;
yet to those who have been yet to those who have been trainedtrained
by it, afterwards it yields the by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousnesspeaceful fruit of righteousness..
(Heb 12:11)(Heb 12:11)
Pass on anPass on anEternal InheritanceEternal Inheritance
"You shall "You shall teachteach them diligently to them diligently to your sons and shall your sons and shall talk talk of them of them when you when you sitsit in your house and in your house and when you when you walkwalk by the way and by the way and when you when you lie downlie down and when you and when you rise uprise up..
Deut. 6:7Deut. 6:7
SecuritySecurity
The The Best GiftBest Gift you can give your you can give your childchild
is is
a loving relationshipa loving relationship
with the fatherwith the father
#4 Priority to Home:#4 Priority to Home:
A hundred men may make an A hundred men may make an encampment, but it takes encampment, but it takes
a womana woman
to make to make a homea home. .
HomeHome interprets interprets heavenheaven. .
Home is heaven Home is heaven for beginners.for beginners.
~~Charles H. ParkhurstCharles H. Parkhurst
Your Your home home gives gives your your
child child
his first his first deep deep
longingslongings for for
heaven.heaven.
"In My Father's "In My Father's househouse are many are many dwelling placesdwelling places; if it were not so, I ; if it were not so, I would have told you; for I go to would have told you; for I go to prepare prepare a placea place for you. for you.
If I go and If I go and prepare a placeprepare a place for you, I will for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself, come again and receive you to Myself, that that wherewhere I am, I am, ttherehere you may be you may be also.”also.” JoJohn 14:2-3hn 14:2-3
Jesus, a Jesus, a HomemakerHomemaker??
#5 for Priority to Work:#5 for Priority to Work:
A working wife and motherA working wife and mother
takes on a takes on a
double-cursedouble-curse
The Double-CurseThe Double-Curse
Curse on Eve:Curse on Eve: Pain in childrearingPain in childrearing Desire to control and dominate husbandDesire to control and dominate husband
Curse on Adam:Curse on Adam: Frustration and opposition with workFrustration and opposition with work Work will be demanding but unfulfillingWork will be demanding but unfulfilling Life ends in DeathLife ends in Death
Triage:Triage:
1. 1. DieDie
2. 2. DelegateDelegate to others to others
3. 3. DevoteDevote your efforts your efforts forfor
Report CardReport Card
WifeWife AAMotherMother AAHomemakHomemakerer
AA
Bible Bible study study leaderleader
AA
Good Good worksworks
AA
friendfriend AA
Report CardReport Card
WifeWife ??MotherMother ??HomemakHomemakerer
??
TeacherTeacherBible Bible study study leaderleader
??
Good Good worksworks
??
friendfriend ??
Report CardReport Card
WifeWife A-/B+A-/B+MotherMother A-/B+A-/B+HomemakHomemakerer
BB
TeacherTeacher ??Bible Bible study study leaderleaderGood Good worksworksfriendfriend
Report CardReport Card
WifeWife A-/B+A-/B+MotherMother A-/B+A-/B+HomemakHomemakerer
BB
TeacherTeacher C/C-C/C-Bible Bible study study leaderleaderGood Good worksworksfriendfriend
Report CardReport Card
WifeWife A-/B+A-/B+MotherMother A-/B+A-/B+HomemakHomemakerer
BB
TeacherTeacher C/C-C/C-Bible Bible study study leaderleader
FF
Good Good worksworks
FF
friendfriend DD
#6 Priority to Ministries:#6 Priority to Ministries:
E²E² = Evangelism = Evangelism EdificationEdification
Helping people have a closer Helping people have a closer more vibrant more vibrant relationship to relationship to ChristChrist
Ministry to:Ministry to:
Husband (+ his friends)Husband (+ his friends) Children (+ their friends)Children (+ their friends) Students Students ColleaguesColleagues BossBoss Everyone you meetEveryone you meet
#7 Priority to Parents:#7 Priority to Parents:
Different ways to Honor them as we Different ways to Honor them as we grow:grow:
Honoring our Parents defined:Honoring our Parents defined:0-13yrs – by Dependence0-13yrs – by Dependence13-21yrs – by Obedience13-21yrs – by Obedience22-35yrs – as Discernment22-35yrs – as Discernment36-55yrs – as Appreciation36-55yrs – as Appreciation56+ -- as Role Reversal56+ -- as Role Reversal
Difference between Cultural Difference between Cultural and Biblical Honoring?and Biblical Honoring?
Cultural: It is to repay unlimited debt to Cultural: It is to repay unlimited debt to parents for bringing you into the world & parents for bringing you into the world & making all the sacrifices to raise you. making all the sacrifices to raise you.
Biblical: It is a positive command by Biblical: It is a positive command by God that leaves us with great leeway to God that leaves us with great leeway to obey. Children should start new obey. Children should start new households. households.
Biblically Honoring Biblically Honoring ParentsParents
Good NewsGood News::
You get to determine what your You get to determine what your “honoring” looks like.“honoring” looks like.
Bad News:Bad News:
You must explain your conclusions to You must explain your conclusions to God.God.
# 8 Priority to Christians:# 8 Priority to Christians:
““So then, while we have So then, while we have opportunity, opportunity,
let us do good to all people, andlet us do good to all people, and
especially to those who are of theespecially to those who are of the
household of the faithhousehold of the faith.” .” Gal 6:10Gal 6:10
Why?Why?
#1 Reason #1 Reason ChineseChinese scholars scholars are interested in Christianity are interested in Christianity is: is:
the the lovelove we have for one we have for one another, and also for them.another, and also for them.
#9 Priority to good #9 Priority to good works:works:
Likewise, Likewise, I wantI want women to adorn themselves women to adorn themselves
with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly,
not with braided hair and gold or pearls or not with braided hair and gold or pearls or
costly garments, but rather by means of costly garments, but rather by means of
good worksgood works, as is proper for women making a, as is proper for women making a
claim to godliness. claim to godliness. 1 Tim. 2:9-101 Tim. 2:9-10
God
Husband
Children
Work
Ministry
Parents
Christians
Good Works
Manageability of LifeManageability of Life
Adjust Adjust and and AdaptAdapt
With your life changesWith your life changes
Triage:Triage:
1. 1. DieDie
2. 2. DelegateDelegate to others to others
3. 3. DevoteDevote your efforts your efforts forfor
God
Husband
Children
Work
Church/Ministry
Parents
Christians
Good Works
Neighbors
What to What to DevoteDevote efforts to? efforts to?
What to What to DelegateDelegate??
to Familyto Familyto Partnersto Partnersto Friendsto Friendsto Helper/hiredto Helper/hired
Triage: What must Triage: What must DieDie??
One half of knowing what youOne half of knowing what youwant is knowing what you must want is knowing what you must give up before you get it. give up before you get it.
~Sidney Howard~Sidney Howard
If you aim at nothing, If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time.you’ll hit it every time.
““If you don't know where you are If you don't know where you are going, you will probably end up going, you will probably end up somewhere else.” somewhere else.”
~Lawrence J. Peter~Lawrence J. Peter
““Make the most of your Make the most of your time because the days are time because the days are evil.” evil.”
Eph 4:15-16Eph 4:15-16
What do you want your What do you want your life to stand for?life to stand for?
““As for the days of our As for the days of our life, they contain seventy life, they contain seventy years, or if due to years, or if due to strength, eighty years, strength, eighty years, yet their pride is yet their pride is butbut labor and sorrow; labor and sorrow; for soon it is gone and for soon it is gone and we fly away.we fly away.So teach us to So teach us to numbernumber our daysour days, that we may , that we may present to You present to You a heart a heart of wisdomof wisdom.”.” Psalm Psalm 90:10, 1290:10, 12
If any man's work which If any man's work which he has built on it he has built on it remains, remains, he will receive a reward.he will receive a reward.
If any man's work is If any man's work is burned up, he will suffer burned up, he will suffer loss; loss; but he himself will be but he himself will be saved, saved, yet so as through fire. yet so as through fire.
(1Co 3:13-14)(1Co 3:13-14)
Start with Start with
the the endend in in mind:mind:
““Well done, Well done, good and good and faithful faithful servant.”servant.”
Go for it!Go for it!