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The Importance of Social Pragmatic Communication to Life Success aka How Come No One Likes Me? Timothy P. Kowalski, M.A.,C.C.C. Professional Communication Services, Inc. 1401-A Edgewater Dr. Orlando, FL 32804 www.socialpragmatics.com In the efforts to comply with the appropriate boards/associations, I declare that I do not have any afliations with or nancial interest in a commercial organization that could pose a conict of interest with my presentation. Timothy P. Kowalski, M.A.,C.C.C. Speaker Disclosure I declare that aside from materials I have authored, I, or my family, do not have any nancial relationship in any amount with a commercial interest whose products or services are discussed in my presentation. Additionally all Planners involved in today’s presentation do not have any nancial relationship. Non-Financial: Florida Assoc. of Sp-Lang. Path. & Aud.: VP Professional Practices in SLP Financial: Professional Communication Services, Inc.: President AS Works: Co-owner Author My books Practical Strategies for Assessment and Treatment Social-Pragmatic Success for Asperger Syndrome and Other Related Disorders Timothy P. Kowalski Practical Strategies for Assessment and Treatment Are you In The Zone? Timothy P. Kowalski thy P Ko Timothy P. Kowalski Illustrated by Laura S. Kowalski %;SVOFSSO JSV 'LMPHVIR [MXL 7SGMEP (MJ½GYPXMIW Understanding Emotions A Guide for Adults Timothy P. Kowalski Illustrated by Laura S. Kowalski

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Page 1: Disclosure My books - Arksha Handouts... · 2015-03-11 · The Importance of Social Pragmatic Communication to Life Success aka How Come No One Likes Me Timothy P. Kowalski, M.A.,C.C.C

The I

mpor

tanc

e of S

ocial

Pr

agma

tic Co

mmun

icatio

n to

Life S

ucce

ssak

a

How

Come

No O

ne Li

kes M

e?Ti

mot

hy P

. Kow

alsk

i, M

.A.,C

.C.C

.Pr

ofes

siona

l Com

mun

icat

ion

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In th

e ef

fort

s to

com

ply

with

the

appr

opria

te

boar

ds/a

ssoc

iatio

ns, I

dec

lare

that

I do

not

ha

ve a

ny a

ffilia

tions

with

or fin

anci

al in

tere

st in

a

com

mer

cial

org

aniz

atio

n th

at c

ould

pos

e a

confl

ict o

f int

eres

t with

my

pres

enta

tion.

Tim

othy

P. K

owal

ski,

M.A

.,C.C

.C.

Spea

ker

Disc

losu

re•

I dec

lare

that

asi

de

from

mat

eria

ls I

have

aut

hore

d, I

, or

my

fam

ily, d

o no

t hav

e an

y fin

anci

al r

elat

ions

hip

in a

ny a

mou

nt w

ith

a co

mm

erci

al in

tere

st w

hose

pr

oduc

ts o

r se

rvic

es a

re d

iscu

ssed

in m

y pr

esen

tati

on.

Ad

dit

iona

lly a

ll Pl

anne

rs

invo

lved

in to

day

’s p

rese

ntat

ion

do

not h

ave

any fin

anci

al r

elat

ions

hip.

•N

on-F

inan

cial

:

•Fl

orid

a A

ssoc

. of S

p-L

ang.

Pat

h. &

Aud

.: V

P Pr

ofes

sion

al P

ract

ices

in S

LP

•Fi

nanc

ial:

•Pr

ofes

sion

al C

omm

unic

atio

n Se

rvic

es, I

nc.:

Pres

iden

t

•A

S W

orks

: Co-

owne

r

•A

utho

r

My

book

s

Pra

ctic

al

Str

ate

gie

s fo

r A

sse

ssm

en

t a

nd

Tre

atm

en

t

Socia

l-Prag

matic

Succe

ssfo

r A

spe

rge

r S

ynd

rom

e a

nd

Oth

er

Re

late

d D

iso

rde

rs

Timot

hy P

. Kow

alski

Prac

tical

Stra

tegi

es fo

r As

sess

men

t and

Tre

atm

ent

Are

you

In T

he Z

one?

Tim

othy

P. K

owal

ski

thy

PKo

PIl

lustr

ated

by

Laur

a S.

Kow

alski

Tim

othy

P. K

owal

ski

Illus

trat

ed b

y La

ura

S. K

owal

ski

Unde

rsta

ndin

g Em

otio

ns

A G

uide

for A

dults

Tim

othy

P. K

owal

ski

Illus

trat

ed b

y La

ura S

. Kow

alsk

i

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How

com

e no

one

like

s m

e?

If on

ly it

cou

ld b

e th

is sim

ple.

..Be

caus

e yo

u ar

e no

t “In

the

Zone

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Wha

t’s th

e Z

one?

Borr

owin

g fro

m a

mov

ie...

“The

Zon

e” is

...

•a

term

use

d to

des

crib

e w

hat m

ost

peop

le w

ould

exp

ect t

o se

e in

a g

iven

si

tuat

ion

•ba

sed

on

the

idea

that

for

any

situ

atio

n,

a se

t of e

xpec

tati

ons

has

alre

ady

been

d

ecid

ed u

pon

by a

maj

orit

y of

in

div

idua

ls

Goo

d so

cial

ski

lls a

re s

eldo

m n

otic

ed

•w

e on

ly p

ay a

tten

tion

to th

e “u

nusu

al”

or “

unex

pect

ed”

•R

icha

rd L

aVoi

e ca

lls th

is c

once

pt

“Z

ero

Ord

er S

kills

•"s

kills

that

are

onl

y si

gnifi

cant

whe

n th

ey fa

il to

exi

st"

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Whe

n w

alki

ng in

a m

all..

.

But t

hen

you

see

...

Wha

t do

YOU

do?

No

one

enjo

ys

goin

g to

the

dent

ist. B

ut is

TH

IS w

hat y

ou

expe

cted

?

We’

ve a

ll be

en “

Out

of t

he Z

one”

at t

imes

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Ever

bee

n to

ld y

our

zipp

er is

dow

n?

But d

id y

ou

purp

osel

y le

ave

the

hous

e KN

OW

ING

it

was

dow

n?

But s

ay y

ou’r

e on

an

Opr

ah s

how

...H

ow d

o pe

ople

see

you

?

Man

y pe

ople

with

AS

are

unaw

are

how

they

are

see

n by

oth

ers?

Surp

rise!

Peo

ple

DO

thin

k ab

out y

ou

Wha

t the

?

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odd

• w

eird

• r

ude

• fo

olish

• u

nusu

al

Term

s us

ed to

des

crib

e th

ese

indi

vidu

als

Why

do

they

act

that

way

??

Cou

ld it

be

a sm

alle

r br

ain

mas

s?

Cou

ld it

be

Mirr

or N

euro

ns?

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Mirr

or N

euro

ns: a

n ac

cide

ntal

disc

over

y

Do

mirr

or n

euro

ns

impa

ct in

divi

dual

s w

ith A

S??

•E

EG

stu

die

s su

ppor

t the

hyp

othe

sis

of

a d

ysfu

ncti

onal

mir

ror

neur

on s

yste

m

in h

igh-

func

tion

ing

ind

ivid

uals

wit

h A

SD Ob

erm

ana,

L.,

Hub

bard

a, E

., M

cCle

eryb

, J.,

Alts

chul

era,

E.,

Ram

acha

ndra

na, V

.,

Pine

dad,

J., (

2005

). E

EG

evi

den

ce fo

r m

irro

r ne

uron

dys

func

tion

in a

utis

m s

pect

rum

d

isor

der

s. C

ogni

tive

Bra

in R

esea

rch.

24:

190

-198

•m

irro

r ne

uron

s ne

cess

ary

for

norm

al

dev

elop

men

t of r

ecog

niti

on, i

mit

atio

n,

theo

ry o

f min

d, e

mpa

thy,

and

lang

uage

O

berm

ana,

L. a

nd R

mac

hand

rana

, V. (

2007

). T

he s

imul

atin

g so

cial

min

d: T

he r

ole

of th

e m

irro

r ne

uron

sys

tem

and

sim

ulat

ion

in th

e so

cial

and

com

mun

icat

ive

defi

cits

of a

utis

m s

pect

rum

d

isor

der

s. P

sych

olog

ical

Bul

leti

n. 1

33: 3

10-3

27

Rese

arch

sup

port

ing

mirr

or n

euro

n th

eory

•R

esea

rch

sugg

ests

that

ASD

is a

ssoc

iate

d

wit

h al

tere

d p

atte

rns

of b

rain

act

ivit

y d

urin

g im

itat

ion,

whi

ch c

ould

ste

m fr

om

poor

inte

grat

ion

betw

een

area

s se

rvin

g vi

sual

, mot

or, p

ropr

ioce

ptiv

e an

d

emot

iona

l fun

ctio

ns. S

uch

poor

in

tegr

atio

n is

like

ly to

ad

vers

ely

affe

ct

the

dev

elop

men

t of T

oM th

roug

h im

itat

ion

as w

ell a

s ot

her

aspe

cts

of

soci

al c

ogni

tive

func

tion

in A

SD W

illia

ms,

J., W

aite

r,

G.,

Gilc

hris

t, A

, Per

rett

, D.,

Mur

ray,

A.,

and

Whi

te, A

. (20

06).

Neu

ral m

echa

nism

s of

imit

atio

n an

d ‘m

irro

r ne

uron

’ fun

ctio

ning

in a

utis

tic

spec

trum

dis

ord

er. N

euro

psyc

holo

gia.

44:

610

-621

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Face

rea

ding

This

guy’

s fa

ce is

har

d to

rea

d

It’s

also

har

d fo

r hi

m to

“re

ad”

us

Can

you

dec

ide

how

the

pers

on s

ittin

g ne

xt to

you

feel

s rig

ht n

ow??

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Use

a “

cam

era”

But s

ome

peop

le c

an’t

Pros

opag

nosia

Bar

ton,

J.,

et a

l. (2

004)

Are

pat

ient

s w

ith s

ocia

l dev

elop

men

tal d

isor

ders

pro

sopa

gnos

ic?

Per

cept

ual h

eter

ogen

eity

in th

e A

sper

ger

and

soci

o-em

otio

nal p

roce

ssin

g di

sord

ers.

Bra

in.

127:

170

6-17

16; D

ucha

ine,

B, N

iem

inen

-von

Wen

dt, T

., N

ew, J

. and

Kul

omak

i, T.

(20

03).

D

isoc

ciat

ions

of v

isua

l rec

ogni

tion

in a

gen

etic

pro

sopa

nosi

c: e

vide

nce

for

sepa

rate

dev

elop

men

tal p

roce

sses

. N

euro

case

. 9:3

80-3

89;

Kra

cke,

I. (

1994

). D

evel

opm

enta

l pro

sopa

gnos

ia in

Asp

erge

r sy

ndro

me:

pre

sent

atio

n an

d di

scus

sion

of a

n in

divi

dual

cas

e.

Dev

elop

men

tal

Med

icin

e an

d C

hild

Neu

rolo

gy. 3

6: 8

73-8

76.N

iem

inen

-von

Wen

dt, T

. (20

04).

On

the

orig

ins

and

diag

nosi

s of

Asp

erge

r sy

ndro

me:

a c

linic

al

neur

oim

agin

g an

d ge

netic

stu

dy. A

cade

mic

dis

sert

atio

n., M

edic

al F

acul

ty. U

nive

rsity

of H

elsi

nki.

Njio

kikr

jien,

C, e

t al.

(200

1) D

isor

dere

d re

cogn

ition

of f

acia

l ide

ntity

and

em

otio

ns in

thre

e A

sper

ger

type

aut

ists

. E

urop

ean

Jour

nal o

f Chi

ld a

nd A

dole

scen

t Psy

chia

try.

10: 7

9-90

.

•ca

n’t r

ead

the

face

of o

ther

s

•m

ay fo

cus

only

on

ind

ivid

ual

com

pone

nts

of th

e fa

ce

•m

ay n

ot r

ealiz

e on

e ex

pres

sion

has

m

ulti

ple

mea

ning

s

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Yale

Eye

-Gaz

e St

udy

Feel

ings

Can

you

dec

ide

how

you

feel

rig

ht n

ow?

?

But n

ot e

very

one

can

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Ale

xyth

ymia

Ber

thoz

, S

. and

Hill

, E (

2005

). T

he v

alid

ity o

f usi

ng s

elf-

repo

rts

to a

sses

s em

otio

n re

gula

tion

abili

ties

in a

dults

with

aut

ism

spe

ctru

m d

isor

der.

E

urop

ean

Psy

chia

try.

20: 2

91-2

98; N

iem

inen

-von

Wen

dt, T

. (20

04).

On

teh

orig

ins

and

diag

nosi

s of

Asp

erge

r sy

ndro

me:

a c

linic

al

neur

oim

agin

g an

d ge

netic

stu

dy. A

cade

mic

dis

sert

atio

n., M

edic

al F

acul

ty. U

nive

rsity

of H

elsi

nki;

Ras

tam

, M.,

Gill

berg

, C.,

Gill

berg

, I. a

nd

Joha

nsso

n, M

. (19

97).

Ale

xith

ymia

in a

nore

xia

nerv

osa:

a c

ontr

olle

d st

udy

usin

g th

e 20

-item

Tor

onto

Ale

xith

ymia

Sca

le.

Act

a P

sych

iatri

ca

Sca

ndin

avic

a. 9

5: 3

85-3

88; T

ani,

P. e

t al (

2004

). A

sper

ger

synd

rom

e, a

lexi

tyhm

ia a

nd s

leep

. N

euro

psyc

hobi

olog

y. 4

9: 6

4-70

.

•th

e in

abili

ty to

iden

tify

and

des

crib

e fe

elin

g st

ates

•ca

n’t r

ead

em

otio

ns in

oth

ers

•lim

ited

voc

abul

ary

to d

escr

ibe

thes

e st

ates

•es

peci

ally

wit

h su

btle

sta

tes

How

can

we

help

thes

e in

divi

dual

s de

velo

p th

is sk

ill th

at th

e re

st o

f us

simpl

y ta

ke fo

r gr

ante

d?

?

That

’s w

here

“Th

e Zo

ne”

can

help

The

circ

le is

“Th

e Zo

ne”

It re

pres

ents

w

hat m

ost p

eopl

e ex

pect

to s

ee a

t th

at m

omen

tin

tim

e.

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The

dot i

s th

e cl

ient

Ever

ove

rdre

ss fo

r a

part

y?

Emba

rras

sing,

rig

ht?

Bein

g “O

ut o

f the

Zon

e”

is no

t whe

re y

ou w

ant t

o be

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App

ropr

iate

soc

ial s

kills

re

quire

one

to:

•re

aliz

e a

mes

sage

com

es in

man

y fo

rms

•id

enti

fy w

hen

a m

essa

ge is

bei

ng s

ent

•su

cces

sful

ly d

ecod

e th

e m

essa

ge

•pr

oduc

e an

“ac

tion

pla

n”

•im

plem

ent t

he p

lan

•lo

ok fo

r fe

edba

ck to

ass

ess

it’s

“co

rrec

tnes

s”

•re

vise

as

nece

ssar

y

Cop

ing

Stra

tegi

es•

soci

al r

egre

ssio

n

•fe

ar r

eact

ion

•so

mat

ic c

ompl

aint

s (h

ypoc

hond

rias

is)

•pa

rano

id th

ough

ts &

/or

feel

ings

•d

epre

ssio

n•

clow

ning

to h

ide

ineffi

cien

cies

•po

or s

elf i

mag

e•

pass

ive

aggr

essi

on to

elic

it a

nger

•im

puls

ivit

y

Fact

ors

Lim

iting

the

Abi

lity

to

Reco

gniz

e Em

otio

nal S

tate

s

•ex

cess

ive

conc

rete

rea

soni

ng•

over

use

of li

tera

l int

erpr

etat

ion

•lim

ited

ana

lyti

c sk

ills

•lim

ited

flex

ibili

ty•

limit

ed p

ersp

ecti

ve ta

king

•fo

cusi

ng o

n on

e as

pect

and

not

the

who

le

reac

tive-

depr

essio

n

•po

or s

elf-

este

em

•m

enta

l exh

aust

ion

•fe

elin

gs o

f lon

elin

ess

•be

ing

torm

ente

d

•be

ing

teas

ed

•be

ing

bulli

ed

•pe

ssim

isti

c vi

ew o

n lif

e

•pe

rfec

tion

ist o

utlo

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lem

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fixe

d?

yes

no

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s th

is gu

y us

e th

ese

skill

s?

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don

’t ca

re!

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Why

is it

impo

rtan

t to

care

?

Indi

vidu

als

who

rec

ogni

zed

the

need

for

impr

oved

soc

ial t

hink

ing

had

high

er s

alar

ies

than

thos

e w

ho d

idn’

t rec

ogni

ze th

e ne

ed.

How

lin, P

., A

lcoc

k, J

., Bu

rkin

, C. (

2005

). A

n 8

year

follo

w-u

p of

a s

peci

alist

su

ppor

ted

empl

oym

ent s

ervi

ce fo

r hi

gh-a

bilit

y ad

ults

with

aut

ism o

r A

sper

ger

synd

rom

e. A

utism

9: 5

33-5

49.

Thos

e la

ckin

g so

cial

cog

nitio

n ha

d le

ss p

ositi

ve e

mpl

oym

ent

expe

rienc

es a

nd s

how

ed m

ore

pref

eren

ce fo

r so

litar

y ac

tiviti

es.

Jenn

es-C

ouss

ens,

M.,

Mag

ill-E

vans

, J.,

Koni

ng, C

. (20

06).

The

qua

lity

of li

fe o

f yo

ung

men

with

Asp

erge

r sy

ndro

me:

a b

rief r

epor

t. A

utism

. 10:

403

-414

.

Out

com

e in

AS

was

goo

d in

27%

of

case

s. H

owev

er, 2

6% h

ad a

ver

y re

stric

ted

life,

with

no

occu

patio

n or

activ

ity a

nd n

o fr

iend

s. W

hy?

Poor

aw

aren

ess

of s

ocia

l thi

nkin

g.

Ced

erlu

nd, M

., H

agbe

rg, B

., Bi

llste

dt, E

., G

illbe

rg, I

. C.,

and

Gill

berg

, C. (

2007

).

Asp

erge

r Sy

ndro

me

and

Aut

ism: A

Com

para

tive

Long

itudi

nal F

ollo

w-U

p St

udy

Mor

e th

an 5

Yea

rs a

fter

Orig

inal

Dia

gnos

is. J

ourn

al o

f Aut

ism a

nd D

evel

opm

enta

l D

isord

ers.

38: 7

2-85

.

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But I

onl

y w

ant t

o ta

lk a

bout

the

thin

gs I

like

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ough

some

mam

mals

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y egg

s. Th

e duc

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d, be

aver

taile

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ter-

foot

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us of

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t the

sa

me

thin

gs o

ut o

f the

ir st

uden

ts

as th

eir

stud

ents

w

ant f

rom

thei

r pe

ers?

?

NO

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t’s im

port

ant?

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her

Vie

wpo

int

turn

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ng

pers

pect

ive

taki

ng

logi

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ifica

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oles

cent

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on

pers

pect

ive

taki

ng

voca

l ton

e in

terp

reta

tion

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t’s u

nim

port

ant?

Teac

her

Vie

wpo

int

hum

or c

ompr

ehen

sion

slan

g us

age

nonv

erba

l com

preh

ensi

on

topi

c m

aint

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ce

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oles

cent

Vie

wpo

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eye

cont

act

narr

ativ

e

hum

or c

ompr

ehen

sion

topi

c m

aint

enan

ce

slan

g us

age

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How

ofte

n do

we

com

mun

icat

e?Yo

rkst

on, K

., Ea

die,

T.,

Bayl

or, C

., D

eitz

, J.,

Dud

geon

, B.,

Mill

er, R

., A

mtm

ann,

D. (

2006

) D

evel

opin

g a

Scal

e of

Com

mun

icat

ive

Part

icip

atio

n. A

SHA

200

6 A

nnua

l Con

vent

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mi B

each

.

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% o

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ing

hour

s ar

e sp

ent

com

mun

icat

ing

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king

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din

g

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ting

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h

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akes

it sociable

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to a

bra

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linku

p w

hene

ver

we

enga

ge

wit

h an

othe

r pe

rson

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is li

nkag

e al

low

s m

e

to

aff

ect y

ou a

nd y

ou to

af

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me

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rosc

ienc

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scov

ered

...

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can

that

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k th

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ygda

la

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•H

appi

ness

Surp

rise

Fear

Sadn

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Disg

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ch o

f the

6 h

uman

feel

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ar

ouse

s th

e am

ygda

la th

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ost?

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nger

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ith th

e am

ygda

la?

?

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amyg

dala

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mot

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atio

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the

tone

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nt o

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er a

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es

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stur

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t

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en p

roce

sses

this

info

rmat

ion

subl

imin

ally

, bey

ond

the

reac

h of

co

nsci

ous

awar

enes

s

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n I w

ish to

find

out

how

goo

d or

how

wic

ked

anyo

ne

is, o

r w

hat a

re h

is th

ough

ts a

t the

mom

ent,

I fas

hion

the

expr

essio

n of

my

face

, as

accu

rate

ly a

s po

ssib

le, i

n ac

cord

ance

with

the

expr

essio

n of

his,

and

then

wai

t to

see

wha

t tho

ught

s or

sen

timen

ts a

rise

in m

y ow

n m

ind

or h

eart

, as

if to

mat

ch o

r co

rres

pond

with

the

expr

essio

n.”

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gar

Alle

n Po

em

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The

amyg

dala

inst

antly

rec

ogni

zes

the

emot

ion

we

see

in o

ther

s

•th

e st

rong

er th

e em

otio

n d

ispl

ayed

, the

m

ore

inte

nse

the

amyg

dal

a’s

reac

tion

W

hale

n, P

., Sh

in L

., M

cIne

rney

, S.,

Fisc

her,

H.,

Wri

ght,

C.,R

auch

, S. (

2001

). A

func

tion

al M

RI

stud

y of

hum

an a

myg

dal

a re

spon

ses

to fa

cial

exp

ress

ions

of f

ear

vers

us a

nger

. 1: 7

0-83

.

•w

hen

2 pe

ople

inte

ract

face

-to-

face

, co

ntag

ion

spre

ads

via

mul

tipl

e ne

ural

ci

rcui

ts w

ithi

n ea

ch p

erso

n’s

brai

n

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ch p

ictu

re c

ause

s yo

u m

ore

reac

tion?

•th

e hu

man

bra

in h

as m

ulti

ple

mir

ror

neur

on s

yste

ms

used

to:

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irro

r ac

tion

s

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tent

ions

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ad e

mot

ions

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Soci

al s

kills

dep

end

on

mirr

or n

euro

ns

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fast

doe

s ou

r br

ain

mak

e a

pro

or c

on

deci

sion

abou

t ano

ther

per

son?

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is sli

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aliz

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mes

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ent

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cces

sful

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e m

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“ac

tion

pla

n”

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plem

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lan

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ok fo

r fe

edba

ck to

ass

ess

it’s

“co

rrec

tnes

s”

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vise

as

nece

ssar

y

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ret

urn

to “

The

Zone

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Ever

feel

out

of p

lace

?

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used

mirr

or n

euro

ns to

he

lp y

ou a

naly

ze th

e sit

uatio

n

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nds

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an y

our

eyes

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se y

our

eyes

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r am

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la,

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u ar

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er S

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.

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use

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don’

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t to

be

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of t

he Z

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k ab

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ou?

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d?

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u w

ant m

ore

info

rmat

ion,

chec

k ou

t my

book

s.

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