Download - EQ Business Case Overview 08
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Introducing EQ: Relationship Skills for Optional Performance
EQ Building Blocks
Author: Joshua FreedmanV7-08
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Emotional Intelligence
• Welcome• The Case for EQ• What is EQ?• Next Steps
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Welcome
“Emotional Intelligence helps gild adversity with optimism.”
– Anabel Jensen, Ph.D.
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Objectives
• Key reasons for EQ• Three practical EQ techniques• Know what you can do in six seconds• Motivation for more• One next step
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Learning Process
• Humor• Choice• Multisensory• Interactive
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History
• 1978, Self-Science published.• 1990, Salovey & Mayer article on
Emotional Intelligence• 1995, Daniel Goleman’s
Emotional Intelligence.• 1997, Six Seconds established.• 2007, 6th International NexusEQ
Conference• 2008, Search on “emotional
intelligence” finds over 2,500,000 hits
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“All learning has an emotional base.” - Plato
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More of What You Want
• Personal Success• Academic Success• Business Success
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Personal Results
• Success depends on "mature adaptations" including altruism, humor, self-management, and optimism/anticipation (George Vaillant, Adaptation to Life, 1995).
• People who learn optimism skills are more motivated, more successful, have higher levels of achievement, plus significantly better physical and mental health (Seligman, 1991).
• People who accurately perceive others’ emotions are better able to handle changes and build stronger social networks (Salovey, Bedell, Detweiler, & Mayer, 1999).
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Academic Results
• After EQ training, discipline referrals to the principals dropped by 95% (Johnson & Johnson, 1994).
• EQ training increases focus, learning, collaboration; decreases both negative "put downs" and violence (Anabel Jensen, Self-Science Pilot Study, 2001).
• Children with highly developed social skills perform better academically (Grossman, et al, 1997).
• Children who are able to delay gratification are more popular, earn better grades, and had an average of 210 more points on their SAT tests (Shoda, Mischel, and Peake, 1990).
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Business Results
• US Airforce spent $10,000, saved $2,760,000 in recruitment (Fastcompany June 2000).
• High EQ consulting partners earned 139% more (Boyatzis, 1999).
• 2% business increase for American Express Financial Advisors (Fastcompany "How Do You Feel," June 2000).
• EQ in plant cut accidents 50%, formal grievances 80%, raised topline $250,000 (Pesuric & Byham, 1996).
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- Salovey & Mayer, 1999
Scientific Definition
“Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive emotions; to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought; to understand emotions and emotional knowledge; and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth.”
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Daily-Life Definition
“Emotional intelligence is being smart with feelings so you can developoptimal relationships with yourself and others.”- Six Seconds
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The Six Seconds EQ Model
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EQ Behaviors
EQ is visible in behaviors:
High EQ
Bouncing back
Listening
Empathizing
Risking
Flexing
Including
Low EQ
Blaming
Resenting
Attacking
Stonewalling
Judging
Excluding
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We are most powerful when emotion and thought work together.
Thinking Feeling
Fusion!
EQ is FUSION
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“Know Yourself” Overview
• Enhance Emotional Literacy– Name and understand feelings
• Recognize Patterns– Recognize your typical reactions
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Limbic Brain
Responsible for • Emotion• Attention• Memory
80,000 x the speed of the cortex or “thinking brain.”
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Hijacking
Cortex“Translator” “emotional headquarters”
“Air traffic controller”
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Six Seconds Pause
• Remember six favorite places.• Think of the first line of six songs.• Ponder six favorite romantic moments.
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“Choose Yourself” Overview
• Apply Consequential Thinking– Pause, evaluate costs & benefits.
• Navigate Emotions– Transform feelings to be helpful.
• Engage Intrinsic Motivation– Build internal drivers
• Shift to Optimism– Create new possibilities
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Value Sort Cards
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PPP vs TIE
Optimisttemporary
isolatedeffort lacking
Pessimistpermanentpervasivepersonal
Failure / Adversity
Success / Fortune
Optimistpermanentpervasivepersonal
Pessimisttemporary
isolatedaccidental
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“Give Yourself” Overview
• Increase Empathy– Connect at an emotional level
• Pursue Noble Goals– Put vision into action
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Empathy
• Empathy means feeling in parallel to someone else’s feeling.
• What behaviors does empathy create?
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Noble Goals Support Values
Universal Values• honesty• respect• responsibility• fairness (justice)• compassion (love)Institute for Global Ethics www.globalethics.org
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Power of Role Modeling
“People seem to do 30% of what we say and 70% of what we do.”
-- Anabel Jensen, Ph.D.
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What am I feeling?
What options
do I have?
What’s my empathic and principled choice?
EQ-In-Action
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Action Ideas
Practicing EQ in one area of your life will affect all the others.
• Self• Work• Romance• Family• Community
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Review: EQ Behaviors
What will create more of these? And less of these?
High EQ
Bouncing back
Listening
Empathizing
Risking
Flexing
Including
Low EQ
Blaming
Resenting
Attacking
Stonewalling
Judging
Excluding
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Postcard Commitment
Pick one SMART Objective
Jane Doe
123 Jane’s St
Jane’s Town
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Dear Jane,
Congrats on reading an article on 6seconds.org and sharing the ideas with one person each week!
Love, Jane
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Thank You