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Preface:
People ask what Sexual Capitalism is, and what makes the
company Street Hypnosis Limited different from other
organisations. We don’t teach pick up artistry per say, but the
material we do teach is like the abstract form of covert hypnosis
and PUA. It’s a system that allows us to move targets towards
the destination we want.
The idea came after reading the book Freakanomics, it was
originally just a cool idea “What if there was an approach to
hypnosis/pua combined that didn’t rely on either topic, or even
on psychology… but was kind of like a general abstract approach
of how to make people do what we want.”
That was the formation of the model that eventually become
Street Hypnosis Limited, since then we have lectured and taught
individuals around the world this unique system.
The system can gain access to a strangers bank account, make
them hand over their cold hard cash, instantly believe they are
you girlfriend, and much more…
We decided to write these notes to introduce the topic of
indirect escalation, a topic related to many aspects of the entire
system in the members area of www.streethypnotism.com
Indirect esculation
Attraction is an interesting topic, and I want to begin by
explaining a quote that I read by Tim Ferris,
just to mention you should definitely read Tim’s book ‘Four
Hour Work Week’ which is where he outlines the method he
used to only work four hours a week and still make a fortune,
that guy is ridiculously organised, and he also has an amazing
travel blog…. As he spends all his time flying around the world
and just takes up random hobbies, like for example cage
fighting, he made all his millions by age 24. He’s just a
completely ridiculous guy”.
“So this presentation is going to cover the theory that there is
no actual attraction switch, there is nothing that actually
defines what attraction is… we kind of put attraction as
investment, emotional investment… or we see it as the amount
of energy that someone is putting into a relationship.
When I was studying at LSE, and I did some education in
business economics, and that’s when I realized the Sexual
Capitalism model, attraction or persuasion, or an idea… is
something that economists could call a ‘perfectly competitive
market’ – meaning that we are all competiting against each
other… and because there are infinite men and infinite women
(at least comparatively) thus the level of competition we face is
absolute and perfect.
Attracting the opposite sex or covertly influencing people the
most competitive environment you’ll ever find yourself in for
the rest of your life.
Although I’m sure everything you do now… is in demand… I’m
sure your qualities are great, and your an awesome person,
but… actually competing against infinite number of guys, you
are fighting a losing battle.
Without changing the scenario you are destined to lose, that’s
just the reality of it. But why do I say your destined to lose and
then say attraction doesn’t exist… surely you can’t lose at
competing at a game that doesn’t exist?
Well that’s because attraction only exists when your audience
has hugely invested in you, when you have a complete
monopoly over the choices that she has…
For instance; once she has sent you a ridiculous amount of text
messages, she’s invested in your heavily, spending excessive
amounts of time, multiple dates etc.
It’s like at that point she doesn’t consider any other man an
option, she considers you her only option, which is by definition
in Sexual Capitalism qualifies as a kind of love.
For that reason, I don’t believe in “love” in the typical fairydust,
Disney princess version of it…. Because you can easily create it.
So this is the problem we as humans have, your initially in this
perfectly competitive market, where you’ve got to do
everything you can to get to this place of love, or at least get her
to the place of love.
So according to the model, how do we do that? well the way we
do that is through esculation without getting caught…
Now many reading this are obviously “pro-direct” they are in
favour of this attitude that if you like a girl you should go up and
tell her… I really think that those who are for that approach
really can’t have actually been doing that, or have never tried
because that simply wouldn’t work. It would be the equiverlent
of stopping a music producer in the street and saying “I’m an
artist, I think your great, sign me?”… the answer is no.
Throughout Sexual Capitalism it’s shown how there really isn’t
this clear distinction between direct and indirect in the pick up
sense of the terms… but in the pua community direct really
means you go up to a girl and you initially tell them how
interested you are in them.
Whereas indirect in the pick up artist community means, you go
up to a girl and you never announce your intentions, you never
give them any clue that you like them, and under that
‘protection’ allows you to progress, my attitude is ‘get the
investment and lock them into a monopoly of attraction’ so
they have no choice but to choose you over other options that
are available.
So even though there is no such thing necessarily as “I see you
and instantly I’m attracted”… there are still a few things that
can trigger such a response, and one of these things is cuteness,
babies kittens, things with massive eyes, and things that are
smiling and/or happy.. with these we easily are attracted to
that, we instantly think “oh, I want that”, “I want to look after
that”, “I want to nurture that thing”
This nurturing response of wanting something could be
described as the only spontaneous instant attraction that can,
but, I guess if everyone in the world was doing that anyway..
then you wouldn’t have a monopoly in that case.
The realities are that hypnosis doesn’t work on everyone, and
this is probably the main reason why hypnosis has been
debated amongst the general public, with questions of “does it
exist, doesn’t it exist?” and although that is a problem it’s no
different to saying “pua doesn’t work on everyone” and I’m
going to explain and come back to what we mean by this.
In hypnosis, you know with 100% certainity that the routine you
do you will get the exact response you want, and that can be;
anything, anything under the sun, you can make them take off
their clothes, give you their wallet, tell you their facebook
passwords, pin numbers, that sort of thing. We do, and it’s not
you need eyes closed or anything like that, you can just do it.
And this is why hypnosis is really similar to pick up artistry, its
because “hypnosis doesn’t actually exist” and that’s kind of
been shown in the last two years with new research and
compiled together by Oxford University… there are big massive
books dedicated to showing that hypnosis is just responsiveness
to listening, and that is so close to where PUA it makes them
almost indistinguishable when comparing “so what actually is it”
at that abstract level.
Like take the examples in pua, for instance the “doggy dinner
bowl look” or that sort of thing, this is why we have built a
model that is really interested and working with people outside
of indications of interest, we are going to go on and explain
indications of interest in a moment…
Hypnosis is all about keeping someone focused, keeping them
interested, it is the same as PUA in that sense… you just want
someones attention and the longer you have that for, the more
locked in they are… and the less they are to every other
competition, but the problem is… when you approach people is
that they are going to blow you out in the start of the
interaction… if they have a feeling that your trying to steal their
value… trying to take that from them.
Girls often think “oh the only reason he’s talking to me is
because he thinks I’m hot” if you allow that thinking, then you
don’t stand a chance, it doesn’t matter if we are talking about
standing a chance with hypnosis, or standing a chance seducing
them, or stand a chance offering them a job, or offering to buy
them a drink or a takeaway, or offering to help them with their
university course work… you don’t have a chance full stop.
And of course it’s the same with a guy, if a guy is thinking… well
suppose you try to talk to Theo Paphitis or Richard Branson, and
you ask them help you out, they are just not going to do it, they
don’t have a responsibility to you, and it doesn’t help their life,
its no benefit to them… and they’ve got a billion other people to
give opportunities to, why would they pick you?
Like if you instead opened up with an indirect conversation and
were friends with them a week later, you are in a much more
locked in position and they are more likely to give you money,
and you might only be in a small group of people who has that
opportunity at that point.
The probabilities change with every single test, with every
moment your speaking to someone. It’s like if a guy comes over
and starts talking to the girls in your group, your not going to
want to be his friend if he’s just out there to talk to the girls…
but if instead he came over and was like “hi, mate how you
doing? You having a good evening” then your not really going to
care if later down the conversation he starts chatting up the
girls.
The first guy is just coming across as using people, and the
world is really competitive, so he just doesn’t stand a chance,
and that’s the difference between a natural and a non-natural, a
natural has an ability to notice how the group of people are
responding to the things they say, and their presence in the
group, where the non-natural simply doesn’t have the social
calibration to be able to read the reactions of the group.
So let’s make this simple and just break it down into four simple
easy to remember tips;
1) Talk to everyone,
2) Be indirect
3) escalate
4) be cute
For instance, if you talk the rule talk to everyone, then your
automatically talking to the cock block he’s trying to intercept,
your talking to ‘not the target’ but the girl next to the target.
And the target doesn’t think “oh he’s only come over because
he thinks I’m hot” because your already ‘in with’ her friend.
So if you just take that rule, your much more likely to have a
really good approach…. You know, the pick up artist market has
beel all about the direct approach, but I think everyone now
agrees that the direct approach is shit, take a look at Mystery’s
last book… he publically states “Look we’ve worked so hard to
build a system on how to get attraction, and now you come into
the market and you teach an approach that is completely
against that… is a complete backwards step.
People ask; “What do you class as direct?”
A question asked by a participant said “for example if I say ‘on a
scale of 1-10- how single are you?” he then says “it’s not direct
its just a laugh?”…”it’s just something to have a laugh about”, at
the time responding to this guy I said “hmm, maybe because its
funny… but as long as something is funny it is funny” … I say “its
indirect as long as your having fun, and meanwhile this gives
you the opportunity to do other stuff for example ‘escalating’
which is increasing the amount of touch that your having, plus
you’ve also got physical proximity”.
And that’s the argument, you can turn direct to be indirect.
Looking back at the way I answered that students question, I
really was being a bit light on him though, I should have told
him that he is coming across like ‘her being single is important?’
I really don’t think that joke is very funny, I think it really does
give away your position… I honestly think that approach would
only work on desperate women, I can imagine now the kind of
women that worked for him on… yuk!
Let’s quickly cover the theory of cuteness, no one seems to talk
about cuteness, but cuteness has been really heavily
researched… literally you can make people have this nurturing
response to you, simply by giving them a certain kind of eye
contact, simply by being really emotionally in rapport with
them… I don’t know if this is a good thing to say, but have you
ever spoke to really young like 16 year olds, or 18 year old girls,
they are always really emotionally reactive, they are; ‘happy
when your happy’, ‘sad when your sad’, and they ‘feel that thing
that you feel’ because she’s just so excited she just copies you,
and if you make a loud noise they cry, if you jump up and down
they get really happy… if you kind of have those traits about
you, then people start to feel like they want to look after you,
they want to nurture you, and you don’t come across as a threat
either.
So there are certain qualities that convey cuteness;
i) innocence,
ii) Naivety
iii) Not being cynical about the world.
I don’t know about you guys, but for me, well I feel like when
you hit about age 22 you start becoming really cynical about
everything, you stop believing in faith, in human happiness, in
love, in pretty much every human thing… but if you put a bit of
those things back into your life, people around you feel a lot,
and are going to be a lot more like “awwww… baby”, “I can’t
believe your saying that”, “that is so cute,” if you can get that
response from people your well in!
Other than that, there really is no such thing as physical
attractiveness, it really doesn’t matter what you look like,
everyone wants to look after a baby regardless of perfectly
symmetrical features, or whether its skinny or chubby.
In addition to that, there is Testosterone and Oxytocin, these
are pheronomones that either show that you capable of being
loving, or that you are dominant, now I wouldn’t argue that
dominance itself is an attractive feature, however its probably
more likely that by feeling dominant causes those around you to
also have raised levels of testosterone which causes for
example women to be doubly more likely to fantasize, to act
upon her feelings.
We will go more into to research as to why it is that men seem
better able to detect how much they fantasize etc. but women
may or may not fantasize just as much, and it might even be
double that during the times when her Adrenal levels increase…
for example in a heated debate, or when you watch a horror
film with her, or take her to a theme park.
You know for example, when your with a girl and then suddenly
every girl seems desperate to have you… your entire physical
chemistry and way about you is eluding testosterone and
oxytocin, but forget about buying pheromones, instead focus on
being a positive person, to focus on ‘being cute’ that social
learning then happens, Oxytocin is a phenomone… people call it
the ‘love phernomone’ but its really just a trigger for social
learning, it causes one person to want to learn what’s socially
acceptable off another person, and through that exchange of
values you can condition new responses, learnings, and
progress that in any direction you want, whether it be stealing
their wallet, or whether it be ‘falling in love with you’.
Its just they are basically the same thing really, they are literally,
those people who their eyes light up when you look at them, I
know we haven’t discussed Indicators of interest yet.
Question “But, your mentioning making yourself have big eyes,
however I’m here thinking, yeah but my eyes are just a fixed
size… they aint going to change, I can’t make them change to
attract a girl”.
One of the things you can actually do is increase the size of your
pupils, the more attracted you are to someone, the larger your
pupil size, if you look in the mirror you can actually see your
pupils dilate and contract, the larger they are…”
You can also distort people’s views of you, you can make people
see your eyes as bigger even though they are not… I’ll explain, if
you smile a lot then people are going to remember you for
always smiling, if your always making eye contact, then people
are going to always remember you based on your eyes, and
suddenly it becomes your smile and your eye contact are the
only things about you that they remember.
Your eyes are bigger because they don’t remember any other
perception of you, they don’t have anything else to go on, it’s
like ‘everyone thinks that Justin Bieber is attractive’ because
they see him every day smiling like a puppy on every TV screen,
of course your going to think he’s attractive you have no other
choice… like its just there, because he’s so easy to recall…
It’s like “hmm… who shall I go out with?” like if I ask myself that
now, its hard to actually think of names… so as a resort answers
in my head pop up “oh Britney spears” … and of course I don’t’
fancy Britney Spears… she’s a million billion miles away from my
idea type, but because they are always there then it’s the
easiest option for you when your trying to think of whats
attractive.
Let’s offer some more tips,
i) Recognisability
Which is how memorable you are, building a an avatar, we
can mention peacocking – having items of clothing for
people to grab – does make a massive difference, then they
can make an interaction with you, and open you if they
have something that they can take off you. Like you might
be wearing a feather bower, but then a girl might say “aw
can I have it?” she’s hopefully not asking you because she
wants it, she’s hopefully asking you because she’s trying to
open you… and without the prop she wouldn’t be able to
think of any other interesting way, we could just briefly
mention opening so stuff like cameras “so when girls are
like; ‘oh can you take a photo of us’ you need to ask
yourself “what is she trying to open me?” or is that she
really definitely has to have a photo.
Indicators of interest,
So I’m big into microcalibration, I know others that are out
there right now who are the really good world class
professionals on the market are talking about microcalibration
right now, Mehow does crazy for microcalibration…. From what
I know a lot of the major pick up artists companies are saying
“they’d love to teach microcalibration, they’d love to teach
these things,… but they just don’t believe that students can
learn it, and that’s why they refuse to teach it, because people
just expect to do a boot camp pay a few hundred pounds, or
at best they expect to pay 5,000 pounds for some kind of
residential, and even then for that price, or for that short period
it would be hard to train those people in a set way of how to
recognize IOI’s or ways on how to progress through a
conversation, I think companies that say that they can’t teach
microcalibration are limiting themselves…
I believe that microcalibration can be taught, because with this
abstract model that we outline in sexual capitalism this is what
we teach, we make it simple and easy to understand… by
keeping only the core elements, how can people learn
microcalibration?
In our company we consider microcalibration and indicators of
interest to be one and the same thing, if someone looks really
fasinated and drawn to you… then you know that you can pretty
much progress that however you want.
Some people, who have ‘active disinterest’ the people who
won’t pay you any attention, will just walk off - and you can’t
change that – that’s a really difficult situation to change, like in
the information presented so far I’ve offered some things that
allow you to work the odds to the best of your opportunity, but
your still not going to get the people who have ‘active
disinterest’.
The people you work with do need to have; some kind of
listening to you, some kind of paying attention to your indirect
opener, so when someone leans into you…. So IOI’s aren’t
actually what people think, its more about ‘does someone
follow where I’m going’, ‘do they move in the same manner as I
do’, its more like a compliance test from hypnosis than these
silly things you read in pick up books of ‘when she strokes her
hair’.
It’s like when you step forwards, they should step forwards –
people have no logical reason for doing that, why would she just
comply to what I’ve just said or done. My friend does a thing
where he puts his arm on a girls shoulder and if she lowers her
shoulder where he puts it then, he thinks “OMG.. she has no
reason to do that, she has no reason to do that”.
For example with me, I might shake a girls hand, and if she
squeezes back or I pull her slightly closer and she comes with
me, then I think “omg why is she copying everything I imply she
does” like if you pull someone towards you and they come with
you.
Its like if you say “shall we go to the bar “ or imply that your
going to the bar, do they come straight to the bar with you, or
are they really reluctant, there’s loads of other ways like..
including the rather general traits like ‘flicking her hair’, but
what I’m constantly looking for is compliance, I’m constantly
looking for… NLP pacing and leading, or what’s called a ‘yes set’
in sales. Basically you have people agree to several
statements… take the example of a door to door salesman, he
might start off with “Do you live here?” and the customer
answers “yeah”, and he says “oh you’ve probably heard about
our company haven’t you called … ‘half priced ink’” people tend
to always answer yes to a question, they always seem to
pretend they know something when they don’t.
It’s just that sort of thing, when they are going along that path
of “yes”, “yes”,”yes” your going to keep to it aren’t you.
Because it all makes sense to you, it’s not random that people
do this, they don’t just do this because its some kind of ‘crazy
hypnotic pattern’. Or some kind of ‘crazy pua technique’ they
do this because it all seems connected in their mind. They do it
because, it’s very hard to identify what produces causality in the
world. Why one thing happens and causes another thing to
happen, in fact mathmaticians have done the math on it and
concluded that its actually impossible to process the probability
to work out whether two events are causally related.
Its just an infinitely impossible computation to make, it was the
economist ricardo who worked that out, so when you say
something is connected to something someone is already
responding to – then they typically believe the next thing, and
start going with it… this is because they are copying what your
doing, .
I do this thing with cards, and I know many of you reading this
might not actually use cards but, I do this thing where I show
them a deck of cards and I cut off about half the deck and then
advise them to make a cut, typically they cut the roughly the
same amount of cards as what I myself cut.
The exact words are “pick some cards off and put them on my
hand there, yeah?” they do this because they might not be
familiar with cards, and I’ve kind of pushed them with my
language to make an automatic response, so they simply just
grab a number similar to what I myself cut off.
When I do this, I want the participant to literally pick up the
cards in the exact same number, a person who is following you
to the letter, which we are trying to create will naturally do that,
this is how you can get like a one hundred per cent approach…
this way of thinking.
I’ll give you an actual example, so lets take the example of
yesterday, so I was in a booth, you know a booth in a bar, this
girl was sitting against the dance floor, and there were two of
my mates inbetween me and where this girl was, so I ask one of
my friends to move away for a sec and offer her the opportunity
to sit down.
So this means she sits down just one position away from me,
but still facing the dancefloor, so I leant across my friend and
said “what’s your name” whilst holding out my hand and then I
pull her arm slightly towards me… as if I need to pull her in
closer to hear what she has to say… but I can hear her anyway,
I’m doing that just to get compliance and physical proximity, as
a result… like most people, she complies and leans across my
friend to tell me her name.. .the fact that she has to work hard
and go over an object – leaning across my friend, to talk to me,
means that she is more committed.
So I start to think “that’s 1 compliance - she sat down, that’s
two compliance - she held my hand, that’s three she’s
proximate, that’s four – she’s come in close to hear you.. then
you start to think,” so I say to my friend loudly so she can hear
“can you just let her across” she crawls over my mate, to get to
me and I pull her onto my lap… it’s like, “how much compliance
do you need?” I kiss her a second later, because I tilted my head
and then she tilted her head, I moved in a cm, and she moved in
a cm… she’s just copying everything I’m doing and saying…. This
is the hardcore stuff.
This is really what covert hypnosis and pick up artistry is about…
the abstract philosophy about how people work as economic
beings. We can go through everything else… all the basic
inbetween bits… but this philosophy is the bit you need to really
understand… this is what Sexual Capitalism and my Hypnosis
model is talking about, this is how your supposed to do it.
The way other pick up artist books talk about Indicators of
Interest is, is like ‘oh when a girl flicks her hair’ or ‘looks at you
and smiles’ , those tips are just really general and unfortunately
make IOI’s seem spontaneous, as if they happen all by
themselves and that you don’t actually have to do anything.
No one is actually going to give you an indicator of interest for
no reason, that is pure fantasy she’s got a billion other people
that she can give an IOI to. Why would she necessarily want
you, why does she necessarily think – your valuable – she has no
reason to think your valuable, unless you do something first!
So if you walk into a venue and you instantly get an indicator of
interest, it’s because your peacocking, it’s because your smiling,
it’s because your leaning back, it’s a response to what your
doing, there’s never a spontaneous IOI, there’s always a reason
for it, and if she’s giving you IOI’s and you say “oh what do you
think of nail varnish on guys?”, and pass her your hands to take
a look, and then you take hold of her hands and say “oh I like
your nail varnish” , “you have really smooth hands” then that’s
an IOI, then that’s an IOI… there is no, indicator of interest that
happens magically like the books make it sound, it is all.. caused
by you.
If you give her an IOI and then you turn away, and then she
gives you an IOI back… then its because you gave her an IOI
first, that made her give you the IOI back, there is always a
reason for it, and if I was to throw out an IOI I would just do a
big smile from across the room, a proper un-inhibited smile,
showing your bottom teeth and lasting at least three seconds.
Most people when they are faking emotions they tend to show
them very briefly and expect that to be enough, but it’s only
when you show your emotions for several seconds do people
interpret them as genuine. Doing a short smile will just come
across as fake, it will be just read straight away as fake.
If you want to do a proper smile, smile un-inhibited, smile… big,
that’s how to force an indicator of interest, if you can smile
properly then you will evoke all of the cuteness phenomena, if
your leaning in but with straight shoulders, lift your chin slightly
up, if you lift your eye brows slightly, then people will look at
you, people look at you when you lift your eyebrows slightly up,
if you look up then that makes people look up and feel positive,
whereas if you look down it makes others around you look
down and feel negative.
Just keep your head up, as if your praying to god. As if you were
speaking to the heavens, as if you recognize that life can be
good now.
You know we’ve all met those guys who go into the clubs, and
the reason they are going is because they feel down and they
expect others to be the ones to cheer them up, well that’s just
stealing the energy in the club and trying to use that… you’ve
got to make sure your not one of those guys and instead you’re
the reverse, you’ve got to make it that people want to steal
from you.
You’ve got to be the one that people want, rather than wanting
to be like everyone else, wanting to be like everyone else is just
backwards.
Escalation:
So a lot of the research into escalation that we list actually
comes from Robert Cialdini, many of his ideas about psychology
pretty much have influenced the whole model of persuasion
since he developed the ideas in the 1970’s and 80’s. but there is
always new research coming out and the people writing it are,
for example Richard Wiseman… and his great book 59 seconds.
Let’s take a closer look at the principle of “the sharing of
secrets”, “Eye contact”, “Touch”… when your being indirect
there’s three or four things you want to be doing, and these
things should be done without ‘giving away’ that you’re doing it
to increase the attraction with the intention of ‘getting with
her’.
The way we see it, is that you should use a guise or a gimmick in
order to get… more touch (for example) so you never ‘give
away’ that you really want touch. And other situations to create
the touch, so for example; take the example of being in a
cinema when a guy yawns, and he’s got the popcorn, and he
puts his arm around her indirectly.
That’s like the perfect example of how you can get touch, and
you always use a reason for getting the touch, it’s like when I’m
taking a girl to the bar – the reason I’m taking her to the bar is
because – I’m trying to get more touch to be accepted , I’m
trying to condition that it’s OK to touch.
The reason I’m touching is because “I want to go to the bar” or
the reason I’m touching is “oh I really like this top”, “who’s the
top by?” And I start touching the back of it, or perhaps she lets
me check the label.
Good openers are; handshakes, kissing on the cheek, hugging,
rings, nails, these are all… people say “oh but what do you do
after that” but that’s why you should always have a routine that
connects with it. In sexual capitalism there is an entire section
dedicated to how to use the hands to open up sets, groups, and
routines… but hands is usually the first step to go through when
meeting new people.
Using that step, allows you to jump onto more intensive
progressive routines, or do the intense routines immediately
upon meeting someone… that’s whether you can pull it off? All
of these steps are based on flexibility about whether you can
‘pull it off’.
You can start wherever you want, you just don’t want to look
like your conveying interest, so a way could be to do this would
look like, “I’m getting my hair dyed tomorrow”, “I’m getting it
dyed at Toni and Guy actually…”, “do you know Toni and guy?”,
“Where do you get your hair done?”, “I’m going to get my hair
dyed, I don’t know whether to go darker or lighter… like maybe I
go blonde, or I go literally black.. I guess it all depends on your
look right?”, “What color is your hair naturally?”….”do you ever
wear your hair up, like does it go up?” and then grab their hair
and pull it up, “because you literally look just like a Liberian
when its up”.
That is an example of how you would go into a routine that is
usually further down the escalation line, but can be done by
skipping out all of the earlier steps if you pull it off correctly.
Using that you can create a high level of investment and
interest.
“but you just did this and the girl was laughing” and I said “yeah
but the laughter gives you a cue to do it, it’s the laughter that
makes it acceptable…. In the moment, she doesn’t know what
to do, she’s just being spontaneous in the moment…”.
It’s like a card trick, you make the conversation to have them
focus on something, or distract them, and while they are
focusing on that you do the secret move you don’t’ want
anyone to say. Well with pick up it’s the same, you want to be
talking about showing them things and while your doing this
you increase the level of interaction, by escalating in the
defined areas we’ve already covered.
For example I’ve got the two of clubs, I take the two of clubs
and I put it down on the table, and it turns straight into the ace
of spades, the reason why it turned into the ace of spades is
because I’m acting as if it turned into the ace of spades and that
makes it more convincing. And also the switch wasn’t when you
were looking for the switch…
And that’s exactly my point, the laughter, the conversation,
creates a misdirection that allows the moment when you
increase the level of sharing and commitment, and that’s the
path to success, as long as you progress down that path… your
in.
Every single step of the way that your progressing down
towards the relationship from meeting them is constantly using
a misdirection, is constantly using an escalation to jump to the
next stage.
And the more stages you go through, the more escalation you
have, then its solved, the jobs done. One point on esculation is
that if you don’t esculate and say in that moment for whatever
reason in that moment you go for a kiss, it will be really
awkward. If you’ve got to know someone but you’ve not been a
touchy feel person, and then suddenly try to touch them… no it
will put them off.
You know a lot of guys who are natural’s would read this and
think…”yeah but can’t you just do all that by just dancing with a
girl?” For a lot of guys they can’t, or they’ve forgotten how
because they’ve been in a long term relationship, or maybe
they’ve never been properly out before, or their career has got
in the way, or they’ve simply just forgotten how or why to
dance with girls, it’s not something they can even think of…
dancing is far more complicated a calibration activity than
anything I’ve mentioned here.
The amount of things you have to check before you can/should
dance with someone, you know there is a way of tapping a girl
on the shoulder or on her side effectively and seeing if she turns
when you tap her… which counts as an IOI or you might have to
literally get her eye contact, smile, its all got to happen
correctly, like dancing doesn’t really happen unless you’ve
already got the acceptance first.
Gimmick openers
There’s some openers that are like “can I borrow this chair?” or
“can I sit just here?” or “do you have a lighter?”, that’s why we
call them gimmick openers because they rely on some kind of
gimmick as the distraction for the opener, and then your
already into the conversation..
Building routines
Because I seem passionate about what I’m talking about then its
an opener and it’s never conveying interest.. so I might talk
about the bar “oh I love Vodka Revolution, I’m actually a
magician in the other one across the city”, “Like do you always
come here or do you ever go to somewhere else in town?” ,
“omg we’re going there later, it would be so cool just to be
maybe see you there, if I send you a text maybe we can meet up
in a bit?” then you pass them your phone and you get them to
type it in.
This works because you’ve already got this commonality; you’ve
already got this massive compliance and she’s already
responded to your situational opener. She has no reason not to
pass you her number at that point. Not that number closes
mean anything, I mean she might not reply, but if she does
reply, then you’ve got another IOI and then you’ve got a
girlfriend.
I really prefer savoy things, testosterone, apparently beers got
loads of estrongen in it… maybe that’s what’s making me such a
girl… “are you kind of a girly girl, or you kind of a tom girl?” , “oh
really, I bet your well stronger than me then,” , “show me your
girly muscles”… “ah their pretty big, I think I’d lose in a fight”,
“do you ever thumby wars?”… play them…
I know so many short guys who get so many girls, because all
the girls are like “omg he’s so cute” and I’m thinking ‘what like is
it because he’s like a baby?’ so there was a list of routines that
I’ve just rolled out there.
Another example of a opener could be bumping into someone
and saying “oh sorry I didn’t mean that “, I always use an opener
that is a way of esculating straight to touching their face, which
is another way of touching their face. “oh my god someone just
hit me earlier, do I have a massive bump on my head, just touch
my head” and then put their hand towards your forehead,
“maybe everyones head is always like that?, what does your
head feel like” and then touch their head…. “your head’s just
really bumpy”… and then I’m literally holding onto her head
“aww bless, so cute,” and then kiss her forehead…. Because
your already there anyway and you’ve got acceptance.
It’s just a joke on how much stuff you can do.
Now let’s go into more detail on hand routines, specifically hand
routines, these are probably the order you should do them, but
you can always change the order .. shaking hands, hugging,
kissing on the cheek, leading them to the bar, leading them
somewhere.
“Do my hands feel soft to you?”, “I know some people actually
moistize their hands, but my hands are just soft aren’t they?” …
they are genuinely soft hands,… let me feel your hands?”, “your
hands are really rough, do you work really hard or something?” ,
“my hands clearly have not worked a day in their life.”, other
routines could be “your really pale” , “your really tanned”,
“who’s more tanned?”.
I might crack my fingers infront of her and ask “do you ever
crack your fingers?”, I might then say “annoyingly I can only
crack this side of my body..” my left side, and I crack them like
this (cracks fingers) then I start playing with their hands again,
and I begin trying to crack their fingers (as a joke)… I say “don’t
worry I’m not going to hurt you” obviously she tries to stop me
“I’m only going to hurt you in the end anyway (smile smugly)”.
Another routine I use “Wait… are you double jointed?”, “really
no, you look like a double jointed person, do you ever do
gymnastics … your thumb goes all the way back like this doesn’t
it?” (start bending her thumb back), “why is your thumb not
going back?” (everyone laughs), “they think your going to break
their thumb”, There’s other stuff to talk about later on in the
routine, like the length of their fingers – what they maybe
means for the oestrogen or testosterone levels. Basically the
longer the first finger is, the more testosterone you have, the
shorter it is the more oestrogen you have. From this routine I
might go into “good girl vs bad girl”, or “tom girl, vs girly girl”
but really you can just go onto any routine,.
For example the eye contact routine, I say “omg your eyes are
ridiculously blue, do you know blue eyed people are going to go
extinct in 70 years because the brown eyed gene is more
dominant” I need to warn you about talking science in
nightclubs, people do get confused and you need to keep the
information as simple as possible, make things as immediately
obvious as you can, and make sure your as clear as you can be.
Especially when travelling to other cultures, you will lose so
much compliance and rapport if you make it complicated.. so I
make sure I only talk about immediately obvious things when
I’m in interaction with a girl or a group. “omg this chairs really
weird” … “it reminds me of like a hospital chair” (talking about a
funny looking chair) I’m just stating something that everyone
can relate to and interactive with.
For instance, the old pick up stories like “yeah my cousin just
called and he saw a fight outside and then my mobile phone
broke” but there is stuff you could talk about and no one would
have clue about, like your job for example, if you do a specific
job like accounting and she has no clue about accounting or
keynsian economics.
You know there is some stuff to say about palm reading, but
honestly it’s not a good habit to be reading peoples palms
because often you have to deliver personality readings that
often lock people into a limited way of thinking rather than
freeing them.. so I would try and avoid it, I have done a lot of
palm reading and you really do end up being passed around the
club, bar, etc as some kind of psychic and you cant’ seem to get
out of it, and nothing you tell someone is ever good news.
With regards to handshakes, when I go to shake a girls hand I
might say “omg you’ve got like really tiny hands, it’s like my
hand could easily dominate your hand” and that might be an
excuse to play something like thumby wars, or it might be an
excuse to have her show you her muscles.. and then your doing
well again, or jump to the more higher level routines like face
routines, smelling perfume.
You can say “I’ve got new perfume on” and then they smell you,
and then this an be a good excuse to smell them “oh what does
yours smell like?” sometimes if you turn the routine on yourself
first then it looks more spontaneous when you come back and
do it on her, rather than it looking like “oh I’m picking you, I
want you and that’s why I’m doing this routine”.
Playing with someones face; “oh your such a baby” squeezing
their cheeks, kissing their forehead, “ oh my god.” “Chubby
cheeks”. Oh my god your earrings, I bought some of those for
my ex actually, it’s a bad story.. if done in the right way you can
just say anything.
For example “oh my god, your blonde, it really suits you”. See if
they can curl their tongue up, “you’ve got a really small tongue,
how long is your tongue?” , “can you touch your nose with your
tongue… you can no way!”, because then you’ve already got
that interaction with her tongue, we’re just trying to make it
easy for her to recall these things, more easy for her to use
those parts of her body.
Sharing of secrets
I don’t necessarily see getting her to share information as an
essential stage, you can just esculate through the compliance,
you don’t need to always learn about her, but sometimes you
might need to appreciate that she wants you to identify her
unique story, and by you having value information about her
forms a monopoly, an investment with you. So lines to get
information out of girls “so what university did you go,” ,
“where are you from?” , “what do you do?” these questions
don’t just ask them and move onto the next question… don’t do
that, please listen to her response.
Please paraphrase her, and if she says “I went university in
Kent” say “OMG I’ve got a friend who lives in kent, I’ve been
down there before… its amazing, its like I don’t know how to
describe it, it’s that kinda town” and she might interrupt and
you then say “yeah, yeah, yeah.. oh” … “whats the club called”
and then she mentions the name “ I bet you used to get drunk
in their all the time, oh I bet your awful in university” …. If you
just dragged out that one bit of information you can get so
much room out of it, it can easily last about twenty minutes.
Don’t be like “where do you go, what do you do, where do you
work at?” then suddenly the conversation is over.. I’ve kind of
spoke loads about microcalibration in the beginning but what
I’m trying to say is if someone gives you microcalibration in the
start, then its already over… you’ve already pretty much done
the entire routine… A lot of these routines they already pretty
much rely on fascination anyway, so you pace and lead their
entire response every step of the way, then you could just close
them instantly. Unfortunately very few of us do it, because we
don’t read the signals as closely as we should, but the reality is,
this is the exact same thing I do when I’m trying to hypnotize
someone, and this is the exact same thing I do when I’m trying
to get someone. The sequence is just identical. If you know with
100% certainity that you could (if you chose) hypnotized them
(and that doesn’t exist) so then why not just close them, just
pace and lead!
Next topic: “No kiss is ever planned”
Every kiss is always spontaneous, it has to be that you are both
mirroring, you are both doing some kind of mimicking social
phenomena… instead of worrying about how much do you lean
in when you are trying to encourage a kiss, what you should do
already is just do a ‘soft test’ to let you know that the kiss is on.
What you should have done is escalated so you have that
physical proximity in the first place, we could for example used
routines such as hugging, and other physical routines to have
broken down the barriers, like the hair dye routine “do you
think I should get my hair dyed, I have an appointment
tomorrow?”, “do you think my hair is really soft, I always think”
and then put their hand on your head, or maybe in response to
you pulling her hair she immediately pulls your hair as a
response, then its like… she’s pulling my hair, its obvious why
she’s pulling my hair because she wants to have ‘that’ with me.
But usually you tilt your head, then she will tilt her head as a
response, it’s like what I’m saying about the cards, where they
put the exact amount of cards and put them on their hand. They
tilt their head as a response to you, your like syncing, as if your
bodies are becoming similar, she might even start using your
words, using the way you smile, following your expressions,
following your happiness or sadness through the conversation,
sitting how your sitting, leaning into you, leaning back on your.
A lot of short people do this amazing thing you know, a lot of
short people, get the girl to talk into their ear, because they are
like the baby. So the guy does it first, and then the girl will do it
back, and then you’ve immediately got that proximity that
makes it easier to go for the kiss, because its only the difference
from talking really close, to them talking really face on. If it feels
like a kiss close, if it feels like her as if you could kiss, and she
has no restrictions to kissing you… then she will kiss.
Then there’s the European kiss, now to do this in England you
have to be very friendly and flirty to get away with two kisses,
or at least take it rather serious like you’ve travelled a lot, that
you have friends in Europe or that you have suddenly returned
back from there. Sometimes with the European kiss I might kiss
on one cheek and then the other cheek, and I move over the
face to move over to the other cheek, so there is a moment
when they are wondering whether we are going to kiss and I
make eye contact, the only reason I do it like that is to see if
they will lean in spontaneously as if they are about to kiss me.
If they do lean in and try and get a kiss out of it, then you have
the choice. Although it’s probably best to wait a few moments,
then kiss them now you know that you can do it. “what do you
think your doing?” you can pull her up on it, like mention that
she’s the one who’s after the kiss, by somehow making her
indirectly realize that is what she was trying to do, and then kiss
her.
That way you’ve made her internalize the belief, as a result of
her spontaneous movement, as she reflects on what she did,
she will come to the conclusion “yes I did want to kiss him… “
and now she will confirm in her head all the reasons of how
she’s attracted to you.
The point is, with the indirect esculation approach outlined
here, she will never know at any point that she’s attracted to
you throughout this routine – it would just get a close anyway,
but opportunities like the ‘soft test’ kiss close above give her the
rare opportunity to consider how much she fancies you.
Until now she was just automatically responding, but she only
knows she’s attracted to you, or becomes attracted to you
when shes losing it, when its running away from her, “oh I was
going to kiss him, now he’s not letting me kiss him”, and now
she’s like “damn, I really did want to kiss him”. Until then she
never knew she wanted to kiss you, she had no concept, the kiss
was spontaneous”
You have to build up that tension…
Let’s talk about the number close,
There is a set way of doing it, as oppose to a lot of other PUA
routines that might be very flexible, the number close is really a
set thing that should be done a certain way that just works. You
should do it this way everytime.
You make an excuse, like a false time constraint “oh I’ve got to
get back to my friends in a minute”, “oh I’ve got to make a
phone call in a minute” and then you hand her your phone, and
you have drop in there’s a party on next, or a festival, or about
the university she goes to and her friend there, or just to get her
facebook details later on, or whatever..
But unless there is fascination, then there is no point doing any
of this, there is no point doing a number close on an
unfasinated girl, unless you’ve achieved compliance here, then
she’s not going to be compliant to a text message you sent.
The number close is “I’ve got to get back to my friends”, you
hand them your phone, then you say “lets do this thing… you
love coffee right?... I’ll send you a message and we’ll go for
coffee” and that’s it, and then you send them a message and go
for coffee.
Or the typical number close that we use in daygame goes, “you
going out tonight?”, “oh no way we’re probably going out
there?”, “you going out with your friends yeah?” “me and my
friends are coming down, I’ll send you a text if we get anywhere
near there”, pass her your phone and say” just put your number
in?” and then you’ve got it, and you go… It all makes sense, as
to why your getting the number, it’s never conveying interest
still.
We’ve never mentioned full closing still.
But it would go like this, there’s always a reason that you can
casually hook up “your watching a DVD, you’ve got nacho’s in
your fridge, you’ve got some takeaway, come back to yours to
save money on taxi fair” there’s always an excuse. The only
reason you can tell someone you like them, is when your
already in love and that’s after the third time.
And that’s it really, thanks for enjoying this introductory guide. I
just thought I would share the presentation, and model that
really was produced roughly into the beginning when I started
writing Sexual Capitalism.
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