Download - Interpersonal Relationship
Stages, Theories, and Communication
Ahyana Presley | Olivia Criss |Thuy Le | Dominic Interlicchia
November 18, 2013
Contact
Involvement
Intimacy
Repair Deterioration Dissolution
• Perceptual
• Interactional
• Testing
• Intensifying
• Interpersonal Commitment
• Social Bonding
• Intrapersonal Repair
• Interpersonal Repair
• Intrapersonal Dissatisfaction
• Interpersonal Dissatisfaction
• Interpersonal Separation
• Social/ public Separation
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Perceptual Interactional
• See, hear, read a message
• View a photo or video
• Smell the person
• Superficial
• Relativelyimpersonal
Elements to form a mental & physical picture along with
gender, age, beliefs, values,
height, etc.
Basic information is exchanged &
preliminary to more involvement with the
person
Testing Intensifying
Whether your initial judgment is true
Reveal more of yourself, amp up your affections to move to next level of the relationship
• What school are you attending?
• What are you majoring in?
Gifts, cards, flowers, flirting, or becoming sexually intimate
t h e s e n s e o f mu t u a l i t y o f
b e i n g c o n n e c t e d d e v e l o p s
DO’S DON’TS
Compliment Inappropriate
Compliment
Flirting
Introduceyourself
Make eyecontact
Drawn-outintroduction
Blink a lot or stare profusely
InterpersonalCommitment
Social Bonding
Committing yourself further and establishing
a deeper connection with the person who becomes your best or closest
friend
Two people agree to be committed to
one another in a confidential
manner
Public “outing” of the commitment made by two
people, usually in front of family and friends. Unit
is formed.
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IntrapersonalDissatisfaction
InterpersonalDissatisfaction
Everyday interactions
become unsatisfying
and the future begins to look bleak unlike
before
Spend less free time together, withdraw and grow farther
apart
Occurs when the bond between two individuals becomes weak
IntrapersonalRepair
InterpersonalRepair
Analyze what went wrong
and consider ways of fixing the problems
Both partners will discuss, the problem, what changes they would like to see and what both parties are willing to
do
InterpersonalSeparation
Social/PublicSeparation
Living separate lives, possibly in
different apartments
Comes in the form of divorce
if a married couple or avoidance
and the return of the “single
life” if in a committed relationship
Bonds are broken and the unit
reverts back to individuals
Contact
Involvement
Intimacy
Repair Deterioration Dissolution
EXIT
EXIT
EXIT
EXIT
Exit Arrows:each stage
presents an exit strategy
Vertical Arrows:move to a more or less intense stage
Self-reflexive Arrows:stabilization
Turning PointsRelationship
Liscence
Important events that can change the direction of the
relationship and create consequences for the individuals involved
Permission to break some relationship rule as a result
of your stage in the relationship
• Mostly positive but can be negative
• Vary with culture
• Varies with the stage of the relationship
• Intimate VS non-intimate relationships
• Can be reciprocal
• Varies across cultures
• Can be negotiated mostly nonverbally and in small increments
5 Factors
Similarity
Proximity
Reinforcement
Physical Attractiveness
Personality
People form relationships on
the basis of attraction
Relationshipare held togetherby an adherenceof certain rules
FriendshipRules
Family Rules
RomanticRules
WorkplaceRules
A person engagedin a relationship
experiences internaltensions causing therelationship to be in a constant state
of flux
Common InternalTensions
Closeness & Openness
Autonomy & Connection
Novelty & Predictability
WHY relationships develop?
WHAT happens when they develop?
BREADTHhow many topics
are talkedabout
DEPTHthe degree to
which you penetrate the core of the
other individual
DEPTH
BREATH
Superficial
Intimate
Personal
Core
Depene-tration
Profits Rewards Costs
MoneyStatusLove
InformationGoodsServices
Results Obtain Avoid
ComparisonLevel
COSTS REWARDS
Relatively proportional
Equitable relationships = Greater Satisfaction
Inequitable relationships = Greater Dissatisfaction
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Office Worker Scientist
Housework Brainwork
Dissatisfaction
Complaints
+ -Respect
ContributeAcknowledge
To be thought
of highly
To be autono-mous
Rules violated = Relationships deteriorate
Rules maintained = Relationships maintained
Be nice
Communicate
Be open
Give assurances
Share joint activities
Be positive
Focus on Self-improvement
Be empathic
Communication Patterns
Withdrawal
Decline in self-disclosure
Deception
Positive messages decrease
Negative messages increase
Strategies of disengagement
Positive tone to
preserve relationship
Justification to explain breakup
Negative identity management
De-escalation to reduce intensity
Dealing with a break-up
Break loneliness-depression cycle
Take time out
Bolster self-esteem
Remove uncomfortable relationship symbols
Be mindful of your relationship patterns
Interpersonal Repair
Recognize the problem
Engage in productive
conflict resolutions
Pose possible solutions
Affirm each other
Integrate solutions into normal behavior
Risks
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Intrapersonal Repair
Stimulus-Response View
AttackCriticismAttackCriticism
Circular View
Attack
Criticism
Attack
CriticismRemember
punctuation