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Ten Tunes to Play Life
Social Etiquette Public Seminar
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Define Life……..
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One Tool to Play Life Right..
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Define Trial….
• Trying to take something away from somebody else
• Reflected in competition• Where results are often sharply
focused• Where freedom may be lost• Where money may be taken away• When the world starts coming after
you
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Destroying Attitude Patterns
• DenialFail or resist to see WHAT IS
• Making initial assumptionFail to test for truth or accuracy
• InertiaParalysis caused by fear
• Deceptive maskingWear a mask & forgetting your real needs
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Right or Happy
No good time, no better time
It is Right Now
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Life Ten Tunes to Play It Right
1. You either get it, or you do not2. You Create your own experience3. People do what works4. You cannot change what you do not
acknowledge5. Life rewards action6. There is no reality only perception7. Life is managed, it is not cured8. We teach people how to treat us9. There is power in forgiveness10.You have to name it before you can claim it
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Tune One: You either get it, or you do not
Strategy Become one of those who gets
it
Break the code of human nature
find out what makes people tick
Learn why you and other people do what they do, and do
not do what they do not.
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What is “IT”…..
• Code of life• Is it relationship?• Is it self-management?• Is it career competition?• Is it emotional life?
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To Get “IT”
• Be prepared with necessary information
• Be prepared with required skills• Pay attention • Make adjustment• Do not miss the time• Will to learn to make better choices
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To Get “IT” recognize the EDGE
• Existing1. Instinctual2. Involuntary3. Reactive self preservation4. Primary goal from one day to another
• Living 1. Exercise of certain learned skills2. Attitude 3. Abilities
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To Get “IT” Keep a Primary Goal
• Have a quality of experience• Keep unique and rewarding
experience• Skills needed are “Understanding” &
“Controlling”• Make it “Happen” the way you “Want”• Learn “Why” & “How” you do what
you do• Do not “Do” what they do not “Do”
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“knowledge” if you want to Get “IT”
• Knowledge gives you an incredible edge• Knowledge makes you the one to control• Knowledge makes you “The One” every
ones “Follow”• Knowledge makes you enjoy special
peace of mind• Knowledge makes you confident• Knowledge makes you know the buttons• Knowledge makes you predict• Knowledge is POWER
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Hardest Part of Knowledge
• In learning something new, is unlearning the old way of doing it…….
• You must be careful and discriminate about where and from whom you accept input…..
• Know the fact, but do Know the Ropes……
• Get the Map, Plan and Time Table if you want to Know….
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Your Life Strategy & Involving People
• Overcome their resistances & excuses• Get them to accept your view of the
world
HOW?• Let them find similarities between you
and your values and their own• Find similar things, both of you can
deal in with
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Tune Two: You create your own experience
Strategy Acknowledge and accept accountability for your
life
Understand your role in creating the results that are your life
Learn how to choose better so you have best
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You are Accountable….
• If you are successful or unsuccessful
• If your relationships are on the rocks
• If you are happy or sad• If life is fair or unfair
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You cannot find a link
between your problem
and yourself
Mistreat and
things won’t get better
Misdiagnose every problem
If you do not accept
accountability
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To be Accountable…Ask Yourself
• What is the life circumstance that I do not like?
• What did I do to arrange the situation so that it happened in the way that it happened?
• What did I do to make the result possible?• Did I trust foolishly?• Did I miss important warning signs?• Did I fail to be clear about what I wanted?• Did I choose the wrong person?• Did I choose the wrong place?• Did I have the wrong reason?• Did I fail to take needed action?• Did I fail to require enough of myself?• Did I need to start certain new behaviors?
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You are a Victim………
You are not a Victim………..
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I Own the Problem……..
The Problem is in ME
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I am a Victim…..Because
What happened to me as a child
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Difference Between Child & Adult
Child• Does not have the
knowledge• Does not have the
power to choose• Reacts• Powerless• Cannot choose
the source
Adult• Has the
knowledge• Has the power to
choose • Acts• Powerful• Can choose the
source
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How to Create your own Experience?
When you Play, you Pay……
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When you Choose?
• When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences
• When you choose the thoughts, you choose the consequences
• When you choose the thoughts, you choose the physiology
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Choose
Behavior Results Experience
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Self Physiological Programming
Mental Programming•Low/High-self esteem•Low/High-self confident
Behavioral Programming•Anger-Peaceful
•Bitterness-Sweetness
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Real World Choices…You Choose….
• Where to be• How to act• What to say• What to do• Whom to be with • What to concentrate on• What to believe• When to go along• When to resist• Whom to trust• Whom to avoid
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Tune Three: People do what works
Strategy Identify the payoffs that drive
your behavior and that of others
Control the payoffs to control life
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Tune Four: You cannot change what you do not
acknowledge
Strategy Get real with yourself about
life and everybody in it
Be truthful about what is not working in your life
Stop making excuses and start making results
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Tune Five: Life rewards action
Strategy Make careful decisions and then pull the
trigger
Learn that the world could not care less about thoughts without actions
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Tune Six: There is no reality; only perception
StrategyIdentify the filters through which you view the world
Acknowledge your history without being controlled by it
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Tune Seven: Life is managed, it is not cured
Strategy Learn to take charge of your life and hold
onThis is a long ride
You are the driver every single day
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Tune Eight: We teach people how to treat us
StrategyOwn, rather than complain about, how people treat you
Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you
want
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Tune Nine: There is power in Forgiveness
Strategy Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to
you
Take your power back from those who have hurt you
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Tune Ten: You have to name it before you can
claim itStrategy
Get clear about what you want and take your turn
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Thank You