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The Nature of Hierarchy and the Curse of Social Comparison
Loretta Graziano Breuning, PhD Inner Mammal Institute
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We are told that nature is GOOD
and civilization is the cause of all BAD
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But it’s complicated.
Life is not all warm and fuzzy in the state of nature.
(bachelors fighting for rank in San Fran. Bay) (nearby statue suggests it’s family love)
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Social dominance promotes survival in the state of nature, and natural selection built a brain that rewards it with a good feeling.
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serotonin is the good feeling
plus the relief of cortisol
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When two mammals see the same food or mating opportunity, one of them will go for it, and the other will withdraw to avoid harm.
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Serotoninflows in the one who goes for it.
Cortisolis relieved in the one who avoids harm.
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Conflict is avoidedunless both individuals perceive
themselves as dominant.
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Don’t they share? When it promotes their genes.
(Examples make headlines and boost careers.)
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In a classic study, a one way mirror was placed between an alpha vervet monkey and his troop. (Michael T. McGuire 1975)
The alpha made his usual dominance gestures but his troop did not respond with submission gestures because of the mirror. His serotonin fell, and he got very agitated.
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Each brain compares itself to others and generates an expectation.
Natural selection built a brain that compares itself to othersas if your lifedepended on it.
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Social comparisonis more primal than food or sex.
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Mammals need groups to survive. Mammals evolved a brain that allows stronger
and weaker individuals to live side-by-side. It works by making constant social judgments.
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Brain chemicalsmediate these judgments.
Neurochemicals create a good feelingwhen you see a survival opportunity and bad feeling when you see a survival threat.
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Brain chemicals motivate a mammal to go toward things that meet needs
and avoid things that may hurt.
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Humans experience these chemicals as happiness and unhappiness
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It’s not aggression. It’s a calm expectation that
your needs will be met.
Serotonin is thegood feeling thatyou will get the food or mating opportunity.
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Serotonin is found in amoeba, mollusks, fish, frogs, reptiles, and mammals.
Most of your serotonin isin your stomach. It prepares you to digest and feel satisfied.
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In the human world, laws and norms train youto restrain the impulse to grab foodand mating opportunity.
But your mammal brain is always looking for ways to stimulate serotonin and avoid cortisol.
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Animals don’t use words to label their urges.
Humans focus on words and tend to underestimate the power of their neurochemical impulses.
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Serotonin is called confidence, pride,getting respect, or arrogance(depending on whether it’s you or a rival).
Cortisol is called anxiety, or stress or fear or pain (depending on the quantity)
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If a mammal avoided ALL conflict, it would never eat or mate
Natural selection built a brain skilled at choosing when to go for it and when to withdraw
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The mammal brain rewards you with a good feeling when you do things that
promote your genes.
And it warns you with a bad feeling when you see a potential threat to your genes.
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When somebody one-ups you, it feels like they’re killing you because your cortisol rises as your serotonin falls.
You don’t consciously think that, but theone-down position meansdeath to your genes in the state of nature, and your inner mammal responds accordingly.
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Your brain seeks the one-up position because it feels good.
Others are much worse,you probably think. See? Your brain just put you in the one-up position.
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Raging at the powerful puts you in the one-up position
and it feels good
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When others seekthe one-up position,
it gets on your nerves
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But when you seek it, it feels like you’re just
doing what it takes to survive.
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The mammal brainlearns from rewards and pain.
Each brain turns its neurochemicals on and off with circuits paved by past rewards and pain.
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Animals avoid pain by avoiding individuals who might inflict pain.
Animals seek pleasure by repeating behaviors that triggered their happy chemicals in their prior experience.
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They end up with habits that look like the social patterns of the human world.
Long before the invention of money, humans struggled for social position because it felt good.
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I am not saying we should create social hierarchies to feel good.
I am saying that if you filled a room with people who object to social hierarchies, they would soon create a hierarchy based on how much they object.
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We hate to imagine cute furry creatures struggling for social dominance.
But the evidence is abundant, and always linked to “reproductive success.”
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You don’t equatereproduction with success.
But you have inherited brain structures common to all mammals.
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Your neural pathways were paved by happy chemicals.
Each brain wires itself to repeat a behavior that triggered a good feeling.
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We don’t see this in ourselvesor in the social allies who
help us get ahead because the mammal brain thinks without words.
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We easily see one-upping behavior in those we disagree with.
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I’m not saying all dominance-seeking behaviors are equal.
I’m sayingwe are not objective judges of other people’s dominance-seeking.
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The bigger an animal’s brain, the more complex its one-upping behavior.
A big brain has enough extra neurons to rewire itself whenever the social hierarchy changes.
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Small-brained animals have very simple social hierarchies
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They fight each herd mate once at puberty and don’t rewire their responses
until higher-ranking individuals die
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Herd animals spend their lives pushingtoward the center of the herd
where it’s safer from predators.
When they’re too weak to push, they end up around the edges where they’re picked off by predators.
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Primates constantly re-negotiate their social standing.
They groom friends who help them oppose common rivals.
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One-upping behaviors vary widely from species to species.
But in every case they help spread the genes of one-upping brains.
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1. female coalitions with males and other females shape the dominance hierarchy
2. females are highly aggressive in species where they dominate (ie. hyena, meerkat, macaque)
3. females compete relentlessly for the “best” male genes, and the best food and safety for their offspring
females too
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Survival ratesare low inthe state of nature, but your ancestors succeeded at reproducing.
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You have inherited a brain that makes social comparisons as it looks for
ways to feel good and avoid harm.
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When your physical needs are met, your inner mammal invests its energy
in the pursuit of social rewards
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This is whya bad hair day or a raised eyebrow can trigger deeply threatened feelings when you’rebasically safe
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This is why two children with good lives will fight over who gets the red cup
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Humans have been managinga mammal brain since they first walked the earth.
We are each responsible for managing our mammal brain.
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But when you look into the details, you find social hierarchies everywhere, and people put their gods into social hierarchies too.
We like to believe that early man was egalitarian.
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We would like to be happy every moment. We may even think of it as a right.
But it’s not realistic to expect peak happiness all the time. The brain only releases happy chemicals in short spurts.
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Then you have to do more to get more. Your brain habituatesto whatever it has,so it always needs MORE rewards to get the samehappy chemicals.
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This is why we strive so frantically to stimulate happy chemicals and avoid cortisol.
Managing such a brain is the challenge that comes with the gift of life.
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The urge to save the world or rescue others
is a way to seek the one-up position.
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Sometimes it leads to good. Sometimes it doesn’t.
(enabling, tyrants, cults, gangs, mafias)
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But it never leads to perpetual happiness because the mammal brain only releases the happy chemicals in short spurts and you have to do more to get more.
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It’s not easy being a mammal.
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It’s not easy beinga serotonin-seeking big-brained primate.
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I, Mammal Why Your Brain Links Status and Happiness by Loretta Graziano Breuning
$10.99 paper $6.99 ebook We mammals live in groups for protection from predators, but group life can be frustrating. Mammals seek social dominance because it stimulates their serotonin. You can feel good without “junk status”if you understand your mammal brain. This book shows how.
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making peace with the animal inside
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Wire in new ways to stimulate happy chemicals and avoid cortisol
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For example, I compare myself to my ancestors, and my daily task list. And I come outon top!
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what about bonobos?
other questions? contact me
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Can we talk?Do you dare have thoughts that are not politically correct?
Your social ties may be at risk, so your oxytocin falls and cortisol rises. It’s not easy being mammal.
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