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Advice

Teachings

Friendship

Communication

Good ExampleThru Virtuous

Living

Strong Prayer Life

Child’sRole

Strong Intellect- Knowledge

Grow in TRUST

Become more Mature &

Responsible

Strong Will-Practice of

Virtues

Attain true Freedom

-the power tochoose & do

good

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Parenting is not automatic. It has to beLearned.

Advice

Friendship

Communication

Good Example thruVirtuous Living

StrongPrayer Life

You cannot give what you do not have. Startlearning new things.

What are your kids’Interests? Do you enjoy& laugh together? QualityTime is long time

Teachings

Genuine interest, not investigative Non judgmental Not 1-way; listen 80%

Emphasize discipline on self, not a controllingstyle on kids

Set Family Prayer Time Know your faith deeply Do not force,be creativ& encouraging

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Know many useful things. Research the internet: management principles, leadership skills, how to conduct effective meetings. Personal Development such as effective speaking. Opusdei.org, USCCB, etc.

You yourself should have a great love for learning & healthy curiosity about everything-music,sports,etc.

Spend much time talking w/ your kids- show enjoyment. Let them ask never-ending ”Whys”, don’t be irritated

Find out about different college courses, careers, sales vs marketing, finance & accounting, etc.,different types of industries, pros & cons

Explain the need and importance of graduating with honors in today’s competitive world. Know what all HRD’s look for in candidates for new hires, & why

Knowing a lot more gives you more options and therefore helps you come up w/ better decisions (fewer options=limited base)

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Strong Intellect-Knowledge-Information

The Child has to

Develop

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Better shown by the example of the parents vs preaching. Waking up early, performing a task to full completion, hard-work, patience, humility-accepting w/ peace and cheerfulness what you have or don’t have, generosity w/ God & w/ others, not complaining, not talking about other people, etc.

In corporate or HRD language, “competencies” consist mostly of virtues needed to perform well on the job

Virtues related to religion: Faith,Hope,Charity Virtues related to the Intellect: Order, Search for

Truth, Humility, Striving for Excellence Virtues related to the Will: Patience, Courage,

Cheerfulness, Optimism, Industriousness, Generosity & Self-Giving, Perseverance, Constancy, Gratitude/Thankfulness

Cardinal Virtues: Prudence, Justice, Fortitude and Temperance

Virtues take time to develop. Must be a never-ending repetition of good habits

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Strong Will- Practice of Virtues

The Child has to

Develop

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Fruit & result of good guidance by the parents done patiently with a lot of love, with the previous steps of Teachings, Advice, Friendship, Good Communication, & Practice of Virtues

The child must have clear goals for his relationship with God, relationship with his family and friends, and for a successful professional career or business

He must have self-discipline not because of fear of parents, but because of a very clear understanding of what has to be accomplished, and the resulting consequences of either victory or failure

He will build a stronger relationship with God and the others, and will be a good professional if he has developed the good habit of constantly striving to do the best & to be excellent even in the smallest “insignificant” task

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Mature &Responsible

The Child has to

become

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Trust = LOVE More often mistrust is sown or first shown by

parents by the questions (“investigation”) they ask, with lots of rash judgment. Child equates lack of trust=lack of love!

A valuable advice for parents: even when there is strong motive for mistrust, parents must continue to act with a lot of trust and confidence that people can change, especially young people. If wrong behavior continues, research on most effective ways to encourage, influence, motivate. Exceptions: evidence of drug use, alcohol abuse, gambling, stealing.

When you trust your children, they may go wrong once in a while, but they will try to improve, in an almost subconscious effort to earn that trust.

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Trust

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